Why are top students not successful?

A friend who works in a famous foreign company called me to spit: The company's eyes were short-sighted, the boss changed his mind, and he was very unhappy. He wanted to change jobs and hoped that I would help her to pay attention to whether there were better job opportunities. When it comes to some of the anecdotes of her boss, I vaguely feel a breath - "My boss is the best."

Whether her boss is really the best, but one thing is certain, their relationship is relatively tight.

I often receive similar calls. The people who call have some common characteristics: high IQ, from the youngest to the top of the school, graduated from a prestigious school, working in a famous enterprise, but frequently quit. They always seem to have a very good boss, and they have some talents, and they don't get along well with the people around them. Once they feel unhappy, the first thing they think of is to quit, and jumping around is a well-known company.

Since people are "workplace mentor", I have to come up with a "mentor" to give her a coach and ask her a few common questions: 1. What job do you want? 2. What do you think? What is the most enjoyable thing? 3. What do you think you have? These three questions are not my original creation. I learned from Taylor Ben Shahar, a lecturer at Harvard Happiness. The principle of the problem is the MPS model in positive psychology, which means that if a person can find a job that satisfies these three conditions at the same time, he will not only work happily but also achieve something.

It stands to reason that these are the three simplest problems, but the answers I get are not satisfactory to most of the time. The top students in these schools have been winning the competition, but they don’t know what they want, they don’t know what they like, and they don’t know what they are good at. These three questions raise a bigger question: Why are the top-notch IQs in these schools superior, but lost their way in the workplace?

If you ask them what kind of job they are looking for, their usual answer is a "good job." What is “good work”? The good jobs in their eyes are often like this: higher salary, better company, better prospects, better bosses, and a balance between work and life.... Every time I hear here, I I can't help but ask: You have been working in the society for a few years. Have you found such a job? The answer is naturally no. This kind of "good job" is like "other children's children". It is totally beautiful. dream.

In fact, the real problem is not here, but that they understand the so-called "good work" as some external standard, not whether it really works in line with their own goals. They don't even have clear goals. There are only some standards of success in the eyes of others, just like many leftover women expect their future husbands: there are cars and houses without mortgages, but they don't really care whether they have true feelings. Another problem is that they also feel like a leftover woman, always feel that a "good job" is like "Prince Charming" waiting for them at the corner.

If you don't have a clear career goal, you should always know what you like. Unfortunately, many people don't know what they like. They seem to care more about the praise of others, and think that those things that others approve are what they like, but it is not clear whether they really like those things.

This may also be thanks to their small education. They try to make themselves behave more in line with the expectations of others, and ignore what they love from their hearts. Many of the top students in the school often don't know what they need and what they like when they win the game. Because there is no love from the heart, there will be no loyalty to the cause, and the spirit of innovation, they are often not so good in the workplace.

The saddest thing is that these top students lack the necessary workplace skills. They are very good at exams, but there are not many opportunities for these skills to work. Many universities are claiming to be research universities, but they are more like a vocational training school, but the training in this school is at most a variety of knowledge, not some practical professional skills, and how to deal with people. knowledge. After taking so many A+ results, these top students sadly found that the rules of the workplace are completely different from those of the school.

One statistic shows that most successful people in the workplace are those who score in school. The reason why these people have achieved results is that they are not bad in IQ, but the reason why they did not become top students is that they did not put all their thoughts into their studies. They are more focused on social practice, and it is precisely because of this understanding of the real world that they have exercised their professional skills earlier.

This illustrates two problems: first, they are not bad in IQ, and second, they put more energy into social practice. Don't underestimate those social practices, because it allows a person to understand this real society earlier and train themselves in a targeted manner. This is a common sense: if a person has a clear goal, engages in what he or she likes, and his or her ability meets the goal, he is more likely to succeed in his career.

The criteria for social and school evaluation are different: more of the school's evaluation is his IQ, and social evaluation is more of his emotional intelligence. Because of the high IQ, top students limit their cultivation of emotional intelligence, making them more likely to become professionals, not leaders. This is also a classic paradox in management: a person's ability in a certain area is too strong, it will become his obstacle on the other hand.