Parent-child education experience

Part 1: Parent-child education experience

Dear teachers and parents, hello, I am the father of Luo Ziyi. I am here to share with you the issue of parent-child education. I feel very embarrassed. I believe that some of the practices of educating children are better than me. Today I am It is with a learning attitude, learn from everyone's good practices, and learn from everyone's good experience in educating children.
To educate children, I think that the first thing is to train him into an upright person.
Every parent wants their children to grow up and become a phoenix. Of course, I am no exception. But before the child becomes a dragon and a phoenix, I think it is necessary to train the child into a person first. Even if he cannot become a dragon in the future, he must not become a worm! Therefore, I never relax my child's requirements in moral education! To cultivate his grateful heart and educate him on the principle of "drip the water, when reporting with the spring", educating him to respect the elders is a matter of course. It is a virtue to educate his friends to help each other and educate him to help those in need. It is the basic principle of being a man... It is very gratifying that the education of our children has played a role in the life. After the Wenchuan earthquake, the Yushu earthquake and the Zhouqu earth and stone flow, he asked us to donate his pocket money. As long as you see you on the street, he always finds a dollar for us. Although some of them are not real embarrassment, we still praise the child's behavior; never take the bus to sit in the "yellow seat" Because it is the "old, weak, sick and pregnant" special seat; every Sunday we take the children to visit his grandparents and cultivate his habit of respecting the elders!
To educate children, I think the second is to cultivate his good study habits.
As long as children develop good study habits, their grades will increase steadily. My request for my child is the knowledge of the school, and I must master it on the same day. The homework assigned by the teacher must be completed before 8 o'clock in the evening. When children do their homework, parents don’t watch TV and don’t go online, take the book with them, check the mistakes found during the homework, we don’t point out where the mistakes are, ask him to think independently about the new answers. In fact, many times he can correct himself. come. Read more extracurricular readings and increase knowledge. More than half of the books in my bookcase are extracurricular readers that are of interest to children. There are also puzzle books and famous articles that we have chosen for him. The children's knowledge has been expanded. In 2007, the child's "Olympic Fuwa" essay won the "First Prize of the National Olympic Gold Medal Composition Competition". In 2019, it won the "National Second Primary School Student's Quality Standard Gold" and the "eighth national small" I hope that the cup will be awarded the second prize of the Mathematics Invitational Province. Therefore, I think the most important thing is to let children develop good study habits. There must be a good learning atmosphere at home, which makes him feel that learning is a pleasure, not a burden.
To educate children, I think it is necessary to guide children to play games and go online.
Like many children, my children are particularly keen on surfing the Internet and playing online games. This is also a concern for many parents. In my home, I allow my children to go online and play online games. The information on the Internet is mixed, so the children I always stay with me when I go online. I let him understand that the computer network is just a learning tool. Many things that I don't understand can be found on the above. The children have learned a lot on the Internet! I have strict time requirements for children to play games on the Internet. They can only play after completing the learning task on weekends. They can't be more than two hours at a time, and the game can only be suitable for children to play "Saier" and other small games! The Internet is not a savage beast. I think it is good to have a good knowledge of the child as long as it is well guided.
To educate children, I think we should always take our children out to broaden our horizons.
We attach great importance to taking children out to get to know nature, to be close to nature, and to embrace nature. When we are one to three years old, we take him to the Wuhan Zoo every year to watch and identify animals. Every year, I will take him out to travel once a year, see the customs and customs of different places, open up his vision, and exercise his independence and self-care ability. . Every time he travels, he is asked to carry his own things. Sometimes in some remote places, the conditions are particularly difficult, the room is very simple, he can overcome and have a good time. In the process of traveling, we also asked him to write a travel diary. Through tourism, children have gained a lot of knowledge and geographic knowledge and broadened their horizons.
To educate children, I think we should have a relaxed family environment.
The healthy growth of a child has a lot to do with the family environment. The children living in a relaxed family environment are cheerful and sunny. Therefore, at home, we promise not to quarrel in front of the children, even if there is anything to avoid. The child solves. At the same time, we often accompany the children to go chess, play Go, chat, and create a happy family atmosphere!
To educate children, I think that proper rewards and punishments are essential.
In order to educate children, in addition to guidance, appropriate rewards are necessary. As the child progresses, we will buy some small gifts that he usually wants to reward him. Of course, proper punishment is also indispensable. This is to let him learn the lesson. For example, after the afternoon of school, the children came back for half an hour in the specified time. After the inquiry, they learned that several of their classmates came to the river. Playing with it, it made me angry, talked with him, analyzed the dangers of going to the river and the parents' fears, and deducted his two days of pocket money! Let him feel bad for a few days, and there will be no later coming back!
The above is my experience in educating children. The growth of a child is inseparable from the fertile soil of the school and the industrious cultivation of the teacher. We also look forward to sharing with other parents to make the children's tomorrow even better!

Chapter 2: Parent-child education experience

There are three situations in which parents treat children: one is to manage everything, always manage, and do a lot of things, but the effect is not good; the second is to leave nothing, do nothing, let go, don’t care, the result is not Good; the third is also the management but not the whole, not doing much, but they are all crucial, and the children grow smoothly. Outstanding parents have always chosen to “do something different” and, more specifically, only do three things.
The first thing: cultivating a good parent-child relationship is better than many education. When parents have a good relationship with their children, education for their children is easy to succeed; when they have a bad relationship with their children, education for their children is easy to fail. The key to establishing a good parent-child relationship is "positioning":
1. Inappropriate "judge", learn to be a "lawyer"
Some parents can't wait to be a "judge" when they see a problem with their child. This is very dangerous.
The inner world of children is rich and colorful. Parents must actively influence and educate their children. If they don’t understand their inner world, they will not be able to talk about it. The first key to understanding children is to protect their self-esteem, safeguard their rights, and become friends of their trust and respect.
That is to say, parents should treat their children as if they were "lawyers", and understand their inner needs, and always maintain their legal rights as the sole purpose.
2, improper "referee", learn to do "raar team"
In the arena of life, children can only work hard on their own. Parents can neither replace children nor advocate self-assertion as a "referee", but should give the child a force to maintain a good competitive state, that is, the strength of the "Cheerleaders." This will help children build self-confidence, which is the core task of parent education.
Parents who are children's "raaring team" must be good at discovering and praising children, and guiding their children to face failures correctly and be a child's comrades before setbacks.
3, improper "tamer", learn to be a "mirror"
Children can only overcome themselves if they know themselves, but they usually only know themselves based on the feedback of others. At this time, the role of the “feedback” of the parents is the role of the mirror.
If you don't do "tamer" and learn to be a "mirror", you can help your child to improve their self-awareness so that they can not communicate with their parents without fear of their parents' "authority."
Education is three-point teaching, seven points, and so on. " Wait a minute" is very useful. For example, if we are smashed by mosquitoes, no matter what, it will be fine soon. If we always scratch, it will take a long time to be good. The reason is that the human body has a certain self-healing function. It is good to be licked by mosquitoes, and exerting external force will only be counterproductive.
Education is also the truth. Stop and wait, give your child the opportunity to talk, communicate effectively with the child, and solve the problem without education.
The second thing: the good habits of cultivating children determine the fate of the child, and nothing is more important than the habit. If parents do not pay attention to the good habits of cultivating children, it is undoubtedly a good future for ruining children.
1. Everything from the cultivation of habits to develop education is a lifelong education. Intellectual education is a good habit of thinking. Moral education is a small behavioral habit. Quality education is more reflected in the small behavior of people.
A lot of facts prove that habit is a tenacious force that can dominate a person's life. Everything about the child begins with a habit.
2, the habit of developing is not a daily habit is a big problem, is great wisdom. The cultivation of good habits is by no means a day's work. The main principles are: low starting point, strict requirements, small steps, fast pace, multiple activities, seeking change, quick feedback, and diligent correction.
Habit to develop the key in the first three days, decided in a month. Parents should fully respect the rights of children and let them play a leading role in the habit formation.
3, through the habit of training casting character education is like the sea on the ship, must travel according to the correct route, otherwise, the bigger the ship, the more the danger of sinking the reef.
The quality of people determines the direction of human development. One of the core tasks of parenting education is to train children to become real people. However, the cultivation of personality is often difficult to implement in specific operations.
However, the researchers found that habits and personality complement each other, habits affect personality, and personality affects habits. Characters such as decent, honest, responsible, caring, cooperative, and efficient can all be the third thing to learn through habit cultivation: to guide children to learn to learn the third thing: to attract children to love learning, to guide children to learn to learn is a parent The important duties are also the true charm of parents.
1, the child is tired of learning for a reason to let go, let it be chic; indiscriminate management of the tube, planting melon beans; 唠叨 唠叨 肆 肆 肆 肆 肆 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂 骂The practice will only make children less and less interested in learning.
Children do not love to learn is only a superficial phenomenon, there must be a reason behind it: is it not a good study habit? Didn't find what the child is best at? Is there no scientific brain? Is the parent hindering the child's "playing middle school" nature? It is the child who does not realize that learning is his own thing... Finding the reason behind it can help the child get out of the shadow of being tired of learning.
2, the child's curiosity and learning potential can be stimulated children lack of curiosity, usually not the influence of parents or strict requirements, but blocked the child's interest.
Interest, dreams, sense of accomplishment, questioning, gratitude, excitement, anger, etc. are all channels to clear and inspire children's curiosity. For children, the so-called competitive advantage is the effective development of potential. Mood, recitation, suggestion, delusion, motivation, and planning are the six principles that motivate children to learn their potential.
Although there is no absolute “timetable” for potential development, there are steps, such as establishing goals, controlling emotions, tempering will, focusing on one point, etc. are very important.
3, the child's first test is a method
"Love learning" is the premise of "learning", while "learning" is the guarantee of "love learning", and "learning" can "learn well."
If you want to take the exam first, you must master some decisive methods, such as: complete the project, write carefully, read the textbook slowly, sort out the wrong questions, take notes, help the students with selflessness, and pass the exam efficiently. Freely writing and so on.
Nowadays, many parents have entered a new misunderstanding on the issue of educating their children, that is, the blind faith is blindly obsessed with the tutoring experience of the so-called successful teachers, but these experiences are easy to listen to and difficult to do. Because they are not "migratory", if they just clone and imitate, they can not only be implemented on their own children, but they are easy to "study" and counterproductive.
The most useful real thing is to calm down and think and refine. Educating children is not as complicated as parents think. Grasping the three major things of parent-child relationship, habit cultivation, and learning. Parents become outstanding parents, and children become outstanding children. It is not a distant dream.
This is an article worthy of reading and thinking by all parents. It points to a bright light that we are going to educate the next generation. After reading this article, I am deeply touched and constantly reflect on my existence in educating children and students. The problem, in the future, I will continue to improve my ability to educate under the guidance of this beacon.

Part 3: Experience in parent-child education

Every parent wants their children to grow up in the education of love. When I was about to be a mother, I often talked to my neighbors about my childcare experience. At that time, I heard that a "proud" mother said that her child would know more than 2,000 words when she was three years old. When you are four or five years old, you can read it yourself! At the time, when I was amazed at the "smart" of her children, I realized that the child's ability must be ahead of us, much bigger than what we adults thought!
When I was a mother, I changed myself to look at some web pages to study the different physiological and psychological characteristics of my child's different age groups, and seized the key period of children's literacy from 2 to 2.5 years old. During this period, we made a lot of words for the children, taught him to know some simple words, repeated every day, and taught while teaching. When I met more than 200 commonly used words, I began to subscribe the children to the Children's Pictorial. The magazine has the advantage of having both a textual story and a disc with the same standard in Mandarin. Therefore, the child knows more words by watching the disc and flipping through the pictorial. He found pleasure in reading and found another way to discover the wonders of the world—that is, “reading”! In this way, I will buy some books that are recommended by experts on the Internet and that children like, and he will gradually become a "bookworm."
Children are our hopes. Parents all hope that their children can have a good reading habit, and we also know that reading is important to a person. Reading is a kind of ability that a person must possess. It can be judged by thinking, which is the basis for a person's success in modern social life. Survival in the age of lifelong learning, in the face of the ever-changing knowledge information and the concept of multi-value, we need to continue to talk through books and gradually learn to think independently, so reading is the basis of learning!
In addition, parent-child reading, creating a reading atmosphere, and setting a good reading role for children is also very important. At home, parents should read books with their children as much as possible and be a role model for children. Try to arrange time for children to go to the book city to read books on weekends. In this reading atmosphere, children's reading interest will also increase. At the same time, you can often exchange ideas and experiences with your child. Encourage your child to retell the storyline or specific content in the book, tell your own opinions and opinions, and then analyze and discuss them together. If you do this often, your child's reading interest may become more intense, and your child's reading level will gradually increase.
What makes me feel the most in parent-child reading is that you insist on it. Our parents have to work hard every day, so there won't be too much time for our children! In fact, the children will not deprive us of too much time, just 15 to 30 minutes with him every day is enough!
Good reading can enrich your child's mind and expand your child's vision. I hope that through our efforts, children can have a good reading habit and thus create their own good personality.

Chapter 4: Parent-child education experience

When I brought my nine-year-old son to the United States and sent him into the United States, not far from the apartment, I was as if I had given my most beloved things to someone I didn’t trust. I am worried all day long. What kind of school is this? Students can laugh in class, let students play at least two hours a day, and go home after less than three in the afternoon. The most eye-opening is that there are no textbooks.
The blond American female teacher saw the fourth grade textbook of the Chinese National Elementary School, which was taken by my son. He said in a gentle manner: "I can tell you that before the sixth grade, his mathematics didn't have to be learned!" The smiley face, I am like a sap. For a time, I really doubted whether it was the stupid thing to do with my son in the United States.
Day by day, watching my son go to school with an empty bag every day, my heart can not stop grief. In China, he started from the first year of the National Primary School, and his schoolbags were full and heavy. From the first grade to the fourth grade, three schoolbags were changed. One is bigger than one, and the weight of “knowledge” is increasing. In the United States, he has no burden. Can this be called school? One semester passed, and the son was called to the front and asked him what the American school gave him the deepest impression. He smiled and gave me an American English: "Freedom!" These words were shot on my head like bricks.
At this time, it is really a deep affection for Chinese education. It seems to have a deeper understanding of why Chinese children always get the gold medal in the Olympic learning competition in the world. However, what has happened to this? It can only be resigned.
Unconsciously, one year has passed, my son’s English has grown a lot, and he doesn’t go home after school. He often goes to the library and returns to a large schoolbag from time to time. Asking him to borrow so many books at a time, he looked at the borrowed book while he was typing on the computer, and he said, "Hey."
Is this called homework? When I look at the title of the child on the computer screen, I am really a little dumbfounded - "China's yesterday and today", such a big topic, even a doctor, dare to do it?
So I asked the author who was strict and stern, and the son told me calmly: The teacher said that the United States is an immigrant country and asked each student to write an article about the country in which his ancestors lived. It is required to summarize the history, geography and culture of this country, analyze its differences with the United States, and explain its own views. I listened, and I didn't even have the strength to sigh. I really don't know how to let a 10-year-old child do such a project that even an adult might not be able to do. What would be the result? I only think that if a 10-year-old child is educated without knowing the heights, I am afraid that even the ability to eat will not be there.
After a few days, the son completed the homework. Unexpectedly, a 20-page booklet was printed. From the Jiuqu Yellow River to the hieroglyphics, from the Silk Road to the five-star red flag... it’s very hot. I didn't agree, and I didn't criticize it because I was a bit worried. First, because I saw my son split the article into chapters and festivals, and second, I listed the bibliography at the end of the article. I think this is the way I used to write after I graduated. At that time, I was thirty years old.
Soon, another son’s essay came out again. This time is "How do I see human culture?" If there is scope for the last assignment, this time is really nowhere. My son sincerely asked me: "Is dumplings a culture?" In order not to delay future generations, I had to check the authoritative reference books with my son. After a lot of effort, we completed the tossing from abstraction to concrete and concrete to abstract. The son was sitting in front of the computer for a few nights. I can see his concentrating look. I can’t help but smile. How can a primary school student understand the concept of “culture”, which is infinitely rich and undecided? I hope that my son who is interested in eating will not make a fuss about dumplings and buns. The son who has become unfettered in American education is undoubtedly making the article. This time it is printed ten pages, and it is its own cover. The article is followed by a reference book. He said triumphantly to me: "What do you say is culture? In fact, it is super simple - it is everything that people create and enjoy." The self-confident look seems to discover the truth that others have not found. Later, the child brought back the homework that the teacher had seen. There was a teacher’s comment: “The original intention of my assignment was to let the children broaden their horizons and be active in thinking. The result of reading their homework is often that I entered my hope. The realm of children entering." What do you mean by the son?
The son said that the teacher was not proud of us, but she was shocked by us. "Is it?" The son asked me.
I am speechless, I think this child knows so many things at once? If you think about it again, it is no wonder that even the children who dare to make cultural problems have anything to dare to assert.
At the end of the sixth grade of the son, the homework left by the teacher was a series of questions about the "World War II." "Who do you think is responsible for this war?" "What do you think is the reason for Nazi Germany's failure?" "If you are a senior adviser to President Truman, what attitude will you take on the US nuclear bomb?" I thought that there was only one way to put nuclear bombs at the end to end the war?" "What do you think is the best way to avoid war today?" - If it was two years ago, when I saw this problem, I would definitely complain: Where is this homework? It is clearly the pre-training of the Senate! At this time, I have been able to calmly think about the truth.
It is in this question that the school and the teacher are sending a humanitarian value to the children, guiding the children to pay attention to the destiny of the human being, and let the children learn how to think about major problems. There are no standard answers to these questions in the classroom. Some of the answers may require children to search for a lifetime. Looking at the 12-year-old son’s eagerness to read the materials in order to complete these assignments, I can’t help but think of the way I learned the history of World War II. I remembered the chronological events. The conclusions in the book know that pedanty is also the Bible. Go and remember, otherwise, how can you go through the exam to go to the future? At this point, I was thinking that in the process of pursuing knowledge, repeating the predecessors' conclusions is often much more than their own thinking. Without your own thinking, it is difficult to have new creations.
When her son graduated from Elementary School, she was able to use the computer and microfilm system in the library to find all kinds of text and image materials he needed. One day, we both argued about the feeding habits of lions and leopards. The next day, he borrowed a videotape from the National Geographic Society to introduce the animal from the library, and took me to look at it and discuss it. The child faces something he doesn't understand and already knows where to find the answer.
The change of my son prompted me to go back to the education of the United States. I found that although the American elementary school did not instill a lot of knowledge into the children in the classroom, they tried to lead their children's eyes to the boundless knowledge ocean outside the school. They wanted the children to know all the time and space of life. They are all classes they learn; they don't let their children memorize a lot of formulas and theorems, but they painstakingly tell their children how to think about problems and teach them how to find answers in unfamiliar areas; they never use them. The exam divides the students into three or six, etc., but tries their best to affirm all the children's efforts, to praise the children's own conclusions, to protect and motivate the children's creative desires and attempts.
Once, I asked my son's teacher: "How do you not let your child memorize some important things?" The teacher said with a smile: "There are two things in the creative ability of people that are more important than rote memorization: one is He wants to know where to find more knowledge than he can remember; another is his ability to use this knowledge for new creations. Rote memorization will not make a person rich in knowledge. It won't make a person smart, that's my point."
I can't help but remember a good friend of mine and a conversation with me. He studied astronomy. From the first day of entering the American University Research Institute to the five years of his Ph.D., he has been enjoying excellent scholarships in the department with excellent results. He once said to me: "I find it very strange. If scholarships are awarded with academic achievements in the classroom, Americans are often not Chinese opponents. But as soon as they go to practice, they are engaged in research topics. Chinese students often do not have American students. Clever, so creative." I think his feelings may be the difference between people caused by two different basic education systems. The Chinese are too accustomed to going to the exhibition in a delimited frame. Once they lose their conventional reference, many Chinese people may not feel free, but panic and stunned.
I often think of China's elementary education, think of the children who sit straight behind their hands in the classroom, think of those heavy courses, a lot of homework, and rigorous exams... it makes people feel sacred and majestic at the same time. People feel great repression and restraint, but many generations have obeyed its will and regarded it as a way to change their destiny. This is a continuation of culture. It may have its own glory. But in the face of the information society that requires everyone to be creative, and how to look at tomorrow’s world, how can we examine this kind of birth ourselves?

Chapter 5: Parent-child education experience

Parent-child education experience - I love "red, yellow and blue"
Time flies, almost a year to "red, yellow and blue", remembering that you have just entered the company, everything is so strange. Although he has just entered the workplace with ample energy, innovative spirit and rich knowledge of educational theory, it is often because of the impetuous mentality of quick success and instant benefit will always appear to some extent.
Just entering the classroom, I faced a group of small children. There was a kind of excitement in my heart. I was even a little overwhelmed. After a period of contact, my love in the heart was driven by the innocent smile. I have to jump up, and my heart is as if they are innocent. Mr. Lu Xun once said: "Children can be respected. They often think of the realm of the stars and moons, think of the ground, think of the use of flowers, and think of the language of insects. He wants to fly to heaven, he wants to dive like an ant." In my opinion, the child is like a dew on the flower bud, crystal clear, and the sly scorpion maps all the best things in the world. When I am connected with them, I feel like I am melting. I know that at that moment, I am growing. When this psychological experience and emotional thoughts are close to unity, the parents of the children have become my best friends. While communicating with parents and children, I also learned more about the experience of educating children.
The enthusiasm and kindness of my colleagues made me break the last gap caused by strangeness, which made me quickly integrate into this big family. Looking back on these months, I feel that I am living a full life every day. In our Daxing Parent-child Park, all the teachers are working very hard and working hard. We also have our own happiness in our work. We work hard together during the preparation of the lesson. The vigor and vitality of going out to play and the care of the children are all one of us. A happy source of accumulation. In the big family of the parent-child park, the leaders and teachers gave me care and guidance like my parents. The colleagues were kind enough to help me like my brother. Under the leadership of my colleagues, I was familiar with my work. Great progress has been made in the lectures and evaluations. I have been recognized by the leaders and truly become a part of “red, yellow and blue”!
We all know that as a qualified parent-child education teacher, we must first undergo professional parent-child training. In the less than half a year since I came to Daxing Parent-child Park, I have been allowed to participate in teacher training by the head of the school, and I have also achieved satisfactory results. Through training, I clearly know that in addition to learning the basic parent-child theory, parent-child education teachers must also learn some aspects of parent-child theory, parent-child games and instinct. Only in this way can children's physical and mental development get better progress. Learning in work practice is equally important. Only in real life can we master how parent-child teachers treat parents and children with a kind and gentle attitude, and how to interact on the basis of equal emotional communication.
I am a very qualified new teacher, just in time to catch up with the promotion and use of our new curriculum of “red, yellow and blue”. Everyone is in the process of exploring and exploring the new curriculum, which is more challenging for me. But at the same time, the experience of many senior teachers has made me see that no matter how we change, as long as we engage in education and teaching activities in the spirit of "sincere dedication, courage to practice, study hard, and study hard," there is no breakthrough. Puzzles, challenges that cannot be solved. The new lesson plans are rich in content and novel in concept, targeting children aged 0-3. The starting point is high and the slope is large, and it is advocated to use the school. But as our children, most of them are constantly learning parent-child education, and they are getting started for the new curriculum. In the new curriculum, the teachers are working together. I think what I can do is to discuss the course with the seniors. I hope that my own strength can play a subtle role and share some pressure for them!
At the head of the garden, we discussed together: when teachers are to be happy teachers because we have the wisdom of teachers; when teachers are to be teachers, because we are constantly improving ourselves; we are constantly working hard. Learn from these experiences and strive to be a thoughtful teacher. So I still have to work happily and prudently, lively and hard work, every step of the child's progress, a sentence that can be connected to a sentence, a cute expression, an action that I can't imagine, a flashing wisdom. The sparks are my happiness, and they are all rewards for the title of my teacher.
"The singer makes people follow their voices, and the teachers make people follow their ambitions." As a preschool teacher, I have a long way to go, but I believe that as long as I can internalize the spirit of teaching into a quality or even a personality, doing things like being a person, and working as a life, that "red, yellow and blue" is my happiness, my Love.