Don't let "friends" take the lead on the road of growth.

Don't let "friends" take the lead on the road of growth.

Text / Chen Yahao, a very good buddy D, lived day and night upside down in the big day of the second day of the day, every day with a blink of an eye to play games with the people in the dormitory, do not attend classes, do not participate in any school activities, no pursuit or know Dreams, just enjoy the fun of squandering youth, people are like this, when people around you are enjoying the fall, you will get a wonderful fall and comfort. But D actually told me that I had felt the emptiness of this kind of life, but I couldn’t get out of it. People were afraid of loneliness, fear of no sense of belonging, even if they had the courage to step out of the crowd and want to go out of their own way. At the time, the other person’s sentence, "Why are you so uncooperative?" There is no fight, and they have to continue to compromise and paralyze themselves.
In the third year, D faced his own pale and empty life in the past two years and fell into endless remorse. From then on, he decided to get up at six o'clock every day to go to the library to fight, no longer participate in any previous entertainment activities. At first, those friends around him When he opened his joke, he felt that he was fresh for two days, and he did not expect to have been holding on for one semester. What comes along is that those friends started to alienate him, distance him from him, and discussed the topic of "he changed, he is very unsociable now". He was once again confused, he was just for himself. The future struggle, just trying hard to get a full life, but I was not isolated by friends. He began to hesitate, a heart swayed, trying to struggle but not wanting to lose friends. These fascinations shook his determination and once again affected his speed.
I have heard the story of a senior, who was attending a top-ranking university in China. When he was a sophomore, he found a business opportunity. He dropped all the courses and started to find a collaborator in the society. He earned a fund a year later. His vision and extraordinary enthusiasm gave him the success of envy and hatred of his peers. Mu Xiu Yulin, the wind will destroy, he began to be crowded by some friends, and spread his bad rumors everywhere, teachers and classmates He thinks that he is not serious about his business. He can't stand this kind of life in the end. Even if he gets more achievements and returns to campus, he is not recognized but despised and denied. He has not withstood the pressure and has withdrawn from the business and returned to the campus. Like other classmates, I have a daily course that I don’t really mean at all. I occasionally squander my youthful campus life with my friends and watch myself step by step from good to mediocrity.
This is the case in China. Only in the middle, can we get a more balanced life, but success and talent will never pay attention to the people of the mean. It is a life that can’t live in the crowd, or hold back the loneliness to question and walk out. If you want a life, you have to make your own choice.
You think that you don't sweep your friends, and try to mingle with everyone, but in fact, it is a waste of your own years to waste your youth. The reality is that after many years of graduating, the students have come together again. Some people have graduated from the graduate school. Someone has entered the state-owned enterprise and some people have succeeded in starting a business. Some people have a thin salary every month. Some people live a life that has passed and some people have not yet determined the future. path of. Some people are constantly complaining about the injustice of life, and some people are telling the excitement of their lives in pride.
Which one do you want to do?
The most painful thing in life is to regret that I have never been brave in my dreams. The most regrettable thing is that I have never let go of my blood for the future. What is most needed is a person who has lived a silent and stubborn day, immersed in his own lonely and powerful struggle and hard work.
In the first two years of college, I always treat every friend sincerely, care about the feelings of everyone, and try to speed up the pace of growth, while I am afraid that I will ignore them because I am only running forward, and often I am exhausted. I am still responsive to every friend, knowing that I have a lot of hardships in my heart, or to try to comfort everyone who comes to talk, just don’t want them to feel left out and distance from each other. Always try to maintain every friend and try to cherish every friendship, but you can live more and more tired, physically and mentally exhausted.
I saw an article about psychology. The article said that if a person cares too much about the feelings of a friend, he should be generous and helpless to anyone. Even if he suffers and suffers, he will not say "no" to others. This kind of person is too The selfless character is actually a pathological condition. And this unselfish and kind-hearted attitude finally hurts himself.
Careful about the feelings of each friend, always behind the unselfish is usually the inner pain, emptiness, contradiction, strong confusion and anxiety. When giving and merging as a reason to live, that person is no longer a human being.
Too much pleasing others is a kind of flood of kindness, but also a high price that is ultimately borne by oneself. And if a person is too obedient and can't stand up for himself and has no voice of his own, then he will only be bullied.
If a person is always in a rebellious and deserving role, one day just because his fatigue is unbearable and refuses once, then this person will become a selfish and indifferent person in the eyes of others, others will accuse him of "you change Now, how do you become like this?" This is the inertia of human beings. When the people who are evil-blooded and selfish in the movie do something to help others or give themselves to themselves, everyone will be deeply moved. Can't help but sigh "It turned out that he is a good person, we all misunderstood him."

When the good old people in your heart are too tired and too bitter, the cruelest thing is that he will gradually be ignored by everyone. He gradually becomes an invincible King Kong with no troubles and pains in the eyes of others, and his heart can only go to his own stomach. pharynx.
Always taking into account everyone's feelings, they will gradually live in the fear of rejection and failure, lose themselves, often blame themselves, be incapable of making decisions, and gradually suffer from the loss of their surroundings, lack of security for interpersonal relationships, and inner self-esteem and Feeling powerless, afraid to be isolated one day.
These people are obviously your friends, but you are being dragged and bound because of their growth.
A friend is a loved one of his own choice. True friends will support you as always, no matter what you make, no matter what choices you make, you will encourage you to believe in you. If you don't say a word, you will understand the depression and happiness in your heart. Your hardships never need to be told before him, he will help you silently in places you can't see. No matter what you used to be, what kind of future you are, in his eyes is always the simplest of you.
And those who will only ask for it from you, who always ask you how, are far from being friends. Those who truly love you will love you the way you need. People who don't love you will only love you in the way he needs.
Those who always say "you have changed" are just because you have not lived according to the trajectory they set for you. A true friend is always no matter how you marry you, you can always tolerate your shortcomings in your heart, understand your hardships, and hope that you have a good person. You don't need daily wine and meat to accompany you. You don't need so many greetings and greetings. When you need him, a phone call will come to you to accompany you. Remember those who have been with you to understand you, and those who say you have changed away from you.
Don't let "friends" take the lead on the road of growth, and those who are holding you are not real friends, don't worry about it.
Only if you become strong enough can you protect the people you love. This society is too sinister and cruel, and it will not be felt without going out of a warm campus. Love a person is not a daily sweet talk and wine accompanied, but his own anger is strong. You want to see them crying when they are hurt for years to sit with her and cry with her, or if they want to have enough ability to laugh and protect them.
The best friendship is not companionship. But you have enough ability to give them the greatest help and support when they need you.
Only weak people can't live without group life, and living in the crowd will only be assimilated, destroy your fighting spirit, disturb your thoughts, slow down your steps, and break your dreams.
All your anxiety, dissatisfaction and confusion about yourself are because you are farther and farther away from your dreams, and you are more and more different from your ideals. Only you can change this. Who is it? Can't help you, you have to be clear, the road to growth is destined to be lonely, and the road to strength is destined to be silent. Growth doesn't allow you to wait, and you don't have time to make you jealous.
To respond to the needs of others, we must try our best to help the people around us, but only if we cannot violate our own wishes. People must learn to love others, but first learn to love themselves.