Smart people are moving away from mobile phones

Society is a cone, and everyone climbs above the height of the cone. The distance between you and people in different fields of the same level is the radius of the plane you are in. As long as your level is higher, the distance you will reach people in other fields will be shorter.

I have heard such a paragraph: the CPPCC meeting, several bosses worth more than one billion to play cards, the boss of a supermarket chain company is a member of the CPPCC who is over 100 million, and they have held several meetings with them, and also proposed to go together. play. The coal bosses looked at each other and finally the richest man spoke up and said: "Our brothers are playing together because we all have industries. What do you want to do with a small store?" Then in the autumn wind, supermarket enterprises The boss went home.

I think of another story. A brother often shows off how familiar he is with a goddess, tells the bits and pieces of their work, and sets the other person as a special friend. The description is very close. We all sigh "Wow thiophene, the feeling of a good cow." It’s just that we have never seen this goddess and he has interacted on the Internet. We usually come out to eat K songs and hope that this brother can arrange this goddess to attend, let us know, but he has never invited. Later, I finally saw a reply from the goddess to the buddy on the Internet: Please don't harass me again in the future!

There is also a buddy, usually like a butterfly, squatting at the various dinners, claiming countless friends. Zhejiang TV station "Love Lianliankan" crew asked him to help organize outdoor activities and needed a group of outside audiences. This buddy thinks that there are so many friends in his life, and looking for dozens of friends to be the audience, what should be accepted. Then in the morning, I sent a message to a lot of people, to the effect that "I am my friend, you will come." As a result, the recording time, the camera, etc. were all on, and the result came from few people. As for the cattle who will come to the show and who are "very iron with him", none of them will come.

"People" is nothing but nothing. Really with your iron is just a few old brothers. The "personal connections" that many people are proud of in the social situations of meetings, dinners, wine tables, nightingales, scattered meals, KTV, saunas, etc. are all unreliable. Under the premise of no emotional foundation, the network is not connected, and the overall strength is comprehensive. For the weak, some so-called contacts, seemingly full of red, but in fact false prosperity.

Society is a cone, and everyone climbs above the height of the cone. The distance between you and people in different fields of the same level is the radius of the plane you are in. As long as your level is higher, the distance you will reach people in other fields will be shorter. If you are in a position that is too low, you will have a lot of contact with people in other fields. If you want to reach more people in more fields, you need to climb up, because this aspect will ensure that the quality of the cattle you want to reach is high enough, and at the same time it will allow you to experience the experience of contacting the cattle. Small - your level is high, and it is less difficult for you to reach the same level of cattle.

Concentrating on the height of the cone is more effective and efficient than pursuing the breadth of the contact surface at a low level. It is not easy for third-rate investment bank employees to recognize third-rate actors, but investment bank bosses and big stars can make a double entry. It is more difficult for an academic rookie who has just graduated to know a grassroots government, but the academician will communicate with the governor and drink a cup of tea. If you are an IT professional, you can easily reach the cutting edge creative director of the fashion circle; but if you are an ordinary programmer, your most contact with the fashion circle is a three-line model of friends or street. One or two magazines. It's better to think of a way to own a IT company than to work around you. It's more efficient and effective.

Think about Qitian Dasheng Sun Wukong. When he was just an ordinary monkey, the one he most often touched was a bunch of monkeys. When he learned a spell, he could sit on the same level as the demon king and other big brothers. He could also call the dragon king to grab the baby. Before Sun Wukong clamored for the Heavenly Palace, even the giant spirits of the Five Dregs did not put him in his eyes; after the troubled Heavenly Palace, the Chief of Staff of the Heavenly Court, Tota, was respectful to him. Before going to Leiyin Temple, he could only bow to the blessings of Bodhisattva. After he became a martial artist, he was completely a buddy. The Western bliss world called for friends to come. The history of this monkey's growth tells us that to be stronger, we will have better connections.

Therefore, it is not the scope of your contact that determines your effective connections, but your own level of strength. How many people you know doesn't make sense, and how many people can call for meaning. It’s not that I know who I meet every day, I have a meal with a certain celebrity, and which goddess gave me the micro-signal, I established a friendship with them or formed a new network of contacts. The crux of the matter is whether I have enough ability and standard to stand at the same height as them. Even in different fields, I can talk to my shoulders and shoulders. He is the investment bank MD, I am the deputy mayor of the government, he is Vice President of the University, I am the director of the film and so on.

The inside and outside of the circle are not important, and the strength is important. Even if we are in the same circle as the Great God – IT circles, entertainment circles, investment circles, academic circles, etc. – often meet together and attend events, we still have no chance to form a true friendship with them, establish a stable relationship, and talk about “personal connections”. Resources". The reason is that the Great God only sees the god of the same height, and we are still outside the line of sight of the Great God.

If you are an ordinary student, I will watch the scene of Jackie Chan's new film conference in the morning, listen to Maskin's institutional economics in the afternoon, and buy a ticket to attend Li Zezhen's charity dinner at night. What can you do? Even if you are a circle of friends Weibo tells the world how familiar you are with Jackie Chan, Maskin, Li Zezhen, etc. But what is the point? You must sign to Jackie Chan, the preservation will still stop you, and Ma will not write you a recommendation. Letter, Li Zezhen will not do business with you.

Most of the time, we are so weak that we are not qualified to throw a friendship olive branch to the cattle with common traits. Even if we met Ma Huateng every day at Tencent's work, Ma Huateng didn't talk to us better than David Beckham with the gossip; even if Han Han's Weibo, I would like to comment, Han Hanxiang Looking for someone to spit on the media, no one will think of me.

Therefore, blindly "expanding the network" and wandering in various "social occasions", the meaning of joining various "WeChat group chats" is really small, and the effect is far from focusing on making yourself grow more effective. It is better to be a part of the cattle or to be closer to the level of the cattle than to be more affordable than to manage some of the "personal connections" that can be broken or even illusory.

A few days ago I saw a show, Ma Yun talked to Stephen Chow. One is the king of comedy, and the other is the e-commerce crocodile, who is still talking and laughing. The two seemingly unrelated people come together to talk not because they have been in love for many years or how many languages ​​they have, but because they are men who stand at the top of their fields. The world's people want to gather together in the mountains of Huashan, pointing to the mountains, eating, drinking, and playing the premise is that you can have a number on the weapon spectrum. If you want to participate in the martial arts conference and want to drink the bowl of "La Ba Porridge" on the island of Xia, you must first mix the head.

I remember a friend who was crazy about Huang Xiaoming. When I had the chance to see the deity, I didn’t even have a signature. I curiously asked: "What are you going to do?" The brother replied: "Is the phone all right, does it make sense? Now I have nothing to harass the leader. I will not tell me when the filming will go to me. It will only pull me out." It’s better to go to the investment bank in the future, and develop it to cooperate with him.” Then he made up the knife. “Whenever I saw the winter powders running around the train chasing Huang Xiaoming, I wanted to persuade one: children, go back and work hard. What is the director of the Qingdao Municipal Public Security Bureau, to protect the parents and fathers, you are still not familiar with you?"

So is friendship necessarily based on strength? Not necessarily, after all, friendship is achieved by different reasons. Friendship with great gaps in all aspects exists intensively in time and space. However, utilitarian socialism with the goal of “management resources” must be based on strength. If you want to call everyone a "family" that cares for each other, you have to go into "one door" first, provided that you have the ability to cross the "threshold."

So is it only through "going stronger" to win friendship and maintain friendship? Not necessarily. After all, there are many ways to create and maintain a good relationship of friendship. But it is certain that there is no “personality” that can more effectively maintain utilitarianism than “going stronger”. The best way to maintain a “connection” with a millionaire is to become a billionaire with them.

So isn't all purposeful "connectors" unable to develop into true friendships? Not necessarily. In the absence of an emotional foundation, interest-based socialization must be based on bargaining power between stakeholders. What price do you look for? As for whether someone has the "leverage ability", it is very rare. If there is an increase in contact in the future, the resonance will increase, and it will be impossible to sublimate into a life-and-death relationship that has nothing to do with utilitarianism.

From this point of view, how insignificant it is to be a communicative flower to attract butterflies, and how hard-nosed "personal bubble" is not known. Every day, I am obsessed with the shuttle MRT to listen to various lectures, push the cups and exchange various "celebrities", stay up all night, participate in various WeChat group chats, etc., and use the youthful brush to feel the communicative flowers, actually waste their lives. Rather than succumbing to those who are physically and inefficient, it is better to read two books, exercise, and accompany your parents and children.

"Communication flowers" mistakenly equated "recognition" with "recognition", erroneously equating the address book on the mobile phone with "timely rain." Drinking out the "friends" of pancreatitis may not be comparable to the effectiveness of several SCIs; The spirit of Lishenglonghuo is not as good as it is to ponder over the value of his assets. As everyone knows, the sloppy relationship has only a fragile relationship. The so-called "personality" is just a sigh of relief. Today, I also shared five fans and three brothers together. The next day, I took a photo on the bus and thought: "Who is this grandson? I have seen it. When a social flower took part in a dance and scanned a few people's QR codes and was complacent, the cattle were walking on the road of more cattle and socializing flowers.

Lingshen often has a dragon, and Gao has its own phoenix habitat. As long as we continue to make progress, each person will naturally have a group of like-minded real friends to get to know each other, and will also expand and gather some "personal connections" that can play a practical role. Everyone is now too late to enrich themselves, why bother to expand the so-called "personal connections." After all, the 50 yuan yuan is designed to look good, not as good as one hundred yuan.