Learn to ask questions about your life

Asking about your life How do we talk about people? Will it be just a little dust as the astronomers see, and squirming on an unimportant star? Or what a chemist says is a bunch of chemicals that are cleverly put together? Or as Hamelett sees, people are intellectually noble and infinite in talent. Or is it all of the above? —— Russell

When you start to read this text, have you stayed for a second or two to really think about this question, how do we view our own life? Is it a dust in the world, just waiting to die before leaving? Is it a bunch of chemicals, constantly eating a variety of foods and drugs to maintain their own cycle? Is a piece of data, we must use wages and scores to prove that we are bigger than others? Is it a noble person who has unlimited possibilities even if he falls into the bottom?

My university spent time at Hunan University. It was my second wish. I wanted to go to Beihang in the past and didn't make it. Until today, I am deeply grateful for my mistakes in the college entrance examination that year. It turns out that the time I spent in the only university in China without a wall is the most precious part of my life. I still remember that it was a little rainy on the day of the check-in. I took my guitar and walked into my dormitory. At that time, I was a little uncomfortable and added to it. I occasionally felt that I was very ideal and high. I think all the children of that age are That's it.

When I was with everyone to lay the bed, I packed up everything, and 10 people had a good meal. At 10:30 in the evening, the dormitory was turned off. We spoke intermittently, and finally went to sleep. I lay on my bed and stared at the bed on the upper bunk. I realized that it was a brand new environment. I said to myself: Everyone around you doesn't know you at all. They don't know your past. From tomorrow on, you can make yourself a person you like. But what kind of person do you want to be?

So that night, the 17-year-old classical officially asked his own life: What kind of person do I want to be?

I wrote my answer on a red notebook that included my favorite ten adjectives and 10 things I wanted to do. I still remember those adjectives including: sincerity, spirituality, loyalty, freedom, tolerance... Those things include: learning to drive, learning nunchakus, riding a bicycle to Beijing, passing English 4, talking about a passionate love...

If you still know me, you should know that these adjectives have been printed in the middle of my life. These tasks have become my most proud history. I learned to drive, level four, learn nunchakus, sophomores ride across 6 More than 1,500 kilometers in the province arrived in Beijing, all because of the 17-year-old classical, in the night when the lights were turned off, the first time asked about their own lives.

In 2001, I quit my first job because I hated my profession - construction engineering. Although he helped me find a pretty good job in a famous architectural firm, I insisted that I could not find it for half a year. like. Good parents think that this is a young and irresponsible and arrogant move. Although I only use expressions to oppose it, I still feel pressure. I ran to the nearby park alone, sat on the stool and went home until the evening.

I have been sitting like this for the past three days, thinking about how to explain to my family and my girlfriend. What if I can't make money? Why did my father force me to choose this major? How do you see me? If I go to work, what new experience will happen? The more I think about it, the more annoying I am, the more I feel like I’m going to die. In 2001, you passed by the park near our home. You will see a person like a white-collar worker who is like a college student. He is on a long bench every day. He eats three yuan cakes and a bottle of water a day. I will lie down, take a book and look at it, and sit still.

I remember that it happened on the afternoon of the third day, I was still sitting on the bench, angrily feeling that the world did not understand me. The sunset was shining on my face, letting me squint my eyes. At that moment, my heart suddenly raised a question from my heart: yes, bad professional, dull work, parental pressure, everyone's contempt, that is all you don't want, but what do you want? What kind of person do you want to be when you see this sun tomorrow?

The answer to this question I think you may already know, then I left Shenzhen, came to Beijing, and never did my own undergraduate work. I became a New Oriental lecturer, became a career planner, studied psychology, coaching skills, founded NEDP, supported more and more people like me, and grew up to be like us... We are growing rapidly.

Until today, I learned to ask questions about my life. I found that every time, when I let go of all the things that bothered me, let go of all the thoughts that others think "should", and really ask myself, you are such a person, live. What is supporting you today? What kind of person do you want to be?

Maybe it will suddenly come to light, maybe the answer will jump out after a day or two, and maybe even tell you through others. However, I can always find the answer. In our life strategy course, when everyone really asks about their own lives, they always get the answer that makes them excited and willing to go all out.

Dear grower, your life is a miracle. Anyone who explores their legendary life with curiosity and doubts will get far more than expected answers. A stiff person regards life as wages and figures, as a diploma and certificate, as a way to make some people happy and satisfied...

However, there are countless possibilities for your life, as long as you dare to ask questions about your life.

Ask yourself about your own life at the beginning of each year!

What do I want to be like?

What kind of change will this world be because of me?