You are afraid of all bad results, but you missed all the good start.

Let’s talk about a story that many people may have read: A young brother who had just graduated from the university finance department at the age of 21 could not find a job in the first-tier city, so he returned to his hometown and became an ordinary employee in a securities company in the provincial capital. . A year later, the little brother who had no car and no car met his beloved girl and decided to propose to her.

The girl said, you have no house, how can I marry you? The little brother said that I work only after one year, and there are not many deposits. Now I will give you two choices. First, I will use this deposit to make a down payment and buy a house that I almost got. Second, you let me take the money to invest, and in a few years I can definitely buy a big one. I feel that I am capable.

The girl said, OK, I believe in you. So, the two were so naked, and the house they rented was particularly broken. Every night, mice were partying on the ceiling.

In the second year, when they ushered in their children, they still did not buy a house. Until the fourth year of marriage, this little brother finally ushered in a good opportunity to start a business, and started a financial company with the partners. Two years later, the company was in good working condition. One talent ended the life of renting a house and bought a good house.

For some people, may they think this buddy is stupid? The deposits are enough to pay the down payment. Buying a small house is safe and stable. How can the investment fail? Ok, let me tell you that the little brother in the story is called Buffett. The girl who followed his hard life is his wife Sophie.

I think that in the dictionary of successful people, there may not be no "failure", but no "retraction".

Of course, you can say that you are not Buffett, naturally you can't do this. However, if you dare to make changes and work hard in a good direction, even if you can't be Buffett, you can be a better person.

Or are you afraid to change the status quo, so give up the possibility of getting better?

The more people who are addicted to the so-called "comfort zone", the more they have no guts to change. They have never said good or bad, they are standing still, but we all know that the so-called stepping in place is a step backwards.

There is a school girl who especially admire me. People are not tall and look very beautiful. They come from rural areas where conditions are not superior. When she first met her, she spoke like a mosquito and was always afraid of shrinking in the crowd. Once, she actually signed up for the college's debate team. After the interview came back, I asked her how the results were. She said that she had a courage to say a big pass on the scene. Instead, she was refuted by the interviewed seniors, and finally she cried in disappointment.

I said, you are so timid, do you not be afraid to go up to debate? She said that she was afraid, and she was afraid that she couldn’t do it. If she wanted to say something, she would not be able to say it clearly. Otherwise, she would not be abused and crying. In fact, she also thought that there would be such an ending.

However, she told me that the reason why she went to interview the debate team was to change her temperament and fearless performance. Although the interview failed, I took at least the first step.

The debate team inevitably needs the accumulation of knowledge. In order to prepare for the interview, she is soaking up the library every day, but she has found the pleasure of reading. Later, she was responsible for copywriting planning because she had a lot of books, a wide range of knowledge, and a good writing style. The result became famous and won the grand prize. After graduating, I entered a Fortune 500 company to plan with the experience of the entrepreneurial competition. The work was later than me, and the salary was higher than mine.

Who can say that the bad result of my college girl’s interview failure is not a good start for her life? Sometimes, courage to try may not be successful, but this attempt may open another door to the new world for you.

Haonan is the only person I know who started a business and finally succeeded in school. When he was a sophomore, he set up a new media club, and he took a few schoolmates to work on Internet advertising to help the school's restaurants and souvenir shops to make extra money. He found that the business was still profitable. Later, he immediately pulled a group of old friends to get a million start-up funds and opened a media studio in the university town based on his own community resources.

I once asked him, you are not afraid of entrepreneurship, and it will end in horror? He said there were concerns, but he was not afraid.

Nowadays, the media is talking about the conversion rate. Many similar studios are afraid that although there are many students, the final consumption conversion rate is too low, and they dare not accept the offline projects of the university city. But if Haonan is afraid of losing money, he will always pay his employees' wages and cannot recover the cost. So, he picked up a list of other companies that were unwilling to pick up the profits and even lost money.

He gave me an example: Once, a big website launched a mobile game, and it was going to be promoted offline in the university town, because the cost of the stage construction was quite high, and it was tens of thousands of dollars after the end of the collection. But he doesn't feel bad at all, because his thoughtfulness and sincerity, the big website will find him every time he wants to land in the university city. Because of his work, he has established good relationships with many stars who are active on the platform.

He said: You see, although I lost money in an event, it allowed me to build a strong network of contacts and business resources. Just afraid of losing money, I can't do anything. I express my deep feelings.

There is a famous saying in Haonan: If I am afraid of losing, how can I have it today.

To the unknown, people must take courage. Of course, courage is not a slap in the face until the head breaks. There is a principle in economics called: rational people consider the marginal quantity, the simple explanation is: for example, if you climb a mountain, climb to the middle of the mountain and thirst, and see the sale of mineral water, the price is five yuan. But because you are too thirsty or expensive to buy, this means that the marginal value of a bottle of water can be worth five yuan. When you drink a bottle, it is still a bit thirsty, but it is much better than just now. Considering the high price, let's endure it, no longer buy water. This is the diminishing marginal value.

Therefore, we must be both brave and rational. We are afraid of one thing. We are afraid that this will break the existing balance and will ultimately not pay for it. Then, we should analyze how much marginal cost is required to break the balance, and how much marginal value will be generated:

First, how much I need to pay to do something, including but not limited to: physical strength, brain power, time, money.

Second, after the balance breaks, things move in the right direction, what value can you get, and whether the value exceeds the cost.

Third, after the balance is broken, things will go in the wrong direction, what value will you lose, and whether the result is really worth the candle.

Fourth, not all losses are worthless. You should consider whether there is a loss in this respect, but whether it can produce satisfactory value in other aspects, and whether this value can make you recover the cost.

For example, although my schoolmate failed in the interview debate team, she cultivated her habit of reading books, expanded her knowledge, and got the opportunity to participate in the entrepreneurial competition. For example, although Haonan lost tens of thousands of dollars in an offline activity, it has accumulated strong customer resources and good reputation, paving the way for future business development.

Zhang Ailing said: Among the thousands of people, you will meet the people you want to meet. In the thousands of years, the endless wilderness of time, there is no early step, no late step, just happened to catch up, there is nothing else to say. Only ask gently: "Hey, are you here too?"

In my opinion, there is no early step, no late step, only you dare to take this step, your "destination" is really yours.

The ancient Roman philosopher Seneca said: fate is afraid of brave people, and is dedicated to bullying cowards.

So, please don't back down, bravely break the comfort zone, don't avoid all the good starts because you are afraid of possible bad results. Let the things you are most afraid of become a stepping stone to your success.