In the workplace, there is a fatal injury

In the workplace, there is a fatal injury

An old friend sent an email saying that the entire family had recently "experienced an emergency." The child who started from the beginning of the year did not think that in the invention of the unit, he was ranked in the post when he reported it, and then the title of senior engineer was smashed at the end of the program. "His business has always been the best, but it has been crowded out by the unit. He left home with indignation. He left his suicide note saying, "Life is unfortunate, I want to find a place to end." I really scared everyone! Lost several old students for two days. Constantly hitting the phone, I was forced to go home."

Hey, I also know the young man - smart and eager to learn, graduate from a famous school, enter a big business, become a designer, everyone is optimistic. How come out now? ! Even if he is really around, he will be able to follow the right channel to complain. The right and wrong can be discerned. "However, the words are divided into two, don't patronize him for his injustice. What matters is that he will change his brain and get out of the "unfortunate" complex." I advised.

To put it bluntly, the "fortunate" and "unfortunate" of life have only relative meaning. Complaining that after the invention was reported, the rankings were pushed back. Why didn’t you see yourself being in the inventor? I was frustrated by the fact that I was finally confronted with Waterloo. Why didn’t I see the first few passes and I had a good trip? Chekhov used humorous statements to prove the relativeity of misfortune: "If the match burns in your pocket, you should be glad that the pocket is not a powder magazine; if your fingers are stuck in a thorn, you should be glad that the thorn is not Put it in your eyes; if a poor relative comes to you, you should be glad that you are not the police." Check the Internet, quote more than 10,000, and see as many people. In fact, people's sense of well-being is largely unrelated to things, but is generated in self-adjustment. Psychologists introduce a formula: a person's emotional index = = expected achievement value / inner expectation value. That is to say, the inner expectation value is inversely related to the person's emotional index. The former is lower and the latter is higher. Therefore, "people can't be worried, and they won't change their music." Yan Hui's poor roads can still have a good attitude. After reading Feng Lun's writings on Ma Yun's travels to Bhutan, I know that this citizen's happiness index is extremely high, and the country with a very low "angry anger index" has a per capita GDP of only $1,700. Most people are vegetarian and the original material conditions are very poor.

Because I don't know, I can't give specific advice on the case of a friend's relatives. However, because I have seen a few examples, I think that a sound workplace mentality may be a topic that is universal and worth exploring. Nowadays, the competition is fierce. You chase after me, and the winners and losers are intertwined. Some people are still difficult to adapt to the pressure of social competition, and often have abnormal competitive psychology such as “excessive prevention”, “innocent people, and laughing people”. Of particular concern is the young talents who are full of knowledge. If the ancient Chinese scholars were often delayed because of their arrogance and arrogance, Han Yu wrote "Liu Zihou's Epitaph" and Su Shi wrote "Jia Yi Theory", and they deplore it, so they would not be too high in the modern workplace atmosphere. The mentality of tolerance and lack of resilience is even more fatal. Naturally, it is not the life, but the career prospect.

I just read a copy of Fang Lingsheng's "Excellent People Don't Complain" from the "Newsletter", which is aimed at the unbalanced psychology that is commonplace in the workplace and complains about the mentality of the sky. The protagonist is American taxi driver Wally. The car he drove was particularly clean, and the hospitality was particularly welcoming. He offered drinks and newspapers and even music for free. He explained: "Two years ago, like most other taxi drivers, I complained all the time with uneasiness all the time. Until one day, I heard from the broadcaster that the inspirational success master Dr. Wayne Dale said: Stop Complain, you can stand out among the many competitors. Don't be a duck, be an eagle, the duck will only complain, and the eagle will fly high in the crowd." Wally began to learn In the first year of the "Eagle", the income doubled. However, the ordinary taxi driver knows the truth. Some of our school-speaking people don't understand it. They still indulge in "complaining all day long." Isn't that the case? As a talent, you must have both an IQ and an EQ. There is a little bit of acknowledgment here, why should we be born with the atmosphere, "people don't know what to do". Sustained, motivated, and motivated to work harder, so that you can get more recognition and get a higher evaluation. This is called a virtuous circle. On the contrary, it is a vicious circle because of the grievance and the negative and the lower evaluation and the greater grievance.

We often say that "leaders must change their minds." In fact, employees may wish to think differently and always think about the overall situation of the unit. "Don't ask what the country has done for you. You have to ask what you have done for the country." This is a famous saying of Gan Rudi, but it can also be transplanted. As a unit employee, you can ask yourself and answer yourself. It can be said that no matter whether the state-owned enterprises, private enterprises or foreign enterprises want to achieve their business objectives, they all hope that the employees will actively contribute, and the most will be negative and even internal consumption. I remember that Hong Kong hotel tycoon Chen Zefu asked the younger generation to be "hot work, don't care about overtime work." It’s not just time, it’s best not to care about it and to be fully committed. He is famous for his Zhenhua Port Machinery. There is a legendary old president named Guan Yuxian. When he introduced his management experience on TV, he said frankly that he likes the kind of youth who do not care about personal gains and losses and rush to common cause. people. To promote, it is necessary to promote such people. - This is the case, there will be bread, there will be honors, there will be jobs in the title, but success comes from labor without complaints, and it is the kind of lasting creative work. Can not stand the process, the greed of immediate results, then fell to Su Shi criticized Jia Yi: "Hey! Jia Shengzhi is large and small, only enough to know."

When it comes to "being", when you are arrogant, you are willing to cooperate with colleagues. Even Newton, who created the epoch-making scientific theory, said: "I am just like a child who has smashed a few beautiful pebbles and shells on the beach of knowledge. "As for the vast ocean of truth that is presented to me, I have not found it." The more people who are full of learning, the more open-minded they are, the more they are shocked by the huge gap between the infinite objective world and the extremely limited knowledge. Compared with the self-knowledge of the university students, it is a shame that we are too narcissistic friends today. The problem is not only "shame". Yan Zhitui of Beiqi, in his "Family Training", warned his children: "Seeing people reading ten books, they are tall, and the elderly are slow and slow. The human beings are like enemies, evil." It’s better to learn from self-destruction than to learn.” The words are quite unpleasant, but this is the responsibility and the deep love. Arrogant people, no matter ancient or modern, can't do it. The harmful consequences arising from it are the formation of unnecessary barriers between each other and the unnecessary isolation of themselves. An article on the development of liquefied sputum competition, the British University of Cambridge professor Dewar so slowed the Dutchman Annes a small step, only because he is usually "tempered, refusing people," and even from the relevant experts at this moment Get pure 氦. As a result, he "had to experiment with impure helium in the small bubbles of the hot springs. Because the impurities contained in the hot air were always solidified before the helium gas, blocking the pipes and valves of the instrument, the experiment of Dewar repeatedly failed."

Even more and more fierce, like the academician Wang Shoujue said, "A large number of Chinese students are dismantling each other in the nest, and the result is that the same job will take half of the wages of other people, and whoever will be promoted will be counted by the compatriots." It is even worse. In fact, as long as you don't engage in vulgar "relationships", then pay attention to properly handling the relationship between the top and bottom, and it is convenient for people to be convenient. It is still a learning of life, that is, the so-called "worldly knowledge is all learned". Otherwise, the personnel relationship will be a mess, even if you have a deeper foundation, professional knowledge will not be easy to handle.

The recent report contains American medical scientists who distinguish three types of mentality. They believe that the main characteristics of the B-type mentality are tolerance, peace of mind, poverty, and satisfaction with work and life. Its research shows that 83% of longevity people come to this kind of mentality. In other words, to cultivate a healthy mindset, to help the workplace, and to prolong life, how good.

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