You can fail

In the education and training industry, I often accept counseling from parents or students. Some parents face the bad study of their children. It is inevitable that they will sigh and sigh. Children’s poor academic performance and test failures will make them feel anxious and even worry, “Children are now like this. Failure, what should I do in the future?" In the face of this situation, I will state two points: First, poor grades do not mean failure; in addition, failure, this is the natural right that everyone has.

Everyone is eager for success. But failure, failure is the mother of success. This is a commonplace, but there are not many people who can accept the failure willingly.

I have also been unable to resolve the failure many years ago. That time I suffered an unexpected defeat, and the confidence and pride of building the foundation for many years was broken. If there is a bottom of life, I will admit that it was. One day, I received an email from a student at my class at the time. One of the words was like this: "You are the best teacher in our minds, and what we want to tell you is that you are not Almighty, you don't have to do everything, you can fail, you are just an ordinary person."

You can fail.

What a good sentence, the ruin of the sky, each of us, but only an ordinary person, no one has super powers, can avoid failure, all the way to success. Since failure is the inevitable suffering that must be experienced on the road of life, then accepting it is the best gesture.

How to accept? The first thing to understand is why we are afraid of failure. Because it is painful, there is no doubt about it, but in fact, in the face of failure, the most painful thing is not failure itself, but the sense of helplessness, self-blame, and rightness caused by failure. The suspicion that began to arise. In other words, the blow to failure in the heart is the source of pain. To accept failure, we must start from the cultivation of the heart. Be aware that you are just an ordinary person and have the natural right to fail. Unable to let go of excess self-respect and pride will only lead you into the mud of helplessness and self-blame, thus missing the opportunity to grow by failure.

Failure is actually an opportunity. It strikes us and makes us fall from the heights to the plains or the abyss, but at the same time allows us to take a humble attitude and examine the mistakes we made on the road of marching with our humble identity. The lack of ability. The more modest, the more things you see.

After accepting the failure, it is time to counterattack the failure. Learn from failures, reflect on your own deficiencies, and then improve your combat effectiveness and ability, re-enter in a more perfect posture, and return all the things that have failed to you. The satisfaction and sense of accomplishment brought by the Jedi counterattack is really It’s so attractive.

One of my teachers told me a case in which a student is self-confident, likes to mess around in class, and never does his homework after class, but the results have always been good. In a major examination, the student actually lost. For this student who has always been proud and self-satisfied, this is undoubtedly a heavy blow, and he has fallen into an inextricable situation. He can't slow down for a long time. Fortunately, with the advice of teachers and classmates, I finally got out of the state of depression, and began to work hard, and my academic performance was also leaps and bounds. The outstanding students who have grown up like this are not in the minority. They have experienced failures, accepted failures, and grasped the difficulties of knowing their own deficiencies and improving themselves from failure. For them, failure is a good one. Metamorphosis.

When I came out of the bottom of the valley because of the words of the students, I said to myself that after suffering this hardship, I would not be afraid of any problems on the road in the future. It is a person who has the right to fail. He accepts failure in a normal way. People who come out of failure are often more combative and more likely to succeed.