"Home life" is a tragedy, please overcome social phobia

The quality of social relations has a lot to do with people's psychology. In real life, some people are afraid to participate in social interactions, and even if they occasionally participate in social interaction, they always deal with the interpersonal relationship between themselves and those around them. Even some people choose to stay at home in order to escape this social interaction. At home, you can live for a few months or even a year, but if you choose your home for the rest of your life, and you have a young man’s house and a middle-aged house, then this is a tragedy. . This unhealthy state of mind in society hinders the normal development of interpersonal relationships, and if it reaches its extreme, it is social phobia.

People with social phobias have a significant and lasting fear in front of strangers or in social or performance situations that may be carefully observed by others, fearing that their actions or nervous performance can cause humiliation or embarrassment. Its specific performance is: in any situation, in any situation, you will fear that you will become the center of attention of others, fear is watched by others; fear that you will open your mouth in front of others; fear that you will make shameful expressions or expressions; avoid See people and attend all public places; anxiety, palpitation, sweating, nausea, urgency, etc.

According to statistics, on average, one out of every 10 people suffers from social phobia, but there are very few who really value and see a doctor. The poet John Tang once said: "Without others, you are an island." In normal life, we can't isolate ourselves anyway, and we must really enter the public life. Therefore, please have friends with social phobias try to get out and integrate into society as soon as possible.

It turns out that intrinsic people are not very good at socializing because they usually don't like to be in contact with people. They like to be alone. They are much more likely to have social phobia than extroverts. Introverts often have some psychology of “accounting for loss”. These psychology make introverts socially inferior, suspicion, jealousy, rebellion, indifference, etc. These psychology make it separate from others in communication, to a certain extent It is really bad to affect normal interpersonal relationships.

After correctly understanding your social deficiencies, you must dare to expose your shortcomings and deficiencies. Everyone has advantages and disadvantages. It doesn't matter how much a person has advantages. What is important is that everyone can build their own life, work, and love development on their own characteristics. They are good at turning waste into treasure, and turning it into power. As long as you are willing to use your heart, then Your shortcomings may be the starting point for your success. For example, the actor Pan Changjiang is short, but he is exposed to his short, specifically looking for a high lady to be a partner, jumping up and talking to the tall. As a result, not only did the audience laugh at his short stature, but because of this humorous mix, the audience was impressed with them, and the performance was alive. His short stature is no longer a shortcoming, but he has become all.

If, on some occasions, temporary interaction with some people requires some kind of superficial entertainment, then the most important thing is to establish a deep and enduring interpersonal relationship. The most important thing is to be honest and express your true self.

There is a car salesman who, when he has just stepped into the industry, not only has social phobia, but also has a bit of stuttering. But life forced him to enter the society and start a life of social communication. Once, he was very fortunate to see the famous local car king alone. As a result, he was really timid, and he was so helpless that he was sweating and more incoherent. Under the circumstance, he had to honestly say his feelings: "It’s very embarrassing. When I first saw you, I was so scared that I couldn’t even say anything." As a result, this confession did not make the car king ridicule him. Instead, let the car king "smile" and feel that he is very sincere. And he slowly defeated social phobia. In the end, he became the salesman with the most sales in his province.

Interpersonal communication is one of the important contents of our social life. Self-development, psychological debugging, information communication, and coordination of interpersonal relationships are all inseparable from good interpersonal relationships. To overcome social tensions, you can start by adjusting your mind:

1. Be brave enough to face socializing. A psychologist once said: "What we are afraid of is not the thing itself, but ourselves." Escape does not eliminate tension. On the contrary, it makes you feel weak, so that the next time you will be more nervous. Therefore, be brave enough to face tension, work hard to overcome yourself, and take the first step bravely!

2. Don't ask yourself too much. Too much pursuit of perfection, too high demands on yourself, it is easy to care about other people's views on themselves, and they want to get recognition from others and even lose themselves. Be strict with your own requirements, don't worry about how others look, don't be afraid to make mistakes.

3. Accept yourself and build confidence. Self-confidence is the most important factor in overcoming social tensions. In society, trusting yourself is more important than anything else. Imagine if a person doesn't even believe in himself, who would believe in you? If you don't want to live at home, then you must first establish confidence in yourself.

4. Don't care too much about your body reaction. Some people will have some nervous reactions when they go to social places. In this case, we should not be too concerned about this kind of nervous behavior. If tension is not noticed and strengthened, the nervous reaction will gradually fade over time.

After adjusting the mentality, we can put it into action and slowly come out of the state of the house man.

1. Give yourself a positive self-suggestion. Say yourself 30 times after getting up or before going to bed. "I believe in myself, I am excellent. I can actively participate in social interaction." Positive self-psychological suggestion will gradually change the concept we have denied to ourselves and learn to accept ourselves happily. Slowly, you will develop confidence in yourself.

2, series training. Change is a gradual process that we can do through a series of behavioral training. For example, first set a series of goals for yourself, and then according to your own situation, from a difficult to difficult to conduct a social practice training, each can be handled with ease, it can be very natural Go to the next exercise.

3. Relaxation training. Relax and try to practice yoga if necessary. If you don't want to go to the yoga studio, try practicing with the yoga tutorials on your home computer. In the practice of relaxation, you will gradually overcome the tension and help us control our body.

4. Learn interpersonal skills. You can improve your communication skills by reading some magazines and books on interpersonal and eloquence skills, and learning from other people's interpersonal skills. You can also ask some social skills by asking someone close to you.

5. Read celebrity biographies. Some great celebrities, the great people who can become celebrities, in the process of their growth and success, are all trying to be tempered in social places. Use their successful social experiences to motivate yourself and build your willingness to change and make yourself truly social.

Overcoming social phobia, coming out of the state of the house man and letting yourself expose to the sun, you will find that the sun is so bright, it will penetrate all the feelings we have been embarrassed, and let the joy and happiness fill. In any case, we can say to ourselves: I can do it. I can have a self-respect and a happy attitude in social interaction, and I can do all kinds of social activities with ease. Come on, walk out of the room and walk into the sun!