Excellence is an attitude

Excellence is an attitude

Text / Jin Yunrong

In recent years, I like to mention the "attitude" when I write my life or share my life experience on different occasions. In fact, it is for a reason. In my decades of life, there have been two pains and awakening experiences related to it, which prompted me to look at it in a deeper mood.

The first time I was when I was in college. I remember that I went to school on the bus in Taipei on the same day. Standing next to me was a blond young male foreigner. It was estimated that I was an exchange student at our school or came to learn Chinese. Waiting for the car for a long time, this foreigner may be in order to pass the time, so turned to ask which department I read. Since I was not very experienced and had a direct dialogue with a foreigner, I was so nervous that I couldn’t remember the English of the department I was reading, so I couldn’t answer it.

I didn't think that in the process of my flushed and stammered, the foreigner actually looked at me with a very disdainful look and a squint, and sighed coldly: Are you sure you are a college student?

From that day on, I vowed to learn English well. But at that time, I did not comprehend and learned the "attitude".

The second bitter experience was in Paris.

In order to save money for the MRT, when I was in Paris, I walked three times a day between the school and the residence with a big bag. On the way to the school, there is a very beautiful and beautiful clothing store. Every day, I look forward to the beautiful window of the clothing store and the clothes displayed in it. It was a little vanity dream of my poor students.

When I was in school one morning, I was happy to find that the clothing store had posted a notice of changing the season by three to five percent. At that time, I thought, um, maybe I can go in the way back from class.

At about 4 pm that day, I finally walked into this beautiful shop. In addition to the left and right rows of clothes hanging in the store, two small carts are placed in the center of the store. Many French women have picked and tried clothes there. I walked close to the cart, squinted at the price tag, picked up a pair of trousers, and asked the clerk if I could try it on.

At that time, the trousers did not fit, so I took another one, but unfortunately still did not fit. Just as I reached out and prepared to take the third trousers from the cart, in front of everyone, the French saleswoman blocked my hand and said coldly: You can't try it again!

I only felt that the whole body's blood rushed to my face, and my whole body shook slightly due to humiliation. In a stun, I flusteredly picked up a string of necklaces hanging from the checkout counter. I almost bought it with a "Fengshi", spent 120 yuan francs to buy it, and then almost escaped without a foot. store.

After leaving the store with a feeling of injury and humiliation, the gray sky was drizzling. On the way I ran back to my house all the way, with the rain, my face was already completely soaked by tears.

That night, after a little calm, I was lying in bed and forced myself to think back to the afternoon process, forcing myself to find out the cause of the problem: Why can others try it again and again, but I can't? Why does she dare to treat me with this attitude?

Finally, I understand. Because I "allowed" her to treat me like this! Because of my attitude, my look, my manners, tell her: "You can bully me!"

After this incident, I learned from the pain to believe in myself and affirm my own importance, and also understand that in a balanced interpersonal relationship, I must first learn to please myself and then please others. In addition, from the humiliation I have received, I have also learned how to be more generous and softer and gentler, because I know that attitude determines the height, it not only conveys how you will treat the people around you, but also conveys the hope around you. How people treat you.

Excellence is an attitude.