Why do you hate when you open your mouth?

One of my classmates, Xiao Zhang, often commented when someone talked about something: "This thing is boring!"

The male student played a very happy game of mobile games. He said, "You play with such a mentally retarded game? It’s completely boring." The female classmate recently watched the Korean drama. He said: "The Korean drama is the most boring, so the silly story you also watch. ? The fool sees the Korean drama."

A friend said that the company recently went to a certain place to travel, he said: "The place is not interesting, there is nothing to look at, it is a waste of time to waste money. No brains to go to that place."

In short, no matter what others say, he will attack others saying "this thing is boring", and then tell a series of reasons, as if he knows everything, while others are wrong, the choice is rubbish, but also add two personal attacks if.

But in fact, no matter whether he is right or wrong, everyone does not want to listen, and he does not want to chat with him anymore and share anything. He is too arrogant and likes to belittle others' hobbies. In his view, only what he likes is "interesting", and others like "not interesting."

Others are coming to share one thing with you. It is not hard to discuss with you what reason, you are casually saying, fluttering, and irresponsible, you will smother the hobby of others. This is very disrespectful to people.

What you think is "not interesting" does not mean that there is no value in existence. You like to be different, and don't arbitrarily devalue others. Interests and hobbies are not high or low. Even if the other party's preferences are really bad, you may not like to listen to you.

Another thing that Xiao Zhang can't answer is that someone else shares something with him, but he has to say another thing to compare with others. He must beat others and let others swear.

Some students said: "This year the company spent a lot of money." He immediately said: "What is this, an internationally renowned company will spend hundreds of millions of dollars this year." Some students said: "I tested a certain two days ago. The certificate was finally admitted." He immediately said: "The certificate has a fart. Many people have tested this year."

Others share one thing with you in good intentions, just want to tell you, share his joy, excitement, gossip, not to show off with you. This kind of motion is more than trying the mentality of the test, no wonder no one wants to be friends with him.

Who wants to share something with you, he immediately takes another thing to suppress your speech. Good mood is gone.

People often share their lives. You can't wait to tell everyone that you have seen the world, to grab someone else's topic, to imply that others "you are too outdated, this is nothing", I believe no one will want to talk to you again. Share anything.

Sometimes listening is enough. Talking is normal. But please don't be high-profile, self-righteous. Others may not know.

Everyone is chatting, sharing, gossip, joke, not in a meeting, not in a competition, and who is more knowledgeable.

Communicate with people Remember the first point: respect others. I think that I understand this very well, but I am always in a position to talk about it. It is really necessary to reflect on it. Including you and me.

Even if you are really powerful, smart, don't be too explicit. It is the most basic courtesy to treat people with peace.

Others may not like your cleverness and excellence, but your attitude of being too savvy is offensive. Some people are very smart and look down on people. What they say is a taste of "others are wastes." This is the IQ of high intelligence and low business, and does not know how to communicate with others.

It is a pity that the vast majority of real life situations are: they are half-hanging, but they are still pretentious, arrogant and arrogant, and demeaning others, it is simply a typical example of no IQ plus emotional intelligence.

Still my classmate Xiao Zhang’s business.

People often share one thing. This is not very good for others. Anyone who knows how to communicate with others knows that others are wrong. You can tell the other party the right way.

He prefers to add some comments first: "How are you so stupid", "You are not so simple", "This thing is too simple", "This way... This way... Not enough", "It's too easy" The tone of "no trouble at all" rose, and the tone was exceptionally high.

Maybe he is really smart, but really, no one wants to continue to communicate with people like him who step on others.

The most important thing to communicate between people is to respect each other. Don't talk about letting others like you. If you don't want everyone to hate you, and communicate with others, everything must be based on respecting each other.

You don't have to flatter, bless, and please others, but you must respect others. When someone talks, you can interrupt one sentence occasionally, but don't always say that you have a problem, you have a problem, you are a fool, such a simple thing takes so long, too simple, so... no Just fine.

Yes, you are smart and good. For you, something can be done easily. But this does not mean that others spend a lot of time doing it without you, that is, there is a problem with your brain.

And you are so arrogant that "this way... not on the line", actually hit the ground is to completely deny the hard work of others, but also to others labeled "brains have problems."

Maybe you feel that you are joking and entertaining, but really, the person you said this may not feel like this. And you get into the habit, everyone around you will not want to share anything with you, and humiliate you.

Don't build your own happiness on the suffering of others. We will talk about this, but it is really necessary to reflect on whether it is really done.

Sometimes others do not do well, you can point out that humility is an attitude everyone should learn. Especially when others are not as familiar with you.

In addition, you have to be really high IQ, and most afraid that you are self-righteous and clever.

I didn't tell Xiao Zhang about these interpersonal communication problems, because I had talked to him about other problems before. He was very disdainful and said, "What is there, this is not a problem at all." I also said that I have a problem with my mind. "This is too simple," "This is not going to do." The tone rises. No way, I had to talk to him as little as possible.

This kind of thing, unless self-reflection, others say it is useless. So I am writing here and I will reflect with you:

Is there any arrogance to show yourself, ridicule, and degrade others, thinking that it is adjusting the atmosphere, making jokes, and disgusting with the efforts made by others? Whether you do something wrong or not, you need to be introspective.

Choose from the good and change from it.