Confidence - a deep glimpse into the heart, honed experience

Confidence - a deep glimpse into the heart, honed experience
Self-confidence is the inner self-cultivation, and has nothing to do with personality <br /> I think that we see more of an outward-looking behavior of self-confidence. In fact, the word self-confidence has a deep meaning in Chinese characters, because it is related to "self". Self-confidence, complacency, pride, but if you look at these carefully, you will see that self-confidence is more of an inner thing. More may be a bit too much, and less will become inferiority, so self-confidence is an inner temperament practice. . In this sense, when you meet a stranger, you will be nervous, or the word will not be satisfied. In a sense, it can be improved as a skill. The most important thing is to forge the inner potential, and then gradually This unconfident performance or behavioral pattern modification.
It can be packaged externally, but the person who packs it out may be less confident. As for personal strength, I feel that self-confidence can bring your passion, and passion can make you successful. This kind of success can make you more powerful. Therefore, the source of self-confidence should come from oneself, and believe in one's own heart, and believe that I can do it, so that I can have passion. If I don't believe it, I believe that people do not have passion.
I am more willing to regard self-confidence as a process of life cultivation, and also a person who goes to the society. No one has ever been a confident doll from a lifetime, unlike other children, but after years of tempering, he constantly improves his abilities.
There is no inevitable contradiction between personality and self-confidence. Any person with personality can become a confident person, but the extroversion and introversion of personality are completely different. Let me give you an example. The embroidered worker may not be the same personality as the person playing football, so you must not think of the person who plays football as an embroider, nor can you think of pulling the embroider to play football. Naturally, my materials must be useful. They must bear different responsibilities in the big social machines. Some people shine in this position, and some people shine in that position. Therefore, both color and light can become self-confidence and become the basis for future success. Or the starting point of success. Therefore, from this point of view, personality and self-confidence are not contradictory. Everyone's genetics is born from their parents. It is inevitable that everyone's personality is different. Some people are square-style heroes, like the US presidential election. People who do not speak before people can not choose the president in the United States. Therefore, in foreign universities or middle schools, it is necessary to learn the lectures for those who want to reorganize to create your ability. The British election that ended yesterday did not know whether you have seen it or not. The party leaders of the three parties gave speeches. After reading it, they knew that some of them might not be able to do it. For example, Brown is not good at speaking, but can he say that he is not successful? He may just be unsuccessful in his speech, and his character makes it.
The great personality is not in appearance. <br /> As for corporate recruitment, we value strength or confidence. I think these two are complementary, depending on how you judge strength. You say that he has the strength to refer to his own qualities and abilities, or whether he can bring external resources. Because some people recruit market personnel and hope to have some external resources to bring, then it depends on how you judge him, but of course, talent selection should look at his own quality, because self-confidence is one of the qualities of people, without confidence It's hard to have passion, it's hard to succeed without passion.
Of course, here is the benevolent seeing the wise and seeing wisdom, because the angles seen by outsiders are different. For example, what he presents today may not be what he thinks, or what he is doing now. Just now, I was in the printing industry. He used to work in other industries and now went to the printing factory of Tsinghua University. He suddenly felt that this platform could create value for himself. He loved this one himself. He showed his love for this job from his words. Maybe look at his previous experience to judge that he may not have experience or not enough in this aspect, but he loves this industry, he has a sense of self-confidence, we can also see his eyes full of expectations for the future. I think that in recruiting, we must first recruit such potential and develop it, which is what enterprises need most. The short-lived things that bring the external environment, or those that are related, are not long-lasting. This relationship may not be, or can not be used for a long time, the talents that can be generated within the enterprise are the real talents. So I think it should be more inward. As for others, I think there is a process. Sometimes we may confuse confidence and self-confidence. Confidence does not have to be conceited. Confident people do not have to be proud. Self-confidence is an inner kind, just like this glass of water. If the glass of water is 500 ml, if it is loaded into 750 ml, it will definitely come out. If 250 ml is used to waste the volume of the cup, it is conceited or inferior. Therefore, just the right kind of self-confidence is a subordinate. Life is constantly balancing its self-confidence, self-confidence, complacency, and inferiority to find the potential for continuous advancement.
In fact, this is the most crucial difference between a confident person and a low self-esteem person. Self-confidence lies not in the appearance of beauty, but in self-confidence lies in the fulfillment of the heart. Everyone imagines a scene, a party may have a very beautiful girl, and there may be some girls who look like a moderate. Maybe everyone is willing to chat with beautiful girls, but she didn't know anything when she went to the beautiful girl to chat with her. Besides saying my jewelry, my bag, my clothes, how do you talk to her? But if a girl next to you tells you that the Gulf of Mexico oil spill has had a big impact on humans, what action does your company have? What are we going to do now, and you will naturally respect this woman. Therefore, everyone must not be confused by the external things, or cause their own inferiority. In fact, great women or great personalities are not in appearance. A good friend of mine, everyone is familiar with Ma Yun. He is not a stalwart and handsome in any point of view, but his inner passion, his pursuit of career, his degree of enrichment and confidence in life, even if we From the football field and basketball court, the two-meter-high man is better than him. It is only taller than him, but he must not have his stalwart in his heart. Therefore, everyone must build their self-confidence. The appearance is only short-lived. The appearance is a standard when young. After the age is over, it is not a standard.
When there is no choice, practicality is the best way to cultivate. The solid heart must be the basis of self-confidence, and if you want to achieve a fulfilling heart, one has to learn knowledge and keep learning. In fact, we know that all children are born the same, are a blank paper, but why the children of the same kindergarten have some achievements, some may be mediocre, in comparison. In fact, looking back at these great people or successful people, there must be a process of continuous learning and continuous improvement. This continuous learning, accumulation and improvement is the process of continuous improvement of self-confidence. Everyone has such a process. However, some people improve at the first level, so his self-confidence is directly proportional to his success. Some people have stepped in more places, and their self-confidence and success are relatively lower.
Everyone is the same, and they have entered the society. At that time, we didn't have a choice. The first step was to do our job well. This step is not difficult for people to take off the springboard. So no matter what kind of work, I can tell you that I have been an apprentice for three years, and I have been getting a salary of 32 yuan from the salary of eight dollars. I have had a very difficult night shift, from 6 pm to 7 am the next day, not sleeping at night, military communication in the underground 40 meters deep, how many years are like that. Because it was relatively quiet underground, some people used that time to sleep. When I was young, I used that time to read more books. So, once the reform and opening up appeared, my technical assessment became the first in the bureau. I was the first to receive the title of assistant engineer. The first one to get the title of engineer is actually the process of knitting sweaters there. I used that time to study. When I was learning foreign languages, I might be very miserable. I started learning foreign languages ​​at the age of 26, After the Third Plenary Session of the 11th Central Committee, China was going to reform and open up. At that time, a friend said that reform and opening up is most useful. Must be a foreign language. That foreign language must have a great impact on one's life in the future. I immediately bought the radio, started to learn with the radio, and then reported to the evening school. I finally waited until the reform and opening up. I really needed to select a foreign student. The old university student studied Russian. The new college student did not graduate. When the green girl did not pick up, he gave me This opportunity, so completed the training of English and technology, so in the middle of the reform and opening up, suddenly selected the third echelon, so the red and specialized foundation exists. I don't know what foreign language learned in the past. I don't know if the leader will choose me to go abroad. But I feel that I have learned a piece of knowledge. When I use it, I hate it less, so from this perspective, self-confidence is with time, knowledge, and experience. The process of accumulating and constantly improving.
The old lady of the United States leads me to self-confidence <br /> I can tell you about the first time I attended an international conference. That was the time in the mid-1980s. Of course, it was the same at the meeting. Listen to the speaker, but after the meeting, this can be completely mastered by you. At the meeting, you can talk about it and listen to it. After the meeting, especially after the meeting. After the cocktail party, this is all international conventions. The cocktail party will give everyone the opportunity to communicate, know each other and find each other. When I first participated in such activities, one was that the knowledge was relatively shallow at the time, the second language ability was relatively poor, and the third time I saw all the foreigners were nervous. At that time, I didn't drink much wine, I took a glass of orange juice and hid in the corner. I really don't know what to say. That night there was an old lady in the United States. She especially took care of all the guests. She came to me. When she came over, I wanted to stop talking to me. People went to me. She said I heard that. You are from Beijing. She said that I came to Beijing for the first time and told me what fun in Beijing. Under her guidance, I spoke to her. After this guidance, you will feel nothing. You can speak English with foreigners. The topic that everyone can talk about is ok. So there must be such an experience. If I am hiding there, if there is no old lady talking to me, maybe the next time I am still more afraid, how can I enter such an occasion. So this unconfidence gives me a deep experience. Of course, now I also have a good chance to organize some cocktail parties, some activities, I will remember that the lady is very brief to me, about tens of seconds, one minute of care, it will naturally pull you into the group . So when you become a master, you will also see that you are not confident. Let us say hello to him.
But when we ourselves say that we are very confident people, we must really look at our hearts and understand that there is such a subtle difference between self-confidence and self-confidence. Confidence is this glass of water. You may not come out when you shake it. If you are conceited, this cup of water will be too full when you put it on the table. People tend to feel that others don't listen to me when they are conceited. I say why others don't believe, I must be stronger than you. In fact, you take a closer look, you carefully analyze this is a kind of unconfidence. When you can say what others can accept, this is often a manifestation of self-confidence. The more others can't accept, the more they want to prove, the more they want to show it to others. This is often conceited. The two words are different, but the meaning is different. completely different. Therefore, often publicity is a manifestation of self-confidence, and a confident person does not necessarily show the same kind of external promotion.