Adjust the psychological gap - the university is a Jiaozi, the work is a bug

In the sad and restless environment of “one out of every five graduates”, Ya Nan has always been very popular because of his achievements in the university, and he has won the tutor’s love. He graduated very smoothly. A good company, the classmates around me have cast an envious look.

But what is the truth? Actually, Nan Nan thinks that this company really makes him "dumb to eat berberine, and he can’t say it." It doesn't matter if the salary is low at first, at least with experience and qualifications. But after a whole year, the boss has no salary increase. As a result, the monthly rent is removed, and the rest can only sustain the necessary expenses for life. What made him even more unexpected was that the company staff did not know whether the work was relatively stable or the age was generally over 30 years old. The office was always shrouded in a sloppy atmosphere. Even when the business was busy, the predecessors still got off work early. Throw the work to him and several other new people. At the beginning, Yanan thought that it was a test and exercise for his predecessors. Later, it was confirmed that the company had a stable business volume, and the staff were not very active. For Yanan, who was just out of school, he used to spend the day on the campus. After a year of silence, he didn’t even want to attend the class reunion that he liked to attend.

The reason is that he was the first to determine his job when he graduated. But after one year of work, the students raised their salary and raised the salary. Only he did not move in the place. Especially at a class reunion, a "bad student" who he thought he didn't advance was holding a high salary of 50,000 yuan, a worry about the great anxiety and personal value of work. Later, even the close friends of the classmates who were close to each other met together. He refused to say that he would rather go home and play electric. The reason is very simple. This meal may eat his salary for one week.

The difference in the situation after this kind of work has led to the growing psychological gap between Yanan. He thought about changing jobs, but now it is almost a waste of the previous year. I thought about paying the wages first and sticking to it, but this is a very real world. Although he does not worship gold, he needs money everywhere. The troubles about money still hold him back. Especially when personal ability seems to have not been improved at work, and when people around have passed and passed, he becomes very weird and feels that he is very unsuccessful. Therefore, he does not want to contact with his former classmates, and he is afraid of being looked down upon by others. More and more closed, not as cheerful and talkative as before.

Producing a psychological gap is a common problem for newcomers in society. If there is a big difference between the vision and reality of life established in college, it is likely to cause changes in mentality. If you lose your passion, you don’t have the mind to work, and finally you have no money. If you are serious, you will be enchanted and your character will change. You need to be counseled by a psychiatrist. How to avoid this situation? Of course, we must start from the source.

Some schoolmates often ask me: "What can I learn in college? Why do I always think that the teacher is very loose, there are not many useful courses, it seems to waste parents' tuition?" Life vision and reality There is always a gap between them, just like everyone is happy to enter the university. After reading for a few months, they find that the university has been described by countless words, has been described by countless words, and has been photographed by countless movies and TV series... ...but when it is your turn, there is always a gap with the imagination, because this is a completely different stage of life.

In the past ten years, I have not lived independently. The economy and accommodation are raised by my parents. Even if I am precocious, I will learn again and think again. After all, I have not really been independent. I have limited understanding of many things. After I arrived at the university, although I was not independent in the economy, I was able to live alone. I finally realized the skills of life in the frictions and unforgettable activities of my roommates. This is the stage in which you must learn to adjust your own psychological gap. At this stage, you finally have the opportunity to be exposed to a variety of contacts that produce psychological gaps. Before that, I may only have a small embarrassment occasionally, but your vision will expand in the university, and the people and things you encounter will become complicated. At this time, the gap between the vision and reality will have a very big psychological gap. . If in the small society where the university does not need to live completely independently, it is impossible to adjust its psychological gap and correct its mentality. Then, after the independent life, what are the larger gaps that will be encountered, how can it be sustained? Just like some girls When envious of the husband’s annual salary of more than one million, we will discuss together whether we should go through the whole process, so that we still have the opportunity to marry an annual salary of more than 10 million. As everyone knows, while they are discussing, other women have already earned hundreds of thousands of assets for themselves.

Fortunately, Nan Nan has finally begun to retreat after meditation. This job really has no future. It is still necessary to take advantage of youth, time and effort. Although it has already stepped out of the ivory tower, the life in society has just started, and the psychological gap is also moving forward. The key to driving is how to treat yourself. "It's not a waste of time, it's a pain to make it yourself, it's better to bury your head and get the job done!" Yanan left the sentence. Now, he has already made a wish to move to a good company.