Miracle, that’s just another name for hard work.

One

In the past few days, he had been eating with his cousin who had not seen him for a long time. He still looked like a little spirit. He looked at the big piece of meat in the plate and dazed. I asked him if he had something to worry about? He said for a while, I don’t know. Know what to do.

The cousin is six years younger than me. Because of the poor grades in high school, he has become a sports student. The results of the college entrance examination are in vain. There is no way to go to a sports academy. You can only study animation design in a college in Xi'an, and graduated back home to do a few copies. Work, selling products in the supermarket, doing secretarial work in small companies, doing campus activities for Nestlé, but most of them did not die, and later had a volunteer opportunity to become a temporary administrative staff in the government.

This is the learning process he can write into his resume. When I was eating, I asked him. Do you know what you are best at? He thought about it, didn't know. I asked you again if you want to do anything in the future? He said he didn't know. I then asked what dreams and goals do you have? He said he didn't know. I said that if you have an idea, do you know what to do? He said impatiently, brother, don't ask, I don't know.

When a meal was eaten in the middle, it was deadlocked in a sly atmosphere. The cousin stirred the fries and ketchup together and ate it. I thought he was a little unhappy. I wanted to come to me and he never said such a serious topic. Later, I said lowly, you have to have a goal, you have to know yourself.

My cousin glanced at me and sighed heavily. I just didn't know what I wanted. Big brother danced ballet from a young age, a national first-class actor, and a daily performance in the world. Now I have immigrated to Australia. I have a big house with love. Car. You are so good, every day on TV, you broadcast the advertisements you made. There are also several books in the book. The programs you make are even heard by my colleagues. I am embarrassed to tell them that it is my two brothers, I have something, and I have a lot of pressure.

I heard these words in my heart, I said, if you put these pressures in your heart, it will only keep you quiet here, you have to do what you want to do, you have to grasp your chances, Don't compare with others, no one is stronger than you, but they know what they want and then know how to do it.

The cousin drank the wine and put down the glass to look at me, brother, but I don't know what I want, I don't know what to do. I like to communicate, but what is the use of light to talk, big companies will want it? I also like to do some quietly like you, but the conditions I live in are not allowed, no software without a microphone. I also love to write something, but my literary talent is only at the national level, and I feel funny when I write it out. I don't think I can do anything. Just do someone who can't do anything.

Listening to his words of self-destruction, I am angry and helpless. There is a famous saying that there is no way in this world. If there are too many people, it will become a road. According to the modern meaning, it may be understood that the road in the world is always walking by itself. If you see the road but do not go, you can only stay in the same place. If you don't see the road, you will always be in a puzzle and you can't get out of it.

Later, I asked my cousin, would you be willing to do this? He shook his head hard.

two

In my public WeChat, I get some friends' messages almost every day. They are telling their own distress. They are simply classified and similar to my cousin. I don’t know what I am going to do. I don’t know what I want to do. I want to do it. Things often don't know how to start, or haven't really tried it, but they are not reconciled. In short, they don't know what to do, and then they can only be confused.

A friend told me a few years ago that he would rather live a life all day and would not accept the challenge of seemingly no results. He feels that he has no talent ability. He is just an ordinary person. He does not dare to do things he wants to do because he does not see the end. If there is no result, he would rather not start. It’s just that such emotions can’t be solved, and it’s unhappy.

At that time, I could hardly find a reason to refute, but when I walked through the same confusing days, I felt that this was just an excuse. Let’s not talk about those distant, tall, and great topics. It’s not our bystanders who live our lives every day, but yourself. It’s not the help of others, but your own, seeing it every day. The future is not the eyes of others, but your own. First talk about yourself, what kind of person do you want to be?

If you want to be an ordinary person, then go to an ordinary person. If you want to be a better person, then take the first step. Take your own ordinary conditions to think about a better future, then you can't break free from the ordinary concept, and then emphasize your own ordinary, it is a self-contradictory topic. If you want to do better, do it, don't think about it. . If you just stay in the unwilling mood forever, it is better to let go of those high and complete your own present.

I think that the meaning of hard work is not only limited to making money, but also winning the sense of social identity, but also the embodiment of self-worth, and the most direct, is to reconcile your unwillingness. One day we will understand that it is not easy to get along with ourselves. Dreams and reality will always stand in a position of confrontation but balance each other. The most need to make efforts and change, only oneself.

Like many young people, I am wandering in other places. The reason why I can accept such a day is to be a dream. It is only the highest spiritual pillar. In fact, my heart is higher than the sky. I am not willing to spend my life in a narrow space. The young people like me are just trying to give their inner heart an answer and give a relief to the hardships of the past.

No matter what stage we are in now, you can turn yourself into a blank piece of paper. Since it is blank, you are not afraid of any attempt or failure. We have the opportunity to start, just don’t spread the paper but can’t start, just don’t start yet. , eager to end.

three

My cousin told me that if one day those who thought they did it, but they didn't realize it, wouldn't they fail? It would be too late to go back. I asked him what is your so-called success? He thought about it, made a lot of money, was recognized and admired by many people, and made his family live well.

I nodded and said that this is also a successful one. He looked at me doubtfully. Didn't he feel very utilitarian? I said it was very utilitarian, but the sense of social identity itself was a utilitarian thing. The most direct standard of success is what everyone thinks. If you take these to ask yourself, you can't do it, but now more importantly, you know what you want. The cousin was thoughtfully silent.

The result of hard work will bring us something we don’t know, sometimes it’s a failure, and sometimes it will gradually lead to success. The reason for the failure may be that the direction of the effort is not right, but it is more likely that you do not know the direction of your efforts and the correctness of that goal. Everyone is on the road, everyone seems to be nine to five all day long, but as long as you don’t stop on your way, the so-called success will be waiting for you not far away.

As for utilitarianism and return, it is not the focus that should be considered. It is far less than the enrichment and enjoyment brought about by this process. Although we will be excited and excited when we see the results, we should understand that this result is countless times. In exchange for hard work and struggle, if our efforts are to become a better self, even if we return 10,000 steps for utilitarianism, then why not start? If we take the first goal for that goal, Step, who said that it is not a result of our choice and courage for the past?

Everything must be done a little bit. If you don't do it, you will always be entangled in your thoughts. If you don't try to change the present, then your tomorrow will be exactly the same or worse.

The terrible life is here. If a person is satisfied with the status quo, it will be nothing more than fear of suffering from the heart, but he is unwilling to change. In the end, the present day is not good, and the future is in jeopardy. I don't know how to do it, or if I go back to the starting point because of various excuses, then life becomes an embarrassing situation, which makes you worry about it and fall into self-doubt and negation, but this is ultimately not yours. The ability problem, but the mentality.

I have seen many biographies of celebrities. I have seen some commonalities in their stories, that is, mobility and persistence. A friend once listed a lot of plans, such as going out to travel, remembering a lot of words every day, reading a book every week, reviewing three old movies a week, etc., but time and time again, the reason seems reasonable, today’s work is too Tired, today's colleagues have gathered, do not do it today, do it tomorrow, this week will not be completed next week.

The cousin laughed and he worked hard. At least there are plans to implement it. I said yes, he did work hard, but the results were not satisfactory.

I told my cousin that our path is not something that can be achieved with a simple effort and thoughts. It is not suitable for ourselves by a few public rules. You must first understand yourself and arrange yourself to be able to live step by step. The ability of a person to represent his ability, if the ability is limited, then do not specify too complex goals for the time being, if you really make up your mind, then force yourself. My own goals have become more and more difficult to delay because of delays. From the initial disapproval, they become doubtful of themselves and become vicious circles. In the end, nothing is achieved.

The change of mindset is the first step to change oneself. If you blindly follow the trend and practice, you can only live very tired in the end. Only when you really reverse your own consciousness will you be willing to do the challenges that you have never tried. If you want to change yourself, but you are always stuck in fantasy, you can't extricate yourself. If you put your efforts into force, you are forced to be changed. Then life will tell you that everything is wrong and you need to come back again.

At that time, you will find that you are no longer in the middle of your heart, being driven by empty thoughts and cruel reality.

four

Don't worry about how your life ends, and don't worry about how your future will end. You haven't started yet. How do you know what your future is like?

My cousin said that I want to do public relations, I want to broadcast, and I want to write a book. I said that I will do it. What are you afraid of? If you are good at communication, then go to communicate, use your existing conditions to try hard, and don't give up exploring to the larger world. If you like to broadcast but don't know how to start, then I can teach you the software to tell you about the broadcast technique. If you like to write, you should read more and write more and try more, and you will gradually improve. But as you just want to do it now, or find excuses like conditions that are not allowed, you will always stay in the stage of fantasy and self-retraction.

After the cousin listened to my words, the blush was white for a while. He said that I was afraid of failure. In the end, even the present days were gone.

I have read an article about the road that has never been left in the world, and there has never been an unattainable goal. As long as you actually think about it and actually do it, you will become a better self. Even if you want to reach the desired height for the time being, it is really difficult, but at least you have to climb, then the distance will be a little closer. But if you just look up and sigh that high sky, then you will always look up and look at it, never approach it.

We are all like this. Everything in front of us can't bear to give up. The future kind of emotions always want to get something for nothing. This kind of emotion will make us ignore the current actions, but just wait and see the wonderful illusions of the future. No one's success is unfounded. Anyone's path is not smooth. Even if you see all the successful people now, behind their glory, which one has never experienced the courage and persistence of those who have no hesitation?

My cousin said that I can't be a successful person, and I can't reach their goal. I shook my head, I am not letting you be them, but being real ones. People live not for the so-called success, the true meaning of success is to obey the heart to be yourself. The only way to go is to go alone. The farther you go, the wider you look, the more successful you are, the end of success and the end, but how you find the way to go. When you let go of your paranoia and confusion and start taking the first step, then you are successful. The road to the future is just full of the medium of success. It deepens your perfection and experience of self and becomes your heart. Yourself.

We are exhausted in our youth to think about our dreams, to plan our own path, it will inevitably be confused and difficult, it does not matter, the 20s are young, you have a lot of time to miss you If you want to do something, you have more opportunities for you to challenge and let you fail. If you think your dreams are simply not met, then change to a more recent goal and get closer to the seemingly vain dream. .

The best way to live is nothing more than your dreams, courageously living your own life, even if you finally lived through the age of hard work, returning to a dull daily life, it does not matter. It’s a pity that you don’t realize your dreams. You don’t regret to reach your ultimate goal, but you should try to make yourself clear, because only then will you gain something more important than social identity in the future, that is, your heart. The pragmatism and no regrets, that is the wealth that you have on the long road of life, the courage and strength that you face all the difficulties and obstacles in the future.

Because you know that you have worked hard and acted for your dreams, you are not afraid to meet the hardships of life once again, and you will not be caught off guard by those sudden hardships. You understand that the past storms will not come in vain. Discrete, it will leave traces in your life, become your armor, and fight with you, go forward.

Fives

No one knows what will happen tomorrow, no one knows what is waiting for us in the future. If you just think about the worst possible plan and are not ready to start, then the chances of success in life will also be with you. However, when you look at the light from a little bit of others, you will regret the stagnation or even retreat.

A person, not afraid of regretting what he has done in the future, is afraid of regretting what he has not done.

Yes. The challenge is not terrible, the difficulty is not terrible, the failure is not terrible, everything on this road is not terrible, the terrible thing is that you lost yourself because of these so-called terrible things. This road is a thousand-turn road. It is nothing more than a war with your own heart and your own self. It is yourself who defeats you. Your opponent is not someone else, you are always only yourself.

Life is like a ball, you shoot it, it beats, you hold it, then it can only sleep in your lasciviousness. If you don't force yourself, you don't know what life will bring you surprises. The world is wonderful, others are successful, they have nothing to do with you. You only have to be yourself, go where you want to go, do what you want. Road, life will not be difficult for you, some things do not want to think again, but should think hard, what should be done next.

Maybe the future you want is far from the horizon. Maybe you have been falling hard. You may have worked hard but have no progress. Maybe the reality you see is far from the future you expect, but as long as you know yourself and be brave. Make choices and decisions, even if others can't understand and can't agree, even if the future is still unable to arrive, you can always live a full and steady, because you know, you are always on the road.

Only the experience on this road is the most precious and useful, and only experience can make us truly understand the world and understand ourselves. We should all go through some personnel that we have never seen before. We will encounter many things on this way, some will be unforgettable, some will disappear, but when you understand that you are brave on this road, even if you look back, you are not I will regret the beginning of the past, and truly make us unforgettable and grateful. It will definitely not be the pain and the wind and rain on the road, but the first one who is desperate and brave.

The world's self-related things, one is to find a path that suits you, you don't have to look forward to it, you don't have to be so far away, just know what you want. The second is to be brave to do it. If you want to be a person, you have to go through it yourself. Only by walking out of every step of your feet can you see the scenery you want in the next moment. The third is to remember to stick to it. There are few scenery on the road to go, and there are many people on the road. The end of our life is limited. Only after we have identified it and bravely go to persist, can we spend the long night in front and harvest the twilight. dawn.

I said to my cousin: If you don't know what you want, you will return to your starting point, think about the way you used to, and talk to the most authentic one in your heart to find the starting point. If you don't know how to do it, slowly sort out your ideas and plan and arrange them in a way that is feasible. And when you have your own plan, stick to it and work hard. There is no free lunch in this world, and there is no future for nothing. Only when you understand yourself can you understand the world.

Believe in yourself, believe in dreams, believe in warmth, believe in love, believe that all efforts will pay off, believe in everything.

You have to know that your path is not for anyone to plan and arrange for you. You must understand that you are not a copy of anyone, nor a substitute for others. You can only live to be practical and happy if you truly do it. You only really recognize it. Clear yourself and you will understand what you need.

Nietzsche said well: You should take a bold step in dealing with life, because you have to lose it. If there is a miracle in this world, it is just another name for hard work.

The hardest part of life is not that no one understands you, but that you don't understand yourself.