Have the right to grow up in their own way

Have the right to grow up in their own way <br /> Dear Office Fresh Girl:
Just now, in the bathroom, I heard that the person who was crying in the cubicle was you. Going back to my office and facing more than a dozen emails that flowed into the computer, I suddenly found that even the best freshly grounded Blue Mountain coffee couldn't calm myself down, so I started writing this letter for you.
I know that in your eyes, I'm busy going crazy, relentless like a bitch, and boring to death, so I wrote this letter you have extremely surprised, but I wrote, because I'm not really that busy, not a bitch, less boring.
I think it will be a very difficult day for you today. In the morning, you come to work with red eyes, I know that you must have a fight with your boyfriend again. In the morning, you picked up a phone call and your face was immediately dimmed. It was the landlord who wanted to increase rent. After spending such a long time, it is no wonder that in the afternoon meeting, when you made the slide show, you were incoherent and ended up with a silent silence. Then, when I want to give you the report I made last week, and you said that you haven't done it well, I told you that if you don't understand what can't be dragged, the consequences will be very serious.
Then I went to be busy with myself. You may not have noticed that I also have my own boss. How to satisfy him is the most headache for me every day. I didn't think of you until I heard your cry in the bathroom. The voice of your crying is still so tender, so I suddenly remembered that you are only twenty-three years old this year.
What did I look like when I was twenty-three? As it happens, the clearest thing in my memory is also crying once. My husband, my boyfriend and I broke up on the phone that day. I went to the hot pot restaurant alone and ate a big pot of blood. Then I found that my bag was stolen, and all the living expenses and bank cards were inside. Just from the police station, I received a phone call from a college classmate and invited me to drink her favorite wine. Then, it was because the distressed red envelope was a bit shameful, but at that time it was indeed the last straw on the camel - I was so on the streets of the winter, regardless of the strange eyes of the passing pedestrians, bursting into tears.
Maybe life wants every girl to start with a cry and understand the true face behind the rose veil. And every girl, at some point in her life, will be lost by such a harsh intimidation. But dear little girl, I assure you that the happiness and suffering of people in this life are absolutely within your tolerance. Life knows you better than you, it can be awkward, it gives you bitterness, and you will always let you down and not despair. And the sweetness for you will always let you taste and be full of thoughts. All in all, It sucks, but you will love it.
When people are in their twenties, they are always willing to believe in one sentence: living elsewhere. You easily give up a job, easily give up a love, and easily give up a friend, not because of this belief. It is a pity that it will take a long time for people to understand that there is no legendary "other place" in this world. What you have is just what you have in your hands. And what you get after you go around is just what you missed on the first platform.
So little girl, I want to tell you the first sentence of today: work hard. Work is the only way for a girl who is not a natural princess to become a queen. Work is the closest thing to reality in all illusions of freedom. More importantly, work helps a woman learn how to love herself, and then you can love the world, love others, and be loved.
I know that in your eyes, a woman in her thirties is old like an overnight meal. A woman in her forties can die. It doesn't matter, I don't mind, because I think this way when I am in my early twenties. Let me tell you another sentence: It is more terrible than the old ones, old and old, and have not found their place in society. So dear little girl, you have to step up, otherwise you will be 30 when you look back.
Now, you are far from a mature, professional professional woman.
You see, when you wear a seersucker princess dress to work, or when I talk to you, I grab a folder and hold my chin. As a woman and a mother, I think you are very cute, but next time I consider subordinates. When I am promoted, I may not be able to choose you.
I don't need you to work overtime after work, little girl, I don't need you to close the QQ page when I approached. We are foreign companies here, everything is result-oriented, and hard work is not included in the score. But I still advise you, you may wish to work harder. Where a person's time is spent is seen. Don't follow the old man and the little man complaining about the society, you can't change the society, and you can't choose a father again, right? The only thing you can change is yourself.
But you are not really bad as it is. Why, do you feel this way? In fact, when you tremble with your voice at the meeting to explain your new model, the dead silence in the conference room represents not a disdain, but a shock. Because the waves in the Yangtze River pushed forward waves, we are afraid of death on the beach. So of course we can't let you discover that we have been pushed.
Now let's talk about love. Since we are all heterosexual, we will simply refer to this as: man. When I was twenty-three years old, I missed a man who was not worthy, which led me and my current husband, the boyfriend's breakup. Fortunately, I have another chance to turn back later.
And you, dear little girl, I have to say that you are clearly in a wrong love. I can know the number of times you come to work from your eyes with red eyes.
But it doesn't matter, if every girl's 23rd is not wasted in the wrong love, it is a waste. After a while, you will understand as I did in the past: love, in the final analysis, is for happiness. Although there is now a popular word called "abuse of love", life is not a TV series, and Mr. Wrong will not get paid if he is entangled.
In fact, most men do not understand, although since ancient times there are "non-bad men, women do not love" and other nonsense, but the girl must also rely on sincerity. The structure of a woman's mind is like this: the outermost layer belongs to the carelessness of the hopeless pursuer; the middle layer belongs to the bad man who will hurt our hearts; but the most profound and precious corner of the soul will always belong to The man who can make you feel the love really.
Am i right? Carefully feel your current boyfriend, he has hurt your heart many times, but you are still crying while faintly thinking, in fact, he did not touch your heart, the most delicate and sensitive place. Don't doubt, you deserve better. If you compare it to Ikra in "Avatar," he never completed a "connection."

The last is money. Congratulations, you are beginning to realize the importance of money! Please understand this very clearly: before you graduated from college, life is not harsh, but it was your parents who were paying your bills. Now, when you enter the society, you consciously regard many desires as your responsibility.
You graduated from a good university with a good professional, articulate, handsome, thank you, you have a big breast! I think you can really be a very lucky girl, what do you think? In fact, I also feel that I am very fortunate to be able to hire such a salary with such a salary, of course, I will not tell you. Wait until the day you find out, I will give you a little salary.
You are so lucky, but you envy my house, my car, my diamond stud earrings. I don't know what you are envious of. I will bring you some years, and I will never go back if you have one. You really don't need to be upset because your clothes are not as good as others, bags are not brand names, or deposits are less than five digits. Because each of us has come this way, there is no more serious thing than the twenty-three-year-old poverty.
On the contrary, you don't know how to make a little sweat on your young skin. In the eyes of our old guys, it's hard to change.
I am not saying that I envy you, because my own 20-year-old is dazzling enough. In fact, I like myself now. I like myself at every stage. When TV stars are often interviewed by female stars, don’t doubt, it’s true. When I am in my twenties like you, I am like a myopia without eyes. This world is chaotic in front of my eyes. The only thing that is clear is my beautiful and beautiful body.
But now, the world is very clear to me. The road ahead of me, the people in front of me, of course, also include you.
Writing here, I suddenly found out that if I had the chance to go back ten years ago, I wouldn't change anything, because I can't bear the memories that every choice brings me, even if it's not entirely good.
So, dear little girl, though, living today is for you, the sky is dark, the wind is cold, and maybe it will be stuffed with cold water. However, I hope that I can let you know that everything will eventually turn into a happy smile. Please enjoy your twenty-three years old, work hard and effortless, and wait for the answers that are revealed for you.
You see, life always makes us unexpected. You cry in the bathroom, but let your boss's old woman understand herself at the age of twenty-three. For this, I want to thank you. Also decided, I will only put this letter on my computer hard drive. Because you, dear child, have the right to grow in your own way.
Your boss, old woman
May 2019