Cost of growth

On the day of picking up the school, the phone suddenly rang, notifying someone to come to the hotel, and immediately went to a certain hotel to receive it. I felt awkward in my heart - I said that I have to eat with the child. How can I explain it to him now? The land said to the child: You go home first, Dad still has something, come back later, okay? The child hugged my waist in the back seat of the car and said: Why is there always something? Can't you finish the meal and do it again? I had to tell him that the thing to do was to eat.

The child seems to be very helpless, but when I say goodbye to me, I say something that makes me very moved: ride slowly and come back early. When you finish, you will run to your home. I looked at his thin back, and for the first time I felt the taste of being cared for by my child. It was really sour and sweet. When the child grows up, he knows how to understand the helplessness of his parents. He just doesn't know how to grow like this. How much helplessness he has endured in his little heart - the fact that he can't change, let him gradually learn to change himself. The child is sensible, is it worth the pleasure? I am not sure.

For his growth, whether he is a person or a student, my attitude is mainly to let it go, not to impose his own things on him; but on the other hand, he has a heart: in case he has never known how to change himself?

The day before yesterday, I learned from the colleague’s child’s mouth that his verb was ranked second to last, and my fire could not stop. I don't want him to always fight for the first, even the things he has already taken the initiative to let him not repeat, the things he is not interested in are not forced to go to school, but the words can not be made the penultimate!

At noon, he received a chat with him from the school bus. Who knows that he doesn't care: What's wrong? Don't write a few wrong words! Don't count down the second! My fire is suddenly burned up. Not because he wrote the wrong words, but because of his attitude, I yelled at him: a few words? Don’t forget that you are the penultimate! You don’t care what you care about every day, when you care. It’s late, people will treat you as a poor student! I don’t seem to have spoken to him with such a loud voice. He was shocked first, then he cried, but his mouth was still uncomfortable: not a few words, This talks to people, who is it!

After arriving home, he kept talking about the grievances in his heart. It seems that I did something wrong. I was really angry, rushing to grab his collar and shaking it, hoping that he could wake up from his own logic. This scared him, because Dad never did this to him. He burst into tears and still kept defending himself: I couldn’t do it once in a year and twelve months. Why can people test it? bad? Why must I good? Why learn good? bad to criticize, not to test how good praise? ...... at that time I really wanted to hit him twice, but fortunately I refrained. Because he was forced to go to dinner, tears continued to flow down, and while eating with tears, my heart was soft, and I went to the side and couldn't bear to see his pitiful look.

I am thinking, I say that the score is not so important every day. There is no difference between 90 and 100%. The happiness of a child is more important than learning. A bad test will never affect a person's life... Why do you have to go to your child? These rational concepts have all been forgotten. At a meeting in the afternoon, a teacher mentioned Spencer’s “happy education” when he spoke. He said that when a child makes a mistake, he is angry with him. In fact, he is not helping him solve the problem. Instead, I was venting my anger, and I was ashamed and sweaty.

Fortunately, he is not a child who hates to hate. After eating, he ran to me and played a yo-yo. I looked for him to find a tool for him to go to school to make a small orange light in the afternoon. I used to run like a small tail. Going, I started to call my father and dad again. I think that children are really better than adults, they are so easy to tolerate the harm of others, so kindly understand your rudeness to him.

I remember that you must take my hand to sleep every night, think of the action that you warmed up for me in the dream of last winter. I remember that you said that eating good food with others two days ago is not as good as eating a common meal with a family. ... I know that the comfort of a child to a parent is far more than the true love of the child. Mr. Feng Zikai had such a passage in his article "Send the Golden Age of A Bao", which made people feel a heavy acidity:

I remember one day last year, I will leave home for the necessary things. In the past, every time I went out, you must be unhappy, stop me, or ask me to return early. Earlier, I had to go through you when I went out. Your brother will not find me afterwards, but he has to cry a few times. I am back, if you know the period, you often come to the door or halfway to meet. ... I have to go out this past last year, and your brothers and sisters will say goodbye to me, and I will return early. I thought that you are also like this. When you are about to go home and buy something, don't care if you advise me to go early, and advise me to return late, saying that you have all kinds of things that can fool the younger brothers to stop and look forward to it. It turns out that you have heard about the need to go early and return to my trip in my conversation with your mother, and decided to share the hardships of life for me. I feel brisk on this trip, but I feel sad because my family will have less happiness in a golden age.

Can you really understand that Dad is not accompanying you and is going to accompany others to eat? Can you really forgive Dad for asking you to study hard for you? Really every time I want my father to come back early and not allow Dad to be fast. Driving a car quickly?... I want to say that you grew up, but I don't want to say that I am very happy, because every growth of your footprint must be accompanied by a painful memory. This is the price of your growth and your future. Why not stay away from your parents?

Mr. Feng Zikai also said in the article "Give me the children", "My children! I am jealous of your life, more than once a day! I want to tell the song, let you know yourself. Unfortunately, you When you understand my words, you will no longer be the one who can make me jealous. What a sad thing!" But your golden age is limited, and the reality is finally exposed. This is the situation I have experienced. It is also the case of adults who have experienced it. I saw the heroes and heroes of my childhood companions, retreating, obedient, compromising, and giving in, to the point like a sheep. I am also like myself. And it’s still the past, you have to go this route soon!” One day, you will need to spend a lot of time and energy on other people like Dad, stay with others, then Do I still have the courage to ask you to spend more time with my father?

Every step of the child's growth has to pay a huge price, lose the fantasy of innocence and nature, lose the ease of being naughty, lose love for parents and family, lose carefree arrogance, and lose the time of discretion... Yes, The cost of growing up is huge, but which parents dare not let them lose the most precious things in life? The process of the child’s cost of growing up is also the process of parents losing their baby with their children! You are resisting losing these, We are looking forward to growing up every day. In fact, we are much more stupid than you.

I really want to edit a book for you, so that you can lose some pain in every growing turn, so that you can use these words to retrieve the footprints of your childhood after you lose it. At least, that is also your future life. A comfort.