Remember that this ten-point workplace psychology makes you struggle for 30 years.

Remember that this ten-point workplace psychology makes you struggle for 30 years.

Regardless of whether you are an old fritter who has been in the workplace for many years or a small coffee that has just entered the workplace, one thing you definitely know is that the workplace is like a battlefield. The risk is no less than any difficult battle, but the bulletproof vest or all kinds of heavy equipment. Worth, you have to admit that you have a good psychological warfare. Those things are all clouds. So, today, I will teach you all the psychological hints in the workplace, so that you can mature in the workplace for 10 years and struggle for 30 years.
First: Don't think that staying in the comfort zone of the mind is forgiving. Everyone has a comfortable area. In this area, they are very self-willing to be disturbed, unwilling to be pushed, and unwilling to talk to strange faces. I don't want to be accused, I don't want to do things according to the prescribed time limit, I don't want to take care of others on my own initiative, I don't want to think about others and I don't think about it. This is easy to understand in the student days. Sometimes such students are also smeared with the words "cold" and "personality". On the contrary, after work, you have to try to change this situation. Otherwise, you will quickly become the only person at the cocktail party who has no one to ignore, or quickly endocrine disorders due to stress. However, if you can quickly break the comfort zone of the previous student period and handle the relationship between business, interpersonal and public opinion faster than others, it will quickly stand out.
At the meeting, a person who stays in the comfort zone of the heart will passively listen to the words of the leader, passively stand by, and finish the things that the superiors handed over, but never care about anything other than this, and will not think much more. Take a step and make it easier for others to get started. Those who dare to break this comfortable area dare to put forward their own opinions and do not understand at the appropriate time, and after the approval and guidance of the superiors, they will complete the work as soon as possible, and accept criticism and adjustment from others at any time.
At work, the current person meets a new colleague who will pretend not to see and continue his work. I don’t know that the newcomer soon became his boss. The latter is generous and self-introduction, and understands the relationship between the other party and himself.
At the party, the former always waits for someone to speak, and likes to comment on the other party's words in private; if there is no one on the table, no one knows you until the end of the meal. The latter is a brave and start-up introduction and chat with the meal. It seems difficult, sometimes it will lose face, but often you will find out how much the other party hopes to say a few words.
The above are just a few examples, but it should be noted that while college students are out of the campus, they must drive away the “arbitraryness” of the campus from their work, and rush out of their comfort zone as soon as possible. Good preparation for communication with this society.
Second: Don't put "like"; "someone will..."; "probably"; "later"; "or"; "maybe" and so on. Especially when talking about work with my superiors, I hate to hear the words: "I will send this file to all people later"; because this often indicates that I must always remind him not to forget. Again, the following words can be disgusting:
"Sometimes someone will prepare those things."
"Probably tomorrow"
"Customers will come to visit tomorrow or the day after tomorrow"
"It seems like he said..."
Usually people will talk like this, because this first leaves a broad room for themselves, and the second will not cause a great sense of oppression to others, as if something must be made. To be honest, half of the people who work hard in the university are mixed. A person is either mixed in the classroom or mixed after class. There are no people with mixed colors, either super cattle or neuropathy. Therefore, because everyone is mixed, the campus is a romantic place, and the campus is easy to be simple. Therefore, the work of student associations is often inefficient. I now think of the work done in the school. At that time, I felt that I was very hard, but after I started working, I began to feel what efficiency was. When you enter the place where money is used to calculate time, you should avoid the habit of being developed in school as much as possible. If the superior asks you when you can implement the promise you gave him, and your answer to "Tonight or Tomorrow morning" is exactly the same for him, you have not answered, and left a bad impression on him.
There is a fable story, a little mouse just came out soon, the mouse mother asked the little mouse: Can you see it now? The little mouse said: Yes. Mouse mother said: Can you see that sweet potato? The little mouse said: Yes. The mouse mother said: It is a stone, which means that you can not see things, you have not even smelled.
A plausible response often reveals more of your weaknesses. May be one or more of the following:
1. You didn't think of this job before, or have been delaying.
2. You have no sense of responsibility and think that it is not important.
3. You deal with the superior.
4. You dare not tell the truth.
5. You like to be able to promise something that you can't do.
6. You can't work independently.
When your superior is suspected in the above options, you have all the above weaknesses in the subconscious.
On the contrary, such an answer always irritates the boss.
First, his question has not been answered, but it has played a role in reminding you.
Second, he still needs to remember to remind you, because he does not know if you have actually implemented the work.
Third, he does not know how many of the things you have already done are not implemented.
Fourth, often because the boss did not get a satisfactory answer, the boss's own plan had to be delayed or delayed or could not give a clear end time.
and so---------
A: When can you fix this vulnerability?
B said: I have already notified them, they will probably come to repair tomorrow.
One day later, A: When does the maintenance company come back, which maintenance company are you looking for?
B said: It seems that they said that there is no way to come out. If you can, come over this evening or tomorrow afternoon.
One day later, A asked: How has the vulnerability been repaired?
B said: I will ask them later.
A said: I will not solve it until this afternoon, and I will not be used to work tomorrow.
Third: Don't delay work Many people like to choose the latter between learning and playing, and then at the last time, they will rush to complete the exam to review the things to be reviewed. But please don't develop such a habit at work, because work can never be done, and you can't let you "shock." Or, when you are implementing the 徘徊 and 彷徨, your leader can't stand it and do it yourself. ---- This is a dangerous signal.
Often we always want to think about everything from beginning to end, only to start the first step ----- fell.
for example:
When I was young, when I called my favorite girl for the first time, I imagined various situations -------
1. She is doing homework when she answers the phone. 2, she is doing homework, her mother answered the phone. 3. She is also very bored and wants to talk to someone. 4. She is being reprimanded by her parents. 5. She is thinking about another boy. 6. Her father answered the phone. 7. Her family just happened to be a relative, and the relatives took the call. 8. She took the call, but her parents were around and it was not convenient to talk. . . . . Etc., etc. I thought about it for one afternoon and thought about the psychological preparation and coping strategies of various situations. Then bravely picked up the phone and pressed the buttons. The result ------- she is not at home.
So, when you are stunned and confused, you have to realize that you are delaying your work. The trick is because you are afraid of the consequences of this happening and you have to bear or cope with it. I need a minimum of self-confidence when I work, I believe that I have the ability, no matter what the next step is, I can guide it to the line I need. In addition, tell yourself, don't think too much time, if you don't know, hurry for help, or find a way, distress and anxiety will give you more pressure will also eat away the rest of the time.
In addition, warn: Never think about it, I know, let's put the things of the superiors first, and wait for this episode of "Prison Break" to read. ----90% of the cases, you will forget, or too late, because this thing needs more time than you originally imagined. It is always a good habit to do it.
Fourth: Don't think that you can implement it in theory!
This is too important, and often when the people who actually implement it start doing it, they will find that the plan is exactly equal to the ghost. If you don't practice it yourself, the person who plans to do it will be scorned sooner or later. Always need to improve your ability to do real things, not empty talk.
First of all, if you are working in the office, or planning and planning. Please don't take things that you think are unlikely or difficult to do, let others try. For example, use an afternoon to hold an open-air singing session in a place with low traffic. This will make the executive feel that you are playing with him and taking him to experiment. Yes, in theory, singing can be held anywhere, but in different places, the mood of the person performing is different.
Second, discuss your arrangements with the executive. For example, if you are a newcomer, you can arrange for her to sit anywhere, but if it is a corner that is difficult to get in touch with, it may be worse than nothing. Indeed, in theory, one person needs to sit down and only need space. But in fact it is far more than those.
Again, don't expect everything to go along with your plan. In theory, this meeting will last for two hours, but this is the state of "not considering the microphones in the 30 minutes after the opening", or "there is no such a sharp problem under the field." College students have become accustomed to the extent to which things "beautifully look beautiful." Papers, ppt presentations, exams, debates... These campus IQ competitions are all about teaching us how to do a good job of "paper talk". You must believe that your ability to "get" things is weaker than you think.
If you are a student at school, test yourself and see if you can do the following:
1. The school wants to make a uniform, you go to find a supplier, bargain, at least three companies offer.
2. School preservation to seize a student stealing, how to deal with it?
3. The streetlight of a very important section of the school is broken. Can you let it continue to light up in three days?
4. The cafeteria needs to invite a chef who specializes in halal cooking, and arrives in the post within a week.
When you start thinking about the above problems, you will find that his ideas and "seeing the performance trend of the company in the past two years, making a marketing plan for the next quarter" are very different. You will find that the latter as long as you do "look perfect", no one knows what will happen according to what you do. As long as you think about the above work, you will feel a lot of pressure. Because you don't deal with it, the result is obvious failure. Bigger problems will happen one after another.
By the way, this feeling is the feeling of "work" for you! This is the difference between "work" and "paper talk"!
Fifth: Don't let others wait for you under any circumstances. Don't let others put down the work at hand to wait for you. In college, it may be just a few half-joking complaints from people in the bedroom, which may lead to the loss of your potential partners at work.
You must know the progress of others while you are doing a job, and never fall behind.
This is not like an exam. You are slower than others. Others can hand in the volume first. If you don’t finish the time, you can take the penalty. The situation at work is this: This is an exam that no one can finish. All the people are assigned to different parts of the test paper. Some people are divided into reading comprehension. Some people do it. When you fill in the blanks, some people do the grammar... Then everyone finishes copying each other, so that everyone is done. If everyone has finished their own parts, and you are still not finished, then others who do fast will start to do your part of the topic, and then copy each other. Slowly, you will find that your workload can be replaced by another person. You don't need you in the whole team. At this time, no one will get the answer from the test paper, and no one will give you their answer. ------- Unfortunately, you have not used value.
Please remember this example.
Sixth: Don't think that the details are not important. In college, you often do things with a lot of things. Just look at it. Instead, the essence of management in the enterprise is to do simple things to the details. A rush to find the key to the safe is likely to lose your chance to be promoted to the treasurer.
The company's management, in fact, does not need to do 90% of the hard things - for example, optimize the core management process of the management, change the company's image in front of the local government, improve product quality, improve the working environment ...... And management has to do 100% of every simple thing-----for example, the company’s files are stored neatly according to certain rules, and a signing of a foreign person is set up at the guard. Taiwan, take away the extra chairs in the conference room, and talk to the TV station. The company will make an interview next Wednesday, send the trial clothes to the customers, add a mouth to the coffee produced, and take photos of the next cover. ...and so on. If you can do all the details of the problem, then you have the cost of opening a job.
Many people don't know what they are going to do when they graduate, so they say to themselves: I will manage it later! Do management? Ask yourself, if the company's assets are stolen, all employees have low morale, the office is messy, the company's elevator is broken, the printer is out of ink, the purchase plan is overrun, the product is slow, the customer is late... you are willing Solve such problems and start from small things? Think about it and then consider whether to look at the space hole in management.
Seventh: Don't be negative, just because what you are doing is not your interest.
Obviously, in the student era, when we do what we like, we will pay 200% of the effort to create, but if it is a boring business, we will not bother to deal with it, it is best to have a way to cope with the past. But 80% of what you do at work is cumbersome and seemingly mechanical. If you just feel unhappy about it, then you will be depressed for a long time. To know that your boss is already upset about this project, do you want him to see your expression?
Learn to like your work and focus on what you can learn in your daily work. If you are now working hard to complain about work, then you are trying to find a job. Try to use words like "fun" and "curious" to describe the work you want, but to "enrich", "having a sense of accomplishment", "happy" and the like.
Think about the following positions, you will find that a lot of work in life is not something that makes you do very well when you have a good state:
1. Toll collectors of highway toll gates: One day is to face a small window, send a card out, this will last for several years.
2. School cafeteria chef: always burn big platters and chicken legs. Burn for a year.
3. Writer: The delivery period is coming, I am still inspiring, and I have not had breakfast for two weeks.
4. Surgeon: I just fell asleep and asked me to do a 3-hour operation. This is at least once a week.
5. Sales in the sales department: The product is not easy to sell. At 8 o'clock, it is sitting at the door of the store. One person, sitting at 6 o'clock in the evening, there is no one today, just like yesterday.
6. Bus driver: I don't have to drive you. I have been driving this line for three years.
7. Pet store clerk: Business is not good, but also come to listen to the sound of 20 dogs all day long, listen to a year.
8. Company staff: Get off work at two o'clock in the evening and go to work at 8 o'clock the next day. The key is to have an hour on the road. This has been a month.
Think about whether you have only been in contact with this job for a month or have encountered few difficulties. At this time, you complained the most.
Don't think about choosing an interesting career because there is no such job. No "species" industry is happy, because if there is, then everyone will do it. Try to ask yourself about your own interests.
Eighth: Never put the ability to improve work only on the company training. It is absolutely impossible to reinvent the train after a training. On the contrary, what is learned in group training is often the most useless information. Just like the canteen burning big pot dishes, there is always no dish you want to eat, because it is easy to do and it is not easy to offend people.
Many students value the training of the selected company. This means that you don't know what the company is doing, you don't even know how to learn these skills.
My perception is that if you don't know how to learn the knowledge you want, or what you want, you will only do two things:
1. Wait for someone to teach you and wait for someone to discover something you don't know.
2. Find ready-made answers and copy them. People who are looking forward to company training are very likely to be the first kind of people. Many students have this habit thinking:
Because, the degree to which the company’s training can end up is because this degree is exactly what I want to achieve, so I tried to enter this company because I entered this company, so it naturally made me reach this level of hope. .
We equated the training and the naive paintings. In fact, the information obtained from collective training is often the least practical value. Never expect to listen to the class alone, rely on the teacher to give the same thing to all people, you will get more than others. Putting more thoughts on observing and thinking about your own needs, finding the place where the problem lies, and then getting the answers through observation and practice is the real knowledge.
So, just starting work, nothing will happen, don't think that is normal, because the company has not been trained yet! After I have received the training, I will be all over. If you know nothing and wait for others to pity your ignorance and give you your knowledge, then you will pay more IQ for your ignorance.
Ninth: Do not shirk responsibility to shirk responsibility is a conditional reflection of fear. Don't think that others can't see this.
I remember one thing in my country. I didn't bring a homework, the teacher would reprimand me and said: Why do you always do your homework?
I said at the time: No. . . . When I was about to support my teacher, the teacher said: What is not? Did you bring it?
I said: No teacher said: It is not without! What is not! That is!
After that, I found out that I was just afraid of taking responsibility and said "No" when I was conditioned. If you look closely around, you will find that there are countless people around you who use "No" as the first reaction after being questioned.
In fact, many people face the same work now. When the superiors blame, the conditional reflexes make a shirking action. However, such actions are often weak arguments and some very rough excuses. This will make your boss feel that you are difficult to communicate, and it is not true.
Another situation is that no matter what the circumstances, I blame a person, he always emphasizes objective. In fact, this is the most typical characteristic of students. This shows that he is too susceptible to other things and is determined by them. If the following types of conversations will occur between you and your boss, think about whether you need to change your approach.
A: Why haven't you seen your report to the vice president yet!
B: I just printed it. I am waiting for him to finish. Now he is probably better. Let me go and see B: There is something to be modified. B: I have to give things to the vice president. I am waiting for him. B: a He said that I don't have to report to the vice president to see B: I don't know if the vice president is not there, his door is closed.
B: d he asked me to help him print the file! Blame him!
B: My cup suddenly disappeared, looking for a cup.
The disadvantage of a person who is unwilling to be responsible is that he will let his boss doubt his loyalty, because the orders given to him by the boss are often put on hold or discounted because of a small thing, and instead are changed by the consciousness of others.
Tenth: Don't say "I am a college student" to myself
This contains a lot of information.
1. Don't think how high you are.
2. Don't still demand yourself as a student's standard
3. Don't feel inferior
4. Don't wait for the care of others
5. Don't use this as an excuse to make mistakes and self-comfort
6. Don't forget to figure out how much the company is giving yourself and being veteran. This is not a volunteer.
Character is the basis for handling interpersonal relationships and the key to ensuring the quality of interpersonal relationships. In addition, interpersonal skills are especially important. Some people will be grateful for doing good things, but some people may help others but may not be thankful, not only will not be grateful and reward, but also make people hate. Selling the same product to the same customer at the same price, some salesmen may be rushed out of the door, and some salesmen may sign in the big order, or even be regarded as a guest by the customer.
The skills of interpersonal communication are a very complicated topic. I am afraid that I can only do some simple enumeration with my personal experience here. It is inevitable to hang a leak.
1. Give others encouragement and praise, try to avoid criticism, accusation and complaints, and do not force others to admit their mistakes.
2. Learn to listen. Don't talk too much, find ways to let others say more.
3. If you want to join someone else's conversation, you must first figure out what others are saying.
4. Try to be neutral and objective before talking. Before you show your inclination, you must first understand the true tendency of the other party.
5. Pay attention to each other's social habits and properly imitate them.
6. Do not easily interrupt, correct, or supplement other people's conversations.
7. When others have difficulties, take the initiative to help, and encourage more.
8. Don't pay attention to etiquette because the other person is a relative.
9. Talk as much as possible about what others want and teach him how to get what he wants.
10. Always treat people with a smile.
11. Be a person with a sense of humor. But don't just laugh at yourself when you are telling a joke.
12. Be a person who is out of the low-level taste.
13. When you talk to others, try to look at each other's eyes, whether you are talking or listening.
14. Transfer topics to avoid traces.
15. Learn to listen to each other's extraneous sounds. Also learn to euphemistically express your meaning through the sound of the strings.
16. Visiting others must be notified in advance.
17. Don't call when others may be busy with work or rest. Unless it is a very urgent matter.
18. When calling someone, first ask if the other party is convenient for the call.
19. One thing that makes two people aware is no longer a secret.
20. You are behind the scenes saying that anyone's bad words will come to this person's ear one day sooner or later.
21. Don't say bitter words.
22. Keep in mind the names of others. Develop the habit of occasionally looking through the business card book and phone book.
23. Try to interact with people you hate.
24. Be sure to respect each other's privacy, whether it is a friend or a husband and wife.
25. When many people are together, when you talk to one of them, please don't ignore the existence of others.
26. Be brave enough to admit your mistakes.
27. Face everyone around you with humility.
28. Give others compassion and understanding.
29. Replace “commands” with “recommendations” whenever possible.
30. Don't make promises easily. The promised things must be done as much as possible.