You lose, always choose the easy way to go.

The old friend came back from Shenzhen, chatting in my cafe, and talking about ourselves and this ever-changing era, she suddenly sighed and said: "Every major choice in your life is correct."

I asked her: "What do you think is the most correct choice you have made so far?"

She replied simply: "Buy a house and go to Shenzhen."

When she bought the house, she talked about a boyfriend in Shenzhen. She was very emotional and promised to help her pay the down payment for the house. She was in the middle of a high-end neighborhood next to Wuda, fearing that the deposit was underground. Later, her boyfriend saw the real estate advertisement in Wuhan and said, "Baby, you bought the most expensive house in Wuchang District."

She did not have a fixed job at the time, and her life was peaceful and scattered. After buying a house, she was totally different. She began to write seriously and seriously looking for a job.

Soon, she went to Shenzhen to go to love. Before going there, I was also entangled. I think her roots are in Wuhan, the big city in Shenzhen. Is there any place for her? I told her unceremoniously that it was actually a blank sheet of paper.

Although her boyfriend later broke down, she has more job opportunities in Shenzhen than in Wuhan. A few years later, she sold the house in Wuhan and paid a down payment in Shenzhen. Later, everyone knows the story. The price of Shenzhen is one hundred thousand and eight thousand miles. She now often swears with us about her retirement: I sold the house in Shenzhen and returned to my hometown as a rich woman.

Whether buying a house or going to Shenzhen, it was a very difficult choice for her at the time, which meant taking the ease and taking risks.

Throughout my own life, there are countless hard choices, simply three times. The first time was to leave the state-owned enterprise to go to the magazine, the second time to leave the magazine as a freelance writer, and the third time to leave the freelance writer who was asleep naturally, and to do the "public dog" who got up in the middle of the night to write a manuscript.

When I left the magazine, I was already the editorial director and chatted with the magazine's peers. He said that they had little resignation at the middle level.

Soon after I went to the magazine, my state-owned enterprises began to lay off employees, and at this time my father’s question of why you should give up a stable life is still in your ears. After I left the paper media and worked as a freelance writer for several years, many middle-level media and even high-level job-hopping were common.

Am I a person with magical power? of course not.

Having said that, in fact, you have already seen it. No matter the correct choice in the eyes of my friend, I still have the right choice in her eyes. Every time there is a commonality, there is a commonality in our eyes. When you are on a road, you are always lucky to choose the road that is difficult to walk.

Everyone wants to be comfortable, and ease can be a trap for young people. One day, you will find that the comfortable life you have thought is actually a downhill road. You ask for so low, but there is still no way to maintain its standard, because the times change too fast. In the crowded trend, you don’t move forward. Only back.

The way forward and upward is usually difficult to walk. You will think of retreating countless times, and you will be hit countless times. You are like a chicken that is going to eat in the eagle group. Every day, you are afraid of being eaten, and you are afraid of being eaten. Every day, one day, you find yourself turning into an eagle.

In the year of doing the official number, I often have the idea of ​​not doing it. Sometimes when I just pressed the transfer button, I got a good title in my head and I couldn't wait to hit my computer with my head. The public article, the title means half of success. This frustration often lasts until the next good title, initially three or five days, and now I only give myself one day. I was thinking about the title while cooking, thinking about the title when I was dreaming. I was still thinking about the title when my mother-in-law spoke to me. This time, she felt that my biggest change was that she was thin, and second, she didn’t like to talk, of course. There is no way to explain to her what is "anytime thinking about the title".

This year, I frequently stupid myself. However, my other experience is that you often stupid yourself, and others basically have no chance to stupid you.

I am often asked if I want to get a divorce, break up, change jobs, and choose? This is a very difficult question to answer, because basically the people who ask this question actually want to choose an easy path. In my opinion, it is precisely that it is difficult to really solve their problems and start a new life. The road.

Because it is difficult to walk, you will mobilize all the potential, to overcome the difficulties encountered, to find your own comfortable position, you suffer the most, is also the most direct beneficiary.

The hard way to go is usually an uphill road. You don't lean down to lick that kind of life, but to pick up your toes for that kind of life. Of course, tired of picking up the toes, you may also encounter the pain of pulling a nail, but only in this way, you can harvest the ideal state, that is, your idol, now your colleague; the clothes you could not afford, now bought One after another; you once thought that doing something bad, now it is like a left hand touching the right hand.

Your potential is far more reliable than how you feel about yourself.

I also made a lot of self-righteous definitions for myself. For example, I can't write a manuscript in a coffee shop. It's too noisy. I can't think of multi-line thinking. I can only think of one thing at a time. I can't write a quick draft. An article must be born in the stomach to make a white fat man. Not good at speaking, not good at business... Now, my feeling is that there is only one thing I can't do, that is to go back to 18 years old, but I don't want to go back to 18 years old.

"I can't do it" is just an excuse for your return. Although you can't do everything right, most of the choices and problems we encounter can be solved diligently, far from being talented.

When you feel that you are not doing a good job, ask yourself if you have dreamed about it. If you are dreaming about how to do it well, the result is still below the pass line, and you will admit defeat.

"When you are confused, choose the hard way to go" is the New Year greeting that I will send you.