What kind of wisdom do you need in your workplace?

What kind of wisdom do you need to have in the workplace ? <br />If you want to work in the workplace, it’s not enough to rely on your own personal image and the merits of your personal work performance. Good at managing interpersonal relationships, paying attention to the reputation of being a person, and ensuring that you can work with your colleagues.
Workplace friendship, a factor that is easily overlooked, can give a professional fulcrum a successful fulcrum at a critical time! Here are some solid "pivot" decisions, and I believe that these things will make your interpersonal relationship more successful.
1. Do not arbitrarily reveal personal secrets of personal privacy colleagues, of course, with some ulterior motives or unwillingness to let others know; if a colleague can tell you your private information, it can only show that colleagues are enough for you. The trust, the friendship between you must be beyond the others, otherwise she will not give up their privacy to you. If at the same time I hear that my privacy is exposed in the mouth of others, don't say, she must think that you sold her. The betrayed colleagues will certainly swear at you more than a thousand times, and regret the friendship and trust they have given before. Therefore, do not arbitrarily disclose personal privacy to consolidate the basic requirements of professional friendship, if this is not done well, I am afraid that no colleague dares to push you with your heart.
2. Don't let love "block" Tao Jia and Wang Hao are good sisters who have nothing to say. Since they have been working, they have lived in the same dormitory. Every day they go to work together and get off work, almost to the point of inseparability! By chance, Song Jia and Wang Hao came into contact with a man who was superior in all aspects and very handsome. They almost had a good impression on this man at the same time! In order to get closer to the handsome man, Song Jiahe Wang Hao suddenly changed like a person, they are no longer inseparable, but act alone; later, the two for this matter, made a rebellious enemy, many years of feelings disappeared. Obviously, love "blocks" the friendship between the two people. From the fact that they like the handsome man at the same time, they actually announced that their friendship for many years began to break. Therefore, as a professional woman, it is best to deal with your own emotional life alone, even before the love is mature, even the closest friends, do not drag together to date. Otherwise, love will become a stumbling block to friendship.
3, gossip should keep the distance in the office, colleagues chat with each other is a very normal thing; and many people, especially male colleagues in the chat, most of them to show off their knowledge in front of colleagues At the same time, I would like to pass on such a message to other colleagues, that is: you are familiar with, I am also familiar with; you are not familiar with, I am also familiar with! In fact, those who know everything they know know are nothing but fur, everyone just mutual The confession is gone. As a woman, if you want to satisfy your curiosity and desire to break the sand and ask questions to each other, the other party will immediately reveal the stuffing, so the time for chatting will naturally not be too long. In this way, not only will everyone's interest be swept away, but also colleagues who like God's "deaf" will be embarrassed; I believe that colleagues will consciously or unconsciously avoid you when they chat again in the future. Therefore, the author suggests that female friends, when chatting in any occasion, do not ask for everything to understand, and the questions are appropriate, so that colleagues will be willing to accept you.
4, into the hobby of colleagues, as the saying goes, "fun is like", only common hobbies, interests can make people come together. Most of the colleagues in Xiaohong’s unit are male. During the short break at noon, colleagues often gather to talk about the land. Unfortunately, Xiaohong always feels that he can’t insert his mouth. At first, he can only listen to him at the beginning. . The topics that male colleagues like to talk about are nothing more than sports and stocks, but even if they don't understand the fashion trends, they will not hinder their communication with female colleagues. However, in order to have a good relationship with these male colleagues, you must first force yourself to accept some of their feelings and hobbies. So Xiaohong began to pay attention to sports information and news “consciously” every day, and even went to watch the ball with his male colleagues. “After having a common topic, it’s much easier to get along with a male colleague; every time I chat with them, I will communicate with some of my feelings at work, and the friendship between us will be enhanced. A lot," Xiao Hong said.
5, away from the tricks
"Why is xx always against me? This guy is really annoying!", "xx always raises the bar with me, I don't know where I offended him!"...There is often such a short rumor in the office; Knowing these short rumors is a "soft knife" in the workplace. It is a kind of weapon that is very lethal and destructive. This kind of damage can directly affect the human mind, and it will make the injured person feel very tired. If you are very keen to spread some rumors that are provocative, at least you should not expect other colleagues to be keen to listen. Regularly arbitrarily telling the right and wrong will make other colleagues in the unit feel a sense of avoiding you. If you get to this point, I believe that your life in this unit is not so good, because no colleagues have taken you seriously.
6, do not privately fight for superiors

If some of them like to tie up their bosses and compete with their superiors, they will definitely cause other colleagues to be indifferent and affect their work feelings among colleagues. If you really need a boss, you should try to invite many people to meet and go to the boss. Don't do some unskillful little tricks in private, let your colleagues doubt your loyalty to friendship, and even suspect that you have a problem with your personality. When colleagues get along with you, they will beware of you because they will worry. The usual complaints to the boss will be betrayed by you, and you will climb the leadership position by offering information. Once you are found to have sold your colleagues, then the friendship between you is over, and even those who want to make friends with you are not willing to rely on you. Therefore, not competing with the boss in private is one of the ways to ensure long-lasting friendship between colleagues.
7. Low-key handling of internal disputes In the long-term work process, it is normal to have some small contradictions with colleagues. However, when dealing with these contradictions, we must pay attention to methods and try to make the contradictions between you publicly intensify. Office space is also a public place, although colleagues will have some small friction due to work, but must deal with friction events rationally. Don't show a arrogant look, you have to make a break with your colleagues and win a game. Let me take a step back, even if you are reasonable, if you have no reason to be unreasonable, your colleagues will also be respectful to you. I feel that you are a person who does not give a room for colleagues and does not give face to others. I will always be on the lookout for you in the future. So you may lose the support of a large number of colleagues. In addition, the colleague who is attacked by you will hate you, and you will have an "enemy" in your career.
8. Don't arbitrarily reach out and borrow money. In the impression of colleagues, Wu Jing is a big-minded person. Whether it is a good-willing colleague or a related colleague, she can openly borrow money from them. Sometimes colleagues are really around. Without money, Wu Jing will blame her colleagues for not meeting her feelings. I feel that I am a colleague. It is so difficult to borrow some money. The original relationship between colleagues is only superficial. The borrowed colleagues think that friendship has become impurity, even Worried that my money will be loaned to her will not go back. In particular, Wu Jing did not return the money to her colleagues as scheduled. Colleagues immediately resented her. I thought that Wu Jing, as a colleague, actually played this trick with her. It was too much! Wu Jing thought that he could not be on time. It is not her intention to pay back the money. Colleagues have encountered some difficulties. Shouldn’t they reach out to help each other? It’s because of the problem of arbitrarily borrowing money and not paying back the money in time, so that Wu Jing quickly lost her popularity among colleagues. Therefore, in the case of a last resort, we should not arbitrarily lend money to others, even if we borrow money, we must remember to return it in time.
9. Complaints and complaints should be kept away from the mouth. No matter what kind of environment they work in, they are always angry and full of grievances. They always suffer from bitterness, even though some occasional complaints can create a little illusion of office friendship. However, like Xianglin’s ambiguity, the colleagues around me will be miserable. Maybe you think of grievances and bitterness as a way of communicating with your colleagues, but excessive complaints will make colleagues feel that since you are so dissatisfied with your current job, why not quit, go to another high. ?
10. When you are proud of it, when you are praised or promoted by your boss when you have a job, many people tend to sway in the office without the announcement of the boss, or pretend to be mysterious. Close-knit colleagues whisper, once the message spreads, these people will certainly recruit colleagues, jealous and hate, which will lead to unnecessary trouble; of course, in addition to being proud, do not publicize; even in frustration At the time, you can't tell others about the wrong things in other places in public. You even have to involve other colleagues to make the same mistakes. How can you not be punished? If this is the case, not only will the boss be tired of you, but colleagues will be more likely to be with you. Angry, you will definitely not be happy in the future. Therefore, no matter whether you are proud or frustrated, don't over-exaggerate, otherwise it will only create obstacles to work friendship.