Relationship between appearance and success

Relationship between appearance and success

——Yu Minhong’s speech at Tongji University on June 2nd

Good evening, everyone at Tongji University!

In fact, people are alive and well, and there is no point in life. Every day, the sun rises and the sun goes down every day. You can see the morning glow, see the sunset, see the moon rise and fall, and see the stars in the sky, this is the most beautiful meaning of living.

I didn't expect the students of Tongji University to put my "high" image on the big screen. This is the gap between ideal and reality. So I believe that the students will be very disappointed when they see my first sight. In fact, everyone is very ordinary, and we often find that something very important in life does not have much to do with our future happiness and success. For example, some people think that appearance will have many connections with future success; some people think that their family background will be inextricably linked to success; some people think that people who have a good university will succeed, those who have good grades in college People with poor academic performance are more likely to succeed... all of these factors may be partially correct, but most are basically ineffective, such as appearance.

If a person's appearance is related to success, then there will be no Ma Yun and Alibaba, because if the students present think that Ma Yun looks good, it must be an aesthetic problem.

Of course, this does not mean that people who look good can do nothing, for example, another well-known company boss Baidu boss Li Yanhong. Li Yanhong is very handsome and handsome. All his photos look like movie stars, but he also achieved success. So no matter what the appearance, it can be successful, but when Li Yanhong and Ma Yun sit together to eat, they are usually not willing to sit in the adjacent chair, because the two people's comparison has reached a terrible point, the solution It is to put me in the middle of them and play a transitional role. People like me who have no features can also succeed. Therefore, whether it is a man or a woman, the most important thing is the richness of his inner world, the cultivation of his own demeanor and temperament, the expansion of his own mind and the unwavering pursuit of ideal goals. As you get older, these will slowly become your wisdom, all of which constitute the true essence of your success.

So is there any relationship between success and family background? We can often see people who are rich and wealthy, who are born with a golden key. For example, we may see that some of the students on the left side wear famous costumes, the bags on the right side of the famous brand, the daughter sitting in front of the secretary of the municipal party committee, the son of the central leader behind, and you may be from a family of ordinary workers. College student.

Sometimes you will be dissatisfied, but the world is full of unfairness, and many unfairness often flashes in front of your eyes. You will say, how can this world be like me, why does he have everything, and I have nothing? I have had such a normal mentality in college. For example, my classmates have the son of a minister, a daughter with a university professor, and I am the son of a farmer. After three joint entrance exams, I walked into Peking University and walked in the cloth with a pole. You will find that you can't keep up with their state, it is better to say that they can't keep up with their steps. You will find that even if they stop and do nothing for a lifetime, they have more things than you.

For example, in the first year of college, the child of the minister in the class had a driver who drove the 280 every Friday to pick him up. You think we can't afford a bicycle at that time. He actually sits on the 280, which is what it feels like. You feel that this life is basically finished. But students should remember a truth, life always goes forward, we have to go for a lifetime. We have not only gone through college for four years, or graduate students, we have to go for a lifetime. It may be 80 or 90 years old. Although it is 80 or 90 years old, you don’t know what life is like. The only thing you can do is to stick to it. So I am very proud to walk from a peasant's son to Peking University and finally to today. My mentality is very balanced, but in fact I have gone a long way. Of course, some students will say that you have been successful in Peking University. Indeed, Peking University has increased many of my success factors. For example, because of the strong reading atmosphere at Peking University, I read a lot of books and my mind became very sensitive.

Peking University is indeed a humanistic environment. The bronze statue of Cai Yuanpei is built on the edge of the unnamed lake. However, there are thousands of people who go to Peking University every year, and there are thousands of people who come out of Peking University. How many successes can you succeed? In fact, Peking University The ratio of student success is no higher than the success rate of any college student.

All success means that you have to work harder after graduating from college. If the university means success, then there is no Ma Yun. I have a lot of the same places with Ma Yun. He took the test for 3 years. I also took 3 years. He took the English major. I also took the English major. In the third year, I went to Peking University. He went. Hangzhou Teachers College. I believe that many of my classmates have never heard of this college. Then I think I should be more successful than him in this life, but unfortunately, from today, the market value of Alibaba's listing is three times that of New Oriental, and I am apart. It’s convenient to make a new east. Not only that, but he also has Taobao, Alipay...

Therefore, your future success has nothing to do with what university you are in, but it is easier to go abroad for employment. If you can get out of your life for a lifetime, the university will lay the foundation for you, but you can't decide your life. It’s only a quarter of my life at the university, what should we do next? First, we must stick to it, because if you don’t live, you have nothing. Believe that you do not believe in the afterlife, I always believe that this life is our best paradise. So I hate suicide or threaten suicide. I think this is a disrespect for life. There is a concept called "good death is better than living." Because I have experienced it from my 40 years of life experience, you have been sitting there for a long time, maybe you will really fall off the pie in the sky, of course, you may fall off a rock. But no matter what, don't break yourself, there will be many miracles happening in life. If Professor Yang Zhenning does not live to 82 years old, how can he know that he can still marry a second marriage?

But students, life always has to have expectations, even if there is no hope. Students can think about the many characters in our history. For example, Jiang Taigong is fishing by the river. At the age of 80, Zhou Wenwang walked by him and found that the old man used a straight fishing rod to fish with him. Chatter found that the old man is very intelligent, so he took him back, and the two together laid down the world of Zhou Dynasty. Comrade Qi Baishi was still working as a woodworker at the age of 50. He was not a great painter at all. All his great works were completed between the ages of 80 and 90. Therefore, there is always such a phenomenon in life. Some people have a role in their youth, some people have a role in middle age, and some people have a role in old age. Flowers are always open in different seasons. If all the flowers are open in the spring, when there are no flowers open in summer, autumn and winter, do you think this nature is so beautiful and moving?

So everyone thinks, if all the wonderful things in life are finished in college, the back will always be dull. Do you think this life will be perfect? ​​In other words, your university has not been so wonderful, but after graduation, it has become Is it getting better and better? It turns out that many of our classmates are always among the best in college, but after college they can't do anything. Because in society, not the results are working. Achievements can only prove that your IQ is higher than others, but you can't decide that you will have a good life.

Success is not only determined by your achievements. The most important thing is the ability to deal with society and the ability to live. The ability to find opportunities in a variety of confusing relationships, and your ability to lead a group of people to create a business with you. And all of this is not determined by your grades. Of course, I am not saying that I don’t want to study well at university. It is inevitable to get a university diploma, because in the future we will find such a phenomenon. If you don’t even get a college diploma, your life will be full. difficult.

There are a lot of people who have read college now. Some people say that it is not interesting to go to college now because they can't find a job. It is true that until now, the proportion of graduates who have found jobs this year is only about 40%, but I believe this is only a temporary phenomenon, because China's industrial structure has not been adjusted. Historically, there are not many Chinese college students, because China is shifting from manufacturing to consulting, information, logistics, services and other industries that communicate with the world. This means that all college students here have the ability to work. Can find a job.

Once, a college student told me that Teacher Yu wanted to start a business and not go to college. I said why, he said that he would like to learn from Bill Gates. I said that there are a few Bill Gates in the world, not one. He said it doesn't matter, he can be the second one. I said, why don't you go to college? He said, I failed the exam and couldn't go on. This is still not possible with Bill Gatsby. People feel that their knowledge has far surpassed that of the teacher. I feel that it is a waste of time to go to college. I have to use my creativity in time, so I have to drill into my own. The car library researched Microsoft. These are two completely different concepts.

Of course, I just emphasized that your good academic performance is not necessarily good in the future. There is a statistic that has done a survey of the top 10 and the last 10 students in the university. In the 20-year period, the total amount of wealth and social status of the last 10 students in the university is actually higher than the top 10 Be high. This means that even the most backward students in college don't give up on yourself. For example, I worked hard at Peking University for five years. When I graduated, I graduated from the fifth place in the class, but now the first to fifth places in our class are all in New Oriental. Therefore, we will never give up on ourselves.

The most wonderful life is that when I am old, I can write a memoir. I will be moved by the life I have experienced. I will move others to continue to struggle for the wonderful life. At this time, I can say that my life is very fulfilling.

I met a particularly touching story 10 years ago: a college student came to me because he was very poor, but wanted to go abroad and wanted to go to the New Oriental class, but he didn’t have money, so he told me that he wanted to go to New Oriental. Class, but no money, can you work as a classroom administrator in New Oriental part-time in the summer, and arrange for him to go to the class. After checking the students' attendance certificate, they will listen to the class afterwards. I said of course. I did not expect this student to make another request. If the two-month part-time job is really good, can you give him a salary of 500 yuan to buy a tape recorder? I said that there is no problem. As a result, the child had been working for two months. All the people who had contacted him said that the child was working hard, so after two months, I gave him a salary of one thousand yuan for him to buy a tape recorder. After he bought it, he listened to the tape recorder and shed tears. I know that he was moved by his actions, and he must have a big future. After a few years, he was admitted to Yale University with a full scholarship. He is still working in the United States, with an annual salary of $135,000. Therefore, only life that is touched by oneself will be wonderful.

In fact, I also have some stories that I am moved by, for example, I have dropped the list. At that time, I thought I had to go to college, but I didn't think about going to Peking University, so I was desperate to study. Sometimes you will find that you are heading down and your goal is going to be behind you. So when I got the admission letter from Peking University, I really laughed and cried, just like Fan Jinzhong. But if I didn't insist on it at the time, maybe I am still only the son of a farmer. For example, at the time, there were individuals in our village who had been tested for the same period of two years as me. His total score was three points higher than me. At that time, I told him to take the third year of examination together, but his mother said that he did not take the test and found a woman to marry. But at the time, I told my mom that you asked me to take another year of study. In the third year, I really got it. So I came to two conclusions. 1. People must run forward. They don't have to run fast, but they have to run for a long time. 2. You can't stop. You can't fish for two days. You have to be persistent.

I have not been lazy for a day today. I still have to work for nearly 16 hours a day, starting from the day of the joint entrance exam. But I found that I am still better than some colleagues. From elementary school to high school, I studied very seriously. The results were always between the top 10 and 20, and I studied more seriously at the university, but I ended up with the fifth place in the class. The story of the tortoise and the hare race we know from the country, and life is often reflected. Because people who run fast tend to stop, and those who run slow can't run because they are slow. Just run, and sooner or later you will reach the end you are looking for. Therefore, we should not care about the high and low grades of the university, as long as we continue to pursue it.

A wise man's life will not be created more than a stupid person, because stupid people are creating every day, and smart people may create a period of time to stop, even Edison, a super genius, When I was young, I was also considered a blind eye. Einstein only spoke when he was nine years old. Fortunately, he had a good mother who always thought he was a genius and made him a great scientist. So when my son didn't talk when he was 4 years old, my wife was in a hurry to take him around for medical treatment. I said, don't look, it is normal for 4 years old to not speak. My wife said, why is it normal, I said, not speaking is the incomplete development of language function, does not mean that the mind is not developed. So never use your status quo to judge your future, as long as you insist, you will be able to get what you unexpectedly.

Later, many of my classmates contacted the country. I saw envy and wanted to catch up with them, so I started to contact the country. For four years, I have contacted countless American universities and majors, and no American university has given me a scholarship. Although I received several admission notices, I went to the US Embassy visa and refused to sign each time. Of course, now my visa is not available in Iraq, and almost all other countries have it. The visa that the United States has given me now is a multi-year business visa for 10 years. Because New Oriental is listed in the US, he must allow me to enter the United States anytime, anywhere. So when my childhood friend is still facing the Yellow River, I have traveled all over the world when I have not walked out of our town in this life. Everyone thought that in the era of Xu Xiake and Su Shi without any means of transportation, they could travel through the mountains and rivers and write a lot of words that would move and move us. In the era when our technology flourished, if there is no left in the world. Words and footprints, how do you feel worthy of yourself.

Some students said that Teacher Yu can do this because you have money now. Frankly speaking, I used to do it before I had no money. Because when I was young, my most admired person was Xu Xiake, because he was my fellow and lived next door to my house. Only he lived next door to my house 400 years ago, knowing that the influence of local celebrities on local teenagers is enormous. Once, I was sitting on the edge of the Yangtze River to watch the sunrise and sunset. I was wondering how Xu Xiake could go so far. So I would like to be as far away as I can.

It is because of such an example that I will find that the entrance exam is once or twice, and I am not desperate because I know that the only way to get out of the rural border is to go to college. I want to turn rural hukou into an urban hukou because urban hukou can be used everywhere. Although I am usually peaceful, there is always a desire in my heart. It is called the desire to cross the horizon and go far. It is always unsatisfied to see the horizon in front of me. I always hope to open the horizon and see what the other side is. of.

Everyone knows that as long as you constantly exceed the horizon, there will be a lot of scenery to show in front of your eyes. It doesn't matter if you have money. I once went to Taishan with 100 yuan, went to Mount Taishan, went to Jiuhua Mountain, and went to Lushan. As I walked, I helped people to work. When I went to Jiuhuashan and found no money, I slept in a farmer's house. The farmer got me a bed on the riverside and asked me for money, and I only had 5 yuan in my pocket. So, I said to help him intervene to offset the accommodation costs. He looked left and right and said, how can a college student intersperse? The result is that I inserted a three-quarters of the day, and he only inserted a quarter of it, and he was half-dead. He said, how can you plug in so fast? I said that I won the county's transplanting champion when I was 14 years old. Then he killed a chicken at night and asked me to drink. The more he talks, the more I feel that I am not like a college student. When I left the next day, he actually gave me 10 yuan and said to me, I know that you have no money in your pocket, and you will go to Lushan tomorrow. This money will give you a toll.

Life has a variety of living methods, but even if you sit in the middle of a study, you must make your life great in your life. Chen Jingrun has never had a study in his life. Isn't he the greatest mathematician in the world? So no matter what state he wants to "believe in the future and love life" as a poem. So only when our lives have expectations, will there be progress. Sometimes, we choose to move forward, not because we are strong. I am very touched by such a sentence, and it has become my motto: "It is not because I am strong, but because I have no choice." New Oriental has a sport called 50 kilometers on foot. Any new teacher and employee who is new to New Oriental must walk 50 kilometers, and every year in the future, they must walk 50 kilometers. Many people have never walked that far way. Generally, they can't walk after going to 10 kilometers, especially to climb the mountains and wading. Every time I will take the New Oriental staff to go. When I go halfway, someone will want to back down. I can't say it, you can't leave, but the resignation report will be handed over first. When you walk to 25 kilometers, you only have 3 choices. First, go on. Second, go backwards. But when you go halfway, you are 25 kilometers away. It’s better to stick to it. Let's go; third, stand still. And what hope is there to stop in the journey of life?

There are many confusions and pains in our lives, and as long as you stick to it, the pain will often be solved. In the process of walking, I also shed tears in pain, and I used to cry so much, but I know that it is not because you are strong but because you have no choice. At the end of the day, you will find that there will always be results. I didn't expect New Oriental to train 13 students and now become 1.75 million students. In fact, you don't have to think about all of this. Just stick to it.

We always have to pursue an experience in our lives. Sometimes we feel that people are not as good as fish. Because when I was in Canada, I saw Canadian salmon returning. Every time it returned to spawn, I always found life and It is spectacular, and fish eggs are eaten in the sand and eaten a lot by other animals. In the spring of the next year, the remaining fish eggs will become small fish, and the small fish will flow down the river and flow to the lake, and in the lake will be eaten by other fish. A year later, the grown fish will travel along the river to the ocean, and then circle the Pacific Ocean for a cycle every four years. If the salmon stays in the ocean and does not return to the lake to lay eggs, it will not die, but it is called by the heart to concentrate on the estuary and start to swim forward. Once you swim into the river, you will never eat anything. Desperately travel forward, then swim to the destination to start pairing and spawning, and both will die after birth. You will see thousands of red dead fish floating on the river, while the eagle and black bear are waiting on the side.

I was particularly touched after reading it. A small salmon also knows that the mission of life is not to give up. Then the mission of our life, for example, parents have given us the wealth of youth and raised you to adulthood. The same is true after we become parents in the future. The growth of our children is your mission, and our other sense of mission, how to make ourselves live a happier life, how to help others, make this society more meaningful. Why religious people live relatively simple because they instill a sense of mission. Even a fish has experienced small streams, lakes, and the sea. He tasted the fragrance of fresh water and the bitterness of the sea, completing the cycle of life. If we have no bitterness in our life, no happiness and sweetness, then life is very regrettable.

And your current situation does not depend on your future. When I was at Peking University, I was hit harder. First of all, the disparity in identity. I really went into the campus with a big patch. Our physical education teacher never called me. The name of the name is called the big patch to do an action. Because I have exercised in the countryside, the jumping action is pretty good, so I am often called out for a demonstration.

On the first night of the school, I started the class and I got up and said a word. Now Professor Wang Qiang of New Oriental is the class of our class. Stand up and tell me if you can speak Japanese. Because I have been attending school in the countryside, our Chinese teacher never taught us in Mandarin. I didn't know what to say in Mandarin. Peking University was assigned to English according to the results. I was assigned to Class A because I was very good at the entrance exam. In fact, my level of listening was not good, so I was taken to Class C after I arrived in Class A. Class C is mainly for students who have voice, tone and hearing impairment. Later, I found that there is really a gap between my classmates and my classmates. My classmates usually do not study how hard they are studying. How can I get good grades after the final exam? I have to study two or three times a day. Hours, but each final exam is counted down in the class. This makes my mood very depressed.

At that time, we had 50 classmates, 25 boys and 25 girls. I was particularly excited at the beginning of listening to this number, but I didn't expect that none of the girls in our class were looking at me. By the time of 2001, our class had gathered and everyone came back from all over the world. When I looked back, everyone suddenly found that the class was quite unprofessional, and the Mandarin language was not good. The unknown person became the best in the class. At this time, the female classmates enthusiastically walked up to hold my hand and regretted that they did not start.

So later the university girl asked me, Teacher Yu, we are looking for a standard for my boyfriend now, I said it is very simple, refer to my looks. Of course, if you look like me, it must not be let go. Don't let go of anything that is more ugly than I am, because the law in this world is that the more ugly people are richer.

When I was a junior, my favorite reading was "Dream of Red Mansions", and I just read the chapter where Lin Daiyu coughed and died. It turned out that I was also vomiting blood. When I went to the hospital, the doctor checked that the tuberculosis was immediately locked up. One level was one year. I told the doctor how the young man like me would get tuberculosis? The doctor told me to talk about the status quo. I said, you see that my study is particularly hard, but the results are not going up. There is no girl in the class who likes me. He said that it is completely impossible to prevent tuberculosis in this situation.

But this disease has also brought me a mental adjustment, because I am in the first or second year of college, and my classmates who want to catch up with me are my spiritual pillar. But in the third grade, after a year of illness, I completely changed. I feel that living is good. Then I set a minimum standard for myself, at least to ensure that I graduated with a diploma, and finally the country gave me a job. Although I did not give up my efforts, I ended up with a more open mind. So, until now, I have learned to never compare, because there is always better than you, and there is always more backward than you.

The most correct thing in the world is to compare with yourself. Think about whether today is a little better than yesterday. Think about whether next year is better than this year. Think about it, after 10 years, are you better than you this year? This mentality has been maintained until I graduated from college.

When I graduated from college, everyone had to go up and talk a word. For example, after the rest of my life, I went up and said something like this: I said, everyone is very good, I chased everyone and didn’t catch up for 5 years, but Please remember that the classmates who play a camel will definitely not give up on themselves. I have been doing things for 5 years, and I have been doing it for 10 years. I have been doing things for 10 years. I have been doing things for 20 years. After 40 years of work, I can't do it. I will keep my mood happy and healthy. After I am 80 years old, I will send you away one by one. This is my personal attitude towards life, and I think this attitude towards life is very effective for me.

Someone asked me, what if New Oriental is gone? In fact, New Oriental will not be there sooner or later because it is already a commercial operation educational institution. Let's think about it. One of the messages we saw a few days ago, GE is the symbol of the United States. Isn't it still on the verge of bankruptcy? New Oriental may become like this in the future and become a trace of history. But I think that even if New Oriental is not there, I am still very successful, because my mentality is very successful. My longing for life and the desire to cross the horizon will not change. I think that what New Oriental has given me is a kind of spirit, a kind of strength, not how much money New Oriental itself brings to me. Of course, if New Oriental gives me more money, I am willing to ask if it is a fool. But more importantly, whether money can make something more meaningful. For example, I have always wanted to be a small private university. Maybe I can't be as big as Tongji University, but it is always possible to do one-tenth of it. I have bought a piece of land in Beijing. The university campus is being built. After it is decoupled from the listed company of New Oriental and becomes a non-profit university campus, it may become another thing you do.

How to make your life more fulfilling is the most important thing, so it is very normal to say that New Oriental does not exist. If New Oriental is gone, I will come over and give lectures to everyone, and I will be more cheerful. Because there are no cumbersome things. I just need to change the subject. Today is called "to spend a meaningful life", next time I changed to "How did I make the New Oriental do nothing".

In the university, we have to do a few things: first, to make your knowledge structure complete; second, to make friends as much as possible in the university, because your lifelong friends and collaborators must come from At your university; third, if possible, talk about a more specific love in college, because I recall that my life at Peking University is gray. I think why is it gray? Actually, it is not because of poor grades, but because I have never spent the time in the past five years in college. So it has always been a regret in my college days. When Peking University asked me to give all Peking University freshmen a school opening ceremony last year, I emphasized to them that nothing is important. What is important is to fall in love, and to fall in love, there is no need to be afraid of failure. Because suicide can’t commit suicide, it’s not known. So shallow, you can climb up when you jump; the fourth is to plan for the future work. Future work is related to how many friends you have and how much you know about your professional knowledge. Take good control of your major, and the poor professional must be used, as long as you learn well.

I have a friend who studies Vietnamese. Vietnamese is rarely used, but all the central leaders go to Vietnam to find him because he is a first-class Vietnamese simultaneous translation expert. I also have a college student studying Chiang Kai-shek, who has studied for 10 years and is destitute. But later he went to the United States to make a report. The United States helped him convene a seminar on the history of modern Chinese characters. He talked about his own research in the report. As a result, an old professor was in tears. After asking, the old professor also studied Chiang Kai-shek in the United States for 30 years. He was alone and could not find another study of Chiang Kai-shek. He did not expect a "fool" to study Chiang Kai-shek. So 50,000 US dollars a year, let my classmates follow him in the United States to study for graduate students, and then read four years of doctoral students. After the old man retired after reading, he became a professor at that school. When I went to see him, he had bought a small house in New York, bought a car and married a wife to raise a dog. At that time, he told me that Yu Minhong, you see that all of this is what Chiang Kai-shek "gives" to me.

I want to use this example to explain what? It is not important to study what is important, as long as you really like it, then someone will use you. Conversely, if you feel that you don't like this major, but it is suitable for me to find a job, do you want to learn? Of course you have to learn. I am in such a state. I have never liked English. I only tried English because I couldn’t do math. I don't like English because my imitation ability is not strong. Like my class, Wang Qiang, can vividly imitate anything. After practicing in Chinese for a year, I practiced what everyone can understand. My wife is from Tianjin. I used the Tianjin dialect to yell at me after quarreling with me, but I will only speak a Tianjin dialect until now. It was when she picked up the stick and beat me, I yelled at her, "What?"

But then I found that English became a tool in my life. Because of English, I became a teacher at Peking University. In fact, when I left Beijing University, I didn’t have a good grade, but I was just in the 4th and 6th grades. Students from all departments of Peking University had to study English for two years. As a result, Peking University was in short supply. And some excellent graduates have gone to the Ministry of Foreign Affairs and the Ministry of Economy and Trade, and their wages are high. Later, our department head rushed to say that the last five people left me. The five people who have stayed are now becoming doctoral tutors. It shows how the quality of Peking University education is now. Of course, this is a joke. They have also gone through their own efforts and experienced many exams to become excellent teachers.

When climbing, you will care about trekking sticks. Do you like it or not? No, you only care if you can help you climb the summit. Then English is my trekking pole. Although I don't like it very much, I know that I need this trekking pole if I want to climb a higher life. I originally wanted to turn myself into the top 100 Chinese English experts. Later I found that there was no drama at all, because Chinese students have returned more and more, some have stayed abroad for 10 or 20 years, and come back to see how to read English. The level is higher than mine. Then I can only narrow the scope and want to become an English grammar expert. Later, I found that the words do not need to use my brain, so I began to desperately recite the words, and the result became a good vocabulary expert in China.

In addition to studying majors, students have to study more in college. New Orientals have a lot of books. Reading a lot means that the horizon is more open, more thinking, and more innovative. New Oriental circulated a sentence called "the thickness of the foundation determines the height of the cause." The thickness of the underlying is mainly from two aspects. The first time you read a lot, reading a lot of books, your knowledge structure will naturally be complete, it will produce wisdom; the second is more life experience. Combining the wisdom of life experience with the wisdom of reading will become a real great wisdom, and it will become an inexhaustible source and tool for your future creative career.

For example, New Oriental recruits key positions for my interviews. I only have a few questions. First, how many books have you read at the university. If you say that you have read dozens of books, then I will definitely not want you. The minimum standard in my mind is 200 books, and I read 800 books in college. New Oriental has a more prosperous teacher, Wang Qiang, who has read 1,200 books in college, an average of one per day. Some people will ask me, have you read the difference between forgetting and not reading? In fact, it is totally different. Just like you fall in love, a person who talks about love and becomes a bachelor is more confident than a bachelor. Because when he sees someone else falling in love, he will be next to him, "I want to talk about love when I was old." It's really impossible to read, you can go to the bookstore to look at those books, remember those names to touch them by hand, which can also add a little human temperament.

I have a philosophy that people live to live a poetic life. How many times have we stopped to look at the moon? During the holidays, we went to Inner Mongolia to see the stars in the sky. How many students looked at the morning glow and the sunset? The surging of life. Of course, we must do our best. At the time of the university, there was a very famous poet named Hai Zi who wrote the famous poem "facing the sea and spring blossoming", but it is a pity that he failed to resist the pressure of the real society and committed suicide. Therefore, we say that a person cannot express poetry only in language, but also express poetry in reality. So you have to overcome obstacles and frustrations in reality. There is a poem called "The desert is solitary and straight, and the long river falls into the sun." I have a very deep feeling about "the long river falling into the sun", but there is no concept about "the desert is solitary." Therefore, the first thing after entering the Peking University campus is to go to the desert, go to the Gobi Desert, and head to the prairie. And as of today, these places have become my spiritual home. If there is something that can't be done in life, I will go to the Mongolian steppe to ride with the herdsmen. The herdsmen once said that they have never seen a life like you in the Han people.

Going back to the poetic life, playing MSN in the university is not a poetic life. It is a kind of poetry to take a book while reading a book and then slowly fall asleep. It is necessary to pay attention to current affairs politics and grasp some world events. This ability will play a big role in your future business. The other is to make friends as much as possible, make friends first, you have to be a good person, you have to be a reassuring person. This is the state in the Chinese business community. If you are a good-hearted person, someone will help in times of difficulty. For example, Mengniu’s Niu Gensheng has heard that he is very real. So after Mengniu’s accident, he needs funds. Just need to make a call and we will transfer the money. And why don't even sign the contract to give it to him, the reason is very simple, trust.

I have also encountered such a situation. When I met SARS in 2003, we immediately gave the students a tuition fee, and New Oriental’s liquidity was immediately retired. At the time, I figured out that there was still 20 million in the book. So I called two friends separately, and one person and ten million got it that night. So, you become a person who believes in others, and you get much more benefit than being someone who protects you. To establish this kind of trust, we must do the following: to be centered on others, not to be centered on ourselves; to have a spirit of service.

At that time, my college students felt that I didn't have a good time, but why did I come back to start a business with me? This is related to my behavior in college. I am a college student who is not good at learning but who likes to help others. Our dormitory was never ranked at the time, because the land was all I swept. There is also the water in the dormitory is basically I play, and the reason why they later gave up the excellent conditions abroad to start a business with me is related to the water in my dormitory. A few years later, I went to the college students to come back. They said that even those who have no interest in you are making money in China. Then we are back. The second reason is that we know that you are a very good person, you have Eating rice will not give us porridge. If you have porridge, it will not let us starve, so we will be back. Therefore, it is almost impossible to succeed in a university without even having a friend.

There are also a few people in the university who can really help you, such as: the heart is wider than you, the vision is sharper than you. I am such a friend in college, and I am going to follow the cattle. For example, Teacher Wang Qiang has a genius side, and these are what I can't learn. He likes to read books. When he enters university, he divides the living expenses into two. One is for buying books, one is for buying rice tickets, and the rice tickets are never used to buy books. He would rather steal other people’s meals. I feel that this habit is very good. I also split it into two. When the meal ticket is finished, I will steal him. Every weekend we go to buy books, I don't know what books to buy, so what he buys and what I buy, he is bothered by me and said that you can not follow me, I said that you are my class has the responsibility to help behind Classmates. In fact, I know that he wants to drive me away, because at that time he was the target of our class girls. If I didn't follow him, he would take the girls out to buy books. I saw him in this conspiracy. Up to now, my reading teacher is Wang Qiang. His collection of books is close to 60,000. Whenever he sees a good and cheap book, he will buy it for me. You will send a message for me to buy.

I have to keep reading until now. Because when they meet, when they talk about good books, once I haven’t read them, they will say, “You don’t have to work in college. How is it still?” Therefore, the atmosphere of our reading is very strong and most important. The reason is Wang Qiang, and you really need such a friend. There is also Teacher Xu Xiaoping. I think this teacher is very good at the university and I really want to know. A week later I bought a small pen for him and knocked on the door of his house. He asked me who you are. I said, I am your student. I am very touched after listening to your class, so I want to make friends with you. This is a small gift that I brought to you. Xu Xiaoping saw me holding a gift in my hand and let me in. I entered the door of his house and found a large group of young teachers there. It turned out that he had a habit of recruiting a group of teachers to chat at his home on Friday night. Of course, I really want to hear. I can ask if I can stay and listen. He can't say it. We are talking about men and women. The innocent teenager like you will be polluted. Fortunately, I responded quickly, Teacher Xu, I just need enlightenment education in this regard. Opportunities are always discovered by themselves. I found that no one was boiling them, so I helped them boil the instant noodles. I went for 4 weeks in a row, and I won't go to the 5th week. Why not go, not because I am annoyed, but because I think a person must show it when it is important to show it. Sure enough, Xu Xiaoping said a phone call, how can you still be a rabbit? I know, it's not that I can't live without them, but they can't do without me. Since then, during the year, I kept listening to them. When I was in New Oriental, the first one I went to was Xu Xiaoping. I told him that New Oriental does not lack English teachers, but lacks thoughtful people, so I hope you will go back and manage the ideas of New Oriental. So another thing to do in college is to make friends and turn yourself into someone you trust.

And if you can talk about a love is still very good. But there is a very important prerequisite for falling in love is to love with one heart and one mind. The so-called single-minded love is not to say that only one love can be talked about in a university, but one can only talk about one at a time. To what extent do you want to love? There must be such a feeling, "Why is my eyes full of tears? It is because I love the depth of your love."

The second element is that when you really fall in love with someone, tell him in the right way that you love him and not just in your heart. I fell in love with a lot of girls in college, but only in my heart, afraid of being rejected by others. But in fact, the pursuit of human beings is best shown. Even if a girl refuses, she will go home and write in the diary. "There is another boy chasing me today." I went to the United States one year and had dinner with a girl I liked in the previous class. She and her husband had dinner with me. When I was eating, I told her that I actually liked you very much at university. She shot a thigh at the time and said why didn't you tell me?

The third is to talk about generosity. The so-called generosity means that when another person falls in love with other people, he must tell him generously. Your happiness is my happiness, and your happiness is my happiness. I always feel that people always have a fate in the world. If no one in the university loves you, there will always be people in your future life who will love you and wait for you to join hands in the future journey.

I am a person who is particularly passionate about life. I walked and even the ants didn't dare to step on it. I wanted to trample the male ant that female ant. I don't dare to eat fish. I want to eat that mother fish. It is so painful that I don't want to eat fish. Of course, college love is a process, regardless of graduate students or college students, after marriage, it is much less than love. For example, we have more than a dozen pairs of love in our class. After graduating from college, we got married three pairs. Two years later we divorced two pairs. There is still a pair left, this pair is Wang Qiang and his wife, my classmates at the university. Both of them are still living a happy life.

Well, if you are dissatisfied with the love of the university, it doesn't matter. Look at me. Many people think that I am not normal, but I still get married, still find the person I love, still have children, and have a better family. All in all, life is such a beautiful move forward. There are ordinary, excited, long nights, and beautiful days. This is our life.

There is also a work problem. The problem of work is a relatively simple question. I believe that Tongji University students will not have much difficulty in finding a job, but some students ask me if I want to start a business. It’s a very bad thing that life doesn’t happen once in a lifetime. People always have to do things for themselves for a lifetime, and entrepreneurship is something for themselves. A job is done together, but you don't necessarily have to start a business when you graduate from college. Why? Because entrepreneurship requires experience and many prerequisites.

First, your professional knowledge can be used in your business; second, you have the ability to get along with classmates and friends and have the ability to assign interests; third, you must have the ability to deal with such complex situations in Chinese society; fourth You must have basic business operation principles or business operation knowledge; fifth, you must be a leader; sixth, you must have operational knowledge and expertise in your field.

For example, if you want to train a school, where does your operational knowledge come from? This operational knowledge requires you to observe how others can do it. If I did New Oriental directly from Peking University, then I could never do it. I have two prerequisites for doing New Oriental. First, I did a six-year teacher at Peking University, so I did a good job as a teacher. There is also a second precondition. Before I was in New Oriental, I worked in another training institution for nearly three years. I was watching how it was done. I have met many people who have failed in college. I said, why don't you start a business? They said that as long as they encounter interest, they are all "dogs." Is this the case? Yes, but you will deal with it is not a shit. I also have a relationship with New Oriental friends, but I am not going to deal with it? So the key now is to consider whether there is such a skill. I want to start a business, but I encourage my classmates to go to a certain industry for at least one to two years, preferably three to four years, to slowly accumulate their talents, and gradually mature and become more stable. There are also fewer opportunities for failure in this last venture.

There are two states of entrepreneurship. The first is to start from zero. I started from scratch, and Ma Yun started from scratch. The second kind of entrepreneurship is like Yang Yuanqing, but also entrepreneurship. Yang Yuanqing is the leader of the team that received Liu Chuanzhi. The famous American management scientist and entrepreneur Jet Wilson, who also started from an ordinary worker and became the company's CEO for 20 years; he has been the company's CEO for 20 years and turned the company into the world's largest company. . This is also a business, not necessarily doing it yourself.

Some students asked, Teacher Yu, how can I make a training institution as big as you? It is very simple to go to New Oriental to clean the house. If you clean the health very cleanly, then I will promote you to the Minister of Health, if you When the Minister of Health is doing a good job, you will become the New Oriental Logistics Director. When you become the New Oriental Logistics Director, I will send you to Harvard University to study. After the study is over, I will hand over the logistics administration to you, and you will become logistics. Chief Executive Officer. The first place? The second place. I am "a squat", you are the president, right? So our maturity is slowly coming, just like a tree grows up and grows up slowly, how can one suddenly become a successful entrepreneur? There are still some, but also a few. I was a 32-year-old entrepreneur and I only had New Oriental at the age of 32. So don't worry, it doesn't matter how big a person does in a lifetime.

Still my old saying: Live your life a little better. My analogy is the metaphor of big trees and grasses. There is another metaphor: people's lives are like streams, and there is always a dream - flowing into the sea. Some people have not flowed to the sea in this life, and this river is incomplete. The Yangtze River flows to the sea, and the Yellow River flows to the sea, but the Yangtze and Yellow Rivers flow to the sea in different ways. The Yangtze River opened a mountain meteorite through the mountains to the sea, the Yellow River did not open a mountain meteorite, the result bypassed the nine bends and eighteen bends. But no matter what, life will bend again and the final goal will not change. The only thing we have to remember is to continue to flow forward like the Yellow River and the Yangtze River, but we cannot turn into the sediments of the Yellow River and the Yangtze River. Finally, we will settle ourselves and give up the precipitation. All in all, the wonderfulness of life depends on others not on others. There is never a savior, you want to live wonderfully and be happy, you can only rely on the joint efforts of every friend around us!