You have no motivation, because you love to find a way out.

Once you have reserved a retreat for yourself, you will definitely retreat. And it is earlier and farther than expected.

Always find a way out for yourself, you never know how strong you are.

After the end of this summer, another group of people stood at the crossroads of life.

A school girl is looking for me to chat, I don't know if I am still looking for a job. Everyone's ideas are different, and there are no advantages or disadvantages between the two options.

But my least recommended practice is to find a job while studying. The result of this is probably that neither good grades nor good jobs can be found.

The result of everything is that there is not enough motivation for everything: reviewing the postgraduate entrance examination, comforting yourself when you are slacking, going to work if you can't get it; lowering the standard when looking for a job, preparation is also very casual, you can't find a job. Can go to graduate school. Insufficient internal motivation and insufficient concentration can lead to half the effort.

And as a retreat, they will unconsciously lower the requirements and standards: graduate students who are close to the exam, looking for similar jobs.

A person who has high standards and strict requirements for himself will not put himself in such a state. After all, people's energy is limited. There is basically no overlap in the preparation work for job hunting and postgraduate study. If you don't do the best preparation, how can you have the best results?

I often feel that when faced with the choice, the result of "this can also be the same, this is also prepared to prepare" is that this is also so sloppy, it is also so-so.

Focusing on digging a deep well is more than hesitating to dig two deep pits.

Human nature is weak. When you tell yourself that the pit you are digging does not have to dig out water, our laziness will swell and self-control will weaken.

If you pass a signal to yourself: this well can't dig water and there is no water to drink. In this way, you will have the willpower to resist interference and temptation, and use enough motivation to be responsible for your choice.

When I was looking for a job, I analyzed all aspects of the situation and locked in a design institute.

According to the usual experience, as an undergraduate, I did not have enough confidence to compete in a group of graduate students.

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Know that you are at a disadvantage

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If it fails, it will be very passive.

I can only concentrate on preparing for it. Even if I was in a state of loss of love, I only had one month to prepare for a professional exam.

After the written test, it was an interview. Finally, the interviewer asked me if I had invested in another company. I am very honest, no, only see your company, because I am sure this is the place I want to come.

He smiled and asked me if he was not hired?

I also laughed, that is what I have to consider after I go out from here.

This is the truth. At the end of the interview, I did not wait for the results after two weeks. I immediately began to collect recruitment information from other companies to prepare for the second choice. Naturally, I also tried my best to concentrate the firepower.

Fortunately, I went all out, and the results were also expected, and I received the most wanted offer.

In our traditional wisdom, we pay attention to everything and leave the road, so that we will not have no way to go. Having a retreat means no worries, safety, and insurance.

But when you really want to concentrate on going higher and further, this stability has become the root of the obstacles and slacks on the way forward.

People are intrinsically comfortable and comfortable, and they like to be lazy. If the road ahead is a little difficult to walk, it will be instinctively stepping on the ground or looking for another way, getting farther and farther away from the established goal.

We need a decision to provide sufficient motivation to ensure continued focus.

This decision may come from external pressures or out of the "self-destruction."

Some people shouted to exercise every day, but they did not start. Because I am not sure that this is a must, there is always a voice in my heart, similar to "no exercise will not die" "I am also very good."

Then consciousness will send a signal: anyway, shouting to play, don't be serious.

It is not the same with motivation.

Xiaopang, when he was in high school, he was very fat. Like a snowman, his legs were topped with two spheres. When I graduated from college, obesity has already affected my health. I have been unable to lose weight, and I can’t keep my mouth open.

Later, I didn’t see it for four or five months. I almost didn’t recognize it on the road. He said that his girlfriend had ordered the death and was reduced to less than 130 pounds. The power of love is great. Xiaopeng ran 20 kilometers a day, went to the gym four times a week, rain or shine, less than half a year, hard to reduce the weight of a girlfriend, but also trained the abdominal muscles.

Some people change their plans every day, and after a year they still replicate the same state as last year. Because I can't tell what the purpose of the change is, anyway, "There is nothing wrong with it now." "Let them work hard, I will take a look."

Therefore, it is determined that changing yourself seems to be more difficult than changing the world, so keep the status quo.

There is pressure on it.

After graduating from a cousin university in my hometown, I went to the finance department of a company to be a small employee. The work was very leisurely, and several people worked alone. Cousin said that her status is "there is no enthusiasm for work, life is not passionate, swimming like a frog in warm water, comfortable and comfortable." Shouting for work has been more than one day and two days, two years, three Years are still the same, always saying, "Do it first, find the right way to go."

Although the work is not satisfied, but also can pass, the cousin does not have a sense of urgency, nor "find the way", still swim in the warm water.

Until the situation was not good last year, there were rumors in the company, half of the layoffs, and all the employees were paid. The cousin was frightened and took up a gray note book. She got up early and slept, and liked to be desperate, this year's exam is a must.

There is no way to retreat, never knowing that you are so persevering, so powerful.

Use your full strength and do your best to know your potential. If everything stays in the way back, put a lot of strength, divide the three points to the retreat A, one point to the retreat B, and then one point to the retreat C, D, E, F, the five-point power to move forward, failed Smiled and said: "Fortunately, I have left the retreat."

I lied to myself.

Compared to the choice of standing at the crossroads, the goal of finding "nothing to look for" in life is even harder to achieve. It is better to fool yourself.

It takes courage to get out of the comfort zone. Just stepping out of one foot, the instinct of "strengthening and avoiding harm" in our nature will play a role, and various reasons for comforting ourselves have come.

Even if you look at the target in front and know that you want to go, there is still no motivation.

If you want to learn the flower arrangement that you can't eat, you want to improve your spoken English, and you want to change the non-standard Mandarin that doesn't affect normal life...

All need to "force" oneself, and it is only possible to retreat from the road.

When Jin Yong wrote "Liancheng Yu", in order to overcome the slackness of writing, he took the initiative to sign a serial contract with the newspaper. The contract stipulated how many words he had to complete every day, and he would have to pay compensation for breach of contract. "Forcing" he had to control his own psychology, let himself calm down, devote himself to writing, rushing to write at a speed of 5,000 words per day, and finally completed the novel ahead of time.

When the ancient Greek famous speaker Dai Mosini was young, he was always playful. With a sigh of relief, he personally shaved his hair halfway and turned it into a strange yin and yang head. I had to control my own play, concentrate on practicing the speech, and finally became a famous speaker.

Too often, self-control is not so reliable in the face of temptation, it can only rely on "he control." Jin Yong’s "Liancheng Yu" is "forced", and the progress of ordinary people is even more so.

For example, artificially formulating "punishment" rules; telling others about their goals; setting up interest groups to supervise each other; or promised to complete what rewards their favorite things... are all ways.

Take the initiative to give a big "cost" to "abandon", and make this thing impossible, and execution will naturally be there.

All the laziness and procrastination, just because you love to find a way out for yourself. Find various excuses for your "inaction", and even rely on the road ahead more than the road ahead.

Psychological cues are a weird thing. For self-protection, it recognizes which sounds to follow makes it easier, and takes people in that direction.

All in all, once a person has reserved a retreat for himself, he will definitely retreat.

There is not enough driving force in the heart, and the goal that is easy to achieve can only be a thought.

Bi Shumin said that all the power comes from the boiling of the heart.

A person has presupposed a smooth retreat in his consciousness, and his heart has just warmed up, and he has been lazy, slack, indecisive, over and over... How can it boil?

Everything is left in a way out, you never know how powerful you can be.

People, really have to learn to take on more.

Have higher requirements for yourself, make better choices, and pursue a higher quality life.

Growing up day by day, we are playing more and more roles. We will always encounter characters that we are not good at, dislike, or accustomed to. If we don’t clench our teeth and enthusiasm, we just want to have a way. Retreat, rely on your own comfort circle, just take the road that looks easy, then you can only linger in the place you are familiar with.

When others have gone through countless roads and seen countless scenery, you are only stepping on the ground and stepping on a pit.

Mr. Yong and Ms. Dung, if you can accept the worst result, go ahead.

The smoother the retreat, the more I can't help but look back.

And the distance you want to go is not behind you, in front.