You are always too easy to let go of yourself

I once had an author to ask me: "Editor, I really want to publish a book, but I can't get a pen. What should I do?" I said, "Why can't I write down? Is it because I didn't make a good idea, did you write the catalogue outline? ?"

She sent a file and said to me: "I have already prepared the outline for a long time. I have already sent it to several editors and authors. They all resonate."

I looked at this outline, which is about misunderstanding of thinking. There are a few points that are not bad. So I encouraged her: "Well written well, you write down according to this outline, we can co-publish." She said a few words of thanks and encouragement, saying that after the opportunity to cooperate, they will be off the assembly line.

I didn't think too much, because there are always some authors who come to talk about the possibility of cooperation. For these people, I have always been encouraging, after all, codewords are not easy. Especially this girl, I am quite optimistic about her, people are very smart, active in the author group, often discuss some writing plans and techniques with others, good at grasping the reader's reading psychology, belonging to the type of authors that editors like. I waited for a long time and didn't move. Gradually, I forgot about it.

Once I saw her in a group talking about writing plans with others, and looking at her passionate look, I couldn't help but ask her: "How about the writing plan I said last time, I am still waiting to see you. "I am embarrassed to say: "Oh, sorry, I have been busy with work recently, often working overtime, so the writing plan can only be postponed."

This sentence reminds me of a post on the Internet, telling the author how to deal with the editorial draft. I also often encounter some patients with severe procrastination, and I have seen some wonderful reasons for the drafting. For example, one author said that he was in the middle of the month and could not write. Later, I realized that the author is a male.

So, I went back directly to her: "Then you can write at night, or on the weekend." She said: "Go home to cook at night, it’s very late. It needs a big cleaning on the weekend, and no time."

Every time I say a word, she always has a reason to explain. I said, "In fact, it doesn't take much time. You take the time to write 2,000 words every day. At the beginning, whether you write well or not, you must stick to it. After 14 days, the habit of writing is formed." After a while, she returned. One sentence: "The reason is all right, but I am a patient with severe procrastination..." There is no solution to this.

Later, I chatted with a photography teacher, and he happened to know the author. Speaking of her procrastination, the photography teacher said: "Before we were mixed in a photography circle, there was a photo teacher who asked her for a draft. She dragged the family for two years and did not deliver the manuscript. In private, it was always Tell us about her shooting plan. Later everyone knows that no teacher has ever drafted her."

I am a bit curious: "Since this is her hobby, why can't she persist?" The photography teacher said: "I may be afraid of trouble. A book is more troublesome than an article. She chooses so much, just do something." You can earn a small amount of money to support yourself, and you are certainly not willing to suffer from suffering."

"Why does she still like to tell her about her writing plan everywhere?" I never thought about it.

"Speak to yourself." The photographer said in a word.

I realized that the reason for her delay every time was not to say to me, but to her. Every time she encounters difficulties, she always chooses easy. However, she knew that it was not right, so she found some excuses to comfort herself.

She is smart and has many choices. Whenever difficulties come, she can always smell a trace of taste, prepare in advance, and every time she can avoid disadvantages and make the most comfortable decision.

However, she seems to be a high emotional intelligence act, in fact, just play some small cleverness. It seems that every time you let yourself be ruined, it is equal to letting yourself avoid the opportunities to break through. It seems that there are a lot of choices. In fact, you can only maintain your own low-level life. Sooner or later, you will face the day when you have no choice. It is comfortable in the short term and will inevitably harm you in the long run.

This incident made me think of a friend. He said that now that he is older, he has learned to be lazy. With 70% effort to pass the exam, he will never use 100% effort to perfect things.

I said, "If you don't force yourself, you never know how far you can go."

The friend laughed and said, "Don't give me a chicken soup. I understand, but I can't walk out of my comfort zone. Whenever I want to fight again, there will be another voice in my heart. : Don't fight, you have been fighting for half a lifetime, doing good things in your hands, you can live well." He paused and said: "I am a little hesitant at this time, often choose to wait and see. The results are first class. It’s not a chance to miss it, it’s not courage.”

I reluctantly said to him: "You are always too easy to let go."

When I was young, I always thought that I was coming to Japan. Now I have nothing to steal and I am reluctant to let myself suffer. I don't want to spend more time to make my work perfect, I like to watch TV dramas; I feel that it is too difficult to get up early, I always want to sleep late; reading books is boring and unbearable, I can't stand this loneliness, it is not as good as two games. Every time I make a choice, I think it’s just a normal day. I don’t know, this is the day you stand on the fate of the three mouths.

Cai Kangyong said: "15-year-old feels that swimming is difficult, give up swimming. When I meet 18, I meet someone you like and ask you to go swimming. You have to say 'I don't know.' I feel that English is difficult at 18 years old, I give up English, I am 28 years old. A great job in English, you have to say 'I don't know.' The more troublesome the life is, the more lazy you are to learn. The more likely you are to miss the people and things that make you feel tempted, miss the new scenery."

It’s easy to let go of yourself, but it’s hard to let life pass you.

May you and me share it.