Sorry, my friends are very expensive.

Only when you see your friends as "expensive" will you cherish it.

01

A colleague who hasn't contacted for a long time called and said that her friend's mother had a very low mood recently. She suspected that the old man was depressed. She knew that I had a friend who was a psychiatrist. I wanted to consult with that friend. I was asking for advice from a friend. After that, she sent the phone to her. After a while, she asked me casually: "Consult your friend, don't you charge?"

I didn't want to charge for it, but the psychologist provided services and charged a certain fee. Isn't it supposed to be? What's more, not her own mother, but her friend's mother.

For this psychiatrist, it is the mother of a friend of a former colleague of a friend. Is this a relationship that is obligatory for free service?

I said half-heartedly and half-jokingly: "Of course, my friend is very expensive."

As a result, she said, "Why don't you say that early? I knew this, I will find someone else."

“Why do my friends find someone else to pay?” I am a bit puzzled.

"There are so many psychologists who charge, why do I want to find your friends? Seven rounds and eight rounds, but also personal feelings. Are friends, simply ask a few questions, what fees?" The former colleague complained.

This is how awkward it is. Hey, my friend will consult him if he doesn’t charge. My friend will look for someone else’s fee. Since everyone else earns your money, I would rather take care of strangers than take care of my friends, my friends. Have you offended you, or are you no longer a "friend" once you charge? To put it bluntly, I want to make my face brush free.

"I can't promise no charges on behalf of my friends. You can find someone else." I hung up the phone. In fact, I called a friend and explained the situation briefly. She certainly wouldn't charge. The problem of my former colleague is really wonderful. I don't want to help. Moreover, my friend is really busy, I am embarrassed to harass.

People pay time and knowledge, you enjoy the service, is it not natural to pay? However, some people should not want to pay out the money, extort in the name of a friend, it is simply the logic of God.

02

Such people are not uncommon in life. They are usually not very connected. I think that you are coming, not "help me a favor" or "lending me money." In their only worldview, "friends" should be "For your own two ribs," friends of friends, but also to be reluctant to resign.

I am a relative, knowing that my girlfriend is a teacher in a specially-known teaching and learning institution. Her child is a college entrance examination student. I want to ask my husband's husband to give two math classes, let me help you.

I am very happy to bring this line to them, and my husband's husband also happily agreed.

As a result, the next night, my relative called and asked me: How did your friend collect the money? Also the lion opened his mouth, a class of four hundred.

I was surprised at the time, why didn't my friend collect money?

"Is he not your friend? I am your aunt. What kind of money is it for my baby?"

I can't help but laugh. In fact, this relative is my aunt. Even if she is my relative, my girlfriend's husband is not obligated to give her a free counsel.

What's more, people also communicate with their children in advance, asking which areas need special counseling, not only carefully preparing lessons, but also deliberately taking time to go to the door for counseling, even to bring back four hours, even if people say no money, but if it is clear, it is not good. Give it?

Moreover, it was the sprinting stage before the college entrance examination. My sprint counselor, where my husband’s husband is located, had to receive seven or eight hundred sprint tutors. He had nearly doubled his income by four hundred.

But I can't say this, I just said: "Ah, it is very hard for people to go to class for Ming Ming."

"I know that he is working hard, so I plan to invite him to dinner. As a result, he said that there are arrangements in the afternoon. I also asked me to plan a few sprint classes. One class is four hundred. What kind of friends are you, and you will never give up."

At this time, I didn't want to talk to her. I was paid for my work and even protected by the Labor Law. Who is missing a meal for your family this year?

My watch is going to continue to bargain with me. I said that this time I am out, you don't care. Of course, I will not manage it in the future.

I don't particularly understand their mentality. I think it is trustworthy to find friends or acquaintances. They should refer to friends for "cheap" or "free". If they need it, they will not say "Hey guys have to say". Friends, there is no such thing." If you don't need it, you don't have to go to each other. With this attitude, who is willing to be your "friend"?

03

The most fun thing is that I occasionally chat with a girl and mention a friend circle that our common friend just sent. This girl said that she didn’t watch it because this friend recently did a micro-business. Look at his circle of friends."

If I remember correctly, the person she forbade was also a lot of force because of the problem of her child’s schooling. She used it to ask for help, and she did not need to be banned by others. Going forward, no one is facing backwards, I am really worried that she will gradually have no "friends."

To put it bluntly, it is to treat friends as too contemptuous. I don’t know how to cherish this friendship and practice it at will. Those who truly cherish their friends, the attitude towards friends is definitely not the case.

I remember once, when I saw a friend posting a red advertisement in the circle, I asked her if she was selling Nanhong?

She said, no, friend's. That is a friend of our common. I asked her casually, she asked you to send it?

The friend said no, I bought a bracelet from her and felt very good. I volunteered to help her.

Frankly speaking, I can't do this. I will buy friends' things, but I generally don't take the initiative to help advertise. I care about the way I occasionally ask about her recent business.

Friendship is like this, vote for peach, report to Lee, you respect me a foot, I let you a foot, so that feelings will become deeper and deeper, and that kind of always think of friends cheap or free friends The people who serve, the road will definitely get narrower and narrower, and the number of friends will be less and less.

If you want to have a better relationship, you feel that you must treat your friends as "very expensive," rather than being very cheap. Only when you see your friends as "expensive" will you cherish it.