Thirty, stand back to 20 years old, to the 80s that are no longer youthful

Even if you are already 30+, it’s no big deal. If you want to do it and don’t do it, the more exciting is always ahead.

Author: LinkedIn user Philip Guo,

This year, many of my friends around me have entered the age of standing.

Numbers that cannot be overlooked:

1980 - 35 years old; 1982 - 34 years old;

1982 - 33 years old; 1983 - 32 years old;

1984 - 31 years old; 1985 - 30 years old;

1986 - 29 years old; 1987 - 28 years old;

1988 - 27 years old; 1989 - 26 years old;

I have to admit that time has taken a lot of things,

Youth is no longer there, cherish the treasure;

The abandonment of the abandonment, the pursuit of the pursuit, the fight for the fight;

Take all the time and do meaningful things later!

- To the 80s that are no longer young!

30 years old, the birthday is not so good.

Age has also begun to become a private topic.

Some people who are not ignorant start asking you: Marry is not, how old is the child?

In fact, in addition to getting older. The 30-year-old is also a huge difference from the 20-year-old. What makes us different from the past, which makes me very curious.

In order to clarify this issue, I did a survey among 160 friends and acquaintances. In the survey, I asked two questions:

1. Compared with 10 years ago, when you were 20 years old, do you think that you have more _________?

2. Compared to 10 years ago, when you were 20 years old, do you think that you have fewer _________?

These 160 people are my friends. Most of them have received higher education. There are 83 males and 77 females in the sample. Most people are married or have a stable relationship. But almost everyone has no children; even if there are children, the children are very small.

This is the answer I got.

1. Looking back at 20 years old, most people are harvesting: confidence

Compared to 10 years ago, when you were 20 years old, you think that you now have more __________

confidence

patient

Professional knowledge

independent

Responsibility

A friend said that going to MIT to study thoroughly destroyed his lack of self-confidence. The other person, on the other hand, is not so outstanding when he is a proud son in college.

In any case, most people feel that they are more confident than in the past.

2, looking back at 20 years old, most people lost is: leisure time

Compared to 10 years ago, when you were 20 years old, you think that you now have less __________

Leisure time

Physical fitness

Longing for new things

Social interaction with friends

The chance to make new friends

At the age of 30, we gradually felt that we didn't have time. We didn't have time to pay attention to self-development, learn new things, do what we wanted to do, and even sitting there quietly and staying for a while became a luxury.

As we age, the cost of trial and error is getting higher and higher. He will be more cautious in the face of opportunities, because he does not want to waste time walking dead end.

“What I am more concerned about is how much time we spend doing things. It also makes me more cautious about how much time to do and do.”

Another common phenomenon is the lack of concentrated time. When we are in middle school and university, we have a lot of time to study a topic in depth. But as one respondent mentioned, “The workplace is a place full of discussions and countless meetings, and even my family life is often disturbed.”

3. We also have patience

Many people have mentioned that they have more patience now than in college: patience in professional skills, social interaction and love relationships.

However, some people think that there is not so much patience right now, especially in some boring things that they think will waste their precious leisure time, "I can't be patient with fools."

4, we also reduce, vitality and health

Many people say that their physical fitness is far less than when they were young, but now they are also more concerned about their physical health.

By the age of 30, your body needs to stay alive, and more needs to rely on sleep instead of food. Our metabolism is gradually slowing down, we can't always drive the night car all night, the energy and energy are less, and we can't make a living by ourselves. Drinking two cups or eating junk food will make the body uncomfortable. We become more susceptible to illness and more likely to become fat.

But not everything is slowly moving away from you. At 30, we care more about our health. We try to keep our weight and go to the doctor regularly. The time to sleep has long been different.

5. What we have gained is love and responsibility.

Compared to the 20-year-old, we are more optimistic about the 30-year-old in dealing with love. In the process of finding a partner, our taste gradually improves, and people with partners become more mature and more intelligent; we are no longer afraid to make promises, and no longer feel pressure on love.

As far as the sense of responsibility is concerned, what you experienced when you were 20 and 30 years old is totally different: for the new nurse, Dad, this feeling is more clear: “With the child, I feel the responsibility of my shoulders. Explosion table."

6, we also reduce friendship

As we get older, our chances of making new friends are greatly reduced. In general, friends are becoming less and less, and daily social interactions are becoming less and less.

We are getting farther and farther away from our friends: "The brothers who slept in my upper store yesterday are now disappearing into the vast sea of ​​people."

I want to get together with my friends. The two people don't have the right time to arrange: "In the past, we had a great holiday. Now we want to go out and play together for a week."

To maintain a long-lasting friendship between adults, we need a lot of work. However, with fewer and fewer social interactions and the general exchanges around us, we have better understood what is a true friend and what is the deepest friendship.

7. What we have gained is self-awareness.

When I was 20 years old, I didn't have my own goals. I saw that others learned English and went to learn English. When I saw others preparing for postgraduate studies, I went to postgraduate studies, but after all, nothing happened.

As our age increases, a common answer is that “self-awareness” is increasing. How does the world work, what is the most important thing in human life, and what makes us feel happy? In these respects, we gradually have a deeper awareness.

Not only that, but we also have an understanding of the limitations of life planning: “I am more aware that our lives will take us to unforeseen places. Ten years ago, I thought I could plan my life well, not Follow the crowd."

Another common answer is “emotional stability”: more stable, more practical, able to get more support from loved ones, feel more comfortable, calmer, and more clearly what makes you feel happy.

8, we also reduce the ambition of the cause

Satisfied with the work, after 30 years old, everyone is different. But most people think that after entering a certain field, the path is getting narrower and narrower, and once they are 30 years old, the change will become more and more difficult.

But when it comes to the word "ambition", almost everyone feels that they have lost the so-called ambition.

"I understand what it takes to be a CEO or a president, but it is no longer my pursuit."

"Becoming an astronaut? This is not realistic. I still have to raise a child now."

Most people started to understand at the age of 30: "What is success, how to succeed, more understand who you are, what you represent, what motivates me, what makes me depressed, what I am good at, what I am not good at."

9, we also have the freedom to harvest

To some extent, money can buy freedom, and as you make more money, the degree of freedom naturally increases.

But as time goes by, our views on money and happiness will change.

Someone said: "I really hope that my student loans will be a little more when I am in college, so I can travel to more places. The current one dollar brings happiness to people, much less than in the past."

Although we now have more freedom than at university, in our daily lives, we don't really want to think about new things and whimsy. Expedition spirit, curiosity, roaming, impulsiveness, fear, mischief... everything is slowly disappearing.

10, we also reduce anxiety

There are also some people who have mentioned "anxiety." Some people feel more anxious than they are when they are 20, while others are just the opposite. Our sense of concern for the future and the feelings of others is declining, and our sense of insecurity, anxiety about our sense of existence, and fear of unknown things are diminishing. But some people feel that they have pressure from the heart and anxiety about the future.

What have you gained now compared to 10 years ago? What have you lost? If you go back 10 years ago, what do you want to know yourself?

Finally, it was the famous speech of clinical psychologist Dr. Meg Jay, "Why is 30 years old not new 20 years old?"

If you are still walking on the road of Pentium III, then congratulations, you still have many opportunities; if you have already entered the ranks of 30, it is no big deal, continue to work hard to try fresh, previously wanted but never done The things that are more exciting are always ahead.