As long as you are good enough - write to the ideal frustrated people

As long as you are good enough - to write to the ideally frustrated people <br /> Most of the time, we have not achieved our ideals, or lost our dreams, not because of anything else, just because we are not good enough. "As long as you are good enough, everything is not a problem." But why are there few people who are good enough? Because most of the weak people have deep feelings of powerlessness and frustration. In the face of life, learning to adapt, accept, and willing to take the "as long as I am good enough" road is what you can find in this world without the source of the most possible.
After the Spring Festival Evening of 2019, Yang Liping’s words of beauty can be seen everywhere on the Internet. Because I didn't know anything about dance art, I didn't know her. Later on Wang Lifen's Weibo, I saw such a passage - Yang Liping is 54 years old. The reporter asked her: "Do you want children to dance?" She replied: "Some people's lives are for the sake of succession, some are enjoyment, some are experiences, some are onlookers. I am a bystander of life, I am in the world. It is to see how a tree grows, how the river flows, how the white clouds float, and how the nectar condenses." This passage made me start looking for everything about Yang Liping.
In Lu Yu’s visit to Yang Liping, a conversation touched me. Yang Liping was born in a remote mountainous area of ​​Dali, Yunnan, and dance is part of the life of the local minority. Yang Liping, who has been very sensible since childhood, has always been inspired by nature's flowers, birds, fish, and floating clouds. After Yang Liping grew up, he entered the Central National Song and Dance Troupe. Because the traditional folk dance training techniques in the song and dance troupe deviated from her instinct for dance art, she refused to accept group training and insisted on practicing in her own way. To this end, she was criticized by leaders and teachers and received no subsidies. Lu Yu asked her: "Because for some reasons, will there be some chances for performances will not be given to you?" Yang Liping replied: "Because you jump well, he still wants to use you." Rustic, but I am very touched.
Because this sentence tells an important truth. And this truth, I don't know why, people who are often asked by many "ideal and lofty" and "not ambition" intentionally cover up the past.
The truth is that most of the time, we have not achieved our ideals or lost our dreams, not because of anything else, but because we are not good enough. Too many reasons to explain failures cannot withstand scrutiny. Those who are sailing against the water can still achieve her pursuit because they are good enough. What excuses can people find for those who are able to push the boat and be blessed with water? Perhaps many people will still shake their heads and find unique opportunities and experiences from their resumes to prove that achieving dreams is not an easy task. Indeed, achieving dreams is very difficult, but the hardest part is not outside, but in itself.
"As long as you are good enough, everything is not a problem."
Because it sounds simple, someone may sneer at it. But this sentence is not an encouragement, it is not a comfort. Because, "as long as you are good enough" is one of the most difficult conditions. "Good enough" is a too high standard, and you have to be good enough to be free from all obstacles. To be “good enough”, you need to discover all possibilities, creativity, wisdom, and insight in yourself, while blaming yourself for all ignorance, fault, and failure. You will assume all responsibility and look directly at the hesitation and infinite hope that it contains.
The "good enough" standard is also very strict, you must respect the true will of the heart, instead of following the external standards, do what you really want to do, and spend your time and energy persistently to water this desire; because of the inner goal Be clear, believe that everything you do is meaningful, so no matter what bumps you encounter, you can maintain a satisfying and happy attitude; in the end, without any suspense, you have created indelible achievements in the increasingly refined.
Whether this achievement is big or small under the secular standard, you will feel satisfied and confident in the heart, because this process will enable you to achieve self-realization. In this case, it is often difficult to get praise and respect from others, because the light of a self-realizing person can ignite hope for others, so it is dazzling. However, at this time, the appreciation of others and the label of "success" are not important, because you have gained the most precious life experience and inexhaustible spiritual strength.
The question is, why are there few people who are good enough?
Perhaps most people in the subconscious have realized that it is so difficult to be "good enough", so they tend to give up such a direction of life. Even more frightening is that more people simply don't believe that they have good enough possibilities. In their hearts, there is a deep-rooted feeling: I will never have the power to get what I want, and without the help of outside forces, I will be finished! - This is the voice of the inner world of the weak.
Things are very strange: people who think that they are not good enough in their hearts are rather strong in their desire to "make their fame", and they often look at themselves, the weaker their hearts, the less willing they to give up the superiority of chasing "out of the head". They naively think that since I was born, since I live in this peaceful and prosperous life, I should get everything. To achieve one's own wishes, one must either rely on his own efforts or expect to lose the pie in the sky. If one completely denies the possibility of the former, the rest can only expect changes in the external environment.
It is precisely because of this tendency that many people have created a variety of “successful learning”, to delve into social skills and “hidden rules”, and to create some more easily available and hypocritical labels that are attached to the body. Self comfort. The hidden incompetence and strong desire not only make them unable to walk on the ground, but also make them vulnerable to temptation to deviate from the right direction. When these fake and inferior "wisdom of life" made them hit the wall, they still refused to admit that things got worse because they did not have the courage and perseverance to do "good enough."
In the face of ideal frustration, they are the easiest to become two types of people, one is the complainer and the other is the angry person. Complains and angry people will cast disappointment in life to the outside world. Through complaints and anger, they forgive their responsibilities and give up the possibility of making themselves good enough.
We often hear the argument that the competition in this society is too fierce; society is too unfair; there are too many people in our country, the system is too backward; my family is too ordinary... and so on. These arguments seem to make sense, and the whole society has a word, from social celebrities to small people, complaining about the same content: social injustice, backwardness of the country, uncivilization of the system... These criticisms may improve the future state machine Played a certain driving force.
But what do these complaints and anger mean to you, for me, for a living individual? In the moment of resentment, even in the moment of sadness and despair, please carefully examine your heart, under the seemingly heavy and irresistible pain, is there a hint of pleasure and peace of mind? After all, this is not your fault. You deserve to get better. Through complaints and anger, you punish the unjust, unhealthy outer world in the illusion. Although you are hurt, but with personal emotions Retaliation for weapons can still give you some comfort, even if this comfort is to drink and quench thirst.
Both complainers and angry people do not have the ability to adapt to reality. Adapting to reality does not mean succumbing to reality, but represents creating a better life under existing conditions. The complainer thinks that the reality is difficult, and he can only accept it. The spiritual world of the complainer is a small block that has been besieged by reality. As long as he holds this small poor position, he still has some sense of security. The angry person thinks that the reality is dirty and vicious. He regards the reality as the dung. He never easily "dirves his own hands" in order to solve the real problem. His spiritual world is a personal territory built up high, rejecting and staying away from reality. His spiritual world is very high, but in reality it is narrow--what is the territory that can be built in the gaps of the real world?
The complainers and the angry people make themselves fight the beasts, but this struggle seems to be so weak no matter how fierce. You will find that all these bad emotions are directed at the outside world. However, Laozi has long said: Heaven and earth are not benevolent, and everything is a dog. Heaven and earth have not promised anything to you! What you want, you need to create it yourself. According to psychology, people attacking external reality is actually attacking themselves and expressing dissatisfaction with themselves.
In fact, it is this dissatisfaction with oneself and the sense of powerlessness of the self that makes us fall into a quagmire, which cannot be changed “good enough” anyway. It is the sense of powerlessness that makes us learn to be lazy and slippery, let us suffer from procrastination, let us become addicted to all kinds of strange things, let us be cold or disdainful, let us become weak and pitiful.
The strange thing is that those who are dissatisfied with themselves and feel powerless, with an objective eye, often have many superior conditions. What makes them muddy is the mire in the depths of their hearts.
Having said that, I want to talk about Yang Liping’s story. Yang Liping is eleven years old. She lives in a mountain village with her mother and her younger siblings. She transplants rice, firewood, cooks, feeds pigs, grazes cattle, makes sandals, embroiders, and cuts wheat. When she goes up the mountain to cut wood, Sometimes you will encounter a wolf. When Lu Yu interviewed her, she heard this experience and looked at her with incredible eyes. She was very sorry for her flying hands.
But Yang Liping laughed like a little girl and said, "You can cut the bundles of rice into the world, and make it pile up. This is a very fulfilling feeling in itself." At the age of eleven, She followed the Xishuangbanna Song and Dance Troupe and carried the luggage around the various ethnic minorities in Yunnan. In Yang Lan’s interview, she described the life of the village as follows: walking on the road, seeing the elephant go, its feces are still taking Hot air. When I walked, I suddenly heard the top of my head screaming. It turned out that a blue poisonous snake fell from the tree and squatted on the brawl. Many teammates complained that this kind of life was so hard that they couldn't stand it, but in Yang Liping's eyes, these are beautiful, too beautiful and too enjoyable.
As she recalls these experiences, the joy of pleasure is beyond words. For others, this decade of experience is suffering. For Yang Liping, she is accepting the nourishment of nature and multiculturalism. When he was in his early twenties, Yang Liping entered the Central National Song and Dance Troupe. The experience of the song and dance troupe, in the eyes of others, is not so smooth, it is simply difficult. The leaders and teachers criticized her maverick. In order to stick to her own ideas, she gave up the living allowance, but she did not seem to be distressed.
Lu Yu asked how her difficulties affected her. She said faintly: "If you want to open it, you can see the truth of the matter. Critics must be there, but because you know that your purpose is to do so. What, you will suffer this kind of grievance... It doesn't matter if you don't receive the subsidy. You can eat less and use less." She is in this state of mind, and works alone every night after others finish training. "The Spirit of the Birds." "The Spirit of the Bird" was later awarded because "As long as you are good enough, he still wants to use you."
Do you think that you are facing more difficulties than Yang Liping? I want to browse the Internet and you are better than the little girl in the remote mountains. Maybe you must think that you are the one who is not as good as her. You said that she has opportunities, I don't have, there are many opportunities in her era, and there are few opportunities in my time. is it? I do not believe. There will always be one or two opportunities in a person's life. Once you are ready, one time is enough. Therefore, the external environment is not the key to the problem. Still the same sentence: "As long as you are good enough."
Yang Liping accepts all these twists and turns. She is not bored by the disturbances and obstacles of the outside world. Her "maverick" is not an arrogance. She just insists on doing what she thinks is right. For her, everything is natural and everything is happy. Because of her inner strength, this power comes from her trust in herself, her respect for her inner desire, and her gratification and gratitude for nature and life.

What Yang Liping is different from most people is that she has no common sense of powerlessness and frustration in her heart. This may be due to the environment in which she grew up in childhood, the simplicity and simplicity of minority culture, and the richness of nature in remote mountainous areas, which made her sensitive to nature and confronted the essence of existence. Yang Liping said: "It is precisely because I live in such a place, I have to rely on myself to experience it myself, instead of going to school. I have very few school, my mother does not know a word, just when this is pure and simple. Your wisdom will wake up, and then you will feel that this kind of thing I think is a kind of creativity, this kind of creativity is bright, bright and bright."
She said that childhood life must be the root of her artistic creation. This confirms that the highest state of art is not complicated, but returning to the truth. Although Yang Liping lives in a poor and remote mountainous area, her inner world has no sense of lack of feelings. She describes her childhood life: "I didn't have a hard feeling in my childhood. I can pick up the peaches when I reach out and have a clear go out. Water, you can wash vegetables and water, pick mushrooms under the willow roots..." The richness of nature nourishes her soul, and the primitive culture of the mountain minority may represent some initial inclusion. Possible integrity. It is this natural sense of abundance and the simplicity of culture that infiltrates her sensitive and open mind, giving her the initial power.
People often have a misunderstanding of "the inner strength". They think that this is a life weapon that a person has experienced through the world and has experienced the vicissitudes of life. Therefore, it is powerful and cool. But it is not the case. Looking at Yang Liping's video interview, she will feel her calm and flexible. She is even purely childlike. Her accent still retains the native accent of Yunnan. She is not used to using the "developed society" to let ordinary people stay away from it. Elegant star image.
The inner strength is the ability to uphold the self, and it is also the ability to adapt. It is soft and soft, and it is easy to go with the flow. Because it can be natural, the whole world is her world. When you see a big rock, you can walk around as long as you can reach your destination. She understands that the imperfections of this world are objective existence, just like the beautiful peacocks in nature, as well as poisonous snakes and wolves, she is acceptable.
"Compliance" and "acceptance" are cherished for oneself and respect for the existence of the world. This reason Laozi has already said in the Tao Te Ching. Instead, those who complain and indignant are not really trying to make a contribution to the world. They are just venting their unhappiness and expelling the powerless feelings of their hearts.
Think about it, a girl sees the heavy farm work as a joyful creation, and enjoys the sense of accomplishment of labor. A girl looks at the life of the village and the life without a fixed life as a wonderful life experience. How simple is this. Survival wisdom? This kind of wisdom can not be frowned and come out, or come out of a depressed life. Yang Liping said that her mother taught her to adapt and accept everything that happened in her life, so she can survive well in other people's seemingly difficult environments, and lively and happy.
That's how it is, she did it "sufficiently". Her results are a natural result for her, but they are regarded as legends. Yang Liping did not understand why others used her words "frustration, hard work, hardship" to describe her dance career. Yang Lan asked her that she had had a period of sorrow and tiredness in her 30 years of dancing art. She simply replied "No distress, no burnout." She seems to think that there is no reason for this problem. She said: "What? Everything is very good for me, and the result is always good." Because of compliance, because of gratitude, because my heart has enough resources, flexibility and richness, so for her, everything is fine.
And why don't we have such power? Why is it difficult for us to do it easily and easily? Why do we seem to have a lot of difficulties, especially big? The answer to this question is to be found in our inner mind. Vulnerability and strength are two sides of a problem that reflect the narrow self in the heart. What makes you think that the difficulties you encounter are big difficulties? We have never experienced the possibility of nature and life.
When we were young, we were raised by our parents and bound by ourselves to a narrow security. In this range, we can enjoy life in part and live happily. Within this scope, we are told that there are many things that should not be thought of and should not be done. Slowly we become afraid to do it and do not dare to do it. We have compressed our inner experience and life experiences, while at the same time psychologically magnifying the difficulty of crossing the obstacles of the outside world. Our spiritual world is actually insecure, scarce, bounded, and either or both. The endless spontaneity and possibility of the nature of life are not fully practiced and released, and the remaining desire for abundance and integrity is called "dream, ideal."
Dreams, ideals, such words make us very entangled, which is in fact in line with our state of consciousness, is our inevitable encounter. There are some soul books that say that your reality is the appearance of your state of consciousness, which sounds somewhat ideal, but it actually makes sense. Life that is compressed in a safe range, it is hard to forget the desire in their hearts. This desire is called a dream. If you stay within this narrow range, your dream will always be a dream, because you can’t achieve it. The rich resources needed for dreams. Because of you on the shore, dreams exist in another, broader world. Only those who combine the boundaries of this shore and the other side will not look at the dream of drooling, because their lives themselves, inclusive of all experiences and possibilities, have also obtained all resources.
In psychology, the reason why this inner experience is compressed is described as the parent's concept and attitude will imprint a child's inner world with a deep imprint. Where does the parent's concept come from? Roughly speaking, it should come from the mainstream culture and family culture in which we live. Our culture of being too "civilized" and similar family culture have brought us ambitions and profound limitations and anxiety. If you want to relieve this inner sense of restraint, gain sufficient spiritual strength, and exert greater potential, you need to make a great change. The object that needs to be changed is not the external difficulties, but the inherent deep inside, let you After the war, the concept of thin and frozen.
Are you willing to continue to live in the compressed life experience and stick to the small security field inside? Still willing to be like Yang Liping, regardless of whether it is in the wrong direction or under the eyes of the public, can it be as smooth as the hometown?
I am not expecting you to give a definitive answer. This is your freedom, your choice is guided by some broader law. I just want to show you another possibility of life. As for how to choose, it is entirely up to you to decide. After all, just as you foresee, there is a price to pay for change. The price may be to experience the pain of tearing inside, perhaps to re-experience the feeling of helplessness of the baby, and even more tragic, perhaps you have worked hard to pay a huge price, but because it will be wrong, Going the wrong way, I still can't figure it out.
Having said that, my own sense of powerlessness has also emerged. Just as "as long as you are good enough" is one of the most difficult conditions, the hardest thing is to change a person from the source of consciousness so that he can become good enough. Deep psychology has discovered the tip of the iceberg of human subconsciousness. Some psychology techniques and spiritual growth courses can expand a person's consciousness to a large extent, giving people greater freedom to expand their destiny.
However, all this is still insignificant to the overall destiny of mankind. If you are a child in war and famine, if you are an old man with a blurred mind, then these knowledge and opportunities are meaningless to you. If you are obsessed with fame and fortune, and have no interest or insight into human growth, then, for you, this is all nonsense. The key to the problem is: You, the one who is unique, what kind of person? Are you willing to take the road "As long as I am good enough"? can you do it? Are you willing to take risks? This is also the question I keep asking myself. Just consider the person you can consider, that is, you can do it yourself, because only you are the source of the most inability you can find in this world.
Seriously, I can't tell you what to do, this is my ability to limit, I am also on the road to growth, and most people have not patiently read a long psychological analysis. The growth of the soul requires opportunities, and it is necessary to follow the path and let it go. I just want to give you a little encouragement: "Everyone has Huigen." This sentence was told by one of my teachers.
Once, we discussed a habitual psychological disorder for me. After a long discussion, I still feel very weak. I looked at her and asked her: "But I still don't know what to do!" She does not I agree with my anxiety, so she is not in a hurry to save my anxiety. She simply said to me: "Have you heard that there is such a saying that everyone has Huigen, and you know what to do, Go do what you think is right."
Then I calmed down and no longer expected to get an instant comfort from her. You are the same, go find your teacher in the heart, everyone has Huigen, maybe you don't have the childhood and spirituality like Yang Liping, maybe your understanding is lower than ordinary people, but if you really want to do the right thing You will find a way. Huigen is the natural spontaneity and creativity of human beings. It is the curiosity that prompts you to read this article. It is the elf that keeps you from getting out of the chicken-like status quo.
Because there is Huigen, you can create something that makes you feel happy in this world, create beauty and wisdom, and finally you can do whatever you want, you can find freedom. Don't be afraid to hurt others in the process, because humanity is the same – you create something that really touches you, and creates something that makes others feel; you create something that really makes you happy, too. Create something that will please others.
【postscript】
This article is not written to criticize anyone, or to whom to label the weak who are difficult to turn over. As far as I can, I can write to myself. My original intention was to explore the psychological defects or psychological habits that may exist in everyone. Through reflection, we can explore our deeper treasures, the infinite hopes and possibilities.
Source: Beauty Network