Only a clear goal can lead us to the ideal side

Only a clear goal can lead us to the ideal side of the shore <br />Mr. Yang:
Hello! I found this blog today and I have been very impressed by the questions and confusion that you have been paying attention to and eagerly answering students for several years. I am very impressed.
I am a high school student. I have been studying for more than a month. I have some confusion and I would like to ask you about it. Let me briefly introduce my situation. Shandong students, liberal arts, more than 40 key high-level departments, such a ranking is generally a book. My position is a bit too low. A particularly good university has some distance for me, but I don't see it in a normal university. I want to fight together. Everyone said that only with a clear goal can the high school succeed. However, I did not identify the university to be tested, nor did I identify the major to be reported, and I did not have a position on my own level. Should I set a university as a goal in time? Still letting it go?
There is another problem, and now I am working hard to improve my learning methods. I used to go home during the weekend and I was particularly tired of learning. It was the kind of thing that I didn't want to do. Whenever the new week begins, it is very regrettable, but how to persuade yourself to go home, you can't stop to learn. Now the third year of high school, the summary of weekends and holidays is very important, I began to strictly ask myself to learn, but also let parents supervise, there have been some improvements in a month, but not perfect, or sometimes will be quiet, efficiency low. This long vacation is also, learning is learning, but there are many homework, I am panicked, no clue, a lot of things can not finish, a little anxious. Ha ha.
I read a few articles on your website and mentioned how to make a plan. I also used this method, the effect is there, but not big. Now, in the third year of high school, should I be strict with the requirements of high marks, one day's progress, one day's step backwards, one day's step, is it more than others? In the past, the study habits were not good. Should the seniors have time to get there? I think that everyone in the class is fighting for life, I feel pressure, and I am full of motivation. I hope you will answer these two questions.
Hope to enlighten me! Happy holidays!
This classmate:
Hello! We know that in order to make yourself successful, you must first have a clear and clear goal. Just as you are currently on the line, you can set your goals on the line. The goal is the starting point and destination of the action, as well as the escorts who overcome difficulties and calm down. You can only recognize the great power hidden in your body if you have a firm, meticulous and clear goal. A person has no goal, just like a ship without a rudder, can only follow the tide, can not master, and finally stranded on the beach and despair, failure, depression. The famous French naturalist John Henry made an unusual experiment with some small animals called religious parade caterpillars. These caterpillars always like to blindly follow the companions in front, so they got such a name. Henry carefully placed them in a circle outside the structure of a flower pot, so that the lead caterpillars followed the last caterpillar and joined together to form a circle. In the middle of the pot, he put on the pine wax, which is the food of the caterpillars. These caterpillars circled around the pot from beginning to end. They turned round and round, hour after hour, day after day, night after night. They turned around the flowerpot for seven days and seven nights. In the end, they all died of hunger and fatigue. A lot of food is less than 15 cm away from them, but they starve to death one by one. There is no reason for it, just because they act blindly in the way they used to.

Once you have such a big goal, then you need to set specific goals for each stage. For example, if your score for the last exam is 500 points, then we will set a 50 point increase for the next exam, and then according to the learning situation of the specific subject. This growth score is assigned to each subject, so that each subject has a specific and clear goal, and then based on this goal to develop a corresponding study plan - what efforts and costs will be paid to achieve this goal? And what kind of action is used - to identify specific actions and plans to achieve this goal.
At this moment, I will go to the implementation of the plan - the perseverance of action and the general will, confidence, courage and perseverance of steel, down-to-earth, practice the plan set by one step at a time, check and accept before going to bed every day. After completing the study plan for the day, you must give affirmation and praise. For example, I have done so many homework today, I can't think of my efficiency so much. I have learned so many homework today, I have learned a lot of knowledge, even Learned more than others. This is equivalent to increasing your own emotional and happy emotional experience, while also improving your self-confidence. Repeatedly every day, in a few days, you will truly accept learning as a happy thing, of course, the enthusiasm for learning will also rise. This will continue to expand the battle for the battalion, then waiting for us is success.
Always and steadily and strictly according to your own will and plan to live, grasp the time anytime, anywhere, concentrate on the things you should do, and develop a good habit over time. Practice has proved that every success will further enhance the willpower. If you overcome a bad habit with tenacious will, you can gain confidence to fight and win another challenge. Each success can increase your self-confidence by one point, providing you with a solid "foothold" on the hard journey to climb the cliff. Perhaps the new task is even more difficult, but since it was successful in the past, this time and in the future will certainly win.
When you don't implement the plan, let yourself realize the consequences. For example, the result of this is that the school is ruined → you can't take the university → “destroy the future of my life” and guide yourself to think rationally. It can also achieve the purpose of improving the self-control ability.
Believe in yourself, after hard work, you will succeed. Psychology has a theorem of "self-testing prophecy", which means that when one believes that something is going to happen, we will actively seek out and find positive information that meets our expectations, and the positive Information will give us a strong confidence, and our actions will become more active under such confidence, then everything we want will come as expected in our solid actions.
Regarding you, "I am particularly tired of going home, that is, I don’t want to do anything. Whenever a new week starts, I am very sorry, but if I go home, I will not be able to calm down and learn." The most important thing is that you did not promptly accept the completion of the study plan on the day, and even after completing the study plan for the day, give yourself affirmation and praise. As a result, you can't see the completion of the plan and the achievement of the sense of accomplishment, so there is a feeling of halfway and frustration. So what I want to say to you is: Before going to bed every night, you must check the completion of the study plan on the day. After completing the study plan for the day, you must give yourself a recognition and praise. This process is very important, because the plan makes us motivated. After you set a plan for yourself, the plan will work in two ways: it is the basis for hard work and the spur to you. The plan gives you a visible shooting target. As you work hard to achieve these plans, you will have a sense of accomplishment, and naturally you will mobilize your enthusiasm for learning.
Source: Yang Yonglong psychological counseling