Yin Jianli famous sayings

1. It is unreasonable to cultivate a person who is physically strong in a sterile cabin and to complete the study by eliminating the normal sounds around him. A child who is disturbed in a normal environment is also easily disturbed in a quiet environment. What is really disturbing him is not the voice, but his habit of finding a voice. Children will encounter many problems in their growth, and parents cannot create any ideal growth conditions for their children. Cultivating a child's ability to adapt to the environment is equivalent to providing him with a good environment to carry around.

2. The child in the "wark" point is strong. What is the "magic wand" is extracurricular reading. It has a magical power that does not give the child a mountain.

3. Parents should establish such a confidence: no mention of scores or ranking requirements will not affect the child's academic performance - the child knows from the parents' attitude that learning is not for scores, not for comparison with others, but for self-learning. He does not care about the scores, and he will eventually get good grades.

4. There are various kinds of people's shortcomings. This must be related to our education. It should be unintentionally arranged for a lot of things that should have been done by herself; it may also be related to the nature of human beings, and the capabilities and weaknesses of each person may not necessarily manifest themselves. We are aware of these issues, on the one hand, as much as possible, and on the other hand, to help her overcome weaknesses.

5. Appreciate the child not only to appreciate his strengths, but also how to treat his shortcomings. You see that he always uses the same "like Newton" vision, he will really become more and more like Newton. "Like Newton," this is not a praise, but a criticism. Newton does not care in his daily life and will make many low-level mistakes.

6. To be an image metaphor: the construction of learning ability is better than building a house. The “language system” is equivalent to a tool, and the “intellectual background” is equivalent to the engineering background. With good tools and a perfect engineering background, the whole process of building a house is a relatively easy task and can guarantee quality. If the tools and background are poor, the quality of construction can be imagined.

7. Violent education can make children obedient, not make children smart and sensible; make them obedient, not let them become conscious and motivated – violence education can get some temporary, superficial The effect, but at the expense of the child's overall fall and depression. Through snoring to promote the child's academic progress, the result can only make the child aversion to school; using snoring to make the child obedient, the child will only become more rebellious; use snoring to make the child a good person, the child will only blame Under the psychological distortion of metamorphosis.

8. The opposite of education is manipulation. It lacks confidence in the growth of the child's potential. It is believed that only adults can guide the child to do what and what should not be done, and the child will develop normally. However, such manipulation is wrong.

9. Text is an abstract language symbol that stimulates the development of children's language centers, and this symbol is one thing that children use in their future learning. They are much more exposed in reading. The use of symbols is skilled and free, which means that "reading words" can make a child smart.

10. The philosopher Fromm said that man can adapt himself to slavery, but he adapts by lowering his intellectual and moral qualities; man himself can adapt to a culture full of distrust and hostility, but he adapts to it. The response is to become weak and lacking in originality; the person himself can adapt to the repressed environment, but in this adaptation, people develop neuropathy.

11. Even if some children are always savvy in the details of life, there will always be a problem like “Newtonian”. If it is not a big deal, please allow him to have these problems. The state of the child is very different and we should allow this difference to exist. It is this difference that constitutes the richness of human beings. If Newton is not paying attention to the life section all day, can he still be Newton? If Edison is blamed all day, can he still be Edison?

12. The function of reading is “toaster” rather than “handling”. You may not see anything in front of you, but as long as he reads enough, the richness will soon appear in the child.

13. We can criticize our children, but we must choose the appropriate way to criticize them to protect children's self-esteem, build self-confidence, and cultivate their ability. Any criticism of children's self-esteem, self-confidence and ability is not good, and parents should completely quit.

14. Parents must be aware of the need for “trial and error” from the perspective of children’s growth. The experience and lessons learned by children from their lives are more impressive than the one-by-one oral statement. "Bug making mistakes" is a compulsory course for children's growth. Only when they have enough "class time" can he truly gain the ability to make inferences, self-reflection, and self-improvement. Parents should understand the value of “negligent” and see that his “negligent” and “achievement” have the same positive educational function in the growth of the child.

15. The child has made some minor mistakes or has made a fuss. He does not need to say that he will feel embarrassed and feel guilty and painful. If the parents don’t take into account the child’s psychology and then say some lessons, saying something that has already been said will only make him feel lost and annoyed; the child wants to protect his face and express his feelings. Dissatisfaction, may deliberately talk back or make a careless look. If parents and children often have such a lesson and rebellious situation, the child will gradually ignore the mistakes of their own, and they are indifferent to the words of the parents.

16. A kind person is the one who has the least friction with the world, and is easy to become a happy person. A child who is not harsh in his mentality will become more comfortable when he grows up, and his relationship will be more harmonious and he will get more. Help and opportunity.

17. In traditional Chinese education, the ruler has always been in the hands of the teacher and still exists.

18. It is especially important for parents to get along with their children to understand their children and whether they feel comfortable and natural. If a child is always nervous, not respected, or if he feels too much restraint, he will feel unhappy.

19. The big education is made up of countless little things in life. The handling of almost every little thing reflects the educational values ​​and educational literacy of parents.

20. Those who have not wanted to work hard in high school are because parents have destroyed his interest in learning since childhood, and secondly, you have not cultivated his reason.

21. If you have anything to do with your child, you will lose your temper with her. In fact, I will drop myself to the same height as my child.

22. If a child is always nervous, unrespected, or feels too much restrained, he will feel unhappy. Children are often unhappy and can cause certain psychological barriers.

23. We bet the pure goodwill to the child, and the last thing the child returns to you is simple, plain, and kind.

24. The more you are in front of your child, the more convincing you are, the stronger your persuasiveness will be.

25. Most value the child's mental health. Self-confidence, doing anything can be realistic, not pleased others, but not showing yourself and being practical.

26. Parents can't help their children for a lifetime. Our “help” is to try to let her do it herself; what we have to do is mainly “patient”, allowing her to make things a mess. Everything should let the children think about it, do it, make more mistakes, and slowly learn to do well.

27. There are some beautiful hobbies in life, what kind of moisturizing is there; there are some things in life that can’t be read, what kind of wealth is it! Children who are nourished by ancient poetry get more than just poetry and literary talent, actually It has also become a person who is more and more favored by life and destiny. Beyond the ordinary life, he has a world where “the peach blossoms go, and there is no world”. Let the children read more poems!

28. Don't let your child perform a poem for others. Don't face the children in front of others and say how many poems he has recited. This will enable the child to have a simple mood for poetry and a real affection. Only love can be accepted. If a person has never moved to the poetry in his poetry, he has never been shocked by the beauty of the language. He has never thought for wisdom. Even if he will recite 10,000 poems, he will still be a poet.

29. A pair of identical seeds, sprinkled into the ground, some get the right moisture and plenty of sunshine, some are dry and can't get the sun, and the difference will of course be great. Reading is the moisture and sunshine of wisdom. How easy it is to make a child smarter, let him read a lot!

30. Dr. Montessori said: "Every personality defect is caused by some kind of mistreatment that children have experienced in the early days." The way of snoring can never make a child grow up healthily, only his psychological distortion. A person with a mental disability is far worse than a person with a physical disability, and one more layer is terrible.

31. Not lying is the basic guarantee of happiness in life. A person who is a lie, even if he is "successful" by worldly standards, he is not a happy person in general, because his morality has been vacant. Lying and cheeky are often associated, Suhomlinski said, "I don't know that shame is caused by not willing to fulfill my promise." The number of lying is much, and he himself can't tell which one is true. The sentence is false, and one's morality begins to fall.

32. If you don't wear a suit, you become a gentleman. If you have a child, you will be a parent. Parents need to learn and need to learn how to love. Learning to love is a big proposition. You need to learn slowly. The simplest first step is to stop snoring and not to be a savage in a suit.

33. Education is all in the details, and each seemingly tiny “good” or “bad” detail can have a huge impact on children. Reading is very important for the growth of children. Parents and teachers should try to provide children with “good reading” and avoid “bad reading”. This is also an indispensable part of providing good education for your children.

34. Mischief is passed down from generation to generation. Often violent parents will have a violent child. When his own children become parents, he will pass the violence to the next generation.