Twenty Wonders in Negotiation (11)

Climbing entanglement: How to achieve the purpose of "soft-hardening hard foam" to achieve the purpose of climbing and squeezing the soft-hard foam, some dead skin and the taste of the face. However, in essence, it is fundamentally different from being jealous and unreasonable. It is based on resilience and patience, focusing on the influence of the other side, the so-called "sincerely, the stone is open." With a cheeky face and overcoming shyness and inferiority, he took the initiative to attack in the world of communication, and he did not give up until he reached the goal. Take patience and show your sincerity. The result must be the victory and the probation of the other party at the same time, otherwise it will lead to the escalation of the war, the two sides face the opposite side, backfire. Smiles, humour, or tears, and pleading, are the most powerful techniques for mushrooming in the above sense. It is the purpose we want to achieve by obtaining the recognition, sympathy and even appreciation of the other party. If you do not divide the object, regardless of your own conditions, you will be ruined, it will be a rogue name, and even get into trouble. As the saying goes, "One time, two times cooked," and the stranger, especially the opposite sex, "the first time to deal with" is an art worthy of study. There is no friendship with others. Why do you want to "bubble" his soft heart? Human feelings are always the core of relationship studies. 1. Sincerely, Jinshi was opened in April 1946, and Tuguangfu was elected as the general manager of Zhixindao Zhipu Turbine Company. At that time, Japan’s war was new and the people’s livelihood was embarrassed. The development of enterprises was even more difficult. The biggest difficulty was raising funds. Even the famous big companies, the funds are also very tight, not to mention Yipu Turbo, a small company with no background, no bank willing to lend it to it. Soon as the general manager, the source of production funds has been stranded. In order to raise funds, the glazing had to go to the bank every day. One day, the glare came to the head office of the First Bank with the lunch, and negotiated the loan with the long department of the Ministry of Business. As soon as the soil was up, it made an imposing manner. Hasegawa is pretending to be helpless. The two sides came to me and talked for a long time and did not talk about the results. Time flies fast. When I see the tired Changgu heart is a bit like going away, the glazing will slowly take out the lunch box and say, "Let's talk while eating, talk about dawn." "It is hard not to let Changgu heart and the salesperson go away." Hasegawa had to accept the loss and eventually lent the money he had hoped for. Later, in order to enable the government to pay subsidies to the machinery manufacturing industry, Shangguang had filed a complaint with the government in the same way. Therefore, in the Xiaguan area where the government agencies concentrated, the name of the lobbyist was spread. The glazing behavior has the main tactics of soaking mushrooms: 1 The skin should be thick, so that it will not retract when it sees the "nail"; 2 clearly expresses the determination not to stop the goal; 3 is the surface of the soft-hard foam Irrational, actually touched each other with sincerity. In other words, it is necessary to try to soften the object of the bubble, paying attention to the politeness and reasonableness of the "bubble method". If you are not warm, you can't make the other person really angry and face each other. A master of the relationship, summed up his experience with a "sticky" word: "To say that pulling the relationship, we are big experts. Useful people, think of any way to glue him. In the light industry bureau The old Xue, who is known as the 'non-metal king' in ours, is simply the parents of our food, clothing and housing. Is it okay to pull on the relationship? You see that he is eating and drinking with us now, talking and laughing. I didn’t say hello. At that time, I just met him in the office. I didn’t even have a look at the eyes. I am not afraid of your shelf. I quickly found his bottom. In the evening, I I bought a high-end children's toy and went to their home. He still ignored me, and his face was going to rain. I pretended not to see it, took out the toy and played with his little son. He wanted to take me away. But this sentence he did not say, he hurts his youngest son, I call it a good one. "Since then, I ran to his house for two days, buy toys every time, pick a cheaper buy. At this time, the ceremony was too heavy, but he gave birth to a precautionary heart. Lao Xue still ignores me, I still pretend not to see, play with his younger son. I am the most annoying child, and I don’t even have my own children at home. Now I am very patient. The 40-year-old is soaked up with a child of seven or eight. I look like that, but I don't care. "I just soaked up the mushroom with Lao Xue, every time I played with his son, and didn't mention serious things. Finally one day, he couldn't resist the temper, and asked me to gossip. I sighed with relief. Even if the relationship is set, people will have a heart, and if they are long, they will have feelings, as long as you can hold it. "I know that some people say that this is a shameful eye. It is a scholar's opinion!" Who can not ask for help in the world, can you open the door on the roof and drill the well in the pot? If you ask for a person, you have to go down to three or four. Does it still make people say that they are not good at telling you? I lost my face, but I have done something, earned money, you have not lost face, and nothing can be done. "My experience is only four words, that is, dead skin, but it can be said that there is only one word, that is sticky. It is not a big official, nor a relative of an official. All the relationships have to be pulled..." 2. With the opposite sex In the daily life of the "one stick to the spirit", sometimes you encounter the opposite sex that makes you feel the heartbeat, but you can't always get close to it and talk about it. It always lasts for a long time. The following is a description of the "sticky" approach of the opposite sex in the love communication theory. 1 To establish a partnership is not a concept of shamelessness, overcoming fear. At first sight, it is a genus of love. This romantic love story is common in Western countries, but most of it seems to exist only in romance-like dreams or rosy dreams of young boys and girls--because of the "male and female donation" The influence of traditional thoughts such as "the big defense of men and women", even if you fall in love with each other at first sight, you have to hide this kind of image in your heart, even deliberately indifferent, and torture yourself. Some people say: "Love is a fate," but how to grasp "the godsend"? In addition to people who have "clean and quiet", in general, everyone likes to listen to other people's talks, and if they hear anecdotes, they are more interested. Some women look arrogant and even frosty, seemingly inaccessible, in fact, her inner loneliness is stronger, she uses the indifferent mask to cover up the inner uneasiness, and your decent body is easy to cause her positive reaction. Therefore, you don't have to worry, you have to have courage. Smile when you talk, smile can eliminate your nervousness, and you can blend the atmosphere of the conversation. At the same time, you should look at each other with sincere, bright and divine eyes. This is not only a courtesy, but also an auxiliary language for communicating feelings, and it is easy for the other party to reduce their alertness and generate trust. But it is not appropriate to stare at each other for a long time, and the gaze makes people feel kind, but gazing at strangers makes the other person feel scared. 2 Looking for common ground as a topic, you can "stick" to each other. "Things are gathered together, people are divided into groups." Each person's social circle actually uses his own as a dot and uses a common point as a radius to form countless concentric circles. The more common points, the larger the area between the circle and the circle, the more common the language, and the most likely to resonate with each other. For example, the classmates are more intimate than the students in the same class, and the dormitory is better than the classmates. The same table is easier to establish a strong friendship than the dormitory. If it is both the same table and a fellow, it can become an iron buddy. Therefore, when dealing with others, we must pay attention to common ground, and constantly expand the commonality, the other party will be interested in talking, and the conversation will be deep and lasting. For example, in American movies, there is such a plot: the male and female protagonists who are strangers are sitting on the train. It can be seen that this dear friend is very fond of the lady sitting opposite, so he began to look for nothing: "Miss, where is the visit?" You didn't bring your luggage, it is estimated that you are not going out to travel." Ms. replied: "I went to Field Town, there is no need to bring luggage." "Hey, Field Town, that is a beautiful place with beautiful scenery, isn't it?" Nodded. The gentleman added: "Yes, is the cafe next to the station still there? I went there a year ago, the coffee there is really great!" Ms. "Yes, I often go there on weekends." The atmosphere is quite good and the layout is very interesting."... In this way, the two sides talked about coffee, common hobbies, the names of the other parties, life experiences, etc. from a small town, and the common point is constantly expanding. When the ladies got off the bus, they became a pair of reluctant friends. 3 talk more about the other party's concerns, so as not to make the other party resentful. In the conversation, you can't brag about yourself, it will only make the other party resentful. You have to put in what the other person cares about. What does the other party care about? People are most concerned about themselves. This is the most common psychological phenomenon of human beings. For example, when we watch a photo of a group photo, the first thing we look for is ourselves. If our face is gone, we will think that the whole photo is not good. Therefore, you must talk about what the other person cares about, keep mentioning it, and deepen it. The other party will not only dislike it, but also think that you are very concerned about him. The love experience of a friend of the author can explain this problem. Once, he went to the grain bureau to transfer money. There were many people. The young female cashier was busy and a little impatient. It seemed that she was not satisfied with the job. When a friend saw this beautiful female cashier, she suddenly had a thought: "I want to make her feel good about me, but I have to talk to her about her." After observing, my friend discovered her strengths. When it was his turn to fill the check, he praised her while writing. "Your words are really good. Now, young people like us can write such a good word. It is really rare." Surprisingly raised his head, his face was flushed: "Where, where, it is still far away." The friend said sincerely: "It's really good, you probably practiced the copybook." The female teller said: "Yes." My words are written in a mess. Can you lend me the used copybooks to practice words?" The female cashier agreed quickly and agreed to come to the office in the afternoon. After a while, the two had feelings and eventually formed a good relationship. 4 Don't be too serious or have a shelf. If you can be humorous, the effect will be better. Conversation with strangers of the opposite sex, can not be serious, serious attitude, have a sense of humor. Humor is the lubricant of interpersonal relationship. It is the crystallization of wisdom. It brings happiness to others. Who can reject this pleasing gift? There is such a story: On a crowded bus, a young man accidentally fell on the feet of others. Looking back, it turned out to be a girl, the girl was angry, and the young man was busy saying: "I'm sorry, sorry, I didn't mean it." Then he extended a foot and said seriously, "Or, you can step on me." The girl was amused by this sentence. The young man took the opportunity to talk again, and the girl was happy to talk to him. His liveliness and humor made a deep impression on the girl. Some people feel good about themselves, and the conditions in all aspects are really good, but why are they often met with cold sex when they talk to the opposite sex? The key is to have a sense of superiority, high above, talking about their own eyebrows, which is annoying. Even if you have achieved great success, if you blindly boast, it will only be far-reaching. In general, people are sympathetic, intimate, and admire to those who experience bumps and misfortunes and eventually get out of the way. Therefore, politicians or singers, in order to increase their popularity and win support, often repeatedly express their great efforts to achieve success or the unfortunate experience of childhood. This is actually a skill, the so-called psychological synaesthesia to win the hearts of the people. It can be seen that when talking with strangers of the opposite sex, you may wish to talk about your own success in a "inadvertent" manner, but you should talk to the past in the past, the hardships and the unfortunate experience, so that it is easy to arouse the goodwill and admiration of the other side. . 5 Planning a small event seems to be an accidental coincidence. Sometimes, you may not have the opportunity to contact a stranger, but you can't talk about it. In this case, you can "make" an opportunity. There is a documentary novel that writes such a plot: In the summer of 1960, on a Saturday afternoon, a young man with a well-dressed and dressed man held a bouquet of red roses and politely knocked on the door of an apartment. The owner of the apartment is Heinz, the young female secretary of the Federal Ministry of Foreign Affairs. She cautiously opened the door, facing the uninvited guest, she was at a loss, embarrassed, the man repeatedly apologized: "I knocked the wrong door, it is a misunderstanding, please forgive." Then turned and left. After two steps, he turned and came over and said to Heinz: "Please accept this bunch of flowers as a compensation for me to disturb you." Heinz was in a tough situation, and invited him into the room. The two knew this. It is. In fact, this accidental misunderstanding was planned by young men. However, a goodwill "deception" like this does not hurt the other party and does not seem to be harsh. It should be noted that when talking with strangers, don't argue, don't talk about the shortness of people who are familiar with each other, and don't even ask for the private life of others. If you don't care about the sensitive content of the other party, Move the topic ingeniously and quickly. In addition, you can't smack your face with a smile, you can't use the vulgar, inferior language to tease each other. This is a poor quality, dirty reflection, only 5! From the other side's resentment and reprimand. 3. The law of relationship: "Good things and more grinding" Those who work hard are often people who have a strong career or are interested in something. Once you start doing things, you are fully committed and don't want to see others again. Such people tend to cherish the time, such as gold, iron and ruthless. To knock on such a person's door, don't be afraid to touch the "nail" first, but also have enough patience, and be good at distinguishing different situations or hard or soft grinding until the goal is achieved. The son of Picasso, Koller, used the soft-grinding method to knock on the door of the mother who was burying his head. Its mother Francois. Gilot is very fond of painting, and no one can disturb when he enters the studio. Once, my son wanted his mother to take him to play, but Gillot had devoted himself to painting, heard the knocking of the door and the shouts of his son, but responded with a "squeaky" and still immersed himself in painting. After stopping for a while, my son said, "Mom, I love you." The only response I can get is: "I love you too, my baby." The door still didn't open. The son said: "I like your painting, mother." Gilot was happy, she replied: "Thank you! My heart, you are a little angel." Still can't open the door. The son said again: "Mom, you painted too beautiful." Gilot stopped the pen, but did not speak or move. The son said, "Mom, you paint better than your father." Gilot's paintings certainly won't be better than the husband, the master of painting, Picasso, but the son's words are in her heart. She also felt the urgency of her son from her son's exaggerated evaluation, and finally opened the door. If the opposite sex you are pursuing is a career-oriented person, then you can use the "grinding" to make him impatient, and finally have to raise the white flag to surrender to you. Of course, if the other person is disgusted with you from the heart, it is useless to bother him. A Hong Kong female writer has a relationship with a man in the mainland in a strong romantic mood. She once called the man the worst condition among her boyfriend. The origin of the matter goes back to a few years ago. It was her first trip to Shanghai, which was to negotiate the publication of her novels for a publishing house in Shanghai. At a dinner party, the female writer met a man. The man was deeply excited by the life experience of the female writer. After the dinner, she told her an amazing saying: "Can I pursue you?" She was only a joke. Unexpectedly, the men really began to pursue a fierce pursuit. Every day from the early morning, he brought a lot of friends and stood up at the big hotel where she was off. For men, the female writer feels like a terrorist and is afraid to step out of the hotel. The men who kept their eyes on it constantly "harassed" the female writer by phone and told her "If you don't show up again, you have to inform all your friends and tell them that I want to chase you." The woman who was forced to run without a path The writer, contending for the wisdom and wisdom, said: "You invite me to drink coffee, let's talk about it." She knows that mainlanders have low incomes and simply drink five or six cups of coffee in one breath, ready to make the pursuer "bankrupt." As a result, he also called five or six cups of coffee. Not only did he not be ashamed when he checked out, but he gave the waiter a small amount of tip. The trick to let the other party know how to retreat is not successful. The most intense thing is that on the last night of her Shanghai, the man who braved the courage, violently kissed the female writer in front of the public. The female writer who lost her glory for a long time couldn't speak, and then she almost burst into tears and said, "How can you do this." When she left Shanghai, the man was chasing all the way. I went to Xi'an, went to Xi'an, and arrived in Taipei. I didn't know how many times I had been playing. At this point, the female writer said: "As long as it remains on the earth for one day, it seems that it cannot escape from the palm of his hand." He had to declare his surrender and declare his marriage. Some company executives also use the patience of the staff and use “grinding” to persuade the staff to obey the company arrangement. The personnel director of a large company has a very tactical way of convincing the dereliction of staff that they can be convinced. First of all, he called the staff one by one, let them try to say what they wanted to say, and wait until the other party said that they were almost the same, then they said "I know your mood very well", relying on this sentence, many People will cooperate with a sigh of relief. After that, he added the following words: "If I were you, I would like to stay in a small company! Not only do I have no annoying interpersonal relationships, but I can do whatever I can, and there are many opportunities to be affirmed. In fact, there are many people. It is because of the achievements in the branch that the opportunity for promotion!" This is not to force the other party to accept their own rhetoric, but to make people feel that I am standing in his position to make recommendations. This is the secret, he succeeded in this way. 4. Humor: Lubricants that are not ruined Hayes is a famous speaker in Ohio. He kept remembering that 30 years ago, he was a completely unfamiliar and nervous intern salesman, when he was selling the cash register. A seasoned senior brought me to a certain area. When we entered a small shop, the boss suddenly shouted: "We are not interested in the cash register!" The predecessor leaned on the counter and giggled as if he had just heard the best laugh in the world. The boss stared at him. My friend straightened up and smiled and apologized and said, "I can't help but laugh. You remind me of the owner of another store. He also said that he was not interested. Later he became one of our best customers." The skilled predecessor continued to show his neatly displayed goods. Every time the boss said that he was not interested in this thing, my friend buried his head in his arms and giggled, then he would look up and again. To tell a story, it is also said that someone bought a new cash register after expressing dissatisfaction. Everyone is watching us. I was so stunned at the time - in fact, I was afraid of death. I said to myself: "They will think that we are a pair of fools and drive us out." The predecessor just continued to giggling, buried his head in his arms, and then looked up - the owner of the store The refusal turned into a humorous recollection. It is very strange that, in a short while, we moved into a new cash register. My friend used a well-thought-out expert to explain the usage to the boss - the boss actually bought it! This is the success of a resilience-filled humor user. Because perseverance and tenacity are the key to a person's career success. Attacks and ridicules of attachments are often countered by the humorous users. To deal with cockroaches in soft, hard foam, laughter and humor are the best lubricants. There is a saying that "reaching your hand and not making a smile" is a good condition for the entangled person to turn his face. Most people will have an inexplicable affection for those with smiles. Clear risks can make people feel safe. A dark complexion always gives people a sense of doubt, disgust, and threat. Therefore, we can't help but pay attention to whether it is a light and dark expression. If possible, always let yourself have a clear smile. If you go on like this, the other party is likely to be "laughed" by you and promised your request. Three students were on the bar and wanted to drink beer to show that they were adults. The waitress told them to show their ID card first. Two of them have no legal age of majority. What should I do? They had to reach out and touch the left pocket of the pocket, and touched it right, saying: We forgot to bring the ID card. Visit, the library card in the school does not work? “The waitress smiled and said to the reception of the tube cabinet: “Come on a bottle of beer, two books! "Humor sometimes can be tolerated and understood even with the feeling of "playing the skin". Here is a story called "Real Courage": Three Admirals talk about what is true courage. The German general said : "I tell you what is courage. "After finishing, he summoned a sailor. "Do you see the pole of the son? I hope you climb to the top, raise your hand to salute, and then jump down! "The German sailor immediately ran to the flagpole and quickly climbed to the top, and gave a beautiful ceremony, then jumped. "Drink, really good!" The American general praised him. Then he ordered an American sailor: "Do you see the 300-meter-high flagpole?" I have to climb to the front, salute twice, then jump. "The American sailors performed the order very well. "Oh, gentlemen, this is an unforgettable performance. "The British general said, "But I will tell you now, our Royal Navy's understanding of courage. He ordered a sailor. "I want you to climb the top of the 300-meter-high flagpole." Salute three times, then jump down. "What, want me to do this kind of thing?" Sir, you must be nervous! The British sailor screamed with wide eyes. "Hey, gentlemen," the British general said proudly: "This is the real courage." "There is no doubt that for an army, the more soldiers with such true courage, the more they fail, and even the unbeaten battle. But you have to admit that this is true. Courage. The self-deprecating of this witty and arrogant British general made him and his troops seem amiable because of their humanity. Who would have the heart to blame him for “unreasonable trouble” and “no seriousness”? The heart is Napoleon's wife, Josephine, the former Viscountess of Boarne, has always been watery, and life is debauchery. When Napoleon fought blood in Italy and the battlefield in Egypt, she was married to a woman named Charles. The lieutenant had no loyalty to Napoleon. She thought that Napoleon would die in the desert, no longer waiting for him to come back, but to arrange things like Napoleon. In October 1799, Napoleon returned from Egypt. After the news of France and the warm welcome, Paris was shocked by Josephine. Napoleon became the most famous figure in Europe, the savior of France, the future She deceived Napoleon and wanted to abandon him, and then regretted it. So she worked hard, took a carriage, traveled long distances, and went to Lyon in southern France to meet Napoleon. She wanted to see him before Napoleon and his family, and Taking advantage of his excitement to deceive him, not to expose his scandal. She finally arrived in Lyon, but Napoleon had gone from another road and met with her family. Napoleon had long heard of his wife, but did not believe it. When he was convinced that Josephine was unfaithful to him, he was violent and determined to divorce him. Josephine knew that the big thing was not good, and he rushed back to Paris day and night. Napoleon told the servant not to let her into the house. She reluctantly entered. The door, calm down, decided to go boldly to see her husband. She came to Napoleon's bedroom door and gently knocked on the door, no answer. Turning the door handle, no help. She knocked on the door again, and gently and mournfully called, Napoleon I ignored it. She burst into tears and shouted, and Napoleon was indifferent. She cried and beat her door with both hands, asking him to forgive and admit that he was light for a moment. Rate, childish and made mistakes, and raised their previous vows... If he can't forgive, she will only die. Still can't beat Napoleon. Josephine cried late into the night, no longer crying, she suddenly remembered the children, The eyes lit up and ignited the light of hope. She knew that Napoleon loved her two children, Adams and Eugen, especially like Eugen, which is a good way to impress Napoleon's heart. If the children ask him, he may The children will come, innocent and clumsily pleading. The hearts of the people are long, and Josephine’s move is finally successful. Although Napoleon suspected that Josephine had betrayed him, her crying was In his mind, there were fond memories of their love. The pleading of Ordance and Eugen broke through the lines of defense set in his heart, and he was already in tears. So the door opened and Napoleon and Josephine returned. Well, when Napoleon was enthroned, Josephine became the queen, and the glory came. Adding some tears to the mushrooms can effectively soften the other side, making your grievances more appealing and accelerating the other. Effect. If you reach out and don't make a smile, the beggar who cries "Cry into a tear" will rarely do it. "Tear tactics" are not necessarily limited to crying, and it is a skill to pretend to be a poor way. The practice of salesmen and journalists is generally typical. When the salesman promoted the product, it was likely to be rejected by the customer. After a period of time, he did not feel discouraged again. The customer saw him sweating, but he still smiled. If he didn’t buy it, he felt that he would never go too far. Then I bought a little. Falling rain and snow is a good day for salesmen to come to the door. Raining outside, others are hiding at home, and the salesman standing at the door can not help but sympathize with you, so it is difficult to refuse. Although we all know very well that this is a strategy adopted by the salesman, but after all, he has to do this. Can you be indifferent to this? This kind of marketing method is to make clever use of human feelings. Those who did not intend to buy, will also have the idea that "can no longer let him run away", so that they have a psychological burden and a feeling of debt. In order for the other party to make a large concession, it is necessary to allow the other party to accumulate a small psychological burden. When the psychological burden is extended to a certain extent, the other party can only give in. Journalists are engaged in interviews, usually in the evening and in the morning. For example, in the event of a huge political event, journalists will first hear about the people involved, and wait for the interview after work or before going to work. Because at this time, the average person is resting, and the journalist is still working, it will cause the other party to have a psychological burden, do not tell him the inside story of this matter, the heart will be unwilling to go. 6. Once again, two times often said: "People sell to familiar faces." Giving no face is often something between acquaintances. Therefore, the relationship with strangers, close to the light, light cheeks can not be done, dead hard foam can not talk about, must pay attention to methods, pay attention to steps. As the saying goes, once you get back to life, if you can open a breakthrough and pull up a relationship with the other side, you should not relax, and post it one after another. Over time, the relationship between the two sides is a bit unclear. A summary of a set of skills, is introduced as follows: 1 to create a natural opportunity to approach each other's body. This is what a critics mentioned in the magazine. When he buys a shirt or tie at a department store, the female clerk always says, "I will measure the size for you!" At this time, the critic would In my heart, I said, "Well! This method is really good. I am fooled." This is because when the other person wants to measure the size for you, her body is bound to come close, sometimes close to the pole that is only possible between couples. At close range, the heart of the being approached raises a sense of excitement similar to love. Everyone has a sense of sphere of influence around his body, and this range of forces close to the body usually only allows close people to approach. On the contrary, like this critics, allowing others to enter your body, there will be an illusion that you have been recognized to be close to each other, which is the same for anyone. In addition, a title published in a magazine is "hand on your shoulder, we are already lovers." Indeed, a pair of strange men and women, as long as they can put their hands on the shoulders of the other side, the psychological distance will be shortened at once, and sometimes it becomes a relationship of lovers. This method is often used by salesmen who often talk to each other while moving their position naturally to the customer. Therefore, as long as you want to create an intimate relationship early, you should create an opportunity to naturally approach each other's body. 2 Take the position next to the other party who met for the first time. Everyone has the same feeling, that is, talking to people who meet for the first time is really a bad thing. This is because the two people's sights are easy to meet, which leads to an increase in tension between the two. A rich man once talked about him. If someone who doesn't want to lend him money borrows money from him, he will talk face to face with him. Because such a conversation would make the other party nervous and not dare to open the mouth, even if he lent him, he would not dare not pay back. On the contrary, if he borrowed money, he would not be able to return. When you are sitting in a position next to a person, you will naturally relax. This is because you don't have to be aware of each other's sights, but only look at his sight when necessary. Sitting in a position next to each other and talking to them is very helpful in increasing the sense of intimacy. Therefore, when you want to increase your sense of intimacy with the first time you meet, it is best to avoid talking face to face with him, but try to sit next to him in order to make the other person's line of sight have a place to transfer, and because there is no tension, So you can quickly build a sense of intimacy. 3 Seeing time is not as good as seeing two times. For a successful salesman, frequent visits to the home of the customer are considered to be one of the most familiar tips with the customer; especially with 'Hey! Going to work nearby, by the way, look at you. "This kind of statement is more able to grasp the heart of the customer. The method of getting used to being close to you is considered to be the same as learning in psychology. Generally speaking, it is concentrated on learning. It's better to be effective in decentralized learning. For example, if we want to study in 12 hours, then 2 hours of work a day, and for a week, it is more effective than reading 12 hours in one breath. In addition, learning driving in a driving training class, the practice time of one day is also There are certain restrictions that will never let you go beyond time, that is, use the effect of decentralized learning. In terms of interpersonal relationships, the other party has a sense of intimacy, which is the basic condition for giving each other a good impression. To meet this condition By using this "dispersion effect", it can be said that it is the best way to give a strong impression to the other party. Generally speaking, friends who drink together all night, compared with friends who have long-term contacts, look at the former The interpersonal relationship is relatively stable, but in fact, if the relationship is not sustained, then the relationship between the two will become more and more talked about. . Easy to see someone asks you such as: "How do you and the person's relationship? "And you replied: "I have seen it once" and "Occasionally meet", then the impression is different, and the answer to "common" is even more different. The reason is obvious, the number of meetings and between the two The closeness is directly proportional.