Be a strong person

Make a strong man <br /> text / YIN Shan-shan Zhuang Yating seeing the name, I really want to give yourself a change of pen name called the village strong, and then I learned that if she can become friends, perhaps even to really change It is. Zhuang said the old, get tough is a disadvantage, facing every minute nobody cares Nobody loves danger can be tough character, something like a piece of underwear Waichuan vests, others I just started to play when the aircraft I have already started playing the teacher, and the most uplifting person has always been the "talented woman" or "female hooligan".
When a person is in Beijing, it will take ten years in a blink of an eye. This decade is very insightful. The character of love and hate is greatly enhanced. On the other hand, thanks to the work of these words, everyone loves to read the text. I used to be afraid of turning a key to the rich loneliness when a person came back to the door. I used to leave a small lamp in front of the door. Many times I was also very vulnerable, but it was not very visible.
In the "Lover's Whisper", Xie Anqi, I liked it a lot. It was a story of a flower love story. She secretly loved Peng Yuxi. As a result, Peng Yuxi moved away. Her countless fantasies did not let her try to express her confession, but she soon rejoiced. Meet the next secret love. Yes, when we love, we must force ourselves to love. When we are not in love, we shake our shoulders and go to fucking, leaving enough memories.
To be a strong person, you must first be a relatively complete person. This integrity is manifested in many ways.
For example, you must be able to live alone and cook, so that you won't be mad and self-pity because of hunger. You can also use cooking to please yourself and anyone you want to please; you have to have a fully functional room. The medicine in the medicine box should not only know how to eat, but also know what the pharmacological effect is. You can diagnose and treat yourself with a small illness; you can be lazy, but you can't understand how to pack it; don't think that raising a pet Can show that you are very caring, you can't do a lot of things after you have a pet, for example, whether you are traveling or traveling for a while; in short, you can be lazy, but you must know everything, and finally, you You can ask for yourself.
For example, you should read more, make yourself more rational, you can be emotional, but you can't just accept it. I am reading, not to read columnists, not to read novels, but to read "hard goods"! What is a hard cargo? History is, philosophy is, mathematics is, physics is, even medicine is, even if you teach you to paint or play the piano, are hard goods. In short, what you need to read is - knowledge! Don't touch anything. The first thing that thinks about emotions, fates, and the like is that you have knowledge, logic, analysis, reasoning, and assumptions. To know a lot of problems you encounter, in fact, knowledge can solve very important problems, such as the analysis and control of your own emotions. Seeing that Zhang Xiaoying and Yi Shu are not used, life can not be imitated, you can not even yourself. Compared with their heroine, what you need is an understanding of yourself and an objective analysis and control of emotions and habits.
For example, you have to learn to divide yourself into two worlds. This is very, very important! These two worlds, one is the outside world and the other is the inner world. Let me first say that the internal world, the internal things should be constant, eternal, and stable. It is filled with your eternal value, your highest ideal, the people and things, hobbies and memories that make you feel safe. No matter how the outside world changes, how the outside people treat you, this inner world is always dead, this is the foundation of life. In short, the inner world is your heart. You must know that in the face of others, facing the world, most of the things do not need to "take the heart", he can pass your heart, but to enter your inner world, you must go through the strictest Screening, the internal world is disturbed, will directly cause the collapse of your own emotions, so learn to "do not take care of most things." In the outside world, I am used to calling it "following you." In this part of the world, it is tolerance, acceptance, participation, including interaction with others, you really pay, but you don't have to include him in the inner world, the outside world is colorful, everyone can talk and chat, what adventure Everything can be done. You only need to know that even if these things are nothing, or even all failures, they will not affect your inner peace.
The capacity of my inner world is very limited. It is my highest value. My ultimate belief, my personal rules, my knowledge, and so on. In short, they are basically objective things. These things are basically not Change, it is not only the foundation of my spirit, but also a pinnacle of sea. No matter what my external world chaos looks like, I can completely reinvent it, just rebuild it with my inner world. This part is "going away".
It’s really not necessary to "take the heart", remember. For example, I see that my life is eccentric, but I basically never lose control of my emotions, and my life is never derailed. It is because the internal world is firm enough, and the emotions of others are fundamentally unable to affect me. What happens outside is also I can't change me, not to mention anything that makes me doubt that life is suspicious. So in fact, from the age of 14 to the present, I have basically changed little. It’s all about the outside world, just like a man changing a dress, nothing more.
The best thing about dividing your heart into the outside world and the inner world is that you can enjoy all kinds of people, things, and emotions in this world thoroughly. You can also keep one direction in your heart, and your personality will not be affected. Loss, your life will not collapse. So metaphor: the internal world is like a C drive with a strong firewall protection, all downloaded things are placed in other sub-drivers, even if the outside crashes, the system is still good. Yes, you must have a firewall of emotions and personality.
I often feel like this: basically, I have played all the fun, and I have experienced a lot of adventures. The sword has not gone too far. I went to many places and the density is very high. I can open many windows at the same time, but My important things are basically not falling except for marriage, and they are still very impressive. I absolutely don't allow myself to mess up my life, or to be in the hands of others. This is absolutely and absolutely not allowed.
Go on, we still need some inner implied ability. This kind of suggestion can be Ah Q-style self-feeling good type. For example, the big head says, "I have no love forever in my heart, because I love who, I have nothing to do with him." Another suggestion is that "see the opening point" type, after deep breathing Repeat it several times in the heart. "Is this a horse?" "This is a broken thing!" "Not a stinking skin!" "Let's roll!" "This time, I’m stupid, I won’t be next time." "Is it a good thing?" "Nothing, isn't it a XXXXXX? It's also?!" "I still sleep first." "It's all temporary. It will be fine."
Remember, try not to let yourself sleepless. If you are in a bad mood, you must vent and sleep as soon as possible, even if this venting mood is negative, even if this venting is not very good. In the things that are very sad for you, remember to think for yourself. How do you want to relieve yourself and make yourself happy.
Then go on. It is necessary to exercise mentally for a long time, and to train your own self-control ability as a particularly important part. Not only control your emotions, but also control your own behavior. If you learn to control yourself, then the interference of others is absolutely limited. Do what you feel is the right thing, not just what you want to do. When you are studying, you will never go online. When you work hard, you will never give yourself an excuse to go to a date. When you are responsible, you will never shirk your responsibility. Say something to yourself, never be soft, and never be soft. If you want to settle people and want to settle your own affairs, the most important thing is to settle yourself first. This is the foundation.
It is also very important to live decently. The so-called living decent is that you must look like a free, independent and self-respecting person. Dress it clean and look good, don't give up, don't talk to others and you will know that you are wretched. When you are joking, you don't have to be serious. When you are really bullied, you must resist with dignity. When you are trampled, you should pat the table and slap it. In short, don't become a habit that you can't look down on. Once again, the way you look at the world will be distorted.
Usually do not care what people are doing, but when others ask for help, do their best to help.