Shame is an elective course in life

In the early 1980s, Cao Yu, who was over the ages, was a dramatist at home and abroad. One time, American colleague Arthur Miller came to Beijing to direct a new script. As an old friend, Cao Yu specially invited him to be a guest. At the break before lunch, Cao Yu suddenly took a framed book from the bookshelf with a letter written by the painter Huang Yongyu. Cao Yu recited it to Arthur Miller and the presence. friends. This is a letter that is harsh and unreasonable. The letter reads: "I don't like the drama after your liberation. I don't like it. Your heart is not in drama. You lose the great psychic jade. You are wrong with the position! The proposition is not consolidated, not meticulous, and the deductive analysis is not thorough enough. In the past, there are countless exquisite rests, beats, hot and cold arrangements, and the slang of the basket disappeared..."

Arthur Miller later wrote an article detailing his confusion at the time: "This letter criticizes Cao Yu, but it is not very much but very fierce, and it is also mixed with obvious humiliation. However, Cao Yu was excited when he read the letter. I really don't understand Cao Yu's respectful devotion to this letter in the book. Now, when I read it to me in a grateful tone, what did he think?" Arthur Miller's sorrow is taken for granted. After all, it is too rare to let others understand and accept that the letters that others have humiliated are in the booklet of the frame, and they are full of gratitude to others. But what Arthur Miller didn't know was: This is Cao Yu's sobriety and sincerity. Although he is already a well-known drama, he does not care too much for his own feathers - honor and fame - like others. In this "stupid" move, the essence of the disclosure is that Cao Yu has interpreted this humiliation into a true repentance of artistic defects. The shame letter at this time was already a precious gift to him, so he would like to thank the public for this humiliation.

The long road to life, we can regard it as a big classroom of life, the difference is that some courses you can not make choices. Whether it is rich or not, the level of intelligence, the moving or ugly appearance, this innate factor can be named as a "compulsory course" because it cannot be defined and reversed by ourselves. And other growth environments or life encounters that we have to face the day after tomorrow, we can name it "elective courses" - such a course you can show your will and attitude in action, choose this "course" in your own way. The degree of completion. Shunyi and humiliation are undoubtedly an elective course in life. Those who are narrow-minded will interpret it as a burden, and open-minded optimists will regard it as an alias of “incentives”, thanking the humiliation and extracting their shortcomings from humiliation. With defects, using humiliation to motivate self-enhancement - Cao Yu is the best evidence.