Didn’t become strong because you are too coveted

A long career, for the enterprise, it requires you to become a specialist, but from a career perspective, you need to be a versatile person to adapt to changes in society. There are many bad habits that hinder you from becoming a versatile. Sometimes we like to avoid disadvantages, and procrastination is even more difficult to achieve.

From now on, you have to work hard to find various environments and habits that make you uncomfortable. Don't be afraid of pain. With the appearance of pain, there will be room for growth. The new year makes you stronger, and Wang Shi tells you five things that are getting stronger.

There are two kinds of people in this world: "A person is a strong person, a person is a weak person." The strong person finds discomfort for himself, and the weak person finds comfort for himself. To become stronger, you must learn the skills necessary for the strong, that is, to make the discomfort comfortable.

If you learn this skill, you can do a lot of things, such as overcoming procrastination, fitness, learning a new language, exploring unknown areas, and more. However, many people tend to avoid this kind of discomfort. After all, nothing is simple. It takes a lot of effort, endures a lot of pain, and even makes you bruise yourself.

I used to think that we should make ourselves comfortable, but then I understand that some discomfort is sometimes not a bad thing. In fact, you can learn to enjoy this discomfort. For example, I do some strength training every day. Although this discomfort will not be serious to the point that I hate, but people are like this, we can avoid the difficulties, we can always find excuses. . I made a plan to make this unsuitable for my life and form a habit. Whenever I finish 15 pull-ups, I will write 15 in the column of the pull-ups. Every month I will change the paper and summarize the situation last month. Inadvertently, I have done 1000 pull-ups in a few months.

I have found that anything that is a little uncomfortable can be trained. We can turn an uncomfortable thing into a habit, and then you can't live without it. I feel that this little pain is actually a kind of life in plain life. seasoning. This thing is made comfortable by discomfort, and good habits are developed in this way.

The specific method is as follows:

Finding something you want to do, this thing will make you a little discomfort, but when you do it, you will gain a lot. For example, fitness.

You can break this down into 1000 separate events, making sure that each event is within the level of discomfort you can tolerate. You can test the maximum tolerance you have tried to do, and then subtract 20% from this value. For example, I want to do 10,000 pull-ups, then divide it into 1000 copies, which is 10 each time.

Start doing it, and don't force yourself to challenge it as a pleasure. As your abilities increase, you gradually increase your weight. For example, after one month, you can do 15 and after 3 months, you can do 25. Therefore, 10,000 seem to take 1000 days to complete, in fact, you may be able to get it in 9 months.

The essence of this method is to break down a lot of pain into 1000 small discomforts, then integrate it into everyday life, cultivate into habits, and transform discomfort into comfort.

We can use this method to improve our abilities, change some bad habits, and cultivate some good habits.

1. The habit of procrastination. The main reason why we have to delay is that what we are doing makes us feel uncomfortable. Therefore, our minds produce a variety of excuses and temptations to motivate us to do things that are easier and more comfortable. When we define one thing as "uncomfortable", we instinctively don't want to do it, and try to delay until tomorrow. However, if we can break this pain into 1000 and become intolerable, then things will become easier. We can make a form called "Beyond Procrastination." Every time there is an idea that you want to delay, you will do it immediately. After completing the task, you will be on the form. When you finish 1000, the habit of procrastination will be eradicated.

2, fitness habits. We don't go to the gym because we feel uncomfortable, but if we consciously let ourselves suffer some discomfort, we will gradually improve our endurance. Once we develop a habit, we will rely on the favorable stimulation that this discomfort brings to ourselves. Make yourself feel more energetic.

3. The habit of reading. People who don't have the habit of reading will see reading as a very painful thing. If you can create a form, let yourself write 1 on each chapter. After gradually getting into the habit, change to reading a book, you will find that you can even read 5 books a month. Then reading becomes less painful and becomes a matter of common practice. When you can talk to others about the books you read and your opinions, it will be a very fulfilling thing.

4, the habit of getting up early. To cultivate the habit of getting up early, you must first set an early goal for yourself. And this purpose will make you look forward to coming soon the next morning. If you are a foodie, prepare a hearty breakfast ingredient before going to bed, and wake up in the morning to make yourself a good breakfast. The early morning I set myself was to play for half an hour, which is very attractive to me. So, if I want to get up at 6:30, then I will set the alarm at 6 o'clock, then get up quickly, I will fix my teeth and wash my face when I boot up, then I will have a cup of milk and play the game while listening to the English broadcast. Through this method, I converted discomfort into comfort, making things that were difficult to get easy and highly anticipated.

5, the habit of writing. If you don't write too much, you can't be your own. If you can't tell others, you can't get corrections and feedback, and you can't know what level your point of view is. Writing is a good tool for sorting out your own ideas. It sorts out the arguments in the usual reading, thinks and summarizes into your own words. In this way, the logic and thinking ability will gradually strengthen. Of course, writing is a painful thing. You need to organize your thoughts and organize your language to express them. Moreover, when you are facing the computer, you must also eliminate the interference of various chores, which is also an exercise.

supplement:

The theory of comfort zone theory proposed by American Noel Tichy.

"Comfort zone", for you, there is no knowledge of learning difficulty or a matter of common practice, you can be in a comfortable state of mind.

The "learning area" has certain challenges for itself and therefore feels uncomfortable, but it is not too uncomfortable.

The "panic zone", a business or knowledge that is too much beyond your ability, will be seriously uncomfortable and may lead to a collapse and abandon learning.

For a person, the most ideal state is to be in the “learning area” and learn something that is appropriate and challenging. After a period of time, the “learning area” will gradually become a “comfort zone” and the “comfort zone” will become bigger and bigger. And part of the "panic zone" will also become a "learning area."