Why are we getting more and more furious?

I saw a piece of news some time ago, saying that a young BMW woman in a city was accidentally scraped by a roadside repairman because she accidentally got off the bus and called her parents in the nearby villa area. Also called. The whole family punched and kicked the repairman. Finally, the repairman was unwilling to humiliate and agreed to go home immediately to get compensation. Ten minutes later, the repairman came back, but he did not pay compensation from his arms, but a sharp knife. The anger made him kill the BMW family three consecutively.

I also often see such news on the Internet: in the MRT of the peak of work, the two people insulted each other and even shot them because they pushed each other. I remember once in the Hujialou MRT, one of them took out a fruit knife and stabbed another person, causing panic among all the passengers in the car. Finally, it seems that both of them were arrested in the Public Security Bureau.

Such news, or such a thing, is no stranger to each of us, because it happens to us. Think about it, not that there are more and more bad people, but that we are getting more and more angry. The suffocation on our body is like the gas that has filled the entire room, and a small electron can make it explode.

What is the reason that makes us so violent?

On the surface, there is a lack of respect and understanding.

The lack of respect for the car repairers by the BMW women’s family is also a lack of respect for life.

Perhaps for the BMW women's family, they have used wealth to divide the crowd into three or six, etc., having more wealth and social resources is superior, and those living in the bottom of society are "not worth the money" in their eyes. It is not worthy of their good communication with him. Therefore, they will indulge from the language insults to the fists and feet, step by step to push the car mechanic to the desperate situation of anger, but did not expect this anger will make the car repairer lose his reason, and eventually lead to the tragedy.

The BMW women’s family did not look at the repairman and naturally did not take it seriously.

The fight in the MRT is a lack of understanding of each other's predicament.

The pace of life in the city is too fast. If you want to go to school, you should consider graduation. If you are graduating, you should consider employment. You may want to consider starting a business, and you want to create a bigger career. Everyone is living in a hurry, living in a variety of problems: difficulties in work, contradictions in the family, embarrassment among friends... It seems that the only goal of life is to solve these problems.

The buddy who was crowded in the MRT may have endured the disagreement of a colleague all day, or it may have been a few times before the dinner was released. The buddy who was squeezed may have been in the company that day. The leader said a few words, or had a conflict with his girlfriend. In short, both of them are in an anxious mood. I feel that "I am so unlucky this day, and all the bad things have made me catch up."

In particular, when other "bad things" can only be suffocated in the stomach because of interpersonal relationships, we will automatically classify ourselves as victims of this society, and a psychology that wants revenge will breed. . At this time, if there is unpleasantness, no one can care for the other person, and take the stranger in front of him as the object of anger.

Lack of respect for life and lack of understanding of others reflect our lack of attention and care for our own hearts.

There have been a lot of articles circulating in the past saying: China, your development speed is too fast, please stop and wait for your soul. Indeed, the speed at which the soul cannot keep up with matter is the fundamental cause of our temper.

We are in a “physical age” where everyone puts all their energy into a competition without end and uses the result of competition as the only criterion for measuring a person’s success: what company do you work for, what position you have, and what No house, no house, no car, no brand of car, how much cash deposits, what luxury goods to wear, where to spend?

There is nothing wrong with striving for and enjoying the pleasure of these things. Matter is the basic driving force for advancing the world. But when we put all our energy into material, the problem arises: we don't have time to pay attention to our own heart, we don't try to talk to ourselves, we don't even have the chance to be alone, let alone the three provinces. .

As Tagore feels: When we eliminate poverty, we will have our own wealth, and with this wealth, we will lose much kindness, how much beauty and how much power.

When the heart becomes ridiculous, we have lost our way and no longer care about others.

Some people have analyzed from the perspective of social psychology that the suffocation in our body mainly stems from three kinds of psychology: frustration, insecurity and powerlessness. For example, in the face of the frustration of parents who are aging all day long, they can’t be with them; for example, they may lose their lover’s insecurity when they lose their jobs at any time; for example, they can’t solve the hukou discrimination by working hard, or how to work hard to raise wages. Can not keep up with the powerless feeling of rising house prices.