Forced success

Usually there are two kinds of people who can get it, one that regards success as a pursuit, the other is forced to survive, and if it is unsuccessful, it becomes a benevolence. The rest of the people can only live a lifetime.

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Until now, I feel that survival is the first thing a person has to face.

Most people, like me, don't have a wealthy father, so after graduating from college, they need to find a job. The first is to be able to support yourself.

After getting married, most of them, like me, did not find a husband who had a wealthy family. The two wage earners joined together and began to plan for their own small days. To buy a house, with a child, you have to plan for your child's school... The life of most people is like this. The same is true of my life.

I still remember the days when I first arrived in Shenzhen. During that time, I really understood what it means to survive.

Because of my mother's relationship, after I graduated from college, I went to Shenzhen, gave up the work of a foreign company, and went to the mother's company to help. The so-called company is actually the kind of leather bag company. My mother and some of her relatives who came to Shenzhen with a rich dream – together with her company's employees, were busy every day in a private house in Shenzhen, meeting people of all kinds. In the words of the mother: "Business is like this, come out and talk about it."

My mother disappeared in my life when I was 4 years old, and then suddenly appeared in front of my eyes when I was 18 years old. For me in my teenage years, my mother is a mysterious and intimate figure in my imagination. So when she said, "I hope you can go to Shenzhen after college graduation," I did not hesitate to go.

I remember that I didn’t say anything at the time. He always did. Whenever I decided to do something, he always said nothing, even after I met him in front of him, he Still don't say anything.

I still remember that summer, I carried a box and came to the place where my mother was both an office and a house. My mother’s first sentence was: “How do you dress so badly?” On that day, I wore a simple white shirt and a long floral skirt. My mother always suspects that I am not beautiful, because in her eyes, it is difficult for me to find a rich man. The mother who looks very young said to me: "In front of outsiders, don't say that you are my daughter. This year, a woman has to do business, to mix here, don't let people know the age, don't let people It’s also more cost-effective to know the situation."

At that time, I sincerely thought that this mother who has never lived with me, how hard it has been, I should help her. So I promised.

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The following days, slowly let me begin to understand the hardships of life. Opposite my house is a group dormitory from some migrant workers in Hunan. Every day when I get to dinner, I will see many of them holding a bowl of rice and eating a bottle of chili sauce.

Our lives are not rich either. I found that my mother does whatever business, as long as she can make money, even if it is only a little bit. Although she invites others to eat, she always rushes to pay the bill, but at home, every meal always saves only one vegetarian dish, one amaranth.

But the mother is the kind of person who is as bold as a millionaire in front of others even if he only has 2 yuan in his pocket. Until now, she has been living in this way.

The mother often disappears for a while, so the landlord will ask me to rent. Her relatives have to cook every day. One day, I only had 2 yuan in my pocket. Looking at them, looking at this place, I really want to cry. Because I don't know, this 2 yuan is used up, how to live tomorrow.

When my mother disappears, I have to support this family myself and support myself. By the relationship of my classmates, I received a single gift business. I still remember that I and my classmates went to other people's factories to negotiate with others. They quickly saw through my bottom price, and the contract was a bit gray. However, it’s a bit of money to earn, and my heart is already very satisfying.

Another time, the mother did not know where to pull 100 boxes of drinks, from the northeast to Shenzhen, and she did not know where to go. I was in a hurry to find a warehouse to store these drinks, but began to worry about storage costs.

In the face of this huge pile, I have never heard of the name of the drink. Together with my classmates, I pushed my bicycle and started selling at a store.

Asking people is really a matter of need, facing the rejection of others without mercy, or the kind of reluctance to take care of it. Looking back now, fortunately, I was young at that time. Just out of school, I was able to bear these things. If it is now, I really can hardly imagine that I am doing this kind of thing like I did at that time.

As a result, in the hot weather, one afternoon it was still raining, our bicycle fell to the ground, and a box of drinks fell from the back seat. At that moment, I felt a desperate feeling that I could not do anything. I know that my classmates felt the same way as I did at the time.

Fortunately, our weakness only lasted for a short time. We lifted the bicycle and continued to sell the drinks one by one.

Finally, finally a good-hearted person was touched by us, so we made a little money and could solve the livelihood problem of a large group of people for a month.

This kind of day lasted for a few months, and I soon discovered that there was a big difference between my mother's life values ​​and the way of life.

Mother always takes some young girls around her to give me an example: Who is married to a rich old man, who is married to a Hong Kong businessman, or who has made a "second wife" and how much property she gets .

In my mother's eyes, money is the most important thing. Don't go too far with money, because there is only enough money to survive.

But I don't think so. I feel that if you really fall in love with someone, that person is very rich, it is also a good thing, if it is just for the money, it is not worth it.

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We fell out, and I broke off with her since then, but at that time I had no way to return to Shanghai, so I have to start from scratch in Shenzhen.

In order to live, in the first few months, I have done any work: hotel waiters, warehouse clerk, state-owned enterprises, and the boss secretary who has nothing to do every day... The reason for changing jobs is mainly the salary problem. Because I have to rent a house and have to deal with daily expenses, at that time, the primary criterion for choosing a job is whether the salary is high. Until later, under the recommendation of my friends, I entered an international accounting firm. Since then, my life has been on the right track.

The reason why I say this is because if I didn't choose to come to Shenzhen and didn't follow my mother, I would like many students, and in a few months, I have had a good performance in foreign companies. Sometimes I feel that I seem to have wasted half a year. But now, in retrospect, I really want to thank my mother, thank you for the days in Shenzhen.

Because during this time, I saw how many people who struggled at the bottom of life lived, and I also came across all kinds of people who were doing different things. They did different things. Some people follow the rules and slowly look for opportunities; some people use illegitimate methods and hope to make the most money in the shortest possible time. But their starting point is the same, in order to survive.

During this time, I also experienced that in order to survive, I must have enough courage and tenacity to face the people and things in this society.

My classmate, I stayed in Shenzhen for a month and returned to my hometown, a remote county in Hunan. He said that he was going to work on TV. After that, I heard that he was hosting a children's program on the TV station in the county. Later we lost contact.

Eight years later, when we saw you in Beijing, he was already a director of Zhuhai TV, and I became a reporter for Phoenix TV. He told me that he spent five years walking into the provincial TV station from the county seat, and then went to Zhuhai alone, from a non-staff to become a full-time employee of the TV station. He said: "The days in Shenzhen taught me how to encourage myself to go on the hard times."