Twenty Wonders in Negotiation (19)

Stupid: How to achieve "great wisdom and foolishness" and "difficult to be confused" has always been promoted as a brilliant way of life. As long as you know how to be stupid, you are not a fool, but a fool. Being a man is not arrogant, he does not know how to forgive. The sharp edge is easy to be hated, and it is easier to enemies. Gong Gaozhen did not know how many subordinates of the subordinates caused the murder. The most important skill in dealing with leaders is to "suppose stupidity" in a timely manner: not revealing their own cleverness, and even failing to correct each other's mistakes. Interpersonal communication, stupid can be a shame for people, looking for steps; can pretend not to achieve humor, anti-lip; can be fooled into confusion. You must have good acting skills in order to be cute, and "mad" is just right. Whoever does not know the truth will be fooled; who can not understand the charm of the wisdom, who is the real fool, stupid. 1. The flower should be half-opened, and the wine should be half drunk as a person, especially as a talented person. To be able to protect yourself and to give full play to your talents, we must not only persuade and overcome the morbid psychology of blind arrogance, but also do not be too arrogant and too aggressive, but also develop the virtues of modesty. The so-called "flowers to be half-opened, wine to be half drunk", when the flowers bloom beautifully, not immediately picked by people, that is, the beginning of decline. The same is true of life. When you are full of enthusiasm, and you can't be arrogant, you can't live forever, so you don't want others to be the target to fight! Therefore, no matter how outstanding your talents are, you must remember: Don't take yourself too seriously, don't take yourself too seriously, don't think of yourself as a saint who saves the country and the people, or converge Your edge, pick up your tail and cover up your talent. Zheng Zhuanggong is ready to cut. Before the war, he first organized competitions in the country and selected the first officer. The public will come to the opportunity to show their convictions, and they are all eager to try and be ready to show their talents. The first item fencing fighting. All the people will make all the stops, only see the short sword flying, the shield shaking, fighting to rush. After a turn of the competition, six people were selected to participate in the next round. The second project is to shoot three arrows each of the six generals who won the game, and to win the target. Some shot in the side, and some hit the bull's eye. The fifth place to come to shoot is the grandson. He is a martial artist with a strong temperament and is young and vigorous. He has never looked at others. I saw him put a bow on the arrow, 3 arrows in the bullseye. He held his head high and glanced at the last shooter and retired. The last shooter was an old man, and his beard was a bit gray. He was called Ying Kashu, who had advised Zhuang Gong and his mother to reconcile and value him in the communique. Uncle Ying Kao came forward and did not panic, "biting and biting" three arrows shooting, but also in the bullseye, and the grandson and grandson shot a tie. There were only two people left. Zhuang Gong sent people out of a chariot and said, "You two are standing outside the hundred steps, and at the same time come to grab this chariot. Whoever grabs the hand, who is the first officer." When the grandson sneaked a glance at the opponent who knew that he ran halfway, the grandson was slipping and fell. When he got up, Ying Kao had already grabbed the car. Where the grandsons took the enthusiasm and raised the long dynasty to win the car. Ying Kao uncle looked at it and pulled it up and flew away. Zhuang Gong was busy sending people to stop and announced that Ying Kao was the first officer. Grandchildren are full of hatred. Ying Kao Shu really did not lose sight of the public. When attacking the Xuguo capital city, the hand raised the banner and took the lead from the ladder to the city of Xudu. Seeing that Ying Kao’s uncle was successful, the grandson and grandson all felt a pain in their hearts. They took out the arrow and took a bow to aim at Yingbao’s uncle on the city’s head. They shot Ying Kao’s "a heart-cooling" from the city. Planted. Another general, Uncle Ying, thought that Ying Kao was shot dead in the army by Xu Bing, and he was busy picking up the battle flag, and commanded the soldiers to rush to the city, and finally won Xu. The typical example of the front and the top of the squad is the singer of the sect. When playing the rivers and mountains, the heroes of each road gathered together, and they were more capable than one. Of course, the master needs to borrow the talents of these people to realize their ambitions. However, the world has already decided that the talents of these tigers will not disappear. At this time, their talents became the heart of the emperor and made him feel threatened. Therefore, there are many things in the early days of the founding of the country, and the so-called "killing" is also. Han Xin was killed, and Ming Taizu burned the Qinggong Building. All of this. After reading "The Romance of the Three Kingdoms", you may have noticed that after Liu Bei’s death, Zhuge Liang did not seem to have a big role, and unlike Liu Bei’s life in the world, he was full of economics and ambition. Under the hands of Ming Jun like Liu Bei, Zhuge Liang does not have to worry about being jealous, and Liu Bei can't do without him. Therefore, he can try his best to play his talents, assist Liu Bei, lay a good job, and have one of the best in the world. After Liu Bei’s death, Adou succeeded. Liu Bei said in front of the group of ministers: "If this kid can help, he will help him; if he is not the material of the monarch, you will be self-reliant for the king." Zhuge Liang suddenly sweated, he was helpless, crying and bowing Say: "How can the minister not do his best, do the loyalty festival, until he dies and not relax?" After that, the girl bleeds. Liu Bei and Ren Yiyi did not give the country to Zhuge Liang. He said that Zhuge Liang was a monarch. How did he know that he did not kill him? Therefore, on the one hand, Zhuge Liang acted cautiously and arbitrarily, on the one hand, he was constantly fighting outside, in order to prevent the person from being called “挟天尹”. And he had a sharp convergence, deliberately showing that he was old and useless, so as not to blame himself. The trick is that the convergence of the edge is Zhuge Liang's great cleverness. You don't show the edge, you may never get the heavy responsibility; you are too sharp but easy to recruit people. Although it is easy to achieve temporary success, but you have dug the grave for yourself. When you display your talents, you will also plant the seeds of the crisis. Therefore, talents should be revealed. In today's society, the same skill is to “deliberately pretend to be stupid.” This means not showing off your intelligence. Wisdom, do not refute what the other party said. In fact, it is very difficult to do this, you must have a good acting skills. However, not everyone can be stupid just right, if not mastered just right, but will It is self-defeating. 2. Drunken fist essentials: When you are drunk and you are not drunk watching the TV series "Wu Song", you are very fond of Wu Song "drunk" to play the wonderful piece of Jiang Doo: hand The wine glass, the neck is dry, the body is tumbling, and the steps are frivolous. When Jiang Shenshen is careless, the nose is bursting with a punch, and he has not recovered, and his eyes are one leg again... When he finally wakes up When the alcoholic’s “beating” is happening, his body has been hit hard and has no power to fight back. There are martial arts people who sue it: this is “drunken boxing”, which is a highly difficult boxing in martial arts, which is extremely powerful. Thinking and saying: understand! After watching the classical novel "Dream of Red Mansions", I admire Xue Baoji's strategy. He treats people with great care, and is good at starting from small things: Yuanchun Province and others share the same fun. At that time, make a riddle of riddles, so that Baoyu and the skirts can be guessed. The ones of Yuyu and Xiangyun are in the middle of each other, and the eyebrows are very disdainful, and Baoqin is not very novel about this. I guessed the riddle at first sight, but "there is no praise in the mouth, only to say that it is difficult to guess, deliberately think about it." Some experts have broken the word "": this is called "pretending to be foolish", because it is quite right in Jiafu The training of "the woman has no talent is the virtue", it is really "good wind by force, send me on "The cloud" is a high-profile trick. I can't help but read the case: absolutely! "Drunken fist" is a "drunken", on the surface it seems to stumble, but it is upside down, oh, unbearable, but in fact However, in the drunkenness, there is a hidden murder. When you are paralyzed, you are caught in the trick of "drunk". True drunk and drunk are two completely different situations. The fool and the fool are completely different. Two kinds of people. Playing "Drunken Boxing" is "Drunk and God is not drunk", "Drunk" is "Drunk" in the "virtual" place, is to confuse the opponent, and "Fist" is hit in the "real", Recruitment is a deadly killer. The foolish one is 'noisy and not foolish inside', "fooly" is "stupid" in the furry, not involved in the pet, not related to the overall situation, and "fine" but "fine" on the knot It is a matter of life. Jiang Dou Shen was robbed by Wu Erlang and quit the occupant of the happy forest. He eventually died under the errand knife and smashed the blood, and he was full of sorrows and grievances. He was so happy that Lin Daiyu burned the infatuation and Xue Baotie became a big man. Etiquette, but there is a taste that can not be said. Drunken and boxing is a good technique of fighting, and selling crazy is a first-class effort to manipulate people. Those who can make others "buy" their own sillyness are the "greatest salesmen" in life. Their success has been no exception since ancient times. In 239 AD, Wei Shaodi was once privileged by Pu Shuang and oversaw the military power of Sima Town. Although Simatz was very dissatisfied, he could not do anything for a while. In order to avoid the resurgence of Cao Shuang, but also to conceal oneself, waiting for the opportunity, Sima Chao told the doctor home, do not ask the political. One day, Cao Shuang sent a confidant Li Sheng to visit Sima Jian to check the truth. Sima Zhen also knows the purpose of the first cool, therefore, when Li Sheng came, I saw Sima can lie in bed, two essays are feeding him porridge, rice porridge filled the chest. When Li Sheng spoke to him, Sima Zhen deliberately made a panting look, and the words were unclear and he could not tell. After Li Sheng went back, he reported it to Zeng Shuang in detail and said: "Sima Gong is just a dead body. The god is gone. The adults don't have to worry about him any more." Cao Shuang is the most troublesome thing is Sima Day. Hearing that he will not stay in the world for a long time, his heart is extremely happy and reassuring, and he is even more unscrupulous in the DPRK. Sima is stepping up the secret organization. Successfully played a "drunken fist". In the first month of 249, Wei Shaodi Cao Fang worshipped Gao Pingling, Cao Shuang brothers and their cronies all followed, and Sima took the opportunity to launch a mutiny, abolishing the Cao Shuang brothers, and soon all of them were executed. In the political situation, sometimes when the danger is to fall on your own head, you can achieve the purpose of escaping danger and preserving oneself by pretending to be foolish. Sun Hao, a famous military master in ancient China, was in a desperate situation after being counted by Pang. However, Sun Hao did not compromise with the evil forces. He decided to be mad and mad, to pour out the vigilant heart, and then to escape the plan. One day, Pang Wei sent a dinner to Sun Hao to eat. When he saw that Sun Hao was preparing to take chopsticks, he suddenly fainted, and then vomited again, then angered, and his eyes wide open and screamed. After receiving the report, Pang Wei personally came to see it, only to see the birthday of Sun Geng, and laughed on the ground. After a while, I burst into tears. Pang Wei was very embarrassed. In order to investigate the true and false of Sun Hao’s madness, he ordered him to be dragged into the pig pen, and Sun Hao’s face was covered with pig manure. Since then, although Pang Wei was dubious, the care of Sun Hao was greatly relaxed than before. Sun Hao also uttered a maddening speech all the time. He cried for a while and laughed. He was in the market during the day and returned to the pig pen at night. After a few days, Pang Wei finally bought the "silly" that Sun Hao promoted and became stupid. I believe Sun Hao is really crazy. This made Sun Hao escape from Wei State soon. At the beginning of the establishment of the Ming Dynasty, in order to preserve the country, Zhu Yuanzhang was ruthlessly attacked and punished for the acts of the court and local bureaucrats who were corrupt and corrupted and seriously damaged the interests of the emperor. The barbaric cruelty of his punishment exceeded any emperor in history. In order to avoid being killed, some bureaucrats must not be mad and sell stupid, in order to escape punishment, Yu Shi Yuan Kai angered Zhu Yuanzhang, afraid of being killed, they pretended to be mad. Zhu Yuanzhang said that it is not afraid of pain when he is crazy. He is asked to take a wooden drill to stab his skin. Yuan Kai is not biting his teeth. After returning home, I locked my neck with a chain of iron, unkempt and mad. Zhu Yuanzhang still does not believe, sending people to explore. Yuan Kaiyan looked at the songs of the "months high" and climbed the fence to eat shit. Zhu Yuanzhang listened to the return of the messenger and did not pursue it. In fact, Zhu Yuanzhang was deceived again. It turned out that Yuan Kai knew that the emperor did not believe that he was crazy. He would send someone to investigate, and he would pretend to use fried noodles with syrup, and pinch it like a dog-like shape, scattered under the fence. When the coming person arrived, he ate a big mouth and saved an old life. It can be seen how hard and difficult it is to “sell sillyness”, not to endanger the survival, or to do it easily. 3. In the "Great Stupid" in the early days of the Great War of the Soviet Union, the German army commanded straight people. On the occasion of this life and death, veterans who had been racing in the war during the civil war, such as Timoshenko and Voroshilov. Bujuani, etc., first provoked the burden of the former enemy command. But in the face of the new situation, they are gradually feeling powerless. The times have created heroes, and a group of young military strategists, such as Zhukov, Huasilevsky, and Shijimenko, have emerged one after another. In the meantime, the veterans are not undulating in their thinking. In February 1964, the Soviet Marshal Tiemu Xinge was ordered to go to the Baltic Sea to coordinate the actions of the First and Second Fronts. Shijie Menko was his colleague. Shijiemenko knew that the marshal was skeptical about the people in the General Staff Department. He had an embarrassed thought. He thought: "The order is ultimately an order and can only be obeyed." When I got on the train and had dinner, an unpleasant conversation started. Tiemu Xinge first issued a series of cannons: "Why did you send me with me? Is it to educate us the old man and supervise us? It is hard work!" When you are still running under the table, we have led the division's troops to fight, in order to build a Soviet regime for you. You graduated from the military academy, and you can't afford it! When you started the revolution, how old are you? "This training is almost insulting. But Shijimenko answered honestly: "At that time, just turned ten." Then he calmly expressed his respect for the marshal and prepared to learn from him. Tiemu Xinge finally said: "Forget it, diplomat, sleep. Time will prove who is what kind of person." It should be said that "time proof theory" is correct. After working together for a month, when they were drinking tea in the evening, Tiemu Xinge suddenly said: "Now I understand, you are not the kind of person I originally thought. I thought, you were sent by Stalin. Supervising me..." When Shijimenko was recalled, he was reluctant to separate from Temujin. After another month, Tiemu Xinge personally asked the base camp to adjust the younger generation to work together. Shijiemenko is in the humiliation of fashion, passing the Iron Marshal Pass, reflecting the humility of the later generations and respect for the elderly, is a manifestation of great wisdom. Knowing that the pretender is not a fool, it seems that the wood is thick and sometimes the highest wisdom can be. Many times, in order to be respected by others, you must hide your intelligence. Here are a few examples of the magical use of stupid surgery, hope to give one another. 1 glance, close your eyes. In communicative activities, it is difficult to convince each other by words alone, and to use the contextual meaning of the communication, sometimes giving the other side more thoughts and experiences, often producing effects that cannot be achieved by words. There is an agronomist in France who has eaten potatoes in Germany and would like to promote the cultivation of this crop in France, but the more enthusiastic he is, the less people believe. Doctors believe that potatoes are harmful to human health, and some agronomists assert that planting potatoes will make the land poor, and the religious community calls potatoes "ghost apples." After a period of thinking, the agronomist who promoted potato planting finally came up with a new idea. With the permission of the king, he cultivated potatoes in a well-known low-yielding field, guarded by a king guard wearing an honor guard costume, and claimed that no one was allowed to approach it and dig it. But these soldiers were only guarded during the day and all were removed at night. People were lured by the forbidden fruit, and at night they dug potatoes and planted them in their vegetable gardens. In this way, it was not long before the potatoes were promoted in France. The success of this idea of ​​promoting potato cultivation has benefited from the skillful use of the situation. It is blunt to say that potatoes are good, people don't believe it; they are planted by the royal family, and the guards of the king guards, suggesting that the situational meaning is: valuables. This induces the desire of people to possess, and after planting, personally taste and experience, and be sure that it is beneficial and harmless, it will fully accept the crop. The charm of the communicative situation here is to take advantage of people's curiosity, glance at it, close a glance, and create an opportunity to make people contact potatoes, so it has a gratifying effect. 2 slap in the face of a joke. During the Anti-Japanese War, various government groups stationed in the north of Chongqing, which was more than 50 kilometers away from Chongqing, initiated a donation of labor and military literary evenings with the National Compilation Hall. For two consecutive nights, the event was unprecedented. Before the official opening, make a cross talk. Lao She volunteered and asked Mr. Liang Shiqiu to be a partner. Liang Shiqiu has the first words: When you use the folding fan to knock your head during the performance, you can't really hit it. On the day of the performance, the two walked to the stage, and the clay sculptures stretched their faces for a moment, with a silly look, without talking, and the audience under the audience had already laughed. They can only talk in a burst of laughter, awesome, humorous. When I had to use a folding fan to knock, I didn’t know that Lao She was a moment of excitement, or deliberately broke the promise, and actually picked up a big fan and knocked it on Liang Shiqiu’s head. Liang Shiqiu instinctively flashed his head backwards, and the folding fan just knocked down the glasses of Liang Shiqiu. . The explanation was late, and at that time, Liang Shiqiu quickly ran his palms up and stretched out with both hands, just catching the falling glasses and keeping the posture for a long time. The applause and cheers of the audience continued for a long time. Cross talk has always made people laugh, and Lao She’s comical “beating” is even more fascinating. The audience thought that this was their unique skill, and shouted: "One more time!" Lao She, especially Liang Shiqiu, has a number of things: this "singular" can only come once! 3 Absurd and reasonable. There is a reason or conclusion to face a mistake. Refuting from the front may not help. At this time, it is better to use another similar and obviously wrong reasoning to achieve the purpose of rebuttal, and the effect is better. This kind of erroneous reasoning has a strong absurdity, and it is inexhaustible to speak out, which will make people clear the right and wrong in the laughter, thus achieving the true purpose of humor. The more absurd the reasoning is, the more humorous it is when you say it. At the time of Song Gaozong, one of the court chefs cooked the cockroaches, and the emperor was angry and took the chef to prison. Not long after, during an actor's performance, the two actors dressed as readers and asked each other's birthday time. One said "Jiazisheng" and the other said "Bingzisheng". At this time, another actor immediately came to the emperor and accused: "The two men should go to prison." The emperor felt embarrassed and asked what the reason was. The actor said: "Is the kimono and the biscotti all born, isn't it the same as the one who is not cooked?" The emperor laughed and realized his intention, and he forgave the chef who had "cooked rice". . The actor borrowed the premise of the emperor's "death to the next prison", and deducted a wrong conclusion: it is the "life" that should be the next prison, Jiazisheng. Bingsheng should also go to prison. This is obviously absurd and makes people laugh. The actor's reasoning language is entangled, expressive and implicit, and contains a lot of fun. The generation of such a humorous language cannot be attributed to the absurd reasoning of ingenuity. 4 knowingly makes a living humor. In June of the year, CCTV once broadcast a special program, the first foreign language Chinese knowledge finals. When an American friend told a complete incident containing Chinese knowledge in Chinese, he said: "One day, I went to visit a Chinese friend. He left me to eat lunch. I said that cooking is very troublesome. He said, it’s not a treat, it’s a good meal, it’s not trouble. I said, you just have to eat a piss, don’t do a bowel meal, and the stool is too troublesome.” After listening to his narrative, the audience laughed. I have to lean forward and back, and I can’t stand my waist. On the surface, this American friend does not understand that the term "light meal" cannot be combined with the adjectives "small" and "big" according to the habit of Chinese word formation. In fact, this friend does not really understand. He only knows what he is doing, intentionally violates the habit of word formation in Chinese, creates ambiguity, violates logical affairs, and ridiculously associates "baked rice" with "urin" and "stool" to create a joke. There is a cross-talk called "Send Three Kingdoms", which has such a paragraph: A asked B: "Liu Bei sold straw shoes, Zhang Fei sold meat, do you know what Zhao Yun sold?" B said: "I don't know." A said: Haven't you heard the two words that Jiang Wei sang on the school floor in "Tianshuiguan"? 'This is generally lost in the five tigers, only Zhao Zilong is old and high. 'Is this Zhao Yun not selling rice cakes?" The audience heard this and laughed. The "Year of the Year" is understood as "selling rice cakes". The author of the crosstalk uses homonyms to create ambiguity, which creates a joke and achieves a humorous and stimulating effect. 5 Answers are not difficult to ask. Answers to the answer are deliberately deviated from the logic rules. Instead of answering the other party's question directly, it responds to the other party's question in form, and creates humor through intentional misplacement. The answer is not the confusion of thinking, but the form of false and wrong, humorously expressing the intention of the port. At the rest of a UN meeting A developed country diplomat asked an African ambassador: "The mortality rate in your country must not be low? The African ambassador replied: "Like your country, each person dies. The diplomat’s question is a provocation to the country’s backwardness. The ambassador ignored the key points of his questioning. He deliberately targeted the death rate for everyone and responded with ingenuity to create a different humor effect. Humor effectively replies with the arrogance of the diplomat and maintains the dignity of the country. Answering the clues to the cleverness, grasping some form of association on the surface, evading the substantive level without leaving traces, consciously interrupting the continuity of the dialogue logic, seeking The expression of sudden emergence, humor is to create a new stove, jumping out of the passive situation. There is a gentleman who stares at Xiao Zhongma and asks: "What have you been doing recently? Xiao Zhongma calmly replied: "Don't you see?" I am licking my beard. "Beard is natural and long, Xiao Zhongma deliberately regards it as a very important thing, obviously not in line with the purpose of the question. Xiao Zhongma seems to be answering the gentleman on the surface, but did not give him any useful information. Xiao Zhongma Naturally, I understand the meaning of the other party's question, but he has to answer the question. He hints at the person with humor: Don't continue to entangle. 4. Knowing the wrong love law in love life, the male and female protagonists in love are all trying to please each other. The ground magnifies the glorious advantages of his own to the sweetheart. However, if a lover has some rebellious plots or encounters with love frustrations in the process of love, he intentionally derogates himself with the wrong words but can receive unexpected results. The miraculous effect. Yu and Zhou are classmates of the university. In a college debate, Zhou’s sharp thinking, sharp language, and eloquent conversation captured her heart. After graduation, the two were assigned to work in the same city. Just as he was ready to build a love nest with the boat, he could tell her: Recently, she often saw With a very modern and beautiful girl. For this reason, he accused the boat of being unfaithful to love and seeing it differently. Zhou explained that it was his cousin who came to the city and asked me to help her find a job. I didn’t believe it at all, and said that the boat continued to deceive her and made trouble with him. “The boat that loves the classmates and the confidant is certainly not willing to lose the sweetheart. So the boat found the cockroach and said: “People say You are a beautiful woman, why don't you think about it, except for you, I really can't think of a second willing to fall in love with me. You 瞧: I am old-fashioned, I am reporting to the old society, and I have written about the vicissitudes of life and suffering in China for five thousand years. I will use this instrument again. It is easy for people to think of the difficult households and the hard-hit households who have just passed the flood baptism. The most I want to go now is how to get rid of poverty as soon as possible, to report the grace of the lady, how dare to worry. "There is a sigh of joy and anger, and I can't help it. The love confession of the boat can be described as a whisper and a whisper. The reason is that the "error" of the word plays a great role. I don't know who said such a famous saying. Good sentence: Love is the most unreasonable. This further explains the wonderful function and unique role of deliberately telling the truth in love life. Fu Kun has been chasing Yao for a long time, and Ke Keyao is attitude. I have been reluctant to live with him for a lifetime. In a rainy autumn, Fu Kun is preparing for his last effort. He ran to see Keyao, but she did not expect to open the door to her brother: "I am sorry, my sister is not at home, you Please come back! "Fu Kun has already heard that Ke Yao is resting at home. It is clearly intentional to avoid: "It doesn't matter, you tell her, she won't come out to see me today, I have been standing under heavy rain, pouring her body into a popsicle, seeing is She is distressed or I am distressed. "The conversation was clearly heard by Ke Yao who was hiding in the house. She was moved by tears for the "wrong" reason of Fu Kun. She quickly asked her brother to invite him into the house to warmly care. A hot workman gave it to him personally. It is not difficult for us to find out from the "wrong" words and "mistakes" of Fukun's pursuit of Kyokyao. His wrong reason is almost absurd, and Kyota is not fully accepting him. It was justifiable to refuse to see him. But in order to see his sweetheart say that his body is the body of Ke Yao, it is obviously unreasonable to say that his distress is distressed by the other party. However, it is this kind of speciality of Fu Kun. The reason of "wrong" made Ke Yao discover the sincere heart of Fu Kun who loved her and found his willingness to dedicate his whole body and mind to his sweetheart. The Chinese people have been conservative in their love life since ancient times. The language and behavior expressed are also more subtle. Therefore, the intelligent and pure men and women who are passionately in love often use this kind of implicit love to incite the lover, and express their emotions in a "wrong" mistake, humor. . For example, we often hear men who in some literary or film and television work, said: "I want to kiss you, do you think? "The woman said: "I think you are a lazy person. "The man wants to kiss the woman, and the woman deliberately puts things wrong." He gave him a conclusion that "you are a lazy person". On the surface, it is even like a monk, but the essence It is implied that he "you can meet this requirement as soon as you are diligent." There are many examples in real life. Ning Lin and Run Yu are both workers of the enterprise, when they are immersed in the sweet and happy In the love life, they were announced to be laid off. For the sake of future happiness, they agreed to rent a facade to do clothing business and maintain their lives. However, on the first day of opening, the business was very depressed. On the way home, Runwu He sighed and said to Ning Lin: "Oh, I understand, our business is not good because my image is sorry for customers. "Ning Lin took over the words with a clever voice: "Wrong, they are jealous - I look like this kind of beautiful girl who is detrimental to the city. They are indignant, deliberately not looking for us to do business, making us angry!" Anyone knows that there is no connection between the quality of business and personal appearance. The customer does not appreciate the face of the owner, but the style of the clothing; it is not the appearance of the owner but the clothing product. However, in order to eliminate Ning Lin’s loss of business due to the loss of business, the reason for the business downturn was “should be a personal influence, letting Ning Lin forget the failure. Under the humorous revelation of Runyu, Ninglin made a mistake with his own "depreciation", so that things are more distant and more mysterious, and thus with the soul of Runwu, there is a spark of love. A failure in life is turned into a joyful song of love under the influence of "wrong". 5. Pretend not to know, the words are more wonderful to pretend not to know, that is, to pretend that the words of others have not heard or did not hear clearly, in order to avoid the real and violent attack. Its characteristics are: the argument of argument is not mainly about what kind of information is transmitted, but by attacking and transferring the other party's arguments and making it impossible to continue to set the embarrassing situation, and to turn it into a jade, and to be able to argue invisible and not to fight. The soldiers of the people. In the interpersonal relationship, there are many uses of this method. 1 can be used to save the embarrassing situation caused by "aphasia." "The horse has a hoof, and people have lost words." Occasionally, aphasia is inevitable in language communication, but aphasia is often the source of many contradictions and intensifications. Therefore, in exchange for aphasia, it is necessary in language communication. For example: during the internship, an intern just wrote a few words on the blackboard. Someone suddenly called out: “The teacher’s word is better than our teacher Li’s words!” It’s really a screaming, how can a young student think? : At this time, the teacher in the back seat, Teacher Li, is what it is! For the intern, when I first got into the post, I encountered such an embarrassing scene. It really caused a headache. How can I get an internship with the class teacher in the future? Turned around to be modest, right? No! The intern got a move and pretended not to hear it. He continued to write a few words and said no to his head: "I don’t know how to read the text quietly, who is shouting loudly underneath!" Teacher Li’s nervous look was awkward and relaxed, and the situation was eliminated. Here is the clever use of pretending not to know, to avoid the real thing, that is to avoid the "praise" entity, pretending not to hear clearly, but to attack the "noisy" virtual image. Both cleverly told the class teacher that "I" did not hear it at all; it also slammed the praise of the student, avoided the possibility that he mistakenly thought that the teacher did not hear it, and praised a few words to cause another embarrassing situation. 2 can be used to deal with other people's sophistry. "Fact is better than eloquence", and having a sufficient factual basis is a powerful magic weapon to defeat your opponent. But unfortunately, in many cases, it is always embarrassing to face a clever person – knowing that the other person is a paradox, but unable to fight back. When the two young farmers once went to fertilize the corn, they argued because the pig manure was far from the crop. A said: "Pig manure is close to the crop, it is easy for the crop to absorb, and the crop must be long." B said: "Let you say that the crop should be planted in the pig pen, it must be more long." A said: "You This is unreasonable.” B said: “How can it be unreasonable? You are not saying that it is close to pig manure, does the crop love long?” At this time, a middle-aged peasant once said: “I don’t think you are right. The pig's tail is closest to the dung, and I haven't seen how long the pig's tail grows..." In a word, the people present laughed. Middle-aged peasants don't even understand common sense, but the place in the language breaks the sophistry of A and B, and has a strong sense of humor. 3 to deal with and stop the slander and ridicule of others. Although friends are very good, sometimes they are too jokes, but they are so angry and hurt. In this case, it is advisable to skillfully use "pretend not to know" and give him a strange question that the second monk can't figure out. Yuan Bing was obese because of the body, Zhao Qiang and Wang Ming of the same class, "touching the scenery", "winter melon" and "winter melon" shortly started to buy and sell, and from time to time take the eyes of Yuan Bing, grimacing. Faced with the jokes of taking other people's physiological "deficiencies" to open fire, it really made Yuan Bing angry. If you want to stop it, this is not a trick; if you don't care about him, you can't hold your heart's anger. How to do it? At this time, Yuan Bing stabilized his emotions and slowly walked over. He patted the shoulders of the two men and whispered in a whisper: "Zhao Qiang, I heard that you are 1.8 meters high, I am afraid there is no." Then again Wang Mingdao: "Did you eat this morning?" Hearing such a gentle and grotesque question, the two excited people are squatting, looking at the small eyes, like falling into the fog. The whole class was quiet for a few seconds, and then they burst into laughter. The two knew that they had been fooled. The "sales and sales" that had just been heard before and then no longer continued. 4 to stop others' sarcasm and irony. The sarcasm and the irony are all a kind of language that is harsh and sultry, and it is very irritating to irritate the opponent. In order to avoid the big liver fire, both lose and hurt, but also cleverly use the pretense to see the machine in an unintelligible way. The husband kept smoking, there was already a lot of cigarette butts in the ashtray, and most of them were still smoking. The wife exclaimed: "God! Can't you find a better way of suicide?" The wife, out of her deep concern for her husband, was very annoyed by her husband's smoking and compared smoking to "suicide". The term was very spicy. As a man's husband, although he knows it is not right, but for such sarcasm, it is unbearable. If you fight back directly, it will only hurt you. At this point, it may be pretending not to understand: "Dear, I am smoking to think about this problem." Such an unsatisfactory, plausible answer is ridiculous. The husband also angered once because of his humor. His wife had already vented his dissatisfaction. He did not care much about his husband’s hearing, so he stopped speaking. 5 Remedy mistakes and mistakes in speech.進行即興演講，有時會出現這樣的情況：演講者自己也不知為什麼，竟說出一句錯話，而且馬上就意識到了。 How to do it?倘若遇上這種失誤，演講者不妨裝作不知道，然後採用調整語意。改換語氣等續接方式予以補救。只要反應敏捷，應變及時，就可以收到不露痕跡的糾錯效果。例如，一位公司經理在開業慶典上發表即興演講，他這樣強調紀律的重要性：公司是統一的整體，它有嚴格的規章制度，這是鐵的紀律，每一個員工都必須自覺遵守。上班遲到、早退、閒聊、亂逛、辦事推諉、拖沓、消極、懈怠，都是違反紀律的行為。我們允許這些現象的存在——就等於允許有人拆公司的台，我們能夠這樣做嗎？這位經理的反應力和應變力是很強的。當他意識到自己把本來想說的“我們決不允許這些現象的存在”一句話中“決不”二字漏掉之後，樣作不知，馬上循著語言表達的邏輯思路，續補了一句揭示其後果的話，同時用一個反問句結束，增強了演講的啟發性和警示力。這樣的續接補救，真可謂順理成章，天衣無縫。