When the class reunion becomes Vanity Fair

First story

T brother is a Chaoshan, there are several brothers and sisters in the family, T brother's father is one of the best craftsmen in the local, because the biggest resource of the old family is the mining of marble, so there will be many such stone fields in the local, when the mining comes Into a variety of furniture sales.

When T brother was very young, there was an uncle at home who came up with his father and said that there is a school logistics department in the local area that needs to recruit a worker. In addition to going to do the basic artisan-related work, there are some simple tasks that need to be managed. T brother’s father thought for a few days and refused. He said that he was very happy to cut marble at home and didn’t want to be too bound.

Because it didn't need much technical content, T's uncle himself went to the school and accepted the position of the logistics department worker.

A few years later, the uncle began to be promoted to be the head of the logistics department. In a few years, the uncle was also hired by the school to practice the classroom lecturer. After the correction, there was a business unit.

In a few years, the school where the uncle worked met a school celebration and needed to customize a group of stone sculptures. Uncle felt that this thing was very marketable, so he proposed to go out and set up factories and teams. Among them, the father of T brother also joined in. Still, he is still a position as a craftsman.

In addition to providing stone custom products to the school, T's uncle's factory also began to provide stone custom products to other schools and government units. In a few years, T's uncle became a local entrepreneur.

A few years ago, T's uncle immigrated to Hong Kong, and several children returned from study abroad. The family provided the first bucket of gold to let the children start business in Shenzhen and Guangzhou.

T brother returned to his hometown this year, and mentioned to his father why he did not accept the post of the logistics department in the school. His father said while eating, I don’t like it, I don’t want to do it, and you see, I am now Still the best craftsman in our village, my craft is first class!

Second story

When W’s father used to be a soldier, he was the driver of the big truck in the army. After returning to his hometown, he returned to his hometown and began to help others drive the goods.

One day, an uncle from the faraway room of W class came over and found the father of W classmate. The discussion said that the local school needs to purchase a batch of school buses. The school provided an opportunity to let the uncle go out to form a team, find a driver, and purchase. The shuttle bus set up a semi-market-operated, self-operated company, which is responsible for its own profits and losses. However, the daily commute of the school to and from the school is at least fixed, and other customers need to develop themselves.

The uncle of the distant house means that he wants to do this with the father of W classmates, and form a partner to manage the company. The father of W classmates considered the night and refused the uncle of the distant room the next day.

The distant uncle asked strangely, why are you not willing to do such a good opportunity?

W's father answered a few words: too much trouble.

Later, the uncle of the distant house made this thing himself, and became one of the best entrepreneurs in the local area. In the past few years, the whole family moved to the city center. Last year, when the daughter got married, she directly sent a set of 2 million plus villas and a car. Audi is a dowry.

W's father, at this time, is also enjoying the work of working in a relative's factory at home, and enjoying himself.

Third story

The hometown of F is the Jiangnan water town. The ancestors used to fish for a living. From grandfather to father, they have always regarded fishing as a main business.

F's uncle is the younger brother of the family's father. The uncle also followed the father of F classmates to go fishing. In the following years, the relatives of the family began to go to work in the field, so the family advised the uncle of F class to go outside. Take a look at it and see what opportunities the big world has.

Uncle Uncle always refused to go out, but later he couldn’t help but brainwash at home, and finally promised to go south to Guangzhou to see what opportunities there were.

One night, the little uncle called me back to his hometown in Guangzhou in the middle of the night to find his brother, the father of F classmate, the little uncle asked the eldest brother, are you still going out to catch fish every day?

My brother answered yes.

Uncle Xiao was very anxious on the phone, saying that you can go fishing after a while?

F classmate Dad asked, why?

Uncle Xiao answered and said, I am afraid that you will fish the fish. When I return to my hometown as a fisherman, there are not so many fish for me!

F classmates suddenly got angry and asked: You can't have a good time! You are going out now, you can't think about having a family in Guangzhou afterwards.

F classmate Dad hung up the phone.

In a few years, the little uncle's children started to go to the middle of the country, and the young uncle decided to leave Guangzhou and go home to find a job.

F classmate Dad went to the station to pick up the little uncle, and the little uncle just got off the bus and asked, I read the news that in the past few years, many people in the river have gone to the gold shovel, and the river has been seriously polluted.

F classmate Dad replied, yes.

At that time, my uncle suddenly yelled urgently: What do I do? I am going to come back to continue fishing for a living. In the polluted river, there are only dead fish and dead shrimps. Where do I go to earn money?

F classmate Dad can't help it, but he is no longer angry and angry, and he is no longer willing to persuade him to let his uncle go back to prepare fishing gear and start his new fisherman life.

In a blink of an eye, the two uncles of the uncle were admitted to the university and the other to the high school. At this time, he found that his savings could not afford the tuition of the two children.

In desperation, the little uncle decided to go back to Guangzhou to work in the factory. At this time, the little uncle was 45 years old, and he lived with a bunch of young dolls. He couldn’t understand what QQ space they were talking about and WeChat, and they didn’t know them. What is the meaning of wearing a pair of leather pants and dyeing a red hair? The little uncle is working on the assembly line day after day, and then sends a meal to two children.

During the Chinese New Year, F’s uncle did not return to his hometown for the New Year, because during these years, the uncle did not have his own house in his hometown. He relied on relatives to help a small room, and two children who went to school. Not willing to come back.

On the day of the New Year's Eve, the little uncle called the F classmate Dad, and the F classmate listened to it. The little uncle said, I am very tired now, working 14 hours a day, the whole person is thin, and the physical strength is not comparable. When I was young, I regretted not listening to your older brother. If I had been working in Guangzhou for a few years, even if I didn’t make a fortune, I wouldn’t have fallen to the present...

The phone lasted for a long time, and the little uncle who was always on the phone was talking. The father of F classmates always listened here, smoking loudly.

Finally, the phone hangs. F classmates call Dad to go to the living room to start the night, and then ask Dad, how is the uncle now?

Dad sighed and said: Hey, it’s all life.

At that time, there was still a period of time since the Spring Festival Evening of CCTV. The advertisement of WeChat shaking the whole people to grab the red envelope has been overwhelming. Some people outside the window have already put up fireworks and firecrackers, a scene of lively reunion.

F classmates thought about their little uncle. At this time, they were still alone in the dormitory of the Guangzhou factory. I don’t know if there was any New Year’s Eve. The two uncle’s two children went back to their grandmother’s house for the New Year, and they did not come to visit F’s family. String door.

This is what my three classmates told last night about their own two fathers and an uncle.

Some of our classmates are good people in college. After we arrive in Shenzhen, we will meet regularly. After getting along for a long time, we will talk about some things about life and work, and we will slowly start sharing our family stories. I think this is also a manifestation of the progress of friendship and trust.

I don't know if you have such a feeling. When we look at other people's children, we always feel that they are very happy.

For example, we have a girl in the university class. It has been four years since graduation. It is still in global travel. Because her parents are driving a big company, she doesn't have to worry about life and looking for work in the future. Or it may not be necessary to inherit the family business in the future;

For example, a boy in our company said that he wanted to start a business last year, but he didn't know how to find an investment. So the family gave him a big sum of money to let him get his hands, because his father said that the annual rent collection of the house is a big income. ,Not in a hurry;

For example, the stock market is getting red recently. The number of students who have opened accounts around us has increased. The day before yesterday, I heard that a female colleague has earned six-figure income in a week. I asked how much a large amount of principal can have this income point? Colleagues said that the family had also raised it before, and it was also intended to give her the experience of practicing handcuffs. It was nothing to lose, and at most one car was lost at home.

After listening to the stories of such other people's homes, do you think that I have to say something about the negative energy of the unacceptable person?

no.

Several of our classmates talked about all the above, did a few cans of wine, and then came up with an answer: I think we have to thank ourselves.

Well, this is my argument today, based only on the narrow world I have seen so far.

T brother's family of several brothers and sisters, only he was admitted to the university, the other is to go to work in the middle school or high school graduation, and now several brothers and sisters will complain to him about the hard work.

Brother T said that he sometimes meditates at night. In fact, no one has told him from childhood to big school that it is very important to go to school, but he feels that he should let himself receive the education of higher education. Learning well and bad, at least now graduated to work in a big company, sitting in the office every month, the wind does not blow the sun, the occasional overtime but subsidized welfare, so much better than his brothers and sisters too many.

Brother T also said that I used to feel that my parents were very hard. Of course, I am very grateful to them now, but at this stage, I am even more grateful to myself. Our brothers and sisters grew up in the same environment. My parents didn't have much academic qualifications, but they did their basic parenting obligations. Later, every step of life planning and decision-making was also the result of my own choice, so I am very grateful to myself.

A few of us nodded aside.

There are also some well-behaved colleagues in my side. Later, I know that some of them are super rich and second generation. With them, their politeness always makes me feel comfortable, and I feel that they are on them. I can't have the same thing, just don't panic.

Yes, that's the word, don't panic.

They can calmly choose the jobs they like, plus the education they received is not bad, the emotional intelligence is good, so it is also a group of people who are very good in the workplace, and they can also have conflicts when they encounter project discussions. As far as things are concerned, it is generous to express your own ideas and suggestions, not to be afraid of other people’s accusations, and not to be afraid of others’ neglect, because their own inner world is strong enough.

And these people, their fathers, perhaps the uncles of T's brother, and the uncles of W's class, seized the opportunity in their time, and then their generation already understood that "there is nothing in this world." "This truth is not troublesome, then puts in the effort to change the fate for yourself, and also creates better conditions for his offspring.

Of course, we can't deny that T's father is still happy at home. In front of a very accomplished master craftsman, W's father is still helping others to open large trucks at home, there is also a good income, and F students. Uncles and uncles still have the opportunity to have more improvements, and these are all things that cannot be recognized or despised.

Remember, I am talking about a big conclusion. We need to grasp our own destiny at an appropriate time. This is a simple matter, but it is not a simple matter.

How many people's life patterns may be set at the moment of the choice between "one mind".

There is a girl who asks me in the background. Do you have such a time, face the choice, and you are uncertain?

In fact, this time has gone more, it is so small to eat what dinner today, the bigger one is which color the same pair of shoes take, and then which city to go to find what kind of work and what kind of people have lived for a lifetime, these moments are always thinking .

It’s just that when I am flustered, I won’t talk to others. When time proves that my choice is right, I dare to come out and score two points. I have to know that some things need to be proved for a lifetime, so I am used to it. Life is a choice, so it's better.

I have read an article before, the author is a commercial bank HR, received a group of interns to the bank, and then observed a series of stories in their lives, the story is like a novel, but more exciting than the novels we have seen; It is also a naked reality, but it is more cruel than the reality we understand.

His stories are ultimately to illustrate one thing, and the cold door is hard to come out.

He also said that it is now more and more clear about the "character determines fate". The character is melted into the bone marrow. The development of personality has little to do with school education. Most of it depends on the family background and the growing environment. The first step in graduation is to play a crucial role in the family background, that is, the children from the starting line of ordinary families lose a lot.

Like all the stories in the world, the article has great reference value and obvious narrowness. As for all kinds of things, I will not go to the analysis of figurative.

What I want to say is that I also know that today's society is really hard to get out of the way. I also know that our ordinary children are actually losing at the starting line compared to those of other so-called other people. But this does not mean that we have lost the reason for our efforts!

As the saying goes, this is the worst era and the best era. The development of the mobile Internet has changed many market patterns, created many new opportunities, and most importantly, we You can seamlessly get the resources you want.

These resources, for me, are to see the open class on the Internet, to look at the worldviews that I have never touched before; to listen to the speeches of the predecessors, to destroy the narrow side of my former heart; Website, look at what is the most fashionable wear in the moment; when you need comfort or relief in your heart, I can directly comment or video with my good friend, which is much more useful than the phone itself.

If you ask me what is the biggest experience in my workplace in the past few years, my answer is that I searched through the Internet for various useful resources and role models, and then began to refurbish my own deficiencies. After I complained, I was glad that I had everything. If you have time, then rebuild the three views, and then come to the next wave of reincarnation progress.

Well, like an animal changing skin every year, even if it is painful, it still has a little new meaning.

Of course, the premise of all this is that you are willing to accept the very bad self in the past, admit your own ordinary, and then find ways to let yourself grow up and slowly become a better self than your own past.

This is the reason why I want to thank myself. This is why my friends are grateful to myself. We are in this big age. We need to make progress on the road, and we need to calm down to soothe our souls. The two roads have never been in conflict, and there are conflicts. How do you decide the priorities of many things in your life?

I am a snobbish person. From the old good old man, now slowly becoming a screening friend, I have to consider the half-day "I want to eat with you today, I don’t want to eat with you", but my classmates, though Nowadays, we are still a common office worker in this big city, but I used the time of seven or eight, and formed my judgment from the university to the present. Even if they don’t have a big fortune in the future, they are definitely not mixed. Poor people.

We must know that we have spent so many years in this gathering, sharing our family and growth experiences with sincerity, without making fun of it, not looking down, the person who told the story did not feel inferior or embarrassed. Some are just plain acceptance of their own origins, as well as planning and efforts for their own lives.

We must also know that we actually got the same "thank you ourselves" argument on this night, which shows that the values ​​we have progressed at this stage are the same, which means that we are always thinking about growing up each other. It is what I understand, the criteria for true friendship.

This is why I regularly set up a dinner with them. This is why I have been convinced to convince my girls and friends around me that when I fall in love, I don’t want to be bullied, because we also need time to get better. So the same, we have to give our friends, our partners enough time.

Of course, the premise of all this is that you have to learn to identify what is a potential stock, what is a friend who is worthy of deep friendship, saying that on this road, it is really full of thorns and all kinds of bumps and dogs! Of course you can also Like me, slowly managing myself, formulating my own principles, and then attracting people of the same kind is one of them.

When other people's class reunion became Vanity Fair, this night, our soul has improved a lot.

This is the reason why I am willing to eat with the right people. In the past two years, I have rejected countless "something that I have" dinner, and finally I have been alienated from some people.

But how do I feel that this end of the game also makes me a little lucky, little excited!

For me, the biggest gain of people after the birth of the year is to be willing to admit that every day in the past is good, and for friendship, my understanding is that there is nothing in the world, everything is in the water. .

This night is full of harvest, finished.