Don't let hate ruin your career

Don't let hate ruin your career <br /> Xiao A recently looked at his colleague Xiao B is not comfortable, when the two were the same as the business manager, the relationship is not bad, but in a few days, small B He will be appointed as the director of the company's East China region, and control the sales business in the entire East China region, directly becoming his boss.
This incident made Xiao A very unhappy. Because, the salary of Xiao B has risen a lot, and he has to report to Xiao B in the future. If you switch to another person, maybe the little A will not be so uncomfortable. In his opinion, he graduated from the business administration department of a prestigious university and had a wealth of work experience. At the time, the company hired him from other companies with high salary; while Xiao B did not have any qualifications in school, major, or entry. Compared with himself, the law now sits in a position higher than him. It is really tolerable and unbearable.
"I don't do it!" Xiao A submitted his application for resignation and went home to sleep.
Xiao A’s father used to be a boss of a state-owned enterprise. He is now retiring at home. He had eaten this day. He called Xiao A to the study and asked, “What happened to you these days? How to resign the work?”
When I heard my father ask, Xiao A immediately vented his dissatisfaction.
When the father saw his son, he asked Xiao A and said, "Do you still remember that when the company digs you up as a manager, the conditions for you are very attractive. I remember that you said that at that time. You are also very hated there, but you hold on, and the performance later makes others have nothing to say, just because you are seated in the company's position. And now you are jealous of your colleagues, then I ask you, What is the difference between you and the colleague who attacked you from the beginning? What you should think about is: Why does the company choose Small B and not choose itself? Compared with Little B, what is not inferior to him. If you can't figure this out, then I am sure that when you apply for other companies, you still can't get through this level."
After the father said this, he closed the door and went out. Xiao A was sitting in the room for a long time. The next day, he went out for an interview, hired a sales manager from another company, and then did the vice president of the company in less than two years. He often said to his subordinates: "Don't let hatred ruin your career."
This story reflects a very real problem in the workplace: hate, then what is hate? Resentment and jealousy about the talents of others are derogatory terms. On the road to the workplace, how can you hate so much hatred? Once hatred becomes a drag on you, can you go far?
From a psychological point of view, "workplace snoring" often implies a lot of deep psychological reasons. People with "workplace snoring" often have the following psychological symptoms:
I lived in a big family. I used to compete with my brothers and sisters for the care and love of my parents. I always feel that my parents love my compatriots rather than myself. I feel wronged and unfair. When I am an adult, I will unconsciously express my childhood feelings for my compatriots and my parents. Transferring to colleagues and leaders always feels that leaders prefer colleagues and they are treated unfairly.
People who are too creative in their pursuit of perfection are too strong. They always want to control everything around them. When they find things that don't follow them, when they see that leaders and colleagues are not under his control, they will feel anxiety and psychological imbalance.

People with "narcissism" personality are often neglected children. When they are adults, they always desire others to pay attention to, understand and praise him. Others can serve him, but how can they do everything in the work environment? Therefore, the leader’s normal concern for his colleagues may bring him “narcissistic damage”, which will arouse jealousy and anger.
Other people have the characteristics of paranoia. They always assume that others are malicious. They always feel that they are being attacked. They wear colored glasses to look at the world. They are also easy to slap their eyes at others. They feel that colleagues are pleased with leadership. He is right, and he is worried and hateful for this.
For those who are more hateful, I would like to give you a few suggestions. If you want to try it, you can let you say goodbye to the bad habits of hatred. From then on, open a bright road for you:
The first is to "be yourself as someone else";
The second is to "take others as yourself";
The third is to "put others as others";
The fourth is to "take yourself as yourself";
Fifth, for those who have a general psychology in the workplace, they should take an open-minded mind to see the world and work hard to do their own work. For others' problems, adopting the attitude of “going with him” and letting it go naturally will reduce many unnecessary troubles.