The winners of life are often repaired

Everyone has a past, maybe you are experiencing, you don't even know what love is, just fantasy, expectation. At that time, you still believed in love at first sight. I believe that the Qiongyao-style mountain is incomparable to the love of the monarch, and I believe that the perfect man in the Korean drama will give you perfect love, even if you are ordinary. This feeling is like buying a lottery ticket. In fact, the winning rate is almost zero, but it is always better than not buying more hope. You look at those who complain that they never believe in love, and it is often the easiest to get deep every time.

Slowly, you will find that there may be people who are passionate about your love, but in the end, they still succumb to reality and go their separate ways. Maybe you will meet Du Minjun Xi, but you still have to face when I am old, my hair is white, my face is pleated, what about his 20-something face? He won’t have Do you think that? Will he still love me? At that time, how do people say it? How do you let me accept it? This is the thinking of our normal people. We often encounter difficulties and immediately compromise, so there is no true love. It’s three things to be sure of true love. Many people did not encounter it, but gave up in the process. We deceive ourselves and say that regret is another beauty.

This year's special outdoor reality show, Li Xiaopeng talked about his love in the interview program. He loved his wife at first sight. Then he made a variety of opportunities to meet and use the monthly salary to buy a phone call to make an overseas call. In order to communicate with her who grew up in the United States, he made you believe that love from the first sight to overcome the love of distant places and language barriers. He wanted to win the championship and he won the gold medal. He liked this girl and married her. His perseverance not only created the world champion, but he is still the winner of life in terms of feelings.

If you want to win, you should first learn to compromise. The object of compromise is not yourself, but the other party. You must respect each other's nature. Men are born to be more independent, prefer a quiet atmosphere, and girls like to pursue gorgeous, lively, romantic life, they like to stick people, let people accompany. At this point, if you can do some independent space that he wants to be right, respect some of his habits, don't deny some of his principles, and he is willing to give you a lot of care, gentleness, romance, companionship. The warm man, this is the compromise of each other, the basis of compromise is love.

Often in the 20s and 30s, I have met many different sexes and talked about love. You will know more about what kind of feelings you want and who can form a family. At this time, often everyone's three views and habits have been developed, unlike when you were a child, you trained him to learn to paint, you trained her to learn dance, and listened to all of you to learn. When we grow up, we all have our own personality and pride. We don't want to do things we don't like, so it is almost impossible for you to change each other. The so-called change is that the other party is compromising for you.

Singer Zhang Yao said that she is extremely uncomfortable when she is newly married. For example, the other party washes her face and splashes water everywhere. Her Cancer is neat and tidy, and she can't stand this kind of behavior. Later she talked to him. He said that this can't be avoided. She can only wipe it clean after he washes it. Actor Jiang Qinqin said that when her husband brushed his teeth, he would drive a faucet. When she was on the side, she would feel distressed by the water. When she saw it, he would turn it off, but the next time it would open the same stream. She thought of a way to screw the valve that controls the water to the minimum. When he used it again, the water flow was small and she was comfortable. For example, if the toilet lid is closed or opened, the above problems are almost in every family. Some people will choose to keep complaining and even make a big move. We say that the details defeat the love, everyone wants to live comfortably, can't stand the bickering of the flesh, the time will hurt the feelings, the man will be a woman, the woman will not be a long-term memory. The basis of understanding is to do the part of yourself first, then to guide each other, to cooperate with each other, some words will be harsh when you listen to it, and some behaviors are not appropriate, you change your posture, as long as you love this People, want to go on, smart people are using the mind to promote the growth of feelings. In fact, we fall in love, step into marriage is the second development, from the self out, with a crappy attitude to learn, to experience.

My grandmother is careless and outward, and my grandfather is introverted. This is exactly what we say. But you have to know that the other layer of complementarity is the opposite, so many times you are not accustomed to each other's practices, naturally there will be differences and quarrels. Every time my grandfather is more real, the grandmother does not hear, nor is angry or vengeful. Why should she do it, like a ignorant person, she knows that her grandfather is tempered, not right, let him make things clear. He is comfortable in his heart. Grandma likes to watch TV dramas. Grandpa likes to watch sports games. Later, Grandma followed her grandfather to watch the ball. Now she is more enthusiastic about sports channels than her grandfather. Nowadays, the lives of two people, even the taste of eating things are the same, unconsciously become an inseparable whole. In the past two years, my grandmother’s brain atrophy has become worse and worse. When my grandfather started to cook, she would slap a note in her grandmother’s clothes pocket, which said that she could not find a home. Grandpa never eats chicken, but grandma is very fond of eating. The grandfather goes to the supermarket to buy chicken legs for her and watch her eat. Grandma doesn't eat fish, but her grandfather loves it very much. The grandmother will gradually eat the fish with her grandfather's taste.

Compromise is not a party's tolerance, and one party will make a gesture first, and the other will make a corresponding change. If two people do not let anyone, and push the responsibility to the other party, this day will not go on. Once a problem occurs, the two calmly talk about it, how to solve such problems in the future, how to avoid letting them happen, or find a solution acceptable to each other. I talked about a love, the other party often has no power on the phone outside, and then righteously said, I did not mean it. Going out to eat with friends, often going home at eleven o'clock in the middle of the night. In the middle hours, you called him and he didn't pick up. When he got home, he remembered to give it back, or he said that the phone is dead, or no. Seeing that it was a little late, his mouth was always a sentence. I didn't mean it. He never felt that he was doing something wrong. Even once, chatting with a female colleague, the phone still has no power, disappearing from 4 to 5 in the evening to 11:00 in the evening. His explanation is that this woman is dressed like a boy. He has no distractions. Just a friend chatting downstairs. This kind of thing happens repeatedly, I can't figure out how this kind of wonders? The girlfriend is not worried about not listening to it outside at night, what do you want to do, disappear for no reason, you are angry with him. He doesn't understand impatientness. It's a big bit of something, and it makes you tolerant, so that you don't care about it, don't get angry. I understand that I can accommodate you once and twice, you are not doing it right, I tell you about my thoughts, then you can find ways to overcome and avoid, if the phone is dead, you can borrow a friend to send me a newsletter or call A phone call, don't worry, who I am with, wait for home and then contact, if there is an urgent need to call this number in advance. Rather than just ignoring any difficulties, if you want to live with two people, you must consider each other's feelings. This is maturity.

For quarrels, the female side can do it. I don’t make a lot of noise. I sit down calmly and talk to you, and reason, then you yell at me, we are as good as ever, this is made by a woman. compromise. The temperament character is not changed, but because love can be controlled. For men, the reason for quarrels must be related to you. It may be that you are not doing well. It may be that you are doing something wrong, doing bad things and doing well, doing the wrong places to avoid, not one. Again, the long-term non-long-term death does not change, this is a compromise made by men.

When people sleep, they will unconsciously choose the most comfortable posture. In fact, the same is true for people. The choice may be completed in a short time, and the action needs a lasting state. Except for a few people born with a golden key, most elite goddess winners are practicing the same day. If you want the devil's body, many people will give up food. If you want a happy love, a happy family, it is time for you to Think about it, what can you do for your lover? What kind of tolerance? How to cooperate with this growth?

Peace and joy, don't forget your peace of mind.