Are you really planning to go through this life?

A girl gave me a message: "Sister Jie, fell in love, met the boyfriend, the kind of marriage. I am not sure, he is the one I am willing to spend with my life, and I am afraid that I will never meet again." To the right, tangled, I feel like this, how many people are not in trouble?"

So, I got up at 4:30 in the morning and tried to type, just to tell you:

Many people are reluctant to go through this life.

When I first met a female boss at work, I was 38 years old. I saw the experience at that time. It was just the same age as an astronomical number. When she went to work on the first day, she gave us surprises and surprises. It was just shining brightly: a black and elegant Long shawl hair, khaki trousers, white shirt, bright silk scarf, tall and smiling, cheerful and clear voice, looks like a girl.

She heard that we called the male colleague "Pharaoh" who was less than 30 years old in the working group and immediately resisted: "You will not call me 'old C'? It's too ugly! Call 'C sister', not 'C sister' Ah, 'C sister' listens like a gangster woman."

My young mind is happy, I think 38 years old is so beautiful, I don't put a mask and time to contend.

She took me to the project, went on a business trip, and talked about the little things in life. For example, the captain of the university and the basketball team fell in love and endured three years and two places until he turned him into a child. The girl had to earn more money to read more and wear beautiful clothes. Look at the beautiful world of clothes, don't underestimate the wealth, at least the college entrance examination and the property are the benchmarks of China's relatively fair ability to measure the ability and level of ordinary people; in particular, the details or key resolutely do not agree - this sentence I later have personal Experience.

Her level can live in a single room, and several times in order to chat with me, the two set a suite.

I saw the underwear in her suitcase, all set, carefully matched; every night before going to bed, she applied a thick foot cream on her feet, absorbed cotton socks after absorption; get up a mask early, make makeup easy All day.

She smiled and explained that it is true to be kind to others where they are not seen.

When she was on a business trip, she immediately changed her face after the call. The panic in her calmness - the son accidentally fell on the stairs of the school.

So, I only know her 10-year-old son. When she was 5 years old, her right leg was amputated. When the child was 7 years old, the captain of the basketball team divorced her and took away the cash to leave the house. The child now lives with her grandparents.

I really can't tie such bad luck to a bright person.

That night, we talked a lot, from a college girl's college day, to the first time into the workplace, talking about love, marriage, destiny and accidents. She said that the child and the divorce are two huge blows. When the child is in trouble, there is at least him around him; when he is gone, his heart is really empty. At that time, I also felt that the future would be like this. How much light would there be? Healthy children may not have a good future, let alone lame children? The 20-year-old girl may not be happy, let alone a 35-year-old woman?

During that time, she was so old, she had a long bundle of white hair, and her heart was like an anesthetic. She had no sadness, no pain, no tears. Her parents took her to discuss more money, so that she could leave a back road. .

When she said it, she laughed first: "People in their 30s are saving money by two people who are 70 years old. It is too frustrating." She struggled to climb out of the "make-up" life. Into the present.

When a woman is a girl, she doesn’t quite understand that her life is actually composed of several key links—family, school, career, love, marriage, children, friends, partners, and those seemingly long hours. Accumulating energy, you can't do anything that shouldn't be done, and you can only get together in the future; when you think about it at the core, life will really be recognized.

Everyone is confused, even when he is stunned by the slap of life, in fact, you and the difficulties are sighing, your momentum is stronger than it, it is being trampled under your feet; you are overwhelmed by its momentum, think When it’s done, it’s always being stepped on its feet, and it’s convinced by it until it becomes a vague middle-aged person. Eventually, it becomes a sulky old man, and the spirits are perhaps only staged defeated. Exhausted.

"Make it up" is a very easy thing, especially for women, there is not much courage in the bones. "Make it up" is a hotbed, it seems like it is raining at home, there are winds, rain and dark clouds, inside the house. It’s soft and pleasant, but it’s good. However, the wind and rain will always stop. There are sunshine, blue sky and vast world outside the door. You are used to it. You are too lazy to no longer want to go one step further and see more scenery.

We are surrounded by young and old "following girls", they are close to the profession, always a good lady, doing a sloppy job, ten years and eight years is just a skilled newcomer, it is difficult to follow the spiral ladder Going to the position of dreams; they are all about love, find someone who is not salty or not, get married, have children, and when they are old, they find that the most terrible thing is not to be alone, but to be old with people who make you feel lonely.

They are close to friendship, and they may be surrounded by people around. They really have something to worry about, but they can’t find a close-knit partner. They are all close-knit acquaintances, and it’s hard to have friends who know how to be happy. I don’t care, I’m lazy, and one day, my son wants to raise and kiss, and my heart’s regret spreads in the night of being bullied and unsuspecting...

No matter men or women, they must always be satisfied with their own people, their own affairs, and their own things, and then they will be satisfied, happy and rewarded.

In fact, it is actually a process of constantly lowering the bottom line and tolerating the continuous decline and fall of life. Do you know where its end point is?

The survival goals of living individuals are different. I have always respected the people who are quiet and indifferent to Mingzhi, but they are definitely not relying on the constant reduction of life. On the contrary, they are reconciled to the secular shackles and entertainment. This rare attitude of living in the current but still inner peace requires more perseverance and courage - don't misunderstand the phrase "according to the situation", it is not a concept with "following the flow", the former is experienced in the blooming flowers to see through After the clear-cut, the latter is to give up when the effort, walk while walking, fear to face the reality of escape.

It’s easy to adapt to the situation, and it’s a compromise to follow the trend. It’s also a good excuse to find out.

From a long period of time, the years are like a wavy line, ups and downs, high and low, the peak spring breeze is not difficult to horseshoe disease, the difficulty is that the bottom of the valley is still willing to look up, try to look up, climb, do not agree Do not give up in the key links, never miss the opportunity to stand on the peak.

It seems that the "C sister" I met when I first entered the workplace, even in the most bleak life, has always been bright and positive; even when there is most reason to "make up", I am determined not to "make up" ".

If you want to reach the peak, you will endure it; if you want to move, you will enter it; if you want to live your life, you will avoid it; if you want to be difficult, you will give up your space; if you want to be happy, you will show your grandeur; if you want to succeed, you will succeed. Have a dream; want to wear a crown, it will bear its weight.

Dear girl, this is a sentence I especially like, and I share it with you.