A forty-year-old person will wake you up

I am going to the age of no doubt, maybe my life is already halfway through, which means turning from idols to strength. Well, it’s such a shame. ^_^ I woke up at midnight yesterday and reviewed it. The road, I feel that there are a few things that are very important. I want to maintain a healthy movement to keep such basic things. I will talk about a few other things, as a big brother's kind advice, I hope to give some inspiration to those young people who are rushing to my age.

1. Reading is very important

A person who is good at reading can fulfill his or her own needs for learning. Of course, there is no harm in not reading, but it is too indulging in the real world, and it is easy for people to fly. For example, you can read someone's life by reading a biography. You can read a book on psychology and gain insight into the situation of the self. You can read a book of history, and see the knives and swords know that the glory of life will be settled. Reading, let you shuttle back and forth in history, future, reality, and emptiness, and then discover more possibilities in your life.

So reading is always for a person, not when it is done.

Improve yourself by reading, and improve yourself to meet better people. The level of communication is determined by your own qualities. You never read a book, and most of the natural relationships are superficial and material, and the chatter is nothing more than a trivial Prada. Even if you meet a better person, you will be scared away by you. If you don't speculate, you will laugh at Say Goodbye. What kind of person are you, decide what kind of friends you will have, and decide what kind of lover you will have.

2, learn to get along with loneliness

A person who can't enjoy loneliness is actually very lonely. Many people attend various party salons every day. He can't calm himself down because he is afraid of being alone and afraid to get along with himself. Because as long as you get along with yourself, you need to talk to your heart. So he needs a lively environment in which to find his own sense of existence, so he is actually very lonely. A person who can't be alone with himself will generally not have any great wisdom.

Loneliness is actually a very high life attitude. Because you know how to take care of your inner needs.

One day you will understand that no matter how hard you try, not many people care. More people are only willing to see the results, how hard your process is and have nothing to do with them. I used to transfer a few flights and lost my luggage at the airport. I spent the next half of the night and took the bus to Shijiazhuang. I started classes in the morning from 8:00 to 9:00, only to promise to my customers. I feel great.

The customer said leisurely: You shouldn’t be so embarrassed.

In the heart, a thousand grass horses passed by and immediately expressed greetings to his eight generations of ancestors.

Therefore, if you cross the mountains, no human body will work hard for you. You shouted and few people shared your joy.

After all, life is a redemption of self to loneliness. The sooner you learn, the better.

3. Find what you really like to do.

In a hurry and a short life, if you don’t do what you like, isn’t it a busy life? Do what you like can really motivate your potential and fulfill the mission of life. Some people say that I want to open a flower shop, then why don't you open it? It is said that the conditions are not mature. Then why don't you create conditions?

I can't write a good article. I used to think that my computer is not beautiful enough. I don't go running every day. I used to think that I didn't buy the favorite sports shoes. I don't bother to travel. I used to think that I haven't bought my favorite camera and lens. I have found a lot of reasons for myself as an excuse not to start something. In fact, it is the beginning of a lack of a bite.

A lot of things, as long as you start taking the first step, you can't stop it.

4, be true to yourself

Don't please everyone, and the relationships you get are not stable. Only by doing yourself can you attract true friends, and this relationship can be truly lasting. For those who are good, there is no real friend, no one can sin, there is no principle. By the same token, there is no true love for those who love, and true love is one. I am full of love for the people of the world, but give you something different. So if you meet someone who loves you, you don't have to be very excited. Maybe he is so embarrassed to anyone. Falling in love with someone is different, that is, dividing the world into others and you.

Don't treat everyone as a friend. Many relationships don't have to be too close. Every day you touch so many people. Not everyone has to be friends. Many people are just a little bit of water. Hello, I am so happy to know you. The gentleman's friendship is as light as water, and there is no need to exchange privacy or add WeChat. Most of the grudges and hate are because they are too close, but they are not inferior. The original gracious relationship has become yin and yang, and they are uncomfortable. If there is a distance, there will be respect.

Who is your own close friend? The values ​​are the same, there are some similar hobbies, and there is something to say together, it is best to be interesting.

Making friends, fun is a very important metric. Interesting can be reflected in a certain field of professionalism, can be reflected in the mastery of food, can be reflected in some kind of courage that is not in the world, can also be reflected in the whimsy of chatting . Because it's fun, it makes people relax, because it's fun and you don't have to suffer a lot of hatred. Interesting, maybe it can be summarized as a point, because you can find yourself, so do not put pressure on others.

5, mature handling of emotional things

As you get older, you have to understand that you can't take possession of it. You like a person, like to go crazy, you can't take possession of her, even if you are crazy about making love with her, seven times a night, wearing clothes the next day, she is still her, she will never become a part of you. Everyone belongs to herself, all you can do is companionship. Any attempt to declare possession of the other party will eventually be defeated and become a prisoner of affection.

After falling in love, no one can guarantee that you will no longer encounter more people, more money, better looks, more gentle, more in line with expectations, more understanding of you, are you surrendering, or unyielding? So love is not only impulsive With passion, but a promise. Fall in love with you, so I have a commitment to you, because this commitment, and then the heart will also turn the heart of the ripples, the control of the waves.

I think this is a mature personality. When you see a heart, you love one. This kind of person is insulting, and the result of indiscriminateness is ultimately into nihilism. Because you love everyone, you can’t get the reward of concentration. Without such a return, you can’t talk about it. Happiness.

6. Accept people or things that leave you.

As people age, they will gradually be prepared to accept some reality, such as parents will aging away. Before this, I asked myself whether there is a reward for parenting. No matter how good the spring is, I feel that I am still a child as long as my parents are back to them. If one day pushes the door of the parents, the face that has no familiar face smiles at you, which means that no one in this world has ever used his life to love you unselfishly.

In addition to parents, friends may leave you. On the way forward in life, there will always be old friends leaving you, they may not be able to keep up with your pace, or they may choose other ways, not sad, they must have a good home. Of course, there will be new friends close to you along the way, they are attracted by your firm pace and unique temperament. Different stages of life are accompanied by different friends, cherish the time of this peer, can you go to the end together, why bother.

Friends will leave, and lovers may also. If the person I love wants to leave me, I will only say two words: good. Don't ask why? How can you do this to me? In the end, where can I do it wrong? Since you decided to leave, there must be reasons for your preparation. I don't want to hear your excuses for a long time. The necessity of leaving is not my own, I wish you good luck, from then on, the wind is light, and the past is written off. Life is short, I don't live in memory.

Finally, I will summarize my current attitude towards life, that is: do my best and listen to the fate. Innocent in heart, not in love. Take advantage of the situation, and meet with you. Knowing the mistake is to change, lost to know. Be careful in people who like you, and forget about people who don't like yourself.

It’s a great life.