Mature life, starting from forgetting fairness

These days, I know that the two questions are quite impressive. One of them asked, "What is the most unfair thing you have ever seen?"

There is a high-vote answer to write: "The biggest injustice is to rely on the sun to attract attention and attract approval." The words are pointed, but the answer is slightly harsh.

If you study hard, study for a job, and work hard, it is the struggle mode of most people. It is a gift to have a superb appearance, and it is not a shortcut to dress and display it exquisitely.

Not mainstream, not necessarily unreasonable. With regard to the laughter and pain of others, we often define it rashly and let the prejudice flourish. In the end, it is also unclear whether it is attacked for disgust or disapproved for criticism.

Born to be human, all are bitter and happy, no one needs to look down on who.

Another problem is a more specific experience that almost sparks debate about social class. The subject said:

I came to Shanghai at the age of 1 and have been in Shanghai for the third year. The results have been the top ten in the grade. The third grade in Shanghai is no problem in my third grade. Then, because of the household registration issue, Shanghai did not let me go to high school, so I went back to Jiangsu to study in high school. Since the educational philosophy of Shanghai and Jiangsu is not the same, it will directly become the countdown of the grade after going back.

But after my efforts, I was admitted to a 985 university in Jiangsu Province three years later. After another four years, I am about to graduate and get a 10w annual salary. The location is also in Shanghai. My parents are proud of me. I am also very proud to change the family's destiny. From then on, I don't have to be laughed at. You don't have to get up at 5 am every day to grab the stalls like your parents. You don't have to endure the family squatting in the squatter area of ​​7 square meters.

But yesterday, some middle school students pulled me into our national group. I discovered that most of Shanghai’s local students went abroad in high school. Some of the universities went abroad, but stayed in the country, and most of their fathers bought houses. It can be said that I am a poor one in our class.

With them, I found that seven years have long opened the gap between me and the children of middle-class families. Their talk, temperament, and vision are not what I can compare. When I was preparing for the college entrance examination in my hometown, my classmates had already experienced international perspectives in the American exchange student family. I thought I was good enough, but I didn't expect that the gap was still so great.

To this end, the subject asked: "I have been working hard for seven years but I am still being blasted by the children of middle-class families. How can I adjust my mentality?"

The reason is good to say: life is a long-distance run, but the subject is a sprint. The meaning of life is surpassing oneself, but the subject always pays attention to the other.

However, the same views as the title of the subject, there must be a few.

Unconsciously, "success" is already a life indicator that is commonplace in all walks of life, while small education is constantly suggesting that it is not successful enough because it is not enough.

There are many things that individuals can work hard and can change very little. In the case of the subject, the place of birth and the education policy have no power to influence. The income and eye gap caused by the class is even more difficult to achieve. So diligent, but it is finally "completed", it is not difficult to understand. Naturally, I have to ask: Why is it so unfair?

In fact, the fairness as a transcendental truth has never existed. And people say goodbye to a childish sign, that is, give up the obsession with such fairness.

Struggling for the goal of figuration, such as education, career, income, status, although inspirational, is destined to be a long way to go. If you add a look around the road, you need to find a sense of superiority in the contest, and you will be more thorny. It’s so hard to have a place, it’s hard to get it.

Correspondingly, I have a lot of effort for my own efforts. Understand the desires, the greed, and the bottlenecks, shortcomings, planning direction, setting goals, and more personal and more calm. If each node is indispensable for horizontal comparison, lack of regulation and planning on the timeline will inevitably be anxious and anxious.

For the children's shoes questioned, the starting point for adjusting the mentality is to relax the time period of the investigation and free yourself from the benchmarks of others.

To be positive, the polymorphism is the source of happiness. In life, the happiest thing is not only to see the society, but also to be true to yourself. And to be tempted, to listen to Wang Hao, what success is not to earn some money, Silly X knows.

After all, on their respective runways, the real fairness is that everyone has only 24 hours a day.

Instead of being fair or not, it is better to look to the future. It is not an objective materialization condition to decide what to look like after 10 years, but the pattern here and now.

Many literary people love to quote Mudan's "Meditation", one of which "This only knows all my efforts, but completes the ordinary life." It is like tailoring for complaints and resentment. This poem has a more complete version:

Hold the sudden spring of life in my hands,

I only think it comes fresh,

It is a strong wine, a fresh bubble,

Injecting my rush, work, adventure.

As if the predecessors had never been to the field

It is about to show up in front of me.

But now, suddenly facing the grave,

I have a cold look back to the past,

I saw the joys and sorrows of its tortuous irrigation

All disappeared into an ancient desert,

This only knows all my efforts

But completed the ordinary life.

If you don’t see the sudden life of life, you will be saddened by the "ordinary" of life, and you will be young and young, and you will look back on the embarrassment of life, which will inevitably damage the heroes and grandeurs in Mu Dan’s poems. There is only one kind of heroism in the world, that is, after recognizing the truth of life, still love life. This is what Roman Roland said.

Fairness is certainly worth pursuing. But for most people, in the process of pursuit, the perception of fairness tends to be secondary, until it is unconscious. This may be a great blessing for a strong inner practice.