Don't be crazy, don't fight

I often hear people talking about their "crazy competition" state, it seems that they are just talking about the weather conditions, nothing to fuss about. It seems that everyone agrees: "No one can escape this competitive environment, life is what it is!"

The problem is that a person who sticks to the label of "crazy competition" does not mean "I am busy! Go away! My time is not enough! Resources are not enough! This is a dog biting the world!" This kind of thinking makes you scared and loses patience. You keep trying to arm yourself, but you feel that you are nothing. You will also find those who often say that they are involved in "crazy competition" are people who like to exaggerate and are impatient. What's important is that some people face the same working conditions, the same pressure, responsibility and time, but can describe their work in a calm and interesting way. And the efficiency and creativity of these people are not lost to those nervous competitors.

Whenever I meet some workers and decide not to let myself put this crazy and chaotic label, I always have a feeling of surprise. When they talked about their experiences, they said that they would never let themselves fall into the predicament of competition. They live more freely and know how to find positive moments to develop their talents.

What kind of scenes we will present in our daily working life are actually in our hearts, depending on what perspective we use to look at our work and how we define our work. In other words, when we describe the life of the day. Maybe we will take it for granted: "Hey! God! It’s a terrible day! I was first stuck on the road, surrounded by a bunch of bad-tempered drivers! Then I’m all day, the time is too late! Office The quarrels and conflicts are constant, all of them are a group of fools!"

The same day may have a completely different feeling. You can also describe this day: "I drive to work and spend a whole day meeting. It is like a challenge. I try to get the time to finish what I have to say and then attend the next meeting on time. My Work is to skillfully integrate some people with different opinions. I am very happy that I can help."

Do you feel different? This is not to say that one person's description is "real and specific", and another person's description is wishful thinking. In fact, both of these descriptions are true and true, depending on what the parties are willing to think. You can use the same model to think about your work, or how you use your time. You can always say this: "I am busy every day!" Or you can use another mode of thinking to describe your work.

You can eliminate the psychology of crazy competition step by step, become a calm and peaceful person, and live a more interesting life. The first thing to do is not to talk about your work with people, but to redefine yours with a healthy attitude. Life and responsibility. When your heart is focused on a more positive direction, life every day is like a gift, not a mess. You will find angles that you can't see in the past from your work. The point of view of your affairs is completely different. No matter what you see, you will see opportunities and personal spiritual growth. You will have more ways to solve problems, and you will be able to give full play to your experience and expertise. I hope that you will consider throwing away the psychology of crazy competition - when you do this, your work will bring you more feedback.

Scholars at the University of California in the United States did an experiment in which six monkeys were kept in three empty houses, each with two pieces of food, but the height of the place was different. The food in the first house was placed on the ground, and the food in the second house was hung from the easy to the difficult position at different heights. The food of the third house was hung on the roof. A few days later, they found that the monkey in the first house was killed and injured, and the injured one lacked his ear and broke his leg. He was dying. The monkey in the third house is also dead. Only the monkeys in the second house lived well.

The reason is that the two monkeys in the first house saw the food on the ground as soon as they entered the room. So, in order to compete for the food at their fingertips, they made a big effort, resulting in wounding and death. The monkeys in the third house made an effort, but because the food was too high, the difficulty was too big, and they could not reach it. They were starved to death. Only the two monkeys in the second house first fetched by their own instincts. Finally, as the height of the hanging food increased, the difficulty increased. The two monkeys only cooperated to get food, so a monkey holds up. The other monkey jumped to feed. In this way, you can get enough food every day and live well. Although it is an experiment of monkey feeding, it also explains the relationship between talents and positions to a certain extent.

The difficulty of the post is too low, everyone can do it, can't show the ability and level, can't select talents, but it becomes a consumable struggle or even killing. The result is the same as the two monkeys in the first house. The difficulty of the post is too great. Although it is hard to work hard, it even buryes and obliterates the talents, just like the fate of two monkeys in the third house. The difficulty of the post should be appropriate, step by step, like the food of the second house. In this way, we can truly demonstrate our ability and level and give full play to people's initiative and wisdom. At the same time, the interdependence between each other enables talents to collaborate and overcome difficulties.

What is it, why is it so hurtful?

The trick is comparison. We are all taught to compare. We are all constrained to compare and compare. Someone has a better house, someone has a better body, someone has more money, and someone has a more attractive personality. Compare, continue to compare with everyone around you, a big embarrassment will arise, it is a by-product of the "comparison" habit.

If you don't compare, you will disappear, then you can only know that you are you, you are not someone else, you don't need to be someone else. You are not comparing with trees, it is good, otherwise you will feel very embarrassed, why are you not green? Why is God so harsh to you, a flower is not for you?

You are not as good as the bird, or you will suffer. You are only compared to people, because you are constrained to be compared to people only, you are not compared with peacocks or parrots, otherwise your embarrassment will be more and more, you will be crushed to live without it.

Comparison is a very stupid attitude, because everyone is unique and incomparable. Once you have such understanding, you will disappear. Everyone is unique and incomparable. You are just yourself. No one has been like you before, no one will be like it in the future, and you don't need to be like anyone else. God only creates original people. He doesn't believe in replicas.

There was a group of chickens in the yard, a football flying over the fence, just falling in the middle of them, a cock swaying past, studied it, and said, "I am not complaining, ladies, but please Look at the works of the hen next door."

Neighbors have great things happening, their grasses are more green, their roses are more beautiful, and everyone seems to be very happy except yourself. You have been comparing, and others are the same, they are comparing, maybe they also think that the grass on your lawn is more green - from the distance it always looks more green, maybe they think you have a beautiful wife, but You are already tired, you can't believe why you fall into the trap of this woman, you don't know how to get rid of her. The neighbor may be jealous of you, saying that you have such a beautiful wife, and you may be jealous of his wife.

Everyone is jealous of others, because hey, we have created hell, because we are very mean. If everyone is suffering, you feel good; if everyone fails, you feel good; if everyone is happy and successful, the taste becomes very bitter, but why did the others start? Thoughts will enter your mind? Let me remind you again: Because you have not let your own vitality flow, you have not let your own joy grow, you have not let your own nature bloom, so you feel that the inner emptiness, so you will Go to see the outside of everyone, because only the outside can see. You know your own inner, you know the externality of others, this situation is embarrassing. They know your outside, they know their inner, and this situation is embarrassing. Internally, no one else knows who you are. Internally, you know that you have nothing, you know that you are worthless, how happy others are, and their smile may be fake, but How do you know that they are fake? Perhaps their hearts are also smiling. You know that your smile is fake, because your heart is not laughing at all, your heart may be crying.

You know your inner being, only you know it, no one else knows it. You only know the externalities of everyone, people are doing beautiful outside, but the outside is for display, they are deceptive.

Because you are embarrassed, you are often suffering, so you become despicable to others, because you are, so you start to become very false, because you start to pretend something you don’t have, you start to pretend something you can’t have, or It’s something that is unnatural to you. You become more and more artificial. You start to imitate others, compete with others, what else can you do? If someone owns something and you don’t, in nature In the case, you can't have it, then the only way is to find some cheap substitutes.

Just look inside your own bag and you will find a lot of artificial, fake things. What is it for? What can't you be natural and spontaneous? Because of jealousy. The sly people live in hell. Abandoning comparison, cockroaches will disappear, despicableness will disappear, hypocrisy will disappear, but only when you begin to cultivate your inner wealth, you can give it up, there is no other way. Growing up, becoming an increasingly real individual, loving yourself and respecting yourself, you will truly be your best.

None of the various lusts of man can be seen as fascinating - except for love and jealousy. Both have strong desires, they are easy to create images and ideas; and they are easy to get into the eyes, especially when the object is present, which is the cause of confusion - assuming that there is confusion . Not only that, but some people even say that the eyes of the scorpion are the most powerful when they attack the wounded. The person who is being shackled is showing glory and being watched; because this situation makes the heart of the scorpion sharper. Moreover, at this time, the spirit of the shackled person appeared on the outside, so he suffered the kind of blow. Everyone believes that a happy marriage requires a common interest! This may be doomed to Bill to marry a Microsoft person, and Melinda wants to marry a Microsoft person. After marrying the richest man in the world, Melinda has lived a stable and happy life, so many people want to discover the secrets behind the wealth that are not known. What is the happiness of a super rich wife? Although everyone believes that wealth is not the only source of happiness.