Yu Minhong: Happiness is a choice

Yu Minhong: Happiness is a choice

With the arrival of the New Year, the students were busy after a semester, and the winter vacation in 2019 is about to open their arms to the students. The "happy time" of the winter vacation is extremely exciting and anticipating.
Grasping the present, pursuing happiness <br /> Happiness and current happiness are two concepts. For example, a person who has not eaten meat for several days, eats a piece of meat, has not eaten fruit for several days, and eats an apple. This is the happiness of the present, and does not constitute a whole happy person, but a small part. . People are such an animal. Sometimes, for the sake of greater happiness in the future, they will sacrifice part of the happiness of the moment. For example, so many students come to New Oriental to study during the winter vacation. In part, they sacrificed the happy time of returning home during the winter vacation and relaxing. Why are you coming to study in New Oriental? Everyone understands that it is easier to achieve your goals in the future because of a winter vacation.
People undergoing a process is part of happiness, and achieving the desired result in the future is also part of happiness. What does this mean? A student who studies on the winter vacation, he can't learn with a painful attitude. If he learns with a painful attitude, it is equivalent to eliminating a kind of happiness in the current learning process. In this case, even in order to achieve a certain goal, he still feels very painful. Most New Oriental students actually have the ability to transform the hard learning itself into a kind of happiness, because he combines this hard study with his own progress and future goals to make a huge Power and gas field, so that I can immerse myself in this feeling, and finally become fond of learning.
When a person likes to learn and is willing to immerse themselves, then learning itself constitutes a huge happiness. Therefore, a student who wants to complete a goal of winter vacation or a future goal should not only fight for the goal, but combine it with the happiness of the present, that is, to bring happiness to the present happiness and the future. Together, it constitutes a sense of well-being in which one continues to move forward and toward the future. Many New Oriental winter vacation classes have such abilities. Most of them are willing to give up the rest of the winter vacation and choose to study. Of course, there are also some students who are forced to learn by their parents. For this part of the people, one of the things he has to do is how to "transform". Since being forced to learn is already an irreversible behavior, the best way is to turn the mind that is supposed to be painful, through your own active efforts, to adjust your mindset and become a happy learning process.
Set goals, happy to achieve

There are two points to be aware of when setting goals: The first point is that you cannot set goals that you can't accomplish because the size of this goal is related to your ability. People often make a mistake, that is, they will set a goal that they may not reach. For example, some people say that I have to recite 10,000 English words for winter vacation, or say that I have hundreds of articles on my back, or read dozens of articles. This book, these are the goals that cannot be achieved. If you don't reach your goal, even if you complete part of it, it will bring you a sense of frustration. People have too much frustration in life, and the power will be reduced accordingly. It’s like climbing a mountain. When you come up, you have to go to Mount Everest. Generally speaking, there is definitely no return.
If you want to study during the winter vacation, first of all, the goal should be set to be a goal that can be achieved after a precise time calculation and an assessment of your ability. At the end of the winter vacation, you will find yourself achieving this goal and your mood will be more enjoyable. I don't advocate that students give themselves a super-stressed goal in a short period of time, such as winter vacation, because this pressure will slowly bring tension and anxiety to them.
Achieving big goals requires a phased approach and a clear concept of time. I think that when dividing the target, it is best not to exceed five years. Three years is already very good. Plan what you should do every year, then decompose it into every month, and finally it may be broken down into every day. May be broken down into a certain stage. For example, if you break down the goal and plan the time, this winter holiday does not matter even if you don't study. The winter vacation itself is the time for people to rest. I don't advocate that students study every day for 365 days. It's like a bow has been stretched and never relaxed. After a few years, you will find that when you relax it, you can't come back because the bow is already Lost flexibility.
I can study when I am on a winter vacation, but I also recommend that students have a few days, such as the Spring Festival, to relax completely. It is irrelevant to play at home, greet parents, visit friends, or sleep in bed. Let the whole mood relax for a few days, and then go back to study, the efficiency and effect is often better.
Perseverance, cultivating thinking habits <br /> A foundation for the establishment of goals is rationality, which means that people must rationally set goals, not sensibility. Once the target is set up, you can't change it at will, you can't give up, or even go beyond the goal. For example, your goal is to recite 100 words a day. You can't say that I am very happy when I have 10 backs. I say 100 is 100, and you have to back 110, so you will feel that you have not only reached it. The goal is to surpass the goal and the mood will be very pleasant. This is why when the goal is set, it is impossible to set a goal that exceeds its own ability and cannot be achieved at all. In addition, when accomplishing the goal, we must pay attention to the method, because the quality of the method is closely related to the efficiency of the goal. Some people back 100 words in two hours, and some people can finish it in 40 minutes. This is the problem of learning methods.
A person's habits are divided into thinking habits and daily habits. The habit of thinking is that one should be accustomed to thinking about what is a big thing in life, which is the most important thing for himself, and to exclude as much as possible the trivial things in daily life. Once a person enters a trivial state, his eyes will only focus on those trivial things, and will not look farther. Therefore, thinking habits must learn to think about their own big things, for example, what should I do in college for four years? What should I do after I graduate from college? What is the goal? What can I do to achieve this goal? Develop this habit of thinking, go through it every day, and warn yourself if you are thinking about small things and doing small things.
If a person pays too much attention to small things, he will be killed by these little things in his life, and finally become a mediocre person. However, if a person can pay attention to the big event, although some small things are not perfect, but because the big direction is right, it will definitely go further. Therefore, the habit of thinking should go far and far, and the behavior habits should go to the practical side.
Learn to be effective, play and have fun. <br /> There are several types of winter vacations I have experienced. There is a type of winter vacation that is especially fun to play, it is in childhood. The school is on winter vacation, ready for the New Year, waiting for Mom and Dad to make rice cakes, make tofu, buns, waiting for Mom and Dad to buy a few pounds of meat with limited money at home, to set off firecrackers and play poker with children, especially happy New Year. , I don't want to learn anything. These are especially good memories of childhood.
There is also a winter holiday that is particularly bitter, but it is especially a winter vacation with a sense of accomplishment. This kind of winter vacation was experienced in the three years of my college entrance examination. Because I wanted to go to college, I didn’t have a good winter vacation. I basically tried hard to learn. In the third year, even on the New Year's Eve and the New Year's Day, I have to learn more than ten hours a day. I don't go out at all, and I am going to recite texts at home. On the New Year's Day of that year, I went back from 6 am to 6 pm, and I had a full six texts, and I was very familiar with it.
After entering the university, I went home on the first and second day of the New Year's Day. But when I was in my junior year and senior year, because of writing a thesis, I didn't go back for a winter vacation, on the campus of Peking University. After a particularly lonely winter vacation. Later, I think this is also an experience of growing up. Just like many students stay in school during the winter vacation or come to the New Oriental to study. They are unaccompanied and have five or six hours of classes every day. There is a sense of "sorrowfulness" in their hearts. But this kind of tragicness is part of the growth of people, and I think it is especially important.
After working, I was indifferent to the winter vacation. After getting married, just go with your family and take a few books to have a look. But since the New Oriental, the winter vacation is different. After the New Oriental, probably since 1995, New Oriental has students from all over the country coming to Beijing to report classes. I usually go to class during the winter vacation, and rest in the middle for three or four days. During the period, the New Year's Eve will usually go with the students, singing and dancing. Generally, I will have to go to the early morning of the New Year's Day. I will have a good night's sleep on the New Year's Day. On the third day of the New Year's Day, I will carry a schoolbag to the students. It is. That time was to mingle with the students, and now New Oriental has the tradition of consoling students in the New Year.
You must learn well during winter vacation and play well. If you want to work hard on winter vacation, then you will learn from the winter vacation. In the future, you will feel that this winter vacation is worthwhile. If you just want to play, don’t worry about this winter vacation, “wasting” some time and let yourself play. Have fun, come back and study harder with a happy mood.