Single is the best value-added period

Beginning in my twenties, I was gradually forced to get used to the time of a person, as if I was an adult individual. From this age, there was a life that must be managed and challenged alone, and nothing to do with others. So in those lonely days, I am looking for a job alone, a person who eats a closed door, a person who is determined to resign, a person who applies for a visa, a person who sits on a plane for more than ten hours falls in the green grass of the southern hemisphere, where a person eats alone, reads a book, sits alone Drink hot cocoa in the corner of the cafe. The worst thing is that I split up with my boyfriend that year, and there is one less role in life that can share happiness and resentment. I suddenly found out that there was no one around to watch the movie sharing popcorn. I sat in the middle of the movie theater and watched a violent film. The bullets in the 3D glasses shot on me. The chest was surrounded by a group of distorted couples, and one person secretly shed tears.

In the period of being in a foreign country, even if I used my work to fill my work and returned home every night, my heart was still empty. Losing the long-term companionship of the boys around me, as if I lost the joy of exploring life together, I heard that there was a window in my life that was heavily closed, and I could no longer see the beauty and beauty of the outside world from there. So after 10 o'clock every night, I came home from the working restaurant, a heart-wrenching, lying in bed, turning on the computer to see two episodes of Conan, refreshing Renren and friends circle in five minutes, which almost became a must-have program for loneliness. . However, my spirit has been emptied for a long time, and my life is seriously lacking in motivation. This is a pale psychological release, which is worse than physical exhaustion. I stare at the ceiling in the middle of the night, my body has long gone to sleep, and my spirit is sober. Very incomprehensible, staring at the lights thrown in the window and pulling out long light and shadow on the wall, clasping his knees with both hands, afraid of ghosts while fearing tomorrow. I heard the voice of my disappointment and spread in the boundless darkness. Is this your day-to-day life?

One day, I was reading the new things in the circle of friends on the Internet. I read an article about the Taiwanese copywriter Li Xinpin, how to use the poetic creative text to shape the Eslite Bookstore into a cultural landmark in Taipei. She made an image advertisement for "Eslite Reading" magazine, and later became a compulsory course for advertising students. "Hemingwei read the sea and found that life is a fish that will take a lifetime to be hooked. Van Gogh reads the wheat field and discovers that art hides in the sun. After the cold, Freud read the dream and found a secret passage to the subconscious. Rodin read the human body and found the beautiful coastline that Columbus did not find. Camus reading Kafka and found that the truth has been finished half. Between, we welcome all kinds of possible readers." Her copy of the Eslite Book auction was also enthusiastically sought after by winter powder, "expired canned pineapples, unexpired appetite; expired negatives, not expired creative desires; Expired "PlayBoy", unexpired sexual desire; expired old books, not expiring curiosity." That year, 37-year-old Li Xinpin, has been to thirty-seven countries, published 26 books in 7 years , insist on reading a book one day and watch a movie one day. She said, “When you read a book every day, you can have a gap of 365 books with others in a year. Reading is a great feeling, calling another soul to talk to you. This is the biggest asset, no one can take it away. ......" This woman who made life a feast will fulfill my self-rescue in the future.

At that time, the mentally impoverished self was quickly attracted to the upward lifestyle. Leaning on the bed, the head is scented, eating the potato chips and drinking soft drinks by the faint light of the table lamp, I feel that life is boring, I can’t help but ask myself, from the age of 37, how many days, at that time, I can become Li Xin-Feng is carrying a big shoulder bag, using a paper-and-pencil camera to display his creative desires, and is a maverick woman with a fresh mind? I began to realize that if I only lived with two episodes of Conan every day and then stayed close to the circle of friends, I might have ushered in such a life at the age of 37 - I got to the Conan finale, maybe I finished watching it. Gintama and One Piece, the renewal of the circle of friends is changing with each passing day. Only I am eroded in the sinking of the years.

This vision of the future, like a slap in the face, slammed into my young life. In the past, I firmly believed that men are a window that can take me to enjoy the endless scenery outside. They have a boundless exploration of the world, knowing the history of the car and knowing the stock, and knowing where there are green mountains and green waters. Beautiful scenery, where there are exquisite western food, where the theater has the best sound effects, where the bar has a well-known band singing... So when this window is closed, my world seems to lose a column of light, but forget that I also have Life-giving gimmicks, as long as they pick up their hands, can also get rid of this barrier separating themselves from the world, and erect a spacious and bright floor-to-ceiling window in a monotonous and boring life. The depth of life is ultimately determined by yourself.

It was in that year that I found that the time of being single was not as boring as I thought. Although I lost two people and tried to construct fresh romantic happiness together, if I can set a good goal for myself in my life, I will continue. Constantly persisting in the thriving life of life, it is also a good thing. I have listed a list for my life. I used to have a time to read books and movies when I was in love. I can finally enjoy it with one person’s day. When I was in love, I enjoyed the food without knowing it. There is enough free time to use the running to eliminate; in the past, when I was in love, I was always struggling with the financial situation. I can finally make a lot of time to make money. In the future I had never imagined in my love, I can finally calm down and come to myself. A serious conversation.

That year, for the first time, I calmed down and made a life transformation for myself. I found that in addition to love, there are so many things in life that I deserve to be succinct. Yan Geling’s bitter immigrant story, the suspense film in David Finch’s lens, the continuous jogging on the treadmill, and the carefully baked chocolate biscuits, all provide a lively and jubilant form of life. In this single year, I read more than 200 books, read more than 90 movies, ran away for thousands of kilometers, and ate many of the homemade delicacies that people touched. I found that reading is the fastest growing. Ways, sports provide a way to think quietly, watching movies is the best substitute for travel, and studying food is a woman's alternative talent... Most of the single list can be removed, and those that have not been completed yet, leave Give more effort to the next year. My spirit has reached an unprecedented level of activity, looking back at the path of transitioning from a poor little girl to a generous adult woman. I think I can finally understand my predecessor and relieve his disappointment to me that year. But the girl who is hard and not too high in the inner level is not worthy of good love.

Women who are more emotional than rational always like to use economics to measure love, compare men of different qualities to stocks, and want to throw away junk stocks, seize potential stocks, and look for high-performing stocks, but if you want to make a profit before buying stocks, No compensation, should we also guarantee that we are a far-sighted intellectual shareholder?

A few days ago, I went to a friend's house to be a guest. My friend was busy doing housework, bending down and dusting. When I looked up, I bumped into the broken microwave oven. I couldn't stop falling from tears. I hurriedly comforted, but my friend shook his head. "Not because it is too Pain, because the mood is too bad, how can I always have the inexhaustible housework, worry about the endless things..." I look around this little home, only after a year, the corner is full of miscellaneous Things, the clothes that need to be cleaned are high, the mildew on the ceiling is clearly visible, and the pots and pans are piled in the pool with the food residue. I listened to my friends and started to count down the lazy man who was sitting in front of the computer and playing games after work, but did not forget her who lost her love that year. She grabbed the man and went down the bottom of a straw rope and couldn’t wait to climb out. How embarrassing it is. I licked my mouth and didn't know what to say, but I remembered another friend.

Another friend of mine is a famous character. Every time I break up, I have to have a closed period of one year. She calls this a kind of practice. This period of space is used to empty old emotional junk, use enough time to perfect itself, and will not focus on love. She will pick a fresh thing to learn, flower arrangement, Japanese, dance, high temperature yoga, or a quiet journey, no matter where it is, wholeheartedly, with new knowledge and vision to sublimate themselves. By the end of the closed period, she was happy to accept the invitation of the man, and the quality of the next paragraph was mostly better than the previous one. She said a word to me, it sounds very sane and profound. "Love is an equivalent exchange. You will not be stupid enough to buy a fake Chanel No. 5 in high prices in reality. Similarly, there is no good man. I am willing to love a cheap woman unconditionally." As Li Xin frequently said, "There must be a good man, but your vision has not yet reached the visible position. Suppose a good man is on the 5th floor and he is on the 1st floor. You may only see the man in the basement. When you reach the top of the mountain, you will see other hills, and you will stop at the foot of the mountain and you will only see the roadside stalls and garbage dumps."

Have you heard of such an experiment? In a room filled with tuning forks of different frequencies, if one of the tuning forks is vibrated, the other tuning fork with the same vibration frequency will be motivated. Later it is extended to a theory that has been continuously confirmed by people around it for many years. Thoughts and emotions have a certain vibration frequency, so they will attract people and things that are most similar to their vibration frequency. So, my dear little girl, now you may have lost your love. You are still worried about the sad old feelings. Please take away your tears and loss, because life has deceived me and told me that life is A fair schedule, at the end of the time axis, you will practice hard. At that end, there will be better people waiting for you. He is healthy, cheerful, wise and loyal, waiting for the good time of your life. Does not disappoint.