When you don't like it, you can rise up, not just resentment.

When you do n't like it, you can rise up, not just resentment. If you don't like it, you can rise up, not just resentment. Life is an adventure, don't be afraid of life, be part of it.
Don't look back in the past with anger, and don't look to the future in fear, but appreciate the present in a clear consciousness. - James Thurber doesn't know if you ever thought about whether you got anything you want? I thought about it.
When I was a teenager, I spent my 20 years in the embarrassment of my self-loathing, and I don’t know what I want to do. However, I always feel that life is not good enough - because of what? I do not know. I always feel that I should live better.
By the age of 30, I had a career in holistic physiotherapy and had three happy and healthy children, great friends and a very beautiful house in the suburbs.
What else can life go wrong? Well, actually a lot of things happened. Since that day, someone has bumped my car from behind, causing my seemingly perfect life to collapse in an instant.
Even though I couldn't stand up after the car accident, I couldn't walk without the help of others, but I never thought I would be like this forever.
After countless tests, X-rays, and MRI scans, my doctor finally said to me: "I am sorry, we have tried our best." The huge panic immediately swallowed me, so that after this I was completely closed. Yourself.
When you are in a wheelchair, it is not difficult to eliminate your sense of being. I don't feel the eyes of others, but I don't know what kind of person I want them to see. The vocabulary I used to define for myself—such as hyenas, kineskins, runners, and boxers—is no longer applicable. I don't know what kind of person I am.
If I hurried into the store with a cane, people would keep asking: "Are you hurt your foot?" Then I have to answer: "No, I am disabled."
People often feel embarrassed because of my answer, but their reaction makes me feel more inferior to myself. I became more and more isolated until nothing.
I keep asking myself who I am? Where is my location? I miss the former self. I live in the past, and I hope that I will stay in the past, full of blind fears about what will happen to me in the future and in the future.
In the lowest valley of my life, I accidentally read the story of throwing a starfish. This story became an important turning point in my life.
This story is like this:
When a little boy walked by the sea, he stumbled upon thousands of starfish stranded on the beach, so he began to pick up the starfish and throw them back into the sea. A person came over and said to him: "Child, useless, there are so many starfish here, you have no effect in doing this." The boy picked up another starfish and threw it back into the sea and said: " I changed the fate of this starfish."
When I read this, I realized that, wow, I didn't need to do anything amazing to change my current life. I don't even need big moves at all, even small things are enough to make some changes. For a long time, this was the first time I felt the spark of hope, and I didn't intend to let it go out.
After getting tired of lying on the couch all day eating snacks and watching the terrible daytime TV, I began to explore my own conscious world.
I spend a lot of time on meditation, start to understand the connection between consciousness and the body, actively participate in discussions and participate in some workshops.
I am planning to start my career again, and I have added some new tools and qualified as a therapist. This time I am not going to start from the perspective of a physiotherapy instructor as before, but in a more gentle way.
While it is difficult to overcome physical defects, overcoming emotional responses to disability is the most difficult. What really saved me was to learn to live now. I want to share with you the experience I gained in overcoming these difficulties.
1. Love yourself as you love others.

I will never be frustrated by my friends and relatives who have found me very self. I have to be good to myself - to accept that I have tried my best, this is good.
Think about how you talk to others, how do you talk to yourself, compliment yourself, we all need to admit that we are the best.
2. Although you can't change what has happened to you, you can choose the way to look at it.

I spent a lot of time hoping that the car accident never happened, eager to return to me. I may never accept a disability, but I realize that I can choose how to look at it. Yes, the disability is very tragic, but life still has to continue.
When I realized this, I lived a completely different life. In fact, I was more spiritually fulfilled than before.
3. You can really get through any difficulties. We are always stronger than we imagined.

There are too many people who have said to me: "If this is me, I will definitely not be able to deal with it."
But the truth is, you can. Human instinct is survival, and we can always survive from all kinds of difficulties.
Only when you give up can the difficulties really hit you.
We always forget that sometimes we can choose our attitude. When I feel really very bad, I decided to change my attitude, it is not always easy, but as long as you live the right support, you can do it.
4. There is absolutely no point in worrying about the future.
I used to have a stomachache because of anxiety, and I kept worrying about the extent to which my rehabilitation can be achieved. In fact, although I am still far from the final recovery, my situation is much better than the doctor's prediction.
Therefore, no one can really know what the future is like. Keep thinking about your assumptions and worry about it. Can this really happen? No, it may not happen. We can't predict 100 things in the future, and it's not even worth a try.
5. Don't label "good" or "bad" for things.

Although my car accident seemed unfair and tragic, I have grown a lot since then. I have a new career and I found love.
Please believe me, the darkness will pass, and the light will come.
6. Be living in the moment and be alive.

You will never know how intense things will happen at the moment of the next heartbeat, so cherish what you have now. I will not postpone the future anymore. My car accident has proved to me that there is no future that can be as expected.
Only now is what we can master.
7. Life is an adventure, don't be afraid of life, be part of it.
Losing walking ability is probably one of the worst things I have ever thought of, but it does happen to me, but you know, actually, I am fine. I continued my life and it was wonderful. You can do it too.