Don't let excuses ruin your life

I recently started working with a group of women who have resumed classes, and this week I was asked to lead the daily “morning meditation” to start our time together. They used a lovely booklet called “Keep It Simple” as the inspiration for these daily thoughts and discussion time. It was my morning, and the theme of the day was an excuse.

This reading begins with a quote from the 18th century English poet, Alexander Pope:

"Excuses are worse and more serious than lies."

Just now, I checked this quotation and found that this is the second part of it, which makes me more convincing about what you are going to discuss with you:

"...because the excuse is a defensive lie."

As a lady in the group pointed out, we know when we talk about a bad lie. Although very short but guilty, the essence of lies stabbs our conscience. We know that we made a mistake, and even for some reason we didn't have the courage and character to do the right thing at that moment.

But the excuse we say to other people or ourselves seems to be credible, even reasonable. Maybe we really believe in our excuse because we really didn't look at it carefully.

To this end, I quoted more from the booklet:

"Excuses, they are lies. We use excuses to cover ourselves... excuses to keep us away from ourselves and prevent us from becoming more powerful people."

So how can you find an excuse that is actually a lie? One way is to check if it is able to stand in the surrounding environment.

A lady provides a very typical example. She said that we would use the rainy day as an excuse to avoid doing something that is good for health. “Because it is raining” we may not go out to do the walking exercise we really need, but it may be easy to run out on a rainy day to buy something that is not good for us but what we want.

Do you have such excuses in your life?

The exercise that day is to list the five excuses you use the most. Why not find out your notebook or a piece of paper, and start doing it now?

Here I find out a few of my favorite self-destructive excuses, and in the process they also motivate you to clean yourself up:

I evade things I don't like, or avoid doing something important that I should do, and watch online movies on Netflix by eating delicious food. I told myself that this would help me relax myself the next day. This is true, but when I use this excuse too closely to escape the things I don't want to see in life, it is unhealthy. I often do this.

I used to struggle with my spending habits for many years. Because I don't have a salary-paying job, my income depends on a lot of different activities and variables, and my monthly income is unpredictable. I use this as an excuse to avoid making and complying with any budget.

In fact, I know that I can expect the bottom line of income, and I also know that if I want to have any kind of savings that I don't need, I need to control the cost of one aspect. The area I overspend for a long time is the same. I really just don't want to control them, because I got a lot of moments of fun on the things I spent on money, so I used the income of change as an excuse to avoid changing it.

I like to go out to eat, this is one of the main areas of my overspending. My favorite excuse is:

Today, my work is really hard and it is worthwhile to relax and treat myself.

I have had a bad day and I deserve a comfort.

I don't have a lot of things in my freezer. It takes me too long to do something, and I am hungry now.

I will be going to see a friend later, so now the most efficient thing and effort to save time is to eat with her instead of myself.

I am proud to say that I tried to make an advance budget this month and saved hundreds of dollars from my daily food and eating out. Ironically, I regularly track my after-the-fact consumption. I do this every month for several years, but I don't do much to curb when I actually spend.

I have made a lot of meals this month, using vegetables and other ingredients that have lost their vitality in my freezer. It feels really good, and it's really not that painful. I can hardly feel being deprived and quite proud.

Honestly face yourself, do you really like your life?

What do you want more, less? In order to have more of what you want in your life, what are the things you need to start doing? What excuses prevent you from gaining in your own way?

Take a look at your most used excuses with near-cruel honesty and think carefully. See if you can start to grab yourself in action. When you do, throw these excuses one by one out of the window and replace them and start to change yourself to make life better.

Learning: Your friends, parents, and partners will do some good things for you, but in the end, you still have to rely on yourself. Your success, failure, progress, your ability to do or not do something, your excuses and opportunities, everything around you. The situation will be different, but how you react depends on you. A person's perspective can change the way a person views a problem. When things can't be solved, the surface is based on the solidification of the perspective and the solidification of thinking. In fact, the real reason is that we give reasons for our laziness and pride to change. Escape. In other words, we must always remind ourselves that we can stand up and "go away" when we can't understand the problem, can't convince others, and can't solve the problem. If you change your position, you may find your own fallacy, maybe you can find someone else to understand. Ways, perhaps the key to solving the problem. Maybe you can't find anything, then walk around, stand still, still only have the original vision, it is impossible to see more.