Fate can not be controlled, but character can be mastered

Destiny can't be controlled, but character can be mastered. _ Text / Gao Jingxuan character makes different pilots for everyone. When we deviate from the channel, it will make us feel awkward. Once we pass the blueprint of its default, it will let We feel that we are at a loss. - Taylor Hartmann's famous painter Zhang Daqian has a flowing white beard and looks quite a bit temperament. When a friend saw the master, he curiously asked: "Mr. Zhang, when you are sleeping, is the beard placed on the quilt or is it inside?" Zhang Daqian went to bed every day, never noticed his beard, so according to the truth. Said: "This... I don't know. Yes, why don't I care about this? Then, tell you tomorrow."
This evening, Zhang Daqian was lying on the bed, putting his beard on the quilt, and it seemed that he was a bit uncomfortable. He found it in the quilt and felt that it was not the case. It can be said that it is not in the inside, nor in the outside, how to toss is not appropriate. The master couldn't help but wonder: "In the past, this was not a problem at all. How has it become a headache now?"
Psychologists have done an experiment. When people are needled, the more focused they are, the less likely they are to wear them. They call this phenomenon "shake of purpose", which is what people usually call "needle-piercing psychology." Sometimes things are like this. The stronger your purpose, the easier it is to mess things up. The more you care about it, the more trouble it brings you. For example, the noise reaches the same decibel, some people feel stronger, and some people feel less obvious. Only the former is more concerned about noise, and the impact and harm are even greater. Even the same person, when he hears the same decibel noise, when he is absent-minded, he will not feel how serious the noise is; when he is diverted by the noise and becomes uneasy, he will feel the noise is too difficult. tolerate.
Sometimes the pain associated with injury is also related to people's attention. When a person is highly concentrated, he or she is accidentally injured. He often feels no pain and does not know that he is injured. Once he sees the wound bleeding, he will slowly recover the pain. Many people have had such an experience. In fact, the pain has already been caused by the injury. It is just that people are concentrating on other places, and they feel that they have poured into other factors, so they cover up their own pain.
There is also a feeling that is more intriguing. When you just added a new piece of furniture, you accidentally broke a piece. The more you pay attention to it, the more you take it seriously, the more awkward you are. If you ignore it or don't care about it, the fact that you break the furniture still exists, but the unpleasantness it brings to you will diminish. There are similar situations in people's diseases. Earlier people got tuberculosis, which is considered to be a terminal illness, so most people who suffer from this disease have died. There are also many people who have been ill now. Because of the invention of a good medicine such as penicillin, no one has regarded it as a terminal illness, and the cure rate has also increased significantly. In addition to the role of drugs, a factor that cannot be ignored is that people think that the disease is not so terrible, and it is no longer as fearful as before.
Attention will strengthen the feeling of the person, and neglect will weaken the feeling of the person. Understand this truth, it is not difficult to make the right choice. When you are in trouble, when you feel uncomfortable, you should ignore it as much as possible. Although the factors that cause trouble and unhappiness are still there, the intensity of your feelings will be greatly weakened. When you are happy, when you feel the time is running, you should pay attention to it as much as possible. Although the factors that cause happiness and luck are still the same, the feeling it brings to you will be strengthened by your attention. It even lasted for a long time.