If you lose, you will win

If you lose, you lose, and Laozi once again.

01

There was a clear weakness in my character, too much to win but not to lose.

When I was ten years old, I attended the school sports meeting. I was not good at running. The last one I ran across the 200-meter finish line. I didn’t go down the runway and said to the people urgently, "I don’t feel comfortable today..."

At the age of fourteen, I played with my cousin, who was four years old. My cousin was smart and skillful. I saw that his card was shot smoothly and only a few thin sheets were left. I opened a bad card and slandered my cousin. "You lie!"

At the age of eighteen, because of the unsatisfactory results of a monthly test, I shredded the paper, screamed at the table, cried, hoarse, cried and stunned half of the class, and even gave birth to the idea of ​​jumping from the classroom window.

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In those years, I was used to saying to others, "This child is so strong that there must be a future."

However, in the days that followed, I felt that "being strong" is the commonality of the strong, but the attitude of being absolutely weak is not lost.

02

Most afraid of dealing with a person.

They asked me the question, "I hate to die for this job now, I always want to change my life, but will it not be as good as it is now?"

They also said, "I want to go abroad and dream, but my family is not rich. You said that if I can't find a job, I can't support myself."

They also said, "With your lover for some time, two people get along very well, not particularly satisfied. You said that I should break up to find a better person, but what if I can't find it?"

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Such problems as before and after, even if you try hard to answer, you will still see such a situation after a long time:

Most people have not changed their lives in five years. They do hateful work, marry people who don’t love, and poetry and distance have become others.

In the end, I suddenly realized that there are so many "whatever" in life that every need has to be overcome.

If you face your heart, quit your job, go to a distant place, and love someone who truly loves you, if you fall, you can climb up and continue. Will you be so tired now?

That was the fear of losing, but it gave you the loss today.

03

I often say that traveling is my cultivation, and my friends often ask me, "How much does this road gain?"

There are still no commendable achievements, and the road is long and far-reaching, but it is my greatest gain.

Five years ago, there was no money, no green card, no domineering when you lost, and you have suffered from grievances in the past few years. From learning how to win, to learning to get used to.

I lost my job, lost my youth, lost stability, lost love, lost a lot of good ideas, and had 100,000 points of effort and expectation. I once lost myself to the bottom of society and lost to no one. The situation, returning the state of the loser...

But even in the worst of times, I have never had the negative idea of ​​escaping to give up or end my life: if the job is lost, then find a better one. If you are wrong, you will start a new journey and write no words. If you look at it, you will insist on it. If the business fails, then you will regroup and go out again...

I am no longer the little girl who can't afford to lose. I grew up and grew up with some heroic temperament. I kept the belief in winning in the losing state, boldly tried life, lost and lost, what does it matter? As long as I believe in my beliefs and persist in it for a long time, I believe that I can win back a little bit of what I lost.

From the road of embarking on a long journey, I have also met many fellow travelers. In the 20s, the young people who went to the distance alone, the objective conditions are not much different. Most of us are on the same moment when we set foot on the land of a foreign land. Nothing, and the future is awkward.

But I began to discover in the distant crowd that under the same conditions, the life of people will have a huge difference.

It doesn't take long, it only takes a few months, and you can see that a person is stuck in a difficult situation, holding on to the worries of “just in case”, and another person has jumped out of the dilemma and is working on a new one. Life can be a blessed place for new life.

If you look at the attitudes of the two people, it is not difficult to find that the former people often worry about all things and are cautious. They look forward to the situation and are extremely afraid of losing. The latter kind of people are brave and free, dare to win and win, and fall down, but they immediately climb up and greet them with vitality.

Some time ago, I contacted two friends who haven’t met each other for a long time. I learned that two boys who dreamed of being a chef a few years ago, one still complaining about the unsuccessful work of the year, one has become a fine restaurant. The chef, who sent me a full of gastronomic greetings in the steaming stove.

When I remembered knowing them a few years ago, we all walked on the road of dreams. I asked a very entangled one. "I have a stable salary for this job. What should I do if I fail to resign as a chef?"

One quickly quit his job and went to the restaurant to wash the dishes. He said, "Haha, wait for me to be the chef from the dishwasher!"

04

I used to think that those who now seem to have a promising career are always lucky.

Later, I discovered that many people lost the first step.

When David Finch directed the film debut "Alien 3", he couldn't even accept the finished product. The film was controversial and quite bad.

Ma Yun lost several times in his college entrance examination in the early years, and had done several jobs for his livelihood. At the beginning of his business, he was called a "liar", lacking funds and lacking support.

Before becoming a prestigious director, Ang Lee lost his seven-year time. In those seven years, he was inactive, relying on his wife to support his family.

Recently read Yu Hua's "Brothers", lamenting that Li Guangtou's story from nothing to Jinshan is not necessarily the epitome of real life.

His life has come from poverty, and he has fallen into a situation of nothing. There is a rogue element in human nature that is not praised. But I admire him every time he fails, but he can maintain the decent face of "I will win."

"If you lose, you lose, I will squat again." I guess he thought so. He fell the most, and he lived the most comfortable, most daring, and most chic.

Everywhere life is a philosophy, and it is increasingly becoming more and more that "what if..." and "what has anything to do with it!" are not only two kinds of mentality, but may also bring you to two different lives.

The best thing about youth is to have a dream. The worst thing is to have a dream but to be afraid of losing.

What is the relationship between losing? If you fall, you will stand up and continue to walk until you win.