You are not busy, but lazy

You are not busy, but lazy

Get up, go to work, punch card, handle mail, attend meetings, answer calls, approve files, browse websites, brush friends circle, watch WeChat group, get off work... Then, Duang~, one day is over, you feel busy And tired, but I feel that I have not done anything on this day.

The enzyme is, the next day the program has to continue: get up, go to work, punch card, handle mail..., still, still busy.

You become a spinning top; life has become mechanized to complete various programs.

However, this is not what you want. You don't want to play the top, because: you smell the flowers and see the moonlight. You have blood and flesh and heartbeat. What you want is life, not just alive.

So, you have to say goodbye to the gyro-like busyness.

So, the first step: What makes you so busy?

1. You are busy because you are too lazy to think about why you are busy.

Miss Cat, cute and cute like a cat, but always busy like a dog.

Why are you always so busy, I asked her.

I don't know what I am busy every day, anyway, it is busy, she said.

I asked again, do you like your current job?

I can't say that I like it, I can't be annoying, I am used to it, she said.

So, happy at work? I asked.

Every day is too busy, I have forgotten what is happy, she said with a smile.

Have you ever thought about changing your favorite, less busy job? I said.

Oops, forget it, I don't know what I like, I don't know what works for me, and it's really troublesome to change jobs. It's both laborious and brain-intensive. I really don't bother to do this. .... She is like a frightened kitten, licking a lot.

I said, hehe.

Then, Miss Cat continued her busyness.

Busy, but I don't know why I am busy; I hate being busy, but I have no courage to jump out of the bus; this is a strange state.

Sometimes, people will get used to a life, so that they forget what is the life they want. This kind of habit can easily lead you into an unconscious state: not facing, not struggling, not thinking, and finally, becoming a shell. The snail in it.

2, you are busy, because you are too lazy to face the inner needs.

Colleagues' leaves are our goddess. She got the hall, got the kitchen, and talked about the yellow section.

Life, work, and love, she has a good grasp of it.

Elegance, balance, efficiency and excellence are the unanimous comments we give her.

Suddenly one day, the goddess is not god.

The leaves have lost their former fascination. She has done nothing to do with the past. She is in an endless period of overtime work. She is always busy.

Where did the original leaves go? What happened?

Until we knew that the leaves and her boyfriend broke up, they began to understand everything.

The leaves and her boyfriend fell in love for eight years. When they had reached the agreed marriage date, they did not know the leaves from which they knew the boyfriend and his junior.

To be strong leaves, there is tolerance for this, so I am arrogant and endless.

Later, regarding this change, the leaves will never be closed.

Countless people come to guide the leaves, saying that it is not worthy of being sad for such a man, saying that you will encounter better... but it seems that it is useless.

Perhaps, as they say: the truth of others is always warm and not hot; the wounds in your heart can only be cured by yourself.

The leaves are no longer the leaves of the past.

So busy has become her best disguise.

Everyone's heart is a galaxy. There are inevitably a few black holes in it. This black hole may be a kind of emotional loss, maybe some kind of inferiority plot, maybe a secret that cannot be said... they Stubborn and hard to exist, sometimes you choose to escape, fear that once you touch these black holes, they will swallow, so turn and hide in a shell called busy.

3. You are busy because you are too lazy to improve efficiency.

Arrange the subordinate Z to make a statistical form, Z is a new employee, so I want to give him more opportunities to exercise.

After explaining the requirements and details, I said: Know how to do it?

I know, Z said.

Give me the form before leaving work, no problem? I said.

No problem! Z said, after he finished, he also pointed a victory gesture with his hand.

Near work, I went to Z to get the form.

Z looked at the cloud and said: I was busy in the afternoon, and I also worked very hard to make this form. It took two hours, but I still didn't do it well.

How did you do it, show me the demo, can you? I said.

After the Z demonstration, I found out that he didn't use the right method. I showed him the correct method and explained the operation points.

Then, I asked Z to operate it myself. As a result, it took less than five minutes for Z to complete the form.

After a week, I want to do a similar form to the last one, I will give it to Z.

No problem!Z said excitedly.

As a result, when I went to Z to take the form in the afternoon, the tragedy was repeated.

Today is really busy, I originally wanted to do it as soon as possible, but ....., Z explained.

Is it really a time to take a form that takes five minutes to complete? I interrupted him.

Z does not speak.

Later, I learned that Z was not in control of the form, even though I explained it to him last time, so he dragged it and dragged it.

So, sometimes, busy is just an illusion, inefficient and not trying to improve efficiency is the root cause, just like Z.

4. You are busy because you are too lazy to act now.

I want to write an article on Sunday night.

Because it is a weekend, I want to relax and then move the pen.

So, I turned on the computer and went shopping for half an hour.

After shopping, I feel that I am not addicted.

Then, I brushed up for another half an hour of Weibo.

After brushing, I still feel that I am not addicted.

Then, I played another hour of online games.

After playing, I still feel that TMD is not addictive.

Finally, I watched another hour of Happy Camp.

Everything is cool, at 11:30, I think about it, I will write an article tomorrow night, and then I will sleep.

On the second day, the company had an abnormality and needed to work overtime.

I was busy all day, and it was already early in the morning.

The article that fell yesterday, write or not write? If you write late at night, it will affect tomorrow's work. If you don't write today, it will definitely be more busy after you drag it to the back.

Thinking about it, I fell asleep.

Then? Then, there is no more.

Sometimes, a busy state is just the result of your delay.

Because of delays, it leads to the accumulation of things; because of delays, it increases the uncontrollable degree of things; the end result is that you are getting more and more busy.

5. You are busy because you are too lazy to do planning and forecasting.

Q has always been the same as God in my eyes.

Q is endlessly useful: training, writing books, playing public numbers, doing lectures, building communities, doing consultations... He is all involved, I heard that I have recently learned wood, focusing on Yes, every time he plays with the wind and water.

Q is always so calm: the last second is still preparing for the lesson, the next second, you can smile and talk to the customer about millions of business, and you can hardly see anxiety and entanglement on his face. Expression.

You are not very busy doing so many things? I asked.

Q smiled and said: Busy is reserved for lazy people, I will only choose to enrich.

I am puzzled and said: How do you understand this sentence?

Q said: For most people, the reason why busy is unacceptable is because busy is a passive commitment. The reason why they are passively responsible is because they have no clear goals and will not do planning, let alone do it. It is predicted that if you are too lazy to control your life, you will be busy. This is normal. For me, I know what my goals are and there are plans to achieve goals, so I always know what I should do. Even if I am occasionally disrupted, I can quickly adjust my itinerary according to my goals. Therefore, even if I am busy, it is my self-selection. I don’t feel unbearable. Instead, I feel full, because I know I should do it. What, and what to achieve. "

As Q said: If you are too lazy to control your life, you will be busy, which is normal.

Therefore, the second step: What can you do to say goodbye to busy?

How can I say goodbye to busy?

1. Leave room and retain awareness.

There are many ways to make room, such as:

Talk to the wise by reading.

Travel and let your body and mind travel.

Let the body liberate through exercise.

Feel the peace of the soul through meditation.

Focus on hobbies and let yourself bloom.

......

You will always find a way to suit yourself and make room for yourself.

Allowing space will allow us to temporarily get out of the busy moment and leave a quiet hall for the brain, giving us the opportunity to re-examine our life as a bystander: to see what the real person looks like. Think about what you want, and see the values ​​and beliefs that really affect your heart, so that you can make choices that better suit your expectations.

So stay away from the unconscious state brought about by excessive busyness.

2. Accept the facts and face the demand.

Demand affects behavior.

Behind excessive busyness, there are often hidden unmet needs.

Recognize the truth, accept busy facts, and then discover the hidden, unmet needs behind the facts.

such as:

Are you too busy because of a lack of security?

Are you too busy because you are afraid to see your inner loneliness?

Are you too busy to cover up the inferiority complex?

Are you too busy because you are driven by one of your inner thoughts?

......

Everyone who is too busy will have his own problems and will eventually find his own answer.

Only when you get the answer yourself will you learn more about the busy truth.

So really away from the bustle.

3. Update methods to improve efficiency.

Sometimes we can't choose what to do, but we can choose the way to do things.

Doing things right, can get twice the result with half the effort, so that we can jump out of the busy quagmire faster.

Therefore, always update the method and seek the best.

There are three lessons to be learned about the update method:

The first one is diligent in summing up: summarizing is the refinement and re-integration of existing methods. This process can find problems and deficiencies of existing methods, so as to find improvement points and optimize them.

The second is to be willing to communicate: the exchange will allow us to learn the good methods of others, and will allow us to review our methods from the perspective of others to find more inspiration.

The third is to imitate the best: the best here refers to the best on the same platform, and the platform can be the same city, the same company or the same department. The same platform, similar resources, people can do the best, it means that he must have a way to borrow or learn.

4. Act now and reduce delays.

There are two types of delays:

One is conscious delay, such as knowing that it is necessary to go to the far-moving, but to go to the movies, play online games, go shopping... and finally go to exercise, conscious delay is actually the result of sorting values, that is to say Sports is not in the first place in your values ​​system, so you won't finish it first, but will continue to delay and delay.

The other is unconscious delay, which means that you don't want to delay, but there is a delay in the unconscious. Some unconscious delays are actually a continuation of conscious delay, and some unconscious delays and method mastery, emotional state and Whether it is effective to decompose the target, for example: your good things will always be completed quickly, and things you are not familiar with will always be delayed; when you are in a good mood, you can always act immediately, and the emotions are not Good time is easy to fall into delay.

Cracking the conscious delays requires us to reorder and optimize the intrinsic values ​​so that important things are done first.

Cracking unconscious delays requires us to be proficient in how to do things, maintain good emotions, learn to break down goals, and use external force supervision to act immediately.

5, diligent planning, sensitive to prediction.

Planning and forecasting will not reduce the occurrence of anomalies.

It will make you more calm when an abnormality occurs.

Thereby increasing your sense of control over the busy itself.

As for how to do the project, we have already listened to it or done too much, so I will not go into details here.

Busy is inevitable, but there are ways we can recognize, reduce, and control busyness, thus turning busy into a proactive choice rather than a passive one.

Of course, the premise is that you can't always be afraid of trouble, or too lazy.

In the end, life will become the spinning top, and we are the artist who plays the top.