Avoiding too much restraint with leaders

What is needed in interpersonal communication is modesty, prudence, and enthusiasm, rather than being cautious. Only in this way can we be able to make a living in socializing.

No matter what you do, modesty and prudence are always important factors for people to succeed, and interpersonal relationships are no exception. In dealing with people, think twice before you go. If you don’t want to say something, don’t say it, don’t do it, don’t do it, talk and behave just right, make people feel rational, courteous, and festival, and it will definitely help you. Good interpersonal relationship. But to understand that caution does not mean being cautious. In daily interpersonal communication, there must be a degree of caution. Many people are too cautious, and thus go to the other extreme - cautious, be cautious when encountering anything, fearing the tiger before the wolf, talking to the mother-in-law, doing things only. In public, the cautious person is often wretched in front of others, unnatural, unruly, afraid to sit down, dare not look up, dare not speak loudly or ambiguous, sometimes even asking questions. Psychologically always arrogant to interact with people, so there is always a lack of partners and friends who are well-informed. They are often alone, forgotten in the corners where they are not noticed, and even make people feel that they are rejected thousands of miles away. This is the performance of restraint.

As a subordinate, it should be cautious to speak in front of the leader, but it is not good to be cautious. When the leader appreciates your talents and wants to promote you, if you say "I can't, I can't do it", the leader will have an opinion on you. He may think that you really can't, maybe you think that you are afraid of taking responsibility, maybe you think that you don't give him face, no matter what kind of opinion, it is not good for you.

Li Qiang is a cautious person. He is simply a person whose leaves fall and are afraid of his head. I don't usually talk, I only know that I am working hard and I work hard. Two research results were produced for the Institute within one year. To this end, the director of the Institute appreciates him very much and intends to promote him as deputy director. However, every time the director said his meaning to Li Qiang, Li Qiang always said modestly: "I can't do it, I really can't, you don't bother me." After three times, the director never talked to Li Qiang again. To promote another researcher who is not as capable as Li Qiang as the deputy director. In fact, Li Qiang does not want to be a deputy director. People have a desire to fame and fortune. And as a deputy director, there will be great benefits in terms of housing and benefits. However, because he was too cautious, the opportunity missed him.

To get rid of restraint, we must emancipate our minds and keep up with the pace of the times. Abandon those feudal dogmas and rigid ancient teachings, to be a detached generation, to become a free and easy person. Second, we must show courage and encourage ourselves in front of people. As long as you give yourself more courage, give yourself more encouragement, and always pay attention to adjusting your emotions, and you will be overcome. Courage is not stupid and bold, and it is not a slap in the face, and it is necessary to expand on the basis of broadening the mind and broadening the horizon.

As a young person, excessive restraint makes it easy for you to lose the opportunity to make progress, lose many of your good friends, miss the possibility of your boss or teacher to appreciate you, miss the opportunity to display your talents and talents. People in the world are full of competition, and excessive restraint may lose in competition. Therefore, there should be appropriate performance in front of the superiors. In short, as long as you have the confidence and willingness to work hard, there are no obstacles that can't be overcome, let alone overcome the psychology of restraint. If you are a person who feels cautious in front of people and think that restraint does hinder your better interaction with others and becomes a social obstacle, then try to change the way you talk to people. You will find that you communicate with others. It will become a breeze.