I respect people who have no dreams.

After finishing the MBA program at a university, I went downstairs and it was already late autumn in Beijing. Even the stars can be seen this evening, and the weather is so good that people suspect that they are not in Beijing. Coming out of the warm classroom, took a deep breath, and the cold air made the heart as quiet as the moonlight.

A student followed me for a while. Maybe I felt that I was not busy. I went up and asked me a question. It was a sequel to the lecture. At the end, I said to them: "You are in a good place. The MBA program in the school will enter the high-paying industry after graduation. It is a good thing to be on the first-class platform and the most intelligent elite team. But if one day, you have the opportunity to understand what your dream is. To an opportunity to enter a dream, even if the dream seems to be simple and not so elite at that time, please do something for it. This is the purpose of your study here."

"But teacher, I really don't know what my dream is." She said, "How can a teacher have a dream?"

“List the 8 areas of your life, career, finance, health, family, friendship, love, personal growth, and leave one for yourself. Fill in anything, like travel. Then each one conceives a 3— - 5 years the best, so you have a concept?"

"Yes, I have a picture." She nodded and was a bit confused. "But is this a dream? Shouldn't the dream be complete and clear?"

"Yes." I laughed. "We are all fooled by the word dream. The inspirational book is much more. We always think that it must be huge and far away. For example, changing the world can be a dream. In fact, the dream should be At your fingertips, try to think out the picture of each small part, and you will be pleasantly surprised to find that there is a connection between these parts. When every piece of the puzzle appears, your dream will be three years later and become a The complete story, this is your dream."

Her eyes are shining, I think her puzzle has begun. After a while, she asked again: "Then I won't have a great dream?"

"Yes, you must have. But we have to go to the top of the mountain to see the next road. The power of dreams should give us motivation, not pressure. For the climbers, the top of the mountain is Dream, not one day to climb Mount Everest."

She is happy to go.

From a small education, "dreams" are linked to the false emptiness of "liberating all mankind", so we set up a lot of false dreams for ourselves that have nothing to do with now - when dreams become a kind of youth fashion, even become A moral judgment - you are kidnapped by your dreams.

The real dream should be seen by you, it should be related to life, and there should be resources that can be realized around you. Only in this way will the dream become your driving force for growth, not the burden of your growth.

I know a girl. When she was a child, her parents divorced, living under the support of her sister, studying, and coming to Beijing. She has a small book that records every money that my sister spent for herself. After so many years, the amount is amazing. She doesn't know career planning, she doesn't know the three-stage model of her career, and she doesn't care about the task of life in this life rainbow map... Her career goal is very simple, she takes out her salary every month. In part, insist on sending money to your sister every month to make you feel good. She said: "I don't have any dreams. I want to make money now. It is my independence and dignity to pay off the money earlier."

I can help her analyze. Maybe her sister doesn't need this money. She can tell her that it is better to invest in this stage of life. In the future, we will pay back. We can stand outside her position and give her 10,000 seemingly correct suggestions. ...but who can deny the courage, strength and dignity behind this stubborn effort? Who can say that finding independence and self-esteem in their own way is not the most important thing in life?

I did not give her any advice. On the contrary, I would like to pay a deep tribute to her - I sincerely respect such "people without dreams", they are the people who really find their dreams.